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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Low libido if often discussed in the context of being pathological . A symptom of a psychological issue or a hormonal change .

What about high libido ? Can it be pathological ? When does ‘really enjoying sex frequently ‘ become compulsive or destructive ?

Not in anyway borrowed from the lounge

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By *r-JayMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Id say it can be pathological. Theres a few interesting studies that show a connection between sexual trauma e.g. assult, exposure at young age and having a high sex drive/libido

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id say it can be pathological. Theres a few interesting studies that show a connection between sexual trauma e.g. assult, exposure at young age and having a high sex drive/libido "

I've done some reading into sexual trauma, as someone who has a low libido I know mine comes from both a mental and physical element. The physical side is no self confidence, rejection, fear of getting hurt which I guess plays into the mental element.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

There are actually no such phenomena as high or low libidos, just incompatible sexual desires.

If two people with high levels of sexual energy are together, they will regard their compatibility as normal, and vice versa.

Dissatisfaction arises when one party has a high libido and the other is low.

If two people with low libidos are dissatisfied then they have just to agree to up the ante.

Very low libido, a total absence of sexual desire may have a medical origin such as a thyroid issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine that like any activity that provides a "high", be it physical or ego related, sex can easily become addictive to the point of being destructive to one's mental or physical well-being and relationships.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Cancer of the pituitary gland can produce a symptom like very high libido, insatiable desire for orgasm. However, that's the problem. Its insatiable, and (usually women) may have continuous orgasms with no satisfaction. Libido changes over a lifetime, for both partners in a relationship, and that can cause problems when were at a mismatched stage.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

In theory you can have a compatible couple libido wise who over the years diverge .

Where one partner’s sex drive remains high , it could now potentially become problematic (porn , arguments secondary to refusal , affairs etc )

If we ignore societal responses and pressures for a minute , and let’s say the partner with lower libido cannot change her/his status. should the solution be addressing the high libido levels which are now causing incompatibility , or is it the relationship that needs to change ?

Surely no matter how high or compulsive someone’s sex drive is, there is potentially a partner who can match them , or maybe a single life might suit them best ?

Are those seeking interventions for a high libido only doing so because society expects people to stay in relationships or jobs which require a level of conduct and behaviour they’re incapable of sustaining ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In theory you can have a compatible couple libido wise who over the years diverge .

Where one partner’s sex drive remains high , it could now potentially become problematic (porn , arguments secondary to refusal , affairs etc )

If we ignore societal responses and pressures for a minute , and let’s say the partner with lower libido cannot change her/his status. should the solution be addressing the high libido levels which are now causing incompatibility , or is it the relationship that needs to change ?

Surely no matter how high or compulsive someone’s sex drive is, there is potentially a partner who can match them , or maybe a single life might suit them best ?

Are those seeking interventions for a high libido only doing so because society expects people to stay in relationships or jobs which require a level of conduct and behaviour they’re incapable of sustaining ? "

There's nothing stopping anyone ending a relationship that is not meeting their needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are actually no such phenomena as high or low libidos, just incompatible sexual desires.

If two people with high levels of sexual energy are together, they will regard their compatibility as normal, and vice versa.

Dissatisfaction arises when one party has a high libido and the other is low.

If two people with low libidos are dissatisfied then they have just to agree to up the ante.

Very low libido, a total absence of sexual desire may have a medical origin such as a thyroid issue."

You started out by saying the phenomena of high or low libido doesn't exist.

And then spent a while describing how you consider the phenomena of high and low libido manifests itself in those with high or low libido.

Which is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gran used to say a good wank can sort most problems. She was right!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"In theory you can have a compatible couple libido wise who over the years diverge .

Where one partner’s sex drive remains high , it could now potentially become problematic (porn , arguments secondary to refusal , affairs etc )

If we ignore societal responses and pressures for a minute , and let’s say the partner with lower libido cannot change her/his status. should the solution be addressing the high libido levels which are now causing incompatibility , or is it the relationship that needs to change ?

Surely no matter how high or compulsive someone’s sex drive is, there is potentially a partner who can match them , or maybe a single life might suit them best ?

Are those seeking interventions for a high libido only doing so because society expects people to stay in relationships or jobs which require a level of conduct and behaviour they’re incapable of sustaining ? "

I'd assume the answers to all those questions above vary from person to person and their situation/relationship. There's no straight answer to this or a recipe that can be followed. It all depends how sound the foundations of the relationship still are.

Sexual drive starts in the head and I do believe humans have the ability to control their behaviour to a fair extent. Now that doesn't mean you've to suppress your libido but a high sex drive is also not a free pass or an excuse for reckless rampant sex spree.

As CaseyLee said above anything providing a high/kick can become compulsive and obsessive. If there's a track of destruction and lies, the high sexual libido might have turned into a sex addiction.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Low libido / high libido, 2 sides of the same coin. Neither are an issue unless it's an issue for your partner, in which case it's up to you both to find something you can live with, or seperate. The main drivers here are multiple and complex and you can't generalise.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

There is a lot of wisdom in the responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

High libido + High libido = Fine .

High libido + low libido = Problem.

It all depends , everyone has different levels but under no circumstances should anyone with a high or low get involved with an opposite level on a permanent basis ,it's simply wrong , there's enough going on in people's lives without that.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down


"There are actually no such phenomena as high or low libidos, just incompatible sexual desires.

If two people with high levels of sexual energy are together, they will regard their compatibility as normal, and vice versa.

Dissatisfaction arises when one party has a high libido and the other is low.

If two people with low libidos are dissatisfied then they have just to agree to up the ante.

Very low libido, a total absence of sexual desire may have a medical origin such as a thyroid issue.

You started out by saying the phenomena of high or low libido doesn't exist.

And then spent a while describing how you consider the phenomena of high and low libido manifests itself in those with high or low libido.

Which is it?"

The essential criterion on this forum and disparate threads is to either/or be contentious, provocative, illogical, inconsistent or borderline offensive about the message, but not the messenger; in order to elicit a response, provoke discussion and build one's reputation:brand awareness brand loyalty and repeat purchases, if possible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are actually no such phenomena as high or low libidos, just incompatible sexual desires.

If two people with high levels of sexual energy are together, they will regard their compatibility as normal, and vice versa.

Dissatisfaction arises when one party has a high libido and the other is low.

If two people with low libidos are dissatisfied then they have just to agree to up the ante.

Very low libido, a total absence of sexual desire may have a medical origin such as a thyroid issue.

You started out by saying the phenomena of high or low libido doesn't exist.

And then spent a while describing how you consider the phenomena of high and low libido manifests itself in those with high or low libido.

Which is it?

The essential criterion on this forum and disparate threads is to either/or be contentious, provocative, illogical, inconsistent or borderline offensive about the message, but not the messenger; in order to elicit a response, provoke discussion and build one's reputation:brand awareness brand loyalty and repeat purchases, if possible!"

You do talk some twaddle at times

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down


"There are actually no such phenomena as high or low libidos, just incompatible sexual desires.

If two people with high levels of sexual energy are together, they will regard their compatibility as normal, and vice versa.

Dissatisfaction arises when one party has a high libido and the other is low.

If two people with low libidos are dissatisfied then they have just to agree to up the ante.

Very low libido, a total absence of sexual desire may have a medical origin such as a thyroid issue.

You started out by saying the phenomena of high or low libido doesn't exist.

And then spent a while describing how you consider the phenomena of high and low libido manifests itself in those with high or low libido.

Which is it?

The essential criterion on this forum and disparate threads is to either/or be contentious, provocative, illogical, inconsistent or borderline offensive about the message, but not the messenger; in order to elicit a response, provoke discussion and build one's reputation:brand awareness brand loyalty and repeat purchases, if possible!

You do talk some twaddle at times"

Not 'at times'; almost invariably all the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are actually no such phenomena as high or low libidos, just incompatible sexual desires.

If two people with high levels of sexual energy are together, they will regard their compatibility as normal, and vice versa.

Dissatisfaction arises when one party has a high libido and the other is low.

If two people with low libidos are dissatisfied then they have just to agree to up the ante.

Very low libido, a total absence of sexual desire may have a medical origin such as a thyroid issue.

You started out by saying the phenomena of high or low libido doesn't exist.

And then spent a while describing how you consider the phenomena of high and low libido manifests itself in those with high or low libido.

Which is it?

The essential criterion on this forum and disparate threads is to either/or be contentious, provocative, illogical, inconsistent or borderline offensive about the message, but not the messenger; in order to elicit a response, provoke discussion and build one's reputation:brand awareness brand loyalty and repeat purchases, if possible!

You do talk some twaddle at times"

At times ?? Can't lie that went completely over my head .

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

KK


"

What about high libido ? Can it be pathological ?

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Short answer is no, but...


"

When does ‘really enjoying sex frequently ‘ become compulsive or destructive ?

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when people engage in manipulative, abusive or antisocial behaviour in pursuit of it

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