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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Toileting is a natural physiological necessity for all - some more regularly than others, some more noisy but certain aspects we may only have so much control of (hopefully anyway ).

Now, my humour is in the toilet (as well as the gutter) but I was brought up "proper" and do behave like a lady - in public anyway where, if I need to fart, I certainly try to be discreet about it, in order not to arouse other people's senses .

Over various relationships, it's interesting how I feel about toileting around a partner. I'd be relatively relaxed, either ignore or take habits with humour. But when your opposite is different, it becomes a different ball game. Am I the only one who feels that way?!

In my household with children, (single mum - I'm partnered but not cohabiting), there's no shame - on my part. I leave bathroom doors half ajar, dog has been known to stick his head around the corner (dangerous!!! ), if I fart in front of the children, they get embarrassed (I try to teach them not to be re "normal" bodily functions).

At what stage in a relationship do you lose all inhibitions surrounding your toileting habits - or do you have any inhibitions to start with - or do you never lose them? Is it a gradual process? Are you always well mannered around each other, even in private, do you laugh about it, do you sneak away for your number two's and/or to let it rip? Is it a topic of discussion, is it taboo?

Have you found it depends on your partner? Some did/do laugh at this, some were/are grossed out when you fart in front of each other (past/present relationships)? Does the behaviour around toileting have an impact on yours?

Do you toilet in front of each other for number one and two or are both private activities, or do you have no issues with sharing one but not the other?

So many questions Thoughts, opinions, stories - please discuss (I apologise if any preconceptions of my sheer and utter sexiness were unwittingly destroyed by this post ) Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait a minute, women fart? This is news to me

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"Wait a minute, women fart? This is news to me "
wow never knew that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they don't. They purr

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

No, they break wind……

I’ve never heard the word fart without the word old in front of it….

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

Reminds me of that old Billy Connolly joke about how women can't keep secrets and also how women don't fart, they're able to keep it in.

So of you want her to keep a secret...whisper it up her arse!

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Very interesting post Op

I've no problem being in a shower and the other person needs to pee in the toilet because lets face it she's just sitting down anyway so no issue's there

However I've never used the toilet in a hotel room while someone else is in the room.

I always head to the reception toilet and use it and usually use the excuse I need something from my car

Its the first thing I check on when I book into a hotel ..exactly where are the toilets

Its amazing how normal body functions are too embarrassing to discuss and yet we're meant to discuss everything else and share body fluids

As for farting ...hold it in..use the bathroom to pee and fart while flushing ....is that not what everyone does

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Wait a minute, women fart? This is news to me

wow never knew that "

Learn something new every day

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"No they don't. They purr "

Aw bless, still trying to lighten the fact .

I understand my post may have devastating consequences for some, may even be refuted, denied - is it the next conspiracy theory: farting women, personal experiences are null and void, scientifically proven, peer reviewed facts only please

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"No, they break wind……

I’ve never heard the word fart without the word old in front of it…. "

I must be ancient so

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance….. "

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Reminds me of that old Billy Connolly joke about how women can't keep secrets and also how women don't fart, they're able to keep it in.

So of you want her to keep a secret...whisper it up her arse!"

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead "

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he!

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Very interesting post Op

I've no problem being in a shower and the other person needs to pee in the toilet because lets face it she's just sitting down anyway so no issue's there

However I've never used the toilet in a hotel room while someone else is in the room.

I always head to the reception toilet and use it and usually use the excuse I need something from my car

Its the first thing I check on when I book into a hotel ..exactly where are the toilets

Its amazing how normal body functions are too embarrassing to discuss and yet we're meant to discuss everything else and share body fluids

As for farting ...hold it in..use the bathroom to pee and fart while flushing ....is that not what everyone does

"

Thank you - oddly nobody has answered my questions. I wonder why .

I personally want my privacy for a number 2. I've no problem sharing a bathroom if going for a pee or if he needs a pee...but I also wonder is there a discomfort about using the bathroom for a no 2, particularly if space, no of bathrooms, sound proofing may be concerns - flushing once may not be sufficient to block out certain noises , and no - I'd be the exception to that rule (if there is an unknown, unwritten one

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he! "

And that was my experience in my marriage too...but since then I've had different experiences in other relationships since, which were more short lived (did I drive them away?! - feck, I must have disillusioned the occasional man here and there ).

I better get on my best behaviour

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Very interesting post Op

I've no problem being in a shower and the other person needs to pee in the toilet because lets face it she's just sitting down anyway so no issue's there

However I've never used the toilet in a hotel room while someone else is in the room.

I always head to the reception toilet and use it and usually use the excuse I need something from my car

Its the first thing I check on when I book into a hotel ..exactly where are the toilets

Its amazing how normal body functions are too embarrassing to discuss and yet we're meant to discuss everything else and share body fluids

As for farting ...hold it in..use the bathroom to pee and fart while flushing ....is that not what everyone does

Thank you - oddly nobody has answered my questions. I wonder why .

I personally want my privacy for a number 2. I've no problem sharing a bathroom if going for a pee or if he needs a pee...but I also wonder is there a discomfort about using the bathroom for a no 2, particularly if space, no of bathrooms, sound proofing may be concerns - flushing once may not be sufficient to block out certain noises , and no - I'd be the exception to that rule (if there is an unknown, unwritten one "

This is the problem with hotel rooms ....which is why I head to reception

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Very interesting post Op

I've no problem being in a shower and the other person needs to pee in the toilet because lets face it she's just sitting down anyway so no issue's there

However I've never used the toilet in a hotel room while someone else is in the room.

I always head to the reception toilet and use it and usually use the excuse I need something from my car

Its the first thing I check on when I book into a hotel ..exactly where are the toilets

Its amazing how normal body functions are too embarrassing to discuss and yet we're meant to discuss everything else and share body fluids

As for farting ...hold it in..use the bathroom to pee and fart while flushing ....is that not what everyone does

Thank you - oddly nobody has answered my questions. I wonder why .

I personally want my privacy for a number 2. I've no problem sharing a bathroom if going for a pee or if he needs a pee...but I also wonder is there a discomfort about using the bathroom for a no 2, particularly if space, no of bathrooms, sound proofing may be concerns - flushing once may not be sufficient to block out certain noises , and no - I'd be the exception to that rule (if there is an unknown, unwritten one

This is the problem with hotel rooms ....which is why I head to reception "

Now, try and find a solution for a house with only one bathroom

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Well as ypu have said when you have small kids privacy goes out the window

In my old house the kids just burst into the loo no matter who was in the shower and a locked door just didnt happen

Having a shower with a small child child sitting on the pot singing or asking questions was a regular occurrence

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I've no issue with the wee pee but I certainly draw the line at no 2. Only behind closed doors regardless of relationship. I can blend out the noises but I don't need to witness it with my eyes nor do I need to display it when it's my turn. It's a necessary act but not one to share imo.

I understand with small kids this is different, but that just applies for the kids. I believe it is possible to maintain a parent's pooing integrity even through the having young kids stage.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

With small kids, who follow you everywhere, and the dog follows them, there is no privacy, until they get a bit older. Its a cultural thing as well, farting publicly is ok in some cultures , but not in others. I find it embarrassing to use an ensuite loo, just beside my sleeping partner in the bed. My version of the dawn chorus will definitely wake her up.

So, to answer your questions.

I do my best not go fart in public(but in a crowded pub its ok)

I prefer my morning ablutions to be private.

Im ok peeing in a public place(behind a tree), or with a partner peeing while i shower, shave etc.

My only confusion might be when out walking in the countryside with a friend.

She needs to pee.. Do i stay with her and carry on our conversation, or keep lookout, or walk on...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With small kids, who follow you everywhere, and the dog follows them, there is no privacy, until they get a bit older. Its a cultural thing as well, farting publicly is ok in some cultures , but not in others. I find it embarrassing to use an ensuite loo, just beside my sleeping partner in the bed. My version of the dawn chorus will definitely wake her up.

So, to answer your questions.

I do my best not go fart in public(but in a crowded pub its ok)

I prefer my morning ablutions to be private.

Im ok peeing in a public place(behind a tree), or with a partner peeing while i shower, shave etc.

My only confusion might be when out walking in the countryside with a friend.

She needs to pee.. Do i stay with her and carry on our conversation, or keep lookout, or walk on...? "

Love this answer! Such variety

Keep back turned and keep lookout, keep talking if she keeps talking!

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By *ilfeaterMan
over a year ago

limerick

I draw the line at no.2.

It's smelly and messy. I don't find anything sexy about it.

I'm very turned on watching women pee. I love the sight and sound of it. There's no time limit for this in my case. I'd gladly meet a lady for the first time just to watch and listen to her pee.

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Well as ypu have said when you have small kids privacy goes out the window

In my old house the kids just burst into the loo no matter who was in the shower and a locked door just didnt happen

Having a shower with a small child child sitting on the pot singing or asking questions was a regular occurrence "

Yeah, certainly with children - them were the times

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I've no issue with the wee pee but I certainly draw the line at no 2. Only behind closed doors regardless of relationship. I can blend out the noises but I don't need to witness it with my eyes nor do I need to display it when it's my turn. It's a necessary act but not one to share imo.

I understand with small kids this is different, but that just applies for the kids. I believe it is possible to maintain a parent's pooing integrity even through the having young kids stage. "

I like the term "pooing integrity"

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"With small kids, who follow you everywhere, and the dog follows them, there is no privacy, until they get a bit older. Its a cultural thing as well, farting publicly is ok in some cultures , but not in others. I find it embarrassing to use an ensuite loo, just beside my sleeping partner in the bed. My version of the dawn chorus will definitely wake her up.

So, to answer your questions.

I do my best not go fart in public(but in a crowded pub its ok)

I prefer my morning ablutions to be private.

Im ok peeing in a public place(behind a tree), or with a partner peeing while i shower, shave etc.

My only confusion might be when out walking in the countryside with a friend.

She needs to pee.. Do i stay with her and carry on our conversation, or keep lookout, or walk on...? "

I must remember "dawn chorus" for my vocabulary too

I do my utmost not to be caught in a situation like that

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he! "

I’m single now….

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I draw the line at no.2.

It's smelly and messy. I don't find anything sexy about it.

I'm very turned on watching women pee. I love the sight and sound of it. There's no time limit for this in my case. I'd gladly meet a lady for the first time just to watch and listen to her pee. "

It's not sexy...but it's a necessity which, depending on circumstances, may be inevitable to be done so discreetly that you know nothing about it...I suppose my question was more about the behaviour/emotions it provokes. Can you laugh it off using humour, are you grossed out and show it, or is it silently ignored?

Even in this modern day and age, there's still shame and embarrassment around "taboo" topics include toileting, sex and masturbation. Obviously these topics all have a time and a place for discussion (I hope you're not enjoying your coffee break as I'm writing about shit, piss and farts ).

I dare say that a number of us probably have a more regular bowel movement than we have sex (unless you're lucky to be at it like rabbits and unlucky enough to suffer with constipation )...yet it's rarely a topic of discussion.

#Raisingawareness#

#Weallneedtopooatsomepoint#

#Nothingtobeashamedof#

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he!

I’m single now…. "

Do you want me to put an advert out for you?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he!

I’m single now….

Do you want me to put an advert out for you? "

Pimp……

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Yes please…..

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he!

I’m single now….

Do you want me to put an advert out for you?

Pimp……

.

.

.

.

.

.

Yes please….. "

I'll give you a good rate

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he!

I’m single now….

Do you want me to put an advert out for you?

Pimp……

.

.

.

.

.

.

Yes please…..

I'll give you a good rate "

Will work for food….

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he!

I’m single now….

Do you want me to put an advert out for you?

Pimp……

.

.

.

.

.

.

Yes please…..

I'll give you a good rate

Will work for food…."

My menu in that department might be lacking (based on feedback from my children)

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"I’m pretty easy going but personally I’d probably prefer a little mystery in any relationship, like a line between no.1’s and no.2’s.

Long live romance…..

And once the lines are blurred, romance is dead

When you're married and have kids, there are no lines. Romance says he!

I’m single now….

Do you want me to put an advert out for you?

Pimp……

.

.

.

.

.

.

Yes please…..

I'll give you a good rate

Will work for food….

My menu in that department might be lacking (based on feedback from my children) "

Will work for M&M’s……

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By *ilfeaterMan
over a year ago

limerick


"I draw the line at no.2.

It's smelly and messy. I don't find anything sexy about it.

I'm very turned on watching women pee. I love the sight and sound of it. There's no time limit for this in my case. I'd gladly meet a lady for the first time just to watch and listen to her pee.

It's not sexy...but it's a necessity which, depending on circumstances, may be inevitable to be done so discreetly that you know nothing about it...I suppose my question was more about the behaviour/emotions it provokes. Can you laugh it off using humour, are you grossed out and show it, or is it silently ignored?

Even in this modern day and age, there's still shame and embarrassment around "taboo" topics include toileting, sex and masturbation. Obviously these topics all have a time and a place for discussion (I hope you're not enjoying your coffee break as I'm writing about shit, piss and farts ).

I dare say that a number of us probably have a more regular bowel movement than we have sex (unless you're lucky to be at it like rabbits and unlucky enough to suffer with constipation )...yet it's rarely a topic of discussion.

#Raisingawareness#

#Weallneedtopooatsomepoint#

#Nothingtobeashamedof#"

I reckon I'd laugh it off but the situation might demand that I silently ignore it. I definitely wouldn't be grossed out by it.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Unless she's in the pushing stage of labour... I don't wanna be in the same room as a girl pooping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not until one of us needs a diaper again thanks

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By *arkjackMan
over a year ago

West Cork

In as so far as it is possible, it would be ideal if the pair of you had separate bedrooms, ensuites and a shared bathroom for relaxing.

I believe unfortunately it is human nature to have familiarity grow into contempt - so some physical distance helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every days a school day .

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"In as so far as it is possible, it would be ideal if the pair of you had separate bedrooms, ensuites and a shared bathroom for relaxing.

I believe unfortunately it is human nature to have familiarity grow into contempt - so some physical distance helps."

I'm not quite sure how you managed to interpret that into my posts particularly as we don't cohabit and there's no way I'd want different bedrooms when we do spend time together

I'm quite relaxed around the subject but do notice a difference in how another's behaviour/enotions affects me - to an extent.

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Every days a school day . "

What did you learn today?

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Not until one of us needs a diaper again thanks "

Are both of you willing to this for the other?

I've just been told I'm welcome to change his but he's not going anywhere near mine - looks like I still have my work cut out for me

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By * la carte OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Unless she's in the pushing stage of labour... I don't wanna be in the same room as a girl pooping "

Thankfully that didn't happen to me

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Unless she's in the pushing stage of labour... I don't wanna be in the same room as a girl pooping

Thankfully that didn't happen to me "

We had that and projectile vomiting but it wasnt about me

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