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"So as a curvy couple ourselves we are very self conscious of our bodies we just thought we would put this out there is there people that like curvy guys and gals or is size not a issue and just in our heads? " No need to worry OP, you have an admire  | |||
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"I’ve been all sizes on here and my lowest is now and I’ve never had any issues beyond some morons who love throwing insults at everyone . Sexy isn’t a size it’s a feeling . " Totally agree with this post ... There is no set standard for sexxy... It's how you feel with the person(s). Having said that I do love curves | |||
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"I wish I loved my curves... My internal dialogue needs resetting. " just read your veries that'll tell you how beautiful your curves are . | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss.... "You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names | |||
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"Sexiness is about confidence and attitude. " And not your shape | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss....
You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names "And same goes for the men. I’ve seen plenty of women saying they’re not into skinny men. As a slim Jim I find it a bit demoralising sometimes. | |||
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"I love curves I'm a fat arse myself.lol"Jaysus there's more than that to you! And it's all curvylicious | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss....
You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names
And same goes for the men. I’ve seen plenty of women saying they’re not into skinny men. As a slim Jim I find it a bit demoralising sometimes. "To defend myself, It was a general description of a body type, not a name or a tag. Whether we like it or not, we all fall into a general body type. I'm a big chunky guy and even though I'd prefer to be another way, it is how I am. A curvy person is curvy, a skinny person is skinny. These are descriptive facts, not judgements or preferences. | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss....
You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names
And same goes for the men. I’ve seen plenty of women saying they’re not into skinny men. As a slim Jim I find it a bit demoralising sometimes.
To defend myself, It was a general description of a body type, not a name or a tag. Whether we like it or not, we all fall into a general body type. I'm a big chunky guy and even though I'd prefer to be another way, it is how I am. A curvy person is curvy, a skinny person is skinny. These are descriptive facts, not judgements or preferences."Nice pics Don  | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss....
You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names
And same goes for the men. I’ve seen plenty of women saying they’re not into skinny men. As a slim Jim I find it a bit demoralising sometimes.
To defend myself, It was a general description of a body type, not a name or a tag. Whether we like it or not, we all fall into a general body type. I'm a big chunky guy and even though I'd prefer to be another way, it is how I am. A curvy person is curvy, a skinny person is skinny. These are descriptive facts, not judgements or preferences."The word Skinny is just as derogatory as the word Fat IMO | |||
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"I wish I loved my curves... My internal dialogue needs resetting. " I think when you get rejected you immediately focus on that as the cause. The negative spiral of self doubt seeps in. I'm trying to reset. | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss....
You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names
And same goes for the men. I’ve seen plenty of women saying they’re not into skinny men. As a slim Jim I find it a bit demoralising sometimes.
To defend myself, It was a general description of a body type, not a name or a tag. Whether we like it or not, we all fall into a general body type. I'm a big chunky guy and even though I'd prefer to be another way, it is how I am. A curvy person is curvy, a skinny person is skinny. These are descriptive facts, not judgements or preferences."Skinny has a negative connotation while curvy doesn't. Skinny can be perceived as offensive as fat . Besides curvy describes a shape/proportion and isn't weight/size related (skinny is). In other words slim or 'average' woman can be curvy too, but it seems that the expression is being taken over by the more full figured ones. | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss....
You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names
And same goes for the men. I’ve seen plenty of women saying they’re not into skinny men. As a slim Jim I find it a bit demoralising sometimes.
To defend myself, It was a general description of a body type, not a name or a tag. Whether we like it or not, we all fall into a general body type. I'm a big chunky guy and even though I'd prefer to be another way, it is how I am. A curvy person is curvy, a skinny person is skinny. These are descriptive facts, not judgements or preferences."The word skinny, is insensitive and offensive to a lot of people. No different to being called chubby or fat. And as for a curvy person very few people on here actually understand the concept of what an actual curvy lady should look like. | |||
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"I find it quiet sad how these subjects always end up in some people taking offence. There is a lot wrong with this site but one of the great things about here is that no matter what shape, size, colour, sexuality you are. There will be someone here that loves that. xx " Your 2nd paragraph is 100% correct, there's someone for everyone here doesn't matter what body shape or sexuality you are. | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss....
You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names
And same goes for the men. I’ve seen plenty of women saying they’re not into skinny men. As a slim Jim I find it a bit demoralising sometimes.
To defend myself, It was a general description of a body type, not a name or a tag. Whether we like it or not, we all fall into a general body type. I'm a big chunky guy and even though I'd prefer to be another way, it is how I am. A curvy person is curvy, a skinny person is skinny. These are descriptive facts, not judgements or preferences.
Skinny has a negative connotation while curvy doesn't. Skinny can be perceived as offensive as fat . Besides curvy describes a shape/proportion and isn't weight/size related (skinny is). In other words slim or 'average' woman can be curvy too, but it seems that the expression is being taken over by the more full figured ones. "Nailed it | |||
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"Fat is not an offensive word! Thin is not an offensive word! Skinny is not an offensive word! They are simply words. The WAY some people use them can be offensive. It's not a case of them versus us and those that always jump in to try and start this shit every single time are as bad. Skinny is a word I'd never use as a slur nor do I see it as a slur. It's the comments about real women, dogs with bones,,THAT is offensive. A lady being skinny, thin, slim, in proportion is the same as a lady who is fat, overweight, curvy, fabulous or whatever bloody description someone wants to call themselves...ie HUMAN. There are some stunning slim ladies with amazing curves on here, and there are some stunning fat ladies with amazing curves on here. No one has a monopoly on it yanno. Whatever you're into fair enough but there is no need to denegrate to try and get yer leg over "I never comment on these threads because they always turn into slagging matches with the usual suspects deliberately stirring the pot and others taking offence where none is intended. As always some forumites have short memories while others are hoping everyone else does. I agree with Foxyvixens post. | |||
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"I think that for a couple or especially a lady, who are a little self conscious or shy about their body shape, this site can be great in some respects. There is someone here for every body type and the curvy ladies get every bit as much attention as the gym fit or skinny girls. That can be such a boost to your confidence. I think that men who have a little bit of extra padding tend to not fare so well in this regard though. Are there any ladies who like a bit more to hold on to and keep them warm? Feel free to PM me and we can discuss....
You shouldn't really refer to some of the ladies on here as skinny. Its no different to calling some so called curvy girls other names
And same goes for the men. I’ve seen plenty of women saying they’re not into skinny men. As a slim Jim I find it a bit demoralising sometimes.
To defend myself, It was a general description of a body type, not a name or a tag. Whether we like it or not, we all fall into a general body type. I'm a big chunky guy and even though I'd prefer to be another way, it is how I am. A curvy person is curvy, a skinny person is skinny. These are descriptive facts, not judgements or preferences."Ah yeah, I wouldn’t be taking offence or anything. I’m just pointing out that it’s not always something people can easily brush aside. I was quite self conscious about it at times when I was younger and always wanted a more muscular body. But I was never going to get it so I accepted that and I’m fine with it now. | |||
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"Fat is not an offensive word! Thin is not an offensive word! Skinny is not an offensive word! They are simply words. The WAY some people use them can be offensive. It's not a case of them versus us and those that always jump in to try and start this shit every single time are as bad. Skinny is a word I'd never use as a slur nor do I see it as a slur. It's the comments about real women, dogs with bones,,THAT is offensive. A lady being skinny, thin, slim, in proportion is the same as a lady who is fat, overweight, curvy, fabulous or whatever bloody description someone wants to call themselves...ie HUMAN. There are some stunning slim ladies with amazing curves on here, and there are some stunning fat ladies with amazing curves on here. No one has a monopoly on it yanno. Whatever you're into fair enough but there is no need to denegrate to try and get yer leg over "This is exactly it. They are just words. I have fat, I am fat, I choose not to take it as a slur if someone calls me fat because I have a mirror, I am fully aware that I am fat. However, regarding people saying that skinny is as derogatory a word as fat, slim/skinny people don’t face the discrimination that fat people do so no, it’s not the same. | |||
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"Fat is not an offensive word! Thin is not an offensive word! Skinny is not an offensive word! They are simply words. The WAY some people use them can be offensive. It's not a case of them versus us and those that always jump in to try and start this shit every single time are as bad. Skinny is a word I'd never use as a slur nor do I see it as a slur. It's the comments about real women, dogs with bones,,THAT is offensive. A lady being skinny, thin, slim, in proportion is the same as a lady who is fat, overweight, curvy, fabulous or whatever bloody description someone wants to call themselves...ie HUMAN. There are some stunning slim ladies with amazing curves on here, and there are some stunning fat ladies with amazing curves on here. No one has a monopoly on it yanno. Whatever you're into fair enough but there is no need to denegrate to try and get yer leg over "Absolutely nailed it  | |||
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"…… And as for a curvy person very few people on here actually understand the concept of what an actual curvy lady should look like. " With due respect could ask you please to define how does an ACTUAL curvy lady SHOULD look like? I’ve seen some of your posts related to this topic. I’d say some sound harsh/offensive for some people. I’ve read once you said an obese person should not be allowed medical attention or should not be prioritised in medical attention. I could be wrong. I will take my words back if I am. But this is a very irresponsible and dangerous thing to say. I’m just trying to understand. If you are campaigning for better health. Less obesity in Ireland. That’s plausible, but there are ways that will help in that quest. Shaming and belittling a human being just for being fat is not going to have the optimal results that you might be looking for. It’s actually counterproductive. A fat person who is struggling to get healthier and has to face discrimination rejection and is constantly ridiculed. Will have a very hard time to overcome their health issues. Just like any addiction. It becomes a vicious circle. Supporting people to become a better version of themselves doesn’t have to be offensive harsh or aggressive. If that’s the only way you know, it’s understandable but it’s your responsibility too. In the same way a fat person “should” this or that. Maybe you can re think about how should you campaign against obesity or whatever it is you are campaigning. | |||
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"What is curvy though? When i look at curvy and plus size models they mostly all have one thing in common, a flat stomach. That I certainly dont have so think im beyond curvy and just plus size. Anyhow lifes far too short as it is for me to be stressing about it. " There are curves in your body. You are a curvy lady. Enjoy them while you can, do not stop or wait until some perfect definition matches with you. Life is now. You have that body. Enjoy it | |||
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"…… And as for a curvy person very few people on here actually understand the concept of what an actual curvy lady should look like. With due respect could ask you please to define how does an ACTUAL curvy lady SHOULD look like? I’ve seen some of your posts related to this topic. I’d say some sound harsh/offensive for some people. I’ve read once you said an obese person should not be allowed medical attention or should not be prioritised in medical attention. I could be wrong. I will take my words back if I am. But this is a very irresponsible and dangerous thing to say. I’m just trying to understand. If you are campaigning for better health. Less obesity in Ireland. That’s plausible, but there are ways that will help in that quest. Shaming and belittling a human being just for being fat is not going to have the optimal results that you might be looking for. It’s actually counterproductive. A fat person who is struggling to get healthier and has to face discrimination rejection and is constantly ridiculed. Will have a very hard time to overcome their health issues. Just like any addiction. It becomes a vicious circle. Supporting people to become a better version of themselves doesn’t have to be offensive harsh or aggressive. If that’s the only way you know, it’s understandable but it’s your responsibility too. In the same way a fat person “should” this or that. Maybe you can re think about how should you campaign against obesity or whatever it is you are campaigning. " Look it up numerous articles on the web about it, its not complicated I can post them here if you like. If you look in the mirror and you look like a 0 you are not curvy, you are curved. If you look like an 8 well that's different, you are curvy as in more than one... I make no apologies for my honesty on the subject. | |||
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"…… And as for a curvy person very few people on here actually understand the concept of what an actual curvy lady should look like. With due respect could ask you please to define how does an ACTUAL curvy lady SHOULD look like? I’ve seen some of your posts related to this topic. I’d say some sound harsh/offensive for some people. I’ve read once you said an obese person should not be allowed medical attention or should not be prioritised in medical attention. I could be wrong. I will take my words back if I am. But this is a very irresponsible and dangerous thing to say. I’m just trying to understand. If you are campaigning for better health. Less obesity in Ireland. That’s plausible, but there are ways that will help in that quest. Shaming and belittling a human being just for being fat is not going to have the optimal results that you might be looking for. It’s actually counterproductive. A fat person who is struggling to get healthier and has to face discrimination rejection and is constantly ridiculed. Will have a very hard time to overcome their health issues. Just like any addiction. It becomes a vicious circle. Supporting people to become a better version of themselves doesn’t have to be offensive harsh or aggressive. If that’s the only way you know, it’s understandable but it’s your responsibility too. In the same way a fat person “should” this or that. Maybe you can re think about how should you campaign against obesity or whatever it is you are campaigning. Look it up numerous articles on the web about it, its not complicated I can post them here if you like. If you look in the mirror and you look like a 0 you are not curvy, you are curved. If you look like an 8 well that's different, you are curvy as in more than one... I make no apologies for my honesty on the subject. " I’d like to see the source of your information please | |||
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"Don't allow strangers on the Internet to define how you feel about your body. Call yourself whatever you like, at the end of the day your opinion and self love is all that matters. Confidence is sexy. " Well said... be proud whatever shape you are , fuck it life is to short to be worrying abt been skinny fat Curvy hourglass .. a good personality is priceless | |||
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"There’s a lot of talk here about unhealthy fat people. Fat does not equal unhealthy. You cannot tell anything about a persons health by looking at them. " This. I play gaelic for mothers, walk and am doing swimming lessons twice a week. I have friends with gorgeous slim figures who couldnt walk the length of themselves. | |||
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"There’s a lot of talk here about unhealthy fat people. Fat does not equal unhealthy. You cannot tell anything about a persons health by looking at them. " Completely correct | |||
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"There’s a lot of talk here about unhealthy fat people. Fat does not equal unhealthy. You cannot tell anything about a persons health by looking at them. This. I play gaelic for mothers, walk and am doing swimming lessons twice a week. I have friends with gorgeous slim figures who couldnt walk the length of themselves." Sorry Gaelic for mothers....why the jesus isn't this on TG4 ffs | |||
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"There’s a lot of talk here about unhealthy fat people. Fat does not equal unhealthy. You cannot tell anything about a persons health by looking at them. This. I play gaelic for mothers, walk and am doing swimming lessons twice a week. I have friends with gorgeous slim figures who couldnt walk the length of themselves. Sorry Gaelic for mothers....why the jesus isn't this on TG4 ffs "You could start a petition for exactly that | |||
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"Incase you missed it.... HOURGLASS figure Similar to the number 8" Sorry for the delay. I had to do school runs. another thing I wanted to ask is this Mr. or Mrs. on this. So you are talking about standardisation. And that talks volumes. I don’t really have anything else to say besides that It’s one of the most toxic and violent processes that oppressed women for centuries. The female population in the world is 49.6% it’s about time that the other (equal) part let them define decide and rule their own bodies the way they want. I’ll leave this article I’ve read a while ago about beauty standards and the devastating consequences for women and men. Vogue isn’t my favourite but at least it reaches the ‘masses’ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/standard-issues-white-supremacy-capitalism-influence-beauty/amp And last thing, fat fobia has a racist history, if you would like to do a search about Sarah Baartman “The hottentot Venus” you might find that sadly she was exposed in Dublin and Limmerick City in 1818..So the Irish society did have a notion, positive or negative, about the ‘curvy body’. way ahead of Wikipedia, Urbandictionary and other modern standard sources. | |||
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"I find it quiet sad how these subjects always end up in some people taking offence. There is a lot wrong with this site but one of the great things about here is that no matter what shape, size, colour, sexuality you are. There will be someone here that loves that. xx " Thankyou. That's exactly what I was trying to say. Opinions are like assholes though, right? | |||
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"I find it quiet sad how these subjects always end up in some people taking offence. There is a lot wrong with this site but one of the great things about here is that no matter what shape, size, colour, sexuality you are. There will be someone here that loves that. xx Thankyou. That's exactly what I was trying to say. Opinions are like assholes though, right?" Indeed they are, except its not really an opinion when its factual | |||
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"Love my curves then I turn sideways lol " you have an unbelievable body I must say | |||
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"Incase you missed it.... HOURGLASS figure Similar to the number 8 Sorry for the delay. I had to do school runs. another thing I wanted to ask is this Mr. or Mrs. on this. So you are talking about standardisation. And that talks volumes. I don’t really have anything else to say besides that It’s one of the most toxic and violent processes that oppressed women for centuries. The female population in the world is 49.6% it’s about time that the other (equal) part let them define decide and rule their own bodies the way they want. I’ll leave this article I’ve read a while ago about beauty standards and the devastating consequences for women and men. Vogue isn’t my favourite but at least it reaches the ‘masses’ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/standard-issues-white-supremacy-capitalism-influence-beauty/amp And last thing, fat fobia has a racist history, if you would like to do a search about Sarah Baartman “The hottentot Venus” you might find that sadly she was exposed in Dublin and Limmerick City in 1818..So the Irish society did have a notion, positive or negative, about the ‘curvy body’. way ahead of Wikipedia, Urbandictionary and other modern standard sources. " Do you think I am fat phobic because I have never followed the narrative on curvy on this site. Or perhaps i feel thats its really unfair on the ladies on here who are genuinely curvy, the ones who are either naturally like that or work very hard to stay that way. The ones who cant actually describe themselves as curvy instead have to use the description of average. When infact its the most desirable body type for most women and for men to be attracted too. So in fact are far from average. | |||
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Even says it on my profile as SEXY to me means a nice sexy smile, great attitude and good lingerie and not a number on a scales
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"I wish I loved my curves... My internal dialogue needs resetting. " I like the curves on the road around Slea Head. Makes for a much more interesting drive. | |||
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"Ppls views are all different my personal preference is curves and always has been. My only issue around the current promotion of body positive issues is in my eyes sometimes obesity & being over weight is being “promoted” And my only issue is that someone who has had weight issues knows the negative effect it can have mentally. But that’s more a “me” issue than anyone else. Just be positive happy & content folks! I love you all X " How is encouraging people to be content in their bodies and to not hate themselves promoting obesity? You won’t find one fat person telling you it’s great craic being discriminated against in healthcare, not being able to easily buy clothes to put on their bodies, in the job market etc and that’s all without random strangers feeling that they have a right to comment on your body. No one is promoting obesity, they are promoting being kind to yourself and the body you live in. | |||
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"So as a curvy couple ourselves we are very self conscious of our bodies we just thought we would put this out there is there people that like curvy guys and gals or is size not a issue and just in our heads? " Size is an issue, depending on whose size it is and whose preference it is. One doesn't disqualify the other, when different. I have an issue: and mine is that I like curves. A confident curvy person, is sexy | |||
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" Do you think I am fat phobic because I have never followed the narrative on curvy on this site. Or perhaps i feel thats its really unfair on the ladies on here who are genuinely curvy, the ones who are either naturally like that or work very hard to stay that way. The ones who cant actually describe themselves as curvy instead have to use the description of average. When infact its the most desirable body type for most women and for men to be attracted too. So in fact are far from average. " No Gemma, I don’t think anything about you. And just to stand corrected I misused the term ‘fatphobia’. It’s not fair comparing a real mental health issue as phobias are with pure bigotry as anti-fatness bias is. And I’m so sorry for the struggle ‘real curvy’ women have to go through because of the dreadful misuse of the word ‘curvy’ by some women in this community. | |||
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" Do you think I am fat phobic because I have never followed the narrative on curvy on this site. Or perhaps i feel thats its really unfair on the ladies on here who are genuinely curvy, the ones who are either naturally like that or work very hard to stay that way. The ones who cant actually describe themselves as curvy instead have to use the description of average. When infact its the most desirable body type for most women and for men to be attracted too. So in fact are far from average. No Gemma, I don’t think anything about you. And just to stand corrected I misused the term ‘fatphobia’. It’s not fair comparing a real mental health issue as phobias are with pure bigotry as anti-fatness bias is. And I’m so sorry for the struggle ‘real curvy’ women have to go through because of the dreadful misuse of the word ‘curvy’ by some women in this community. "Its Gemma btw, she doesn't post on here. Shes doesnt care about these things. | |||
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" Do you think I am fat phobic because I have never followed the narrative on curvy on this site. Or perhaps i feel thats its really unfair on the ladies on here who are genuinely curvy, the ones who are either naturally like that or work very hard to stay that way. The ones who cant actually describe themselves as curvy instead have to use the description of average. When infact its the most desirable body type for most women and for men to be attracted too. So in fact are far from average. No Gemma, I don’t think anything about you. And just to stand corrected I misused the term ‘fatphobia’. It’s not fair comparing a real mental health issue as phobias are with pure bigotry as anti-fatness bias is. And I’m so sorry for the struggle ‘real curvy’ women have to go through because of the dreadful misuse of the word ‘curvy’ by some women in this community.
Its Gemma btw, she doesn't post on here. Shes doesnt care about these things."Oh a man!! That explains it all… why am I surprised!?? Silly me What makes you think You have a saying about women’s bodies….. | |||
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" Do you think I am fat phobic because I have never followed the narrative on curvy on this site. Or perhaps i feel thats its really unfair on the ladies on here who are genuinely curvy, the ones who are either naturally like that or work very hard to stay that way. The ones who cant actually describe themselves as curvy instead have to use the description of average. When infact its the most desirable body type for most women and for men to be attracted too. So in fact are far from average. No Gemma, I don’t think anything about you. And just to stand corrected I misused the term ‘fatphobia’. It’s not fair comparing a real mental health issue as phobias are with pure bigotry as anti-fatness bias is. And I’m so sorry for the struggle ‘real curvy’ women have to go through because of the dreadful misuse of the word ‘curvy’ by some women in this community.
Its Gemma btw, she doesn't post on here. Shes doesnt care about these things.
Oh a man!! That explains it all… why am I surprised!?? Silly me
What makes you think You have a saying about women’s bodies…..
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"A person being worried that his partner will somehow be mistaken as fat because of the supposed misuse of a word, is fatphobic. A person not wanting to be mistaken as having a bigger body through the use of a descriptor is fatphobic. Anyway op, as you can see from the thread, there are loads of people who couldn’t give a flying fuck what shape your body is as long as the chemistry is there. My advice for anyone struggling with body image is to follow people on social media who look like you. Get used to seeing people with bodies like yours living their best lives and realise that your body doesn’t need to have any influence over how you live and enjoy your life. " I am not worried, why would I be? I know enough people on here who know us in the flesh. Who know us so why would I care? But throw out whatever sort of nonsense you feel like to try and justify the point. Easy to accuse someone as fatphobic because you have no case here. You are the same person who accused me of being homophobic in the past because again i used actual data and not an opinion to prove a point. | |||
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"There is curvy, there is fat there is obese, there is sbbw or even ssbbw. Depending on any given day i am all of the above in my head and mirror image. Projecting an outward confidence when your inner insecurities are yelling so loudly that you are too fat to be liked, takes energy and hard work and is exhausting.... To get messages like, oh you have a pretty face or sexy mind, BUT , your body is awful, your too fat or fuck you let yourself go, or to be ghosted after you share an intimate picture, that took all of your courage to post as you knew the reaction...is extremely hard to take at times. It wears you down and makes you feel even worse about yourself.. So as much as its nice to know there are lovers of "curves", thank you for your love of a bbw (fat) body x What about the non lovers of curves? Everyone has a preference and that is allowed.... a jym fit person might be appalled by a bbw for instance.. that is allowed.... But, try to be mindful that the person you are rejecting has already tonnes of issues around body insecurities and your negative input dosent help x In a world obsessed with looks its hard to be comfortable in your skin at times.... And then someone special wraps their arms around you and holds you tight and whispers you are mine in your ear....and nothing else matters.. x" This | |||
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"So as a curvy couple ourselves we are very self conscious of our bodies we just thought we would put this out there is there people that like curvy guys and gals or is size not a issue and just in our heads? " You are self conscious of your body because society taught you to be so.But your ‘revenge’ is to be happy in your own skin. Continue doing so. Enjoy life to the core and don’t let prejudices, stigma or narrow minded people to stop your fun. | |||
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"Ppls views are all different my personal preference is curves and always has been. My only issue around the current promotion of body positive issues is in my eyes sometimes obesity & being over weight is being “promoted” And my only issue is that someone who has had weight issues knows the negative effect it can have mentally. But that’s more a “me” issue than anyone else. Just be positive happy & content folks! I love you all X How is encouraging people to be content in their bodies and to not hate themselves promoting obesity? You won’t find one fat person telling you it’s great craic being discriminated against in healthcare, not being able to easily buy clothes to put on their bodies, in the job market etc and that’s all without random strangers feeling that they have a right to comment on your body. No one is promoting obesity, they are promoting being kind to yourself and the body you live in. " I disagree. I’m not anti fat (trust me). I’m fat/obese myself. So I understand the struggles. My point is I think it’s better to promote healthy lifestyles. And if we look at the facts it’s simple ppl with weight issues tend to be more unhealthy. | |||
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"Ppls views are all different my personal preference is curves and always has been. My only issue around the current promotion of body positive issues is in my eyes sometimes obesity & being over weight is being “promoted” And my only issue is that someone who has had weight issues knows the negative effect it can have mentally. But that’s more a “me” issue than anyone else. Just be positive happy & content folks! I love you all X How is encouraging people to be content in their bodies and to not hate themselves promoting obesity? You won’t find one fat person telling you it’s great craic being discriminated against in healthcare, not being able to easily buy clothes to put on their bodies, in the job market etc and that’s all without random strangers feeling that they have a right to comment on your body. No one is promoting obesity, they are promoting being kind to yourself and the body you live in. I disagree. I’m not anti fat (trust me). I’m fat/obese myself. So I understand the struggles. My point is I think it’s better to promote healthy lifestyles. And if we look at the facts it’s simple ppl with weight issues tend to be more unhealthy. " FairPlay for having the honesty to challenge the status quo on here. Well done | |||
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"Ppls views are all different my personal preference is curves and always has been. My only issue around the current promotion of body positive issues is in my eyes sometimes obesity & being over weight is being “promoted” And my only issue is that someone who has had weight issues knows the negative effect it can have mentally. But that’s more a “me” issue than anyone else. Just be positive happy & content folks! I love you all X How is encouraging people to be content in their bodies and to not hate themselves promoting obesity? You won’t find one fat person telling you it’s great craic being discriminated against in healthcare, not being able to easily buy clothes to put on their bodies, in the job market etc and that’s all without random strangers feeling that they have a right to comment on your body. No one is promoting obesity, they are promoting being kind to yourself and the body you live in. I disagree. I’m not anti fat (trust me). I’m fat/obese myself. So I understand the struggles. My point is I think it’s better to promote healthy lifestyles. And if we look at the facts it’s simple ppl with weight issues tend to be more unhealthy. FairPlay for having the honesty to challenge the status quo on here. Well done "No problem. Let’s all hug and be happy lol | |||
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"Ppls views are all different my personal preference is curves and always has been. My only issue around the current promotion of body positive issues is in my eyes sometimes obesity & being over weight is being “promoted” And my only issue is that someone who has had weight issues knows the negative effect it can have mentally. But that’s more a “me” issue than anyone else. Just be positive happy & content folks! I love you all X How is encouraging people to be content in their bodies and to not hate themselves promoting obesity? You won’t find one fat person telling you it’s great craic being discriminated against in healthcare, not being able to easily buy clothes to put on their bodies, in the job market etc and that’s all without random strangers feeling that they have a right to comment on your body. No one is promoting obesity, they are promoting being kind to yourself and the body you live in. I disagree. I’m not anti fat (trust me). I’m fat/obese myself. So I understand the struggles. My point is I think it’s better to promote healthy lifestyles. And if we look at the facts it’s simple ppl with weight issues tend to be more unhealthy. " Again, how is promoting self love and acceptance, promoting an unhealthy lifestyle? I would rather be fat and happy in the body I live in, than live in a body that’s accepted by society and hate myself. | |||
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"No man will rule my body! I will call my body the way I want. And facts based on toxic social constructions and prejudices are no longer acceptable and will be dismantled by women. Which means I have no way to respond, disagree with your data and i will go for alternative facts" See what you did there? an opinion | |||
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"Ppls views are all different my personal preference is curves and always has been. My only issue around the current promotion of body positive issues is in my eyes sometimes obesity & being over weight is being “promoted” And my only issue is that someone who has had weight issues knows the negative effect it can have mentally. But that’s more a “me” issue than anyone else. Just be positive happy & content folks! I love you all X How is encouraging people to be content in their bodies and to not hate themselves promoting obesity? You won’t find one fat person telling you it’s great craic being discriminated against in healthcare, not being able to easily buy clothes to put on their bodies, in the job market etc and that’s all without random strangers feeling that they have a right to comment on your body. No one is promoting obesity, they are promoting being kind to yourself and the body you live in. I disagree. I’m not anti fat (trust me). I’m fat/obese myself. So I understand the struggles. My point is I think it’s better to promote healthy lifestyles. And if we look at the facts it’s simple ppl with weight issues tend to be more unhealthy. Again, how is promoting self love and acceptance, promoting an unhealthy lifestyle? I would rather be fat and happy in the body I live in, than live in a body that’s accepted by society and hate myself. " I’m not in anyway not promoting self love. I’m merely stating it’s my opinion that children/teens should be taught that being in a healthy weight bracket is better for there long term health. Being overweight is scientifically proven to be detrimental to your health. Being body positive will not divert you from “physical” health issues. But it will help you mentally and I applaud that whole heartedly | |||
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"We all know that anyone can find “data” on the internet that backs up their views, whatever they may be. Peer reviewed data is the only data anyone should be relying on. " That's actually the most lame response I have ever had the misfortune to read, might as well of held up the white flag, nearly as bad as the last time your wan said athletic is a state of mind not a body type. You are just like the river in africa at this stage. Again as I already mentioned its curvy as in more than one curve doesnt have anything to do with weight or fat or anything like that. Its a curvy body type as in more than one, like the number 8 or an hourglass. Is that so difficult to understand? | |||
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"Love my curves I'm curvy and confident " Any rightly so!! Stunning | |||
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"Wish I loved my curves. I'm always trying to get skinny and on the next fad diet! " Well if you aren’t appreciating them, I can lend you my appreciation  | |||
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"Wish I loved my curves. I'm always trying to get skinny and on the next fad diet! " Yes, there’s lots of appreciation to be had out there | |||
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"We all know that anyone can find “data” on the internet that backs up their views, whatever they may be. Peer reviewed data is the only data anyone should be relying on. That's actually the most lame response I have ever had the misfortune to read, might as well of held up the white flag, nearly as bad as the last time your wan said athletic is a state of mind not a body type. You are just like the river in africa at this stage. Again as I already mentioned its curvy as in more than one curve doesnt have anything to do with weight or fat or anything like that. Its a curvy body type as in more than one, like the number 8 or an hourglass. Is that so difficult to understand? " I’m not sure what you think I’m in denial about but I have zero interest in having a conversation with you. I have not quoted your posts in any of mine for a reason. You’re welcome to your opinions but that doesn’t mean that anyone has to agree with you. | |||
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"We all know that anyone can find “data” on the internet that backs up their views, whatever they may be. Peer reviewed data is the only data anyone should be relying on. That's actually the most lame response I have ever had the misfortune to read, might as well of held up the white flag, nearly as bad as the last time your wan said athletic is a state of mind not a body type. You are just like the river in africa at this stage. Again as I already mentioned its curvy as in more than one curve doesnt have anything to do with weight or fat or anything like that. Its a curvy body type as in more than one, like the number 8 or an hourglass. Is that so difficult to understand? I’m not sure what you think I’m in denial about but I have zero interest in having a conversation with you. I have not quoted your posts in any of mine for a reason. You’re welcome to your opinions but that doesn’t mean that anyone has to agree with you." Seriously. Its not an opinion its a definition. I have supplied numerous accounts of data above. The reason i quoted your posts is you are obviously struggling separating the difference between an opinion and a definition. Just trying to help you | |||
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"We all know that anyone can find “data” on the internet that backs up their views, whatever they may be. Peer reviewed data is the only data anyone should be relying on. That's actually the most lame response I have ever had the misfortune to read, might as well of held up the white flag, nearly as bad as the last time your wan said athletic is a state of mind not a body type. You are just like the river in africa at this stage. Again as I already mentioned its curvy as in more than one curve doesnt have anything to do with weight or fat or anything like that. Its a curvy body type as in more than one, like the number 8 or an hourglass. Is that so difficult to understand? I’m not sure what you think I’m in denial about but I have zero interest in having a conversation with you. I have not quoted your posts in any of mine for a reason. You’re welcome to your opinions but that doesn’t mean that anyone has to agree with you. Seriously. Its not an opinion its a definition. I have supplied numerous accounts of data above. The reason i quoted your posts is you are obviously struggling separating the difference between an opinion and a definition. Just trying to help you" I do not require your help, thanks all the same. | |||
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"We all know that anyone can find “data” on the internet that backs up their views, whatever they may be. Peer reviewed data is the only data anyone should be relying on. That's actually the most lame response I have ever had the misfortune to read, might as well of held up the white flag, nearly as bad as the last time your wan said athletic is a state of mind not a body type. You are just like the river in africa at this stage. Again as I already mentioned its curvy as in more than one curve doesnt have anything to do with weight or fat or anything like that. Its a curvy body type as in more than one, like the number 8 or an hourglass. Is that so difficult to understand? I’m not sure what you think I’m in denial about but I have zero interest in having a conversation with you. I have not quoted your posts in any of mine for a reason. You’re welcome to your opinions but that doesn’t mean that anyone has to agree with you. Seriously. Its not an opinion its a definition. I have supplied numerous accounts of data above. The reason i quoted your posts is you are obviously struggling separating the difference between an opinion and a definition. Just trying to help you I do not require your help, thanks all the same. " You are very welcome | |||
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