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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply "

Kinda depends in the length and dynamic of the relationship and of there was plans and for during the ghosting period

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Meh. They don't owe you anything IMO

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply "

Partner, as in relationship partner? Ghosting the other half?

If the above is the case, then it sounds like you need to have a serious conversation about where you're both at in said relationship...Mrs

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Whats Ghosting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats Ghosting "

When you leave your physical body and you project your astral body in someone else's house

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan


"Meh. They don't owe you anything IMO"
even you were on a relationship you think its ok 2 ghost them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meh. They don't owe you anything IMO even you were on a relationship you think its ok 2 ghost them ?"

The only acceptable circumstances for my partner ghosting me would be kid nap or death and in either case I'd probably have contacted the police

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By *odeos_gringoCouple
over a year ago

belfast


"Meh. They don't owe you anything IMO even you were on a relationship you think its ok 2 ghost them ?"

If a bf ghosted me for a week..... They wouldn't be my bf anymore.

Simple.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Whats Ghosting

When you leave your physical body and you project your astral body in someone else's house "

You'll have me crying thinking of Demi Moore in a minute

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By *heekyChap93Man
over a year ago


"Whats Ghosting "

I think it's when you put a bed sheet over you and run around the house going 'WOOOOOO'

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Meh. They don't owe you anything IMO even you were on a relationship you think its ok 2 ghost them ?"

Oh sorry I assumed this meant someone who was a potential sex partner that someone was texting or something. If an actual life-partner stopped responding for a week then I'd kinda assume that relationship was over.

If you've never met or it was a casual relationship then my comment above applies.

If its a proper inperson relationship then that's a shitty thing to do.

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By *oriumTergoMan
over a year ago

City Centre


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply "

Yes. I would reply.

Can only assume that you've been negatively affected by this as you'd probably not post here if ok with it.

If you've been negatively affected by it, then reply, but have the conviction to sit your partner down and explain that you have been hurt by it.

They may have valid reasons for ghosting and that needs to be accepted if so, but also your feelings are just as valid and need to be expressed too.

If you don't reply you will never get closure and always wonder what happened.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply "

Yes do reply, but you definitely need a face to face chat. If you feel you're giving more than you're getting from a relationship, then it's time to question whether it's really worth it.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply

Yes. I would reply.

Can only assume that you've been negatively affected by this as you'd probably not post here if ok with it.

If you've been negatively affected by it, then reply, but have the conviction to sit your partner down and explain that you have been hurt by it.

They may have valid reasons for ghosting and that needs to be accepted if so, but also your feelings are just as valid and need to be expressed too.

If you don't reply you will never get closure and always wonder what happened."

Excellent response, better than mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply

Yes do reply, but you definitely need a face to face chat. If you feel you're giving more than you're getting from a relationship, then it's time to question whether it's really worth it."

Perfect answer

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

Bring back the days when you could go awol for a week and it wouldn't matter...Saturday night? Out we go

Not so easy with a family though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally if people waste my time they’re just cut. I have always found they’ll pop back up eventually, but I don’t give second chances. I’ll chat away but the min they mention meeting up, I’ll be direct and say absolutely no chance.

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By *oriumTergoMan
over a year ago

City Centre


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply

Yes. I would reply.

Can only assume that you've been negatively affected by this as you'd probably not post here if ok with it.

If you've been negatively affected by it, then reply, but have the conviction to sit your partner down and explain that you have been hurt by it.

They may have valid reasons for ghosting and that needs to be accepted if so, but also your feelings are just as valid and need to be expressed too.

If you don't reply you will never get closure and always wonder what happened.

Excellent response, better than mine "

I thought yours pretty on point too (with less waffle than mine )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply

Yes. I would reply.

Can only assume that you've been negatively affected by this as you'd probably not post here if ok with it.

If you've been negatively affected by it, then reply, but have the conviction to sit your partner down and explain that you have been hurt by it.

They may have valid reasons for ghosting and that needs to be accepted if so, but also your feelings are just as valid and need to be expressed too.

If you don't reply you will never get closure and always wonder what happened."

This is true, but out of curiosity, how many chances is enough for when someone has genuine reasons for ghosting?

Thankfully we’ve come a long way in accepting people and mental health issues, but I recently had a situation with a guy who ghosted me a few times and genuinely was suffering with his issues at the time.

I let it go the first time it happened as he had a genuine reason for ghosting but the second time it happened, I stone walled him. I’m sure it comes across as a bit heartless, I know it sounds heartless but at what point is it okay to say “I respect your issues and I hope you’re good but I don’t tolerate this”. Hmm…

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By *eginaGWoman
over a year ago

D8


"Generally if people waste my time they’re just cut. I have always found they’ll pop back up eventually, but I don’t give second chances. I’ll chat away but the min they mention meeting up, I’ll be direct and say absolutely no chance."

This.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It would all depend on what type of relationship we had going on .

If it was a partner as in someone I was in a relationship or meeting regularly for a long while yes I would answer them. I would also want to know why they were out if touch for so long especially if I had tried to contact them . If I thought it was just them getting bored of being in touch or anything along those lines then it would end there and then.

If it was someone who I was just meeting up with every now and then it wouldn't bother me if they weren't in touch for a week and chances are if I hadn't tried to contact them in that time it would mean I wasn't that interested anyhow.

But any hint of made up excuse I would just walk away either way. Because once people start that it generally means they aren't that into you anyhow so better off not to waste time on people like that.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Going without contact for a week doesn't seem like that big of deal to me.

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By *oriumTergoMan
over a year ago

City Centre


" This is true, but out of curiosity, how many chances is enough for when someone has genuine reasons for ghosting?

Thankfully we’ve come a long way in accepting people and mental health issues, but I recently had a situation with a guy who ghosted me a few times and genuinely was suffering with his issues at the time.

I let it go the first time it happened as he had a genuine reason for ghosting but the second time it happened, I stone walled him. I’m sure it comes across as a bit heartless, I know it sounds heartless but at what point is it okay to say “I respect your issues and I hope you’re good but I don’t tolerate this”. Hmm… "

Honestly, I think what you did was very fair and not heartless at all. You gave him more of a chance than most would. Showed empathy kindness, understanding, and yet they repeated the same behaviour despite this.

In some ways this displayed where that person was at regarding emotional responsibility and proved they could t be trusted with not hurting your feelings.

You 'stone walling' them the second time may have huge long term benefits for that person. They will see that their negative behaviour towards is now not always excusable and given a pass.

It may inspire change in thay person.

It seems you have empathy, yet great boundaries.

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By *onaldandJackieCouple
over a year ago

the forrest


"if a partner ghost you for a week then get in tries to get in contact should you reply "

What did you do?

Usually when a partner refuses to chat/reply is a sign of anger or she found out something about you that you may have not told her?

It may also mean she may want to cool things or think about something but if that’s the case she really should let you know.

Ghosting on fab is completely different obviously, people loose interest or just get bored, then it’s completely acceptable, not to everyone but it does happen.

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