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By *astello OP Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

All manner of bodily functions are discussed here. I'm curious that female related topics don't come up often.

What are we afraid of? Is topics like menstruation, gynae, hormones and menopause not considered important or somehow taboo. These factors impact on at least 50% of fabs membership and de facto on our sexual health, libido, wellbeing and enjoyment.

Let 2023 be about empowering and education, we can all learn.

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By *omebirdWoman
over a year ago

But then the boys might not like us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think they're taboo.

I do think it has it's place.

I don't think this is the place.

Not going to talk about my last bm any more than how often I pee or if I have a gyn issue.

It's private. PM/DM a friend or topic friendly groupchat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think 90% of guys here really want to discuss their bodily functions on this forum either.

With the extra numbers of men on here it's bound to come up more.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I definitely remember reading a thread about the menopause and maybe one on period sex previously that were well read and the conversation flowed

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I can't see why any of these topics should be taboo. If a girl wants to talk in these areas then go ahead. I've lived with women all my life, been present through 5 pregnancies and births, and there is nothing left that's gonna freak me out as far as I'm aware.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"I definitely remember reading a thread about the menopause and maybe one on period sex previously that were well read and the conversation flowed

5/10 BM

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

I find that serious topics don't get much traction on here. It's usually the more frivolous topics like the good morning threads and the Kiss/Pass threads which get the interaction ... unfortunately.

Mrs.

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By *astello OP Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

The statements like "boys won't like us" I don't wish to discuss my gynae issues " are indicative of how society hasn't progressed on these matters in any meaningful way.

The mismatch of sexual desires, ED, arousal etc are all connected to this site either overtly or indirectly.

I merely stating my own observation on it and seeking others thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I happily discuss them. At home with my children or family, with friends, or whoever.

I don't think it's wrong to see it as personal and/or private. Private does not equal taboo or shameful.

My expectation on fab is a sexual slant on socialising. This seems a bit too ThisMorning for me. I would skip a thread on it.

And before anyone says 'well why comment here then?', I only commented here as it seemed the discussion was a question on the topic being taboo not to explore the topic.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Chat away. I've often raised similar male related topics and found the discussion and remedies of use so I say go for it.

As a previous poster said, those who don't wish to discuss can simply skip the thread

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By *omebirdWoman
over a year ago

"The statements like "boys won't like us" I don't wish to discuss my gynae issues " are indicative of how society hasn't progressed on these matters in any meaningful way.

The mismatch of sexual desires, ED, arousal etc are all connected to this site either overtly or indirectly.

I merely stating my own observation on it and seeking others thoughts. "

Tongue firmly in cheek.

Not "indicative of how society hasn't progressed" or any other sweeping generalisations..

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"But then the boys might not like us

The boys will always like you. The men will care.

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By *astello OP Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

"The statements like "boys won't like us" I don't wish to discuss my gynae issues " are indicative of how society hasn't progressed on these matters in any meaningful way.

The mismatch of sexual desires, ED, arousal etc are all connected to this site either overtly or indirectly.

I merely stating my own observation on it and seeking others thoughts.

Tongue firmly in cheek.

Not "indicative of how society hasn't progressed" or any other sweeping generalisations.. "

No need for a sweeping brush.. I have a dyson..

Firmly tongue in cheek

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By *huCullainMan
over a year ago

Rathowen

"I definitely remember reading a thread about the menopause and maybe one on period sex previously that were well read and the conversation flowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I definitely remember reading a thread about the menopause and maybe one on period sex previously that were well read and the conversation flowed

Slow to catch the penny on this one BMan.... very good. ALWAYS pays to read your posts twice

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Feck made a period joke and I didn't even mean to ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feck made a period joke and I didn't even mean to ...."

Two in one lol

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By *itonmyfacensquirtMan
over a year ago

Wexford

What's wrong with period sex.. just a bit messy but nice. Guys are afraid of a bit of blood.. FFS grow a pair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should all be out in the open and discussed regularly. And should be from an early age. Women go trough a lot of bodily functions just to be a woman. Yet society throws out this image that can have a negative effect on hundreds of thousands of young girls and women. Time to openly discuss periods,leakage,menopause and hormonal imbalance etc etc.

Understandin education and knowledge can make a better society for everyone

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By *ot neuteredMan
over a year ago

Kildare

"What's wrong with period sex.. just a bit messy but nice. Guys are afraid of a bit of blood.. FFS grow a pair "

Ha, I didn't realize I was involved in period sex in a car, on a dark night, until I got home and saw my reflection in a mirror,

thankfully nobody was still up when I got home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's wrong with period sex.. just a bit messy but nice. Guys are afraid of a bit of blood.. FFS grow a pair "

Or ya know... if its not your thing that's fine too

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"What's wrong with period sex.. just a bit messy but nice. Guys are afraid of a bit of blood.. FFS grow a pair

Ha, I didn't realize I was involved in period sex in a car, on a dark night, until I got home and saw my reflection in a mirror,

thankfully nobody was still up when I got home "

The metallic taste of blood didn't give it away?!

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By *ot neuteredMan
over a year ago

Kildare

"What's wrong with period sex.. just a bit messy but nice. Guys are afraid of a bit of blood.. FFS grow a pair

Ha, I didn't realize I was involved in period sex in a car, on a dark night, until I got home and saw my reflection in a mirror,

thankfully nobody was still up when I got home

The metallic taste of blood didn't give it away?!

There was a messy fusion of flavours, I wasn't a conosuir at the time and didn't notice the metallic undertones, twas early in my career

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think menstruation is still relatively taboo, surely only 2 years ago that tampon ad was banned for being "too descriptive". I even remember having a discussion with a friend about Pixar's Turning Red being a metaphor for periods and so what if it was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me nothing bothers me. I'm a nurse I've seen all of it. I've worked in A&E so I've seen all the weird and strange stuff!

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

Something I may discuss with a partner or a long term fwb..not a fav meet

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"Something I may discuss with a partner or a long term fwb..not a fav meet "

Fab even bless predictive text

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Great to see some want to keep us in the dark ages! Whatever you do, don't watch Catherine Called Birdy on Amazon Prime then

I always admired Billy Connolly. He absolutely cracked me up but he also opened people's minds to actually talking about stuff that was traditionally hidden, without being perverse about it. He openly talked about sex, masturbation, periods, prostate exams and more. Check your culture charts and you'll see that stuff like that wasn't openly discussed before Billy started having a laugh about it.

Yes, the Fab Forums are an open place, despite some views above.

Why shouldn't they be a place for discussion of female health issues? Obviously the sexual ones will be of interest to more but Hey! It's Fab and you should be able to have a discussion/debate about anything non-derogatory, or non-discriminatory so work away.

Well done OP for raising the topic and I do hope more female health issues are discussed.

As a dad to a girl and one who scored highly in biology, I'll likely get involved in some of the threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't see why supposed adults are so afraid of these topics. The level of ignorance and misinformation out there is still incredible, even in the age of Google. Plus it can be helpful for people going through stuff to hear of the real experiences of others on the subject. Anyone who doesn't want to join in or discuss their own problems is free to steer clear, but they might learn something.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We had a discussion last night about my lack of lubrication, I use and insert a hormone cream into my vagina twice a week but, I still remain dry at times. Its really put me off having sex as it's sore and I can bleed as my vaginal lining I believe has thinned due to hormonal changes. Silicone based lubes cause irritation. It's an ongoing issue and I hate it. I've got some water based lube to try. My libido has also taken a nose dive. Just thought I would be open about my issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure where all the negativity is coming from.

I think 1 person out of all the posters said the forum wasn't appropriate.

I've seen very little ewwww not the place for menstruation when the topics do come up.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've seen lots of threads started by both men and women about most of these topics and it's often women who say the conversation is inappropriate while some have been accused of treating the subject simply as a fetish.

I don't have an issue discussing anything like this but like most subjects I've always found it more interesting when it's specific to someone I know and am chatting to because any questions I have will be more about personal experience rather than generalised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a discussion last night about my lack of lubrication, I use and insert a hormone cream into my vagina twice a week but, I still remain dry at times. Its really put me off having sex as it's sore and I can bleed as my vaginal lining I believe has thinned due to hormonal changes. Silicone based lubes cause irritation. It's an ongoing issue and I hate it. I've got some water based lube to try. My libido has also taken a nose dive. Just thought I would be open about my issue."

Fair play, it's not always easy to talk about, especially on a site where women are assumed to be gagging for it 24/7. We've found Durex sensilube to be excellent, with a very natural feel

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I'm all for discussing these topics and it's good to see that even the menopause has made it into the public in recent years.

However I prefer when a thread is more specific on one of the topics around the female reproductive system, rather than all of them and you just throw your random piece of bacon onto it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bacon makes everything better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all just SPAM

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By *astello OP Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

Great to see lots of contributions Agreed it's a hughly open area of discussion. But it's go alongside with the premise of this site. It's about sex.. Sex is biological and physiological and needs to co exist with the human drivers of desire etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a crazy world when

Young girls aren't educated on hormonal changes. It can really affect mental health and self confidence

Older women aren't educated of the difficulties of the menopause and the stress it can cause

That's just 2 things.

Men and their health should also be more openly discussed.

Everywhere and anywhere is the best place to discuss these issues.

It's life and its normal and it can make people realise they're not alone.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Great to see lots of contributions Agreed it's a hughly open area of discussion. But it's go alongside with the premise of this site. It's about sex.. Sex is biological and physiological and needs to co exist with the human drivers of desire etc.

I agree but speaking personally I've never contributed to a thread discussing sexual thoughts or desires. I keep those conversations for private discussion.

When I posted on a thread yesterday about sexual positions it was because many people assume that men don't rate the missionary position but that was probably the first time I've ever contributed to a thread like that.

Too often on here there is a lot of public bravado with people claiming knowledge or understanding of various subjects or a willingness to learn when in reality they have none.

The forums should be a safe space to discuss almost any subject and fair play to anyone open to raising certain topics but they should be prepared for the content being used as ammo for others.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"I can't see why any of these topics should be taboo. If a girl wants to talk in these areas then go ahead. I've lived with women all my life, been present through 5 pregnancies and births, and there is nothing left that's gonna freak me out as far as I'm aware."

Ohhhh sounds like a challenge ladies

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"The statements like "boys won't like us" I don't wish to discuss my gynae issues " are indicative of how society hasn't progressed on these matters in any meaningful way.

The mismatch of sexual desires, ED, arousal etc are all connected to this site either overtly or indirectly.

I merely stating my own observation on it and seeking others thoughts. "

You refer to the "boys wont like us" comment as if you think it was said in sincerity??

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"What's wrong with period sex.. just a bit messy but nice. Guys are afraid of a bit of blood.. FFS grow a pair "

Are you upset ???

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Should all be out in the open and discussed regularly. And should be from an early age. Women go trough a lot of bodily functions just to be a woman. Yet society throws out this image that can have a negative effect on hundreds of thousands of young girls and women. Time to openly discuss periods,leakage,menopause and hormonal imbalance etc etc.

Understandin education and knowledge can make a better society for everyone "

For those who want to discuss it openly work away

For those who want to discuss it in private... respect their choice.

For those who think they know which is right for everyone... blow it out your hole

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"What's wrong with period sex.. just a bit messy but nice. Guys are afraid of a bit of blood.. FFS grow a pair

Ha, I didn't realize I was involved in period sex in a car, on a dark night, until I got home and saw my reflection in a mirror,

thankfully nobody was still up when I got home

The metallic taste of blood didn't give it away?!

Too many fillings

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"I'm not sure where all the negativity is coming from.

I think 1 person out of all the posters said the forum wasn't appropriate.

I've seen very little ewwww not the place for menstruation when the topics do come up."

This

I think the op is way of the mark ... over the years I've seen almost every topic I can think of on fab and rarely seen an objection to discussing it ... bar inappropriate rip treads sometimes .

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