FabSwingers.com forum: The psychology of it.

By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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So after our first failed attempt at a meet. A no show. Last night. opinions and messages from an earlier post. it The is concensus seems to be a man posing as a woman. I know there's an element of those that chance their arms and what not. IE male half of a "couple" just showing up. It's the ones posing as a woman to couples I don't understand. I get the one that got us last night. He was a just small dick bitter lonely person out to ruin someones night. Which he failed. I'm sore in places and purring like a kitten hehe. But i mean in general. What the hell is going on in those heads.? What do they expect if they show up? ..like..oh the couple is here to meet a woman. Maybe they'll settle for a man as they are here anyways?. I.....I don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard to know because after all the messages the trust would be completely gone, well it would with me...Its things like that, that ruin it for the genuine people

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Its hard to know because after all the messages the trust would be completely gone, well it would with me...Its things like that, that ruin it for the genuine people"

Nobody ruins it for anyone else ...just themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beggars belief how they got verified in that case . Maybe a face to face video call in future if possible for long distance meets would sage wasted time and disappointment. Glad ye had fun anyway regardless .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its hard to know because after all the messages the trust would be completely gone, well it would with me...Its things like that, that ruin it for the genuine people

Nobody ruins it for anyone else ...just themselves "

Well I'm glad that's the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they just lost their nerve.

If it was a man pretending to be a women then I would say your own screening needs to be improved.

Extra bonus fab point for the small dick = bad attitude cliché though

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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Oh he did do that. It makes it a harder for everyone that approaches us now. Now I'm just seeming bitter. But back to the topic. What kind of disconnected and un empathetic person does this sort of thing. What makes em tick is what I'm wondering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's always going to be people like that on Fab the dreamers and the tyre kickers who had zero interest in ever meeting. The only thing you can do is try to spot them and them out. You'll see a lot of people now only meeting at socials or parties. Some ways to them out is to have a social with them or ask for live photo on kik. Kik live photos can be faked through another app so ask them to blow kiss etc. Google reverse image search or TinyEye is a good resource to check photos aren't "borrowed" off the Internet. Basically if it seems to good to be true that stunning looking single lady is probably living in his Mother's attic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming it was a guy pretending to be a chick what makes them tick is pretty obvious I would have thought.

The engagement right up to the meet. If they can't get that attention and interaction as a single guy then they will create a fantasy, and even if they could get it as a guy doing it that way ensures no follow through which they may not want/be ready for.

I'm not sure how many of these people intentionally fuck other people around and how many just create collateral damage whilst focusing on their own fantasy.

There are definitely both out there

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By *umpkinnMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Best one, after agreeing to meet request to exchange video recordings in kik of the persons face while saying your fab username.

If you intend to meet then it should be easy to do and breaks the ice between texts and face to face.

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

Ye were in contact a lot on the phone was it just texting not an actual conversation over phone calls

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

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How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately it happens, so sorry you had travelled so far. Lousy person to do that to anyone.

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By *omebirdWoman
over a year ago

"Best one, after agreeing to meet request to exchange video recordings in kik of the persons face while saying your fab username.

If you intend to meet then it should be easy to do and breaks the ice between texts and face to face."

Bit much imo. If anyone asked me to make a video saying their profile name be a definite no..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best one, after agreeing to meet request to exchange video recordings in kik of the persons face while saying your fab username.

If you intend to meet then it should be easy to do and breaks the ice between texts and face to face.

Bit much imo. If anyone asked me to make a video saying their profile name be a definite no.. "

How about just bouncy titties?

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

Retrospective thinking. I was fooled. My owner not so much. But he hoped against hope for me. he made awesome contingent plans I was not aware of. It it where a lady. In my opinion she missed out lol....but to answer you. I doubt a real woman that's verified and site supporter would do that to someone. Being new to this I did not carry out due diligence. So its my own fault to a degree.

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

Just wondering were they meet verified and by more than one profile??? If they were I cant see how it could b a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

Just wondering were they meet verified and by more than one profile??? If they were I cant see how it could b a man "

There are plenty fake meet veris going around

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Singles posing as couples might not get people sex but it ll get them attention , interaction , pics , forum presence etc which they might not get otherwise or feel they might not

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

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"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

There are quite a few very well verified women on here who have more than one profile. They use those for all the things they don't want to tarnish their forum celebrity image with including trolling, honeytraps and of course purely for research purposes.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

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"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

I'm sorry but your logic seems a bit naive. Women are as capable of messing around as men, if not even better.

Anyhow good to hear there was a contingency plan.

With bit more experience on here you'll be sharpening your bs sensors.

Some good tips above to reduce the risk of being messed around.

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By *umpkinnMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

And asking to be given a house?

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

I'm sorry but your logic seems a bit naive. Women are as capable of messing around as men, if not even better.

Anyhow good to hear there was a contingency plan.

With bit more experience on here you'll be sharpening your bs sensors.

Some good tips above to reduce the risk of being messed around. "

No need to be sorry.. you're agreeing me with lol. I did say it was my own fault to a degree did I not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to hear you were fooled if that's what happened. is it possible that she is real but just hot cold feet? either way no shows are horrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm, I think you might find future potential connections difficult if people are seeing these threads.

No shows are a fact of fab and always a risk.

Live streaming and then returning to try analysing the psychology would put me off entirely. I don't want anything private plastered on the forums that I don't choose to put there myself.

And yes I know no names were posted. But the principle stands. Private stays private. No?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Oh he did do that. It makes it a harder for everyone that approaches us now. Now I'm just seeming bitter. But back to the topic. What kind of disconnected and un empathetic person does this sort of thing. What makes em tick is what I'm wondering "

How do you know it was a man ...?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

Did it cross your mind that the lady might have been pissed off cause you were hours late and messages from you somehow got delayed in delivery by hours too.

Maybe she thought I've sat around for hours without knowing whats going on.. let's see how they like it ,,,

Just saying . Might be a reason . Have you asked the woman???

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx "

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs"

I’d love to piss in your corn flakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

I’d love to piss in your corn flakes "

You'd never get close

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

I’d love to piss in your corn flakes

You'd never get close

Ur right

Nobody would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ur right

Nobody would

Some people... just not you

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

Ur right

Nobody would

Some people... just not you

Mr Mysterious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it like those odd folk who put oj on their cereal?

Odd choice for cornflakes.

Would you have sugar with the golden juice?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs"

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

I’d love to piss in your corn flakes "

Lmao

I'm totally going to use this irl

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Is it like those odd folk who put oj on their cereal?

Odd choice for cornflakes.

Would you have sugar with the golden juice?"
pineapple ??

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it like those odd folk who put oj on their cereal?

Odd choice for cornflakes.

Would you have sugar with the golden juice? pineapple ?? "

I thought it was pee.

Pineapple is a bit kinky

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

There are loads of things which make no sense

I pointed one out in yesterday’s thread

You don’t drive 3-4 hours for your first meet on NYE when you haven’t met anyone after being on the site for ages

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Is it like those odd folk who put oj on their cereal?

Odd choice for cornflakes.

Would you have sugar with the golden juice? pineapple ??

I thought it was pee.

Pineapple is a bit kinky"

Sometimes I put grapes up there make my own wine

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

There are loads of things which make no sense

I pointed one out in yesterday’s thread

You don’t drive 3-4 hours for your first meet on NYE when you haven’t met anyone after being on the site for ages "

I noticed ur words

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ?? "

I know how it works. I'm highlighting how its ment to work and inturn this highlights how it isn't a users fault for assuming photo verification means what its ment to .....

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ??

I know how it works. I'm highlighting how its ment to work and inturn this highlights how it isn't a users fault for assuming photo verification means what its ment to .....

I didn’t mean it bad I just meant how it’s shite

Trying to filter out genuine folk and those that aren’t

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ??

I know how it works. I'm highlighting how its ment to work and inturn this highlights how it isn't a users fault for assuming photo verification means what its ment to .....

I didn’t mean it bad I just meant how it’s shite

Trying to filter out genuine folk and those that aren’t "

Ah I think trust your gut ... don't put yourself out massively if unsure ... defo meet only well verified at start anyway... imo

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ??

I know how it works. I'm highlighting how its ment to work and inturn this highlights how it isn't a users fault for assuming photo verification means what its ment to .....

I didn’t mean it bad I just meant how it’s shite

Trying to filter out genuine folk and those that aren’t

Ah I think trust your gut ... don't put yourself out massively if unsure ... defo meet only well verified at start anyway... imo

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I would go the opposite

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

cork

Hmmm....this went a bit off topic. I wanted a debate on people who do this sort of thing. Not on what happened lol

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ??

I know how it works. I'm highlighting how its ment to work and inturn this highlights how it isn't a users fault for assuming photo verification means what its ment to .....

I didn’t mean it bad I just meant how it’s shite

Trying to filter out genuine folk and those that aren’t

Ah I think trust your gut ... don't put yourself out massively if unsure ... defo meet only well verified at start anyway... imo

I would go the opposite "

Elaborate?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Hmmm....this went a bit off topic. I wanted a debate on people who do this sort of thing. Not on what happened lol"

How can you debate if people do this sorta without defining what this sorta thing is ? ( what happened) ?

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ??

I know how it works. I'm highlighting how its ment to work and inturn this highlights how it isn't a users fault for assuming photo verification means what its ment to .....

I didn’t mean it bad I just meant how it’s shite

Trying to filter out genuine folk and those that aren’t

Ah I think trust your gut ... don't put yourself out massively if unsure ... defo meet only well verified at start anyway... imo

I would go the opposite

Elaborate?"
trust ur own judgement

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ??

I know how it works. I'm highlighting how its ment to work and inturn this highlights how it isn't a users fault for assuming photo verification means what its ment to .....

I didn’t mean it bad I just meant how it’s shite

Trying to filter out genuine folk and those that aren’t

Ah I think trust your gut ... don't put yourself out massively if unsure ... defo meet only well verified at start anyway... imo

I would go the opposite

Elaborate? trust ur own judgement "

So you would do the opposite of trust your own gut ?

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Neither of ye r meet verified so it’s kinda mad that this has got so much legs .

There are plenty of ways to meet people on fab especially as a “couple” .

I’ve so many questions

But I’m not that invested to find out

I msged to find out what who it was as I run events and I’m in agreement there’s a lot of “fake” female profiles .

The person u met isnt meet verified as u aren’t .

Is there other motives here who feckin knows

But Happy New Year y’all xxx

Ya amazing that not being meet verified and people are still engaging with then isn't it?.shun them shun them all

I need gifs

Tbf ... being photo verified is ment to be proof that the person in the photos are real ... its falls on the site to make sure this is the case !

If not whats the point in photo verification.

Mate r u actually serious do u know how this site works ??

I know how it works. I'm highlighting how its ment to work and inturn this highlights how it isn't a users fault for assuming photo verification means what its ment to .....

I didn’t mean it bad I just meant how it’s shite

Trying to filter out genuine folk and those that aren’t

Ah I think trust your gut ... don't put yourself out massively if unsure ... defo meet only well verified at start anyway... imo

I would go the opposite

Elaborate? trust ur own judgement

So you would do the opposite of trust your own gut ?"

I mean I wouldn’t be relying on anyone else’s opinion I’d make my own

If they don’t show lesson learned

Move on

Don’t give them the air time they desperately crave

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Wouldnt think too much about it Op as would you really want to contemplate the pathetic mind and life of a loser

like that...

There's a "man" (and I use that term very loosely) reappearing on Fab with different woman profiles trying to organise a meet with me. I know his male profile (up for a year plus), have told told Admin yet nothing is done...

If joining Fab, you had to verify with one phone number, that would help cut the number of fakes, phonies, no show-ers and wannabes by 90% but that's not going to happen...

Elon Musk if you're out there, do something mate

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

cork

"Hmmm....this went a bit off topic. I wanted a debate on people who do this sort of thing. Not on what happened lol

How can you debate if people do this sorta without defining what this sorta thing is ? ( what happened) ?"

I did define it. In the first post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody here owes anybody anything, for the most part it's a free site that we can use in any way we as users deem fit, being photo or meet verified is not fool proof either, meet verified users have been no shows in the past it's the way no strings works you can't take people for their word, even video calling someone pre meet is no guarantee they will show up, people take notions and do whatever they want and what suits them

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Nobody here owes anybody anything, for the most part it's a free site that we can use in any way we as users deem fit, being photo or meet verified is not fool proof either, meet verified users have been no shows in the past it's the way no strings works you can't take people for their word, even video calling someone pre meet is no guarantee they will show up, people take notions and do whatever they want and what suits them "

Agree to an extent. However being a SOCIAL site. There are degree of etiquette and consideration for others for it to work. Break the etiquette codes and your cast out. No one will touch you. Take an person that outs someone for instance Some may agree with the person that outs someone. But most won't agree. Especially if it's a woman that is outed. Most chuckle if it's a guy. But still not agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many meet verified people here who have been no shows, a no show can have 50 veris or they can have none at all, I think women are the worst for it, had organised a meet on a certain day only to find she was offline and not answering any messages on her kik despite being full of chat the days previous and yes she was well verified, just like that people change their mind like the weather

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Honestly, I think you’re living in a bit of a fantasy world when it comes to fab. People break “etiquette” on the daily and are among the most popular people on here.

This whole thing is very suss and we’ll never really know the full story but my advice would be to be more discerning about the meets you arrange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yet I think men are the worst for it.

Reckon plenty people just have no respect for people's tine etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yet I think men are the worst for it.

Reckon plenty people just have no respect for people's tine etc "

Most people have no respect or manners, if they did then no shows wouldn't exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yet I think men are the worst for it.

Reckon plenty people just have no respect for people's tine etc

Most people have no respect or manners, if they did then no shows wouldn't exist "

Or been stood up

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By *ancy38Woman
over a year ago

galway

Always chat on the phone before meets.

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"Always chat on the phone before meets. "

I get the logic of this but ill never give my phone number out to someone on fab before ive met them

Kik profile is as much as I'll give

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its most likely down to the fact they've been continually rejected or ignored. So by pretending to be a female or couple it allows them to have control.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

There's no psychology. Just accept they have tiny minds and you don't want to meet knuckle draggers anyway, as the experience wouldn't be fulfilling

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Hmmm....this went a bit off topic. I wanted a debate on people who do this sort of thing. Not on what happened lol

How can you debate if people do this sorta without defining what this sorta thing is ? ( what happened) ?

Not really

I did define it. In the first post. "

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Hmmm....this went a bit off topic. I wanted a debate on people who do this sort of thing. Not on what happened lol

How can you debate if people do this sorta without defining what this sorta thing is ? ( what happened) ?

Not really

I did define it. In the first post. "
not really ..

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Hmmm....this went a bit off topic. I wanted a debate on people who do this sort of thing. Not on what happened lol

How can you debate if people do this sorta without defining what this sorta thing is ? ( what happened) ?

Not really

I did define it. In the first post. not really ..

Are you being difficult again?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Hmmm....this went a bit off topic. I wanted a debate on people who do this sort of thing. Not on what happened lol

How can you debate if people do this sorta without defining what this sorta thing is ? ( what happened) ?

Not really

I did define it. In the first post. not really ..

Are you being difficult again?

Are you finding it difficult?

Don't worry ... we can help

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"So after our first failed attempt at a meet. A no show. Last night. opinions and messages from an earlier post. it The is concensus seems to be a man posing as a woman. I know there's an element of those that chance their arms and what not. IE male half of a "couple" just showing up. It's the ones posing as a woman to couples I don't understand. I get the one that got us last night. He was a just small dick bitter lonely person out to ruin someones night. Which he failed. I'm sore in places and purring like a kitten hehe. But i mean in general. What the hell is going on in those heads.? What do they expect if they show up? ..like..oh the couple is here to meet a woman. Maybe they'll settle for a man as they are here anyways?. I.....I don't get it.

Repost for atrocious grammar lol"

Just to clarify... we still don't know if this is a female profile you have decided is a bitter man ?

If you talked in person before meet as in female or male voice?

If you messaged this person on fab after they said they would be 5mins through text?

It took a good while to find out that neither you or this person are meet verified.

Don't know if you have subsequently asked this person what happened ...

Don't know if this person has blocked you on fab or only phone .....

Imo the situation has not been defined just speculated on!

Debate based on speculation rather than fact isn't a debate ... just a lot of assumptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

Did it cross your mind that the lady might have been pissed off cause you were hours late and messages from you somehow got delayed in delivery by hours too.

Maybe she thought I've sat around for hours without knowing whats going on.. let's see how they like it ,,,

Just saying . Might be a reason . Have you asked the woman???"

Have to say that this crossed my mind too.

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

cork

"How do you know it was a man posing as a woman? I'm pretty sure women can be no shows too.

Did it cross your mind that the lady might have been pissed off cause you were hours late and messages from you somehow got delayed in delivery by hours too.

Maybe she thought I've sat around for hours without knowing whats going on.. let's see how they like it ,,,

Just saying . Might be a reason . Have you asked the woman???

Have to say that this crossed my mind too. "

Ok...I'll give a brief version of what happened.

Agreed to meet a woman. In contact for the days leading up to. On yhe day. Messaged all still good to go. On the way ran in to delay. Messaged going to be a tad late. Message went through but did not deliver

Half way there. Messaged delivered. She asked how much longer will it take to get there. So I shared my location. She could track us all the way from there. Told us she is still good to go and carry on.

When arriving. Messaged we a pulling in to the place. She told us she would be with us in 5 minutes. As she lived close by. This was at 5:45 ish. I texted jokingly asking if she fell asleep. Message went through but did not deliver. 6:50 is I posted on forums for advice. Asking what should we do. Leave or wait a bit longer. At 7 my owner texted her. It did not deliver either. So we left at half seven. And went home. Our messages did eventually deliver but not until around lunch time on New Year's day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given all that, and the messages you sent not being delivered til the following day, do you not think it's possible she thought you were messing her about and hadn't turned up?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

OP, when you say messages/deliver etc., can I ask, on what platform? Fab, Kik, WhatsApp etc….

Was the profile active or online while any or all of this was going on?

Can you still see the profile?

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

cork

"OP, when you say messages/deliver etc., can I ask, on what platform? Fab, Kik, WhatsApp etc….

Was the profile active or online while any or all of this was going on?

Can you still see the profile?"

It was whatsapp. We sent live location too. She could track our location. Hell even my family in Germany asked where am I going lol. So I know it was working. And yes can still see profile. On here and profile pic on WhatsApp. Last message to her was my owner. Whitch was. " I'm guessing this message won't go through either. (Single tick. Like her phone is off)

At this stage I'm assuming you are a no show. And will be leaving at 7:30"

That is all that was said. Even now. There has been No response to them they did deliver and where read. So we where not blocked.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Honestly sounds like ye both arsed around abit ... weather intentionally unintentionally or due to "messages not delivering "

I hardly think it warranted this post about some bitter small cock man pretending to be a woman .

Ye both let eachother down tbf.

It happens.

The bit j don't understand is if you already knew phone messages were bring delayed ... why didn't you message on here ?

Still don't know if you have or not ?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Also you have mentioned several times that you were in contact and chatted in lead up , yet havnt answered servel people asking you by what means ?

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

cork

"Also you have mentioned several times that you were in contact and chatted in lead up , yet havnt answered servel people asking you by what means ? "

In contact? , communication, conversing. Talking, chatting. There is not much to that meaning. How is letting a person know we would be a little late hours before the meeting time. And sharing exactly where we are arsing someone about? Please..I'd like to know how?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also you have mentioned several times that you were in contact and chatted in lead up , yet havnt answered servel people asking you by what means ?

He means I think you said you were in contact by phone so was that a voice call or messaging

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

cork

"Also you have mentioned several times that you were in contact and chatted in lead up , yet havnt answered servel people asking you by what means ?

He means I think you said you were in contact by phone so was that a voice call or messaging"

Ah..well there was vids exchanged at the start. And lots of text chat. But like my owner said. I should have asked her to say my name in a vid. Like I said earlier I should have carried out a little due diligence. So my own fault to a degree. Not arguing that point at all. My owners fuckery radar was pinging. But he hoped against hope for me. And made arrangements in the background should it go wrong.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Until or if she ever gets in touch with you again you'll always be wondering what went wrong

Horrible experience and hopefully it doesn't put you off but try for a social first the next time with someone well verified and closer or even a social in cork the next time there's one on

Good luck

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Op

Until or if she ever gets in touch with you again you'll always be wondering what went wrong

Horrible experience and hopefully it doesn't put you off but try for a social first the next time with someone well verified and closer or even a social in cork the next time there's one on

Good luck

Our messages finally when through and where read. But no response. No apology. We did not send any harsh words or ask what happened. No point.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Also you have mentioned several times that you were in contact and chatted in lead up , yet havnt answered servel people asking you by what means ?

So you were talking to this woman and chatting and now believe its a man ???

Arsing about as in not showing up on time as arranged ... not letting other person know in a timely manner ( due to messages not delivering)

Continuing to message eachother on a platform you had already had time issues with ....

Then after being late and from the perspective of other person , messaging late too ... you ask them if THEY had fallen asleep!

Seems a bit arsy to me !

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By *olves at bay OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Also you have mentioned several times that you were in contact and chatted in lead up , yet havnt answered servel people asking you by what means ?

So you were talking to this woman and chatting and now believe its a man ???

Arsing about as in not showing up on time as arranged ... not letting other person know in a timely manner ( due to messages not delivering)

Continuing to message eachother on a platform you had already had time issues with ....

Then after being late and from the perspective of other person , messaging late too ... you ask them if THEY had fallen asleep!

Seems a bit arsy to me !

She knew three hours before hand we would be a little late. Less than an hour. She told us that was fine. And told us she still wanted to meet. She could track us every step of the way. Ample time to tell us she changed her mind. We arrived. She told us she would be with us in 5 minutes. Nearly an hour later I tried to find out what was going on in a joking way. Which made it through but not delivered to the phone. Like it was turned off. Where exactly where we being arsy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

any word since? an apology? anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repost for atrocious grammar lol"

Oldest trick in the book.

And its rife here on Fab,at the moment.

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over a year ago

"Also you have mentioned several times that you were in contact and chatted in lead up , yet havnt answered servel people asking you by what means ?

So you were talking to this woman and chatting and now believe its a man ???

Arsing about as in not showing up on time as arranged ... not letting other person know in a timely manner ( due to messages not delivering)

Continuing to message eachother on a platform you had already had time issues with ....

Then after being late and from the perspective of other person , messaging late too ... you ask them if THEY had fallen asleep!

Seems a bit arsy to me !

You said the message didn't deliver till 4.30.

You arrived late at 6pm that's mot 3 hours.

The inconsistencies of whole thing makes me think it's as possible that either its made up or you displayed enough red flags that the person had,2nd thoughts as it is that you just got wound up

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