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By *elehot OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn

is this an adult facebook or a sex site! seems people just want to chit chat and pic collect? does anyone acutally want to meet? x

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By *unFellaMan
over a year ago

Derry


"is this an adult facebook or a sex site! seems people just want to chit chat and pic collect? does anyone acutally want to meet? x"

Exactly what I was thinking. Try to be nice and youre told youre beating around the bush, try get straight to the point and apparently Im heartless. Cant win. Always up for a chat but realistically I can do that on any app on my phone. Im here for meets like.

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By *elehot OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn

Exactly, totally agree with you, if I want to chat about the weather or similar i can do it on facebook!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is this an adult facebook or a sex site! seems people just want to chit chat and pic collect? does anyone acutally want to meet? x"

Of course most do. Finding mutual attraction, compatibility and availability isn't always easy though

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've no interest in other people's pics and I don't use FB but I meet on my terms which involves lots of chat beforehand and I don't apologise to anyone for that.

Everyone is free to use the site at they see fit without instruction from others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is this an adult facebook or a sex site! seems people just want to chit chat and pic collect? does anyone acutally want to meet? x"

Of course , but both parties have to WANT to meet, meets are what lm here for anyway....if lm lucky to have someone interested.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

I meet more people on here than from facebook! For me, this is more real, than the fantasy world of fb or insta.

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By *unFellaMan
over a year ago

Derry


"Exactly, totally agree with you, if I want to chat about the weather or similar i can do it on facebook!"

Amen to that. Another thing I find on here is people often take the piss with me because of how young I am. Like youre not into people my age, thats fine. No need to be rude about it. I literally dont care, just say no thanks. I dunno, place just gives me bad vibes from a lot of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its kinda more of a community than a sex site tbh, sex is the common interest but theres a lot more going on as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its kinda more of a community than a sex site tbh, sex is the common interest but theres a lot more going on as well."

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By *elehot OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn

we have met a few lovely people on this site, however recently it seems to have become a social and voyeurism forum not a site for swinging x

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

People do fab however they want. Some people chat and meet. Some people chat ask to meet arrange a day even,then don't actually meet at all. Some even ghost then come back asking to meet again which is always quite funny when they do,as though they think people would forget what happened previously.

Some like to moan because they think it being fab everything should be just about sex and no one should dare to actually get to know anyone else or chat about anything other than sex

Me I prefer to do fab the way I want and learn from my journey on here on who I want to interact with and meet or not meet as the case may be.To me it will never be just a sex site. But it's definitely not face book either .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have met a few lovely people on this site, however recently it seems to have become a social and voyeurism forum not a site for swinging x "

Socialising is part of swinging for many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People (single&couple) seem to see calling a very active sexlife 'swinging' as a way to sanitise their high sex drive.

Suddenly it's more acceptable or respectable.

But swinging is described as a lot more than just the sex itself by those in the way of it.

Fabbers need to manage their expectations perhaps.

People come on and complain about a lack of bodycount turnover and call fab out as a sex site but in reality this is a swinging site not a hooking site, not a straight-up sex on demand site.

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By *elehot OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn

never expected it to be a hook up site but it is a swinging site for mutual consenting adults looking similar, however, when chatting all we get is show me your wifes tits or send me pics?

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"Its kinda more of a community than a sex site tbh, sex is the common interest but theres a lot more going on as well."

A lot of people have become good friends, but a lot of cliques also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a large section who use fab as free porn and once they get off they disappear for a few days or more. Perhaps until they don't feel grubby any more and the horn builds again and they can'tresist another visit.

Surprising how many repressed adults there are still about feeling ashamed of having a sexual appetite.

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I've a large sexual appetite.

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By *elehot OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn

not us lol, we are on very regulary and in the last 10 years have only missed 1 meet with an exceptional circumstance. Would be happy to meet that person again! please dont judge everyone! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never expected it to be a hook up site but it is a swinging site for mutual consenting adults looking similar, however, when chatting all we get is show me your wifes tits or send me pics? "

I thought the problem was people chatting about the weather and such like?

We don't share pics. We don't do sex talk so no-one will be getting any titillation from us unless it's in person

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By *ub23Man
over a year ago

wandering

Do you not think there has to be some sort of interaction before a meet? Be a weird meet if you just turned up sayed nothing to each other, have a fuck and go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you not think there has to be some sort of interaction before a meet? Be a weird meet if you just turned up sayed nothing to each other, have a fuck and go "

If you use reply & quote people will know who you're directing your question to

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By *ub23Man
over a year ago

wandering


"Do you not think there has to be some sort of interaction before a meet? Be a weird meet if you just turned up sayed nothing to each other, have a fuck and go

If you use reply & quote people will know who you're directing your question to"

It’s the op

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

We have been to the US a number of times and visited a couple of clubs. Fab is not that popular over there, they use private groups on Facebook primarily.

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By *elehot OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn

never said we wanted to fuck and go, love the chatting tp build rappor but when chat becomes pic collecting isnt much fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never said we wanted to fuck and go, love the chatting tp build rappor but when chat becomes pic collecting isnt much fun!"

Do you mean flirting & sexy chatting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to win here sometimes. Its like walking on egg shells

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"never expected it to be a hook up site but it is a swinging site for mutual consenting adults looking similar, however, when chatting all we get is show me your wifes tits or send me pics? "

Just need to sort out the wheat from the chaff ...isn't that part of the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love a regular meet, weekly, even twice a week...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Ah sure look..

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Liked and shared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone uses fab differently, for some it passes time, for some it is a place to meet people and for others it's about getting the ride.

Not sure why people get do bothered about how others use it, use it as you see fit and find the people that match your requirements. It's not just a case of joining and suddenly there's a queue for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of moaners on fab is laughable

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By *ed Viking80Man
over a year ago

Northern Ireland


"Its kinda more of a community than a sex site tbh, sex is the common interest but theres a lot more going on as well."

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Neither an adult Facebook or sex site for most...but then people use fab as they see fit and that's ok too...been on dating sights for a very long time and even on there they want the chat and pics but nothing else...but I genuinely think its super hard to meet anyone who genuinely looking the same thing as myself so imagine it's the same for here too!

I've been on here a longtime and literally met a handful of potential meets..so this is why I love the chat groups and socials events I get a feel for the person before I'd even think of asking for a meet! And yeah seems we waste alot of time and effort with timewasters along the way but that's the norm is it not? ??

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By *ezoMan
over a year ago

The Kingdom


"is this an adult facebook or a sex site! seems people just want to chit chat and pic collect? does anyone acutally want to meet? x"

A lot of disillusioned people think a place like this is sex on tap, but you need to remember a few things.

Everyone have their own preferences, quirks, wants and kinks. So they need to chat with people to see if they are someone they are looking for.

Then of course there are things like avilibity, distance, willing to travel, etc.

As for collecting pictures...I believe that is something you are not to do without consent from the owner of the picture.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

We go from "fuck, I joined here a couple of weeks ago and I've already met five psychos" to "fuck, I joined here a couple of years ago and haven't met anyone because either nobody replies to my messages or else they want to talk about the weather".

Somewhere between the two lie most normal people. If you don't want to meet the psychos then you have to filter them out with conversation. Sometimes that will involve talking about mundane subjects such as the weather.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

The bottom line and it will always be the same, women and men in general are programmed differently. I’d have no hesitation in saying a lot of single men on here would meet a diff woman every week if he could, you do a role reversal and it’s the very opposite for most women. Also everyone is in a different boat. Me for eg, I have no ties, kids gf or wife, I work and have involvements outside of work but I’m free 2 do as I please and don’t need to explain 2 anyone. Throw in another factor, location, which is a huge issue. There is so much planning needs to be done at times, people get bored and lose interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never said we wanted to fuck and go, love the chatting tp build rappor but when chat becomes pic collecting isnt much fun!

Do you mean flirting & sexy chatting?"

So my point was going to be, if you're finding people are all about the sex chat, if they're constantly pushing for photos but then never follow through with an actual meet, maybe you're giving them too much. I think there's a high proportion of people who are on here to get their rocks off, who like the idea of sex with new people but who, when it comes down to it, balk at the reality. Once they've received enough titillation and they've had a wank, the notion wears off. You need to find the sweet spot between building rapport and giving them wank fodder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers "

What was your expectation when you joined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers "

Maybe change your pics up a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never said we wanted to fuck and go, love the chatting tp build rappor but when chat becomes pic collecting isnt much fun!

Do you mean flirting & sexy chatting?

So my point was going to be, if you're finding people are all about the sex chat, if they're constantly pushing for photos but then never follow through with an actual meet, maybe you're giving them too much. I think there's a high proportion of people who are on here to get their rocks off, who like the idea of sex with new people but who, when it comes down to it, balk at the reality. Once they've received enough titillation and they've had a wank, the notion wears off. You need to find the sweet spot between building rapport and giving them wank fodder.

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Exactly this you have to out the wank fodder brigade. Red flags for me is when they add you on kik and immediately start asking for naughty photos. I tend to ask them for coffee after a day or two and if they are fobbing me off about coffee to me it's a good indication they just want a free sex chat line.

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By *he zephyrCouple
over a year ago

The Sol


"never said we wanted to fuck and go, love the chatting tp build rappor but when chat becomes pic collecting isnt much fun!

Do you mean flirting & sexy chatting?

So my point was going to be, if you're finding people are all about the sex chat, if they're constantly pushing for photos but then never follow through with an actual meet, maybe you're giving them too much. I think there's a high proportion of people who are on here to get their rocks off, who like the idea of sex with new people but who, when it comes down to it, balk at the reality. Once they've received enough titillation and they've had a wank, the notion wears off. You need to find the sweet spot between building rapport and giving them wank fodder.

Exactly this you have to out the wank fodder brigade. Red flags for me is when they add you on kik and immediately start asking for naughty photos. I tend to ask them for coffee after a day or two and if they are fobbing me off about coffee to me it's a good indication they just want a free sex chat line. "

Red flags for me is when they add you on kik and immediately start asking for naughty photos.

Oh yes, definitely. Ms.F

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By *angero3aMan
over a year ago

swords

yes want to meet but very few couples want straight single guys seem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never said we wanted to fuck and go, love the chatting tp build rappor but when chat becomes pic collecting isnt much fun!

Do you mean flirting & sexy chatting?

So my point was going to be, if you're finding people are all about the sex chat, if they're constantly pushing for photos but then never follow through with an actual meet, maybe you're giving them too much. I think there's a high proportion of people who are on here to get their rocks off, who like the idea of sex with new people but who, when it comes down to it, balk at the reality. Once they've received enough titillation and they've had a wank, the notion wears off. You need to find the sweet spot between building rapport and giving them wank fodder.

Exactly this you have to out the wank fodder brigade. Red flags for me is when they add you on kik and immediately start asking for naughty photos. I tend to ask them for coffee after a day or two and if they are fobbing me off about coffee to me it's a good indication they just want a free sex chat line.

Red flags for me is when they add you on kik and immediately start asking for naughty photos.

Oh yes, definitely. Ms.F"

I never give out my Kik address now unless I've already met the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is for what you want it to be.

For some its a chat, or an moaning site, others a great way for meeting others for fun.

Personally i joined it for meeting women, but met a woman on a different site and she joined here. So we looked for guys to join us for straight mfms.

Now im back looking for myself .

So this site is for whatever you want as long as you enjoy every moment , who cares

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By *bbylad1Man
over a year ago

Galway

It would be nice if more people would meet

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers "

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers "

Well you are here quite a while, have you changed your approach from previous attempts?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? "
in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I also think the onus is always put on the man in this situation when he might be doing everything he can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails. "

I've said this many times, it matters not a jot whether there are 100 men or 1. If that 1 is not what I'm looking for, I'm not going to fuck him just because there's no-one else.

"The Numbers" is a lazy excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also think the onus is always put on the man in this situation when he might be doing everything he can do. "

You see this bit is actually spot on and ties in to my previous reply. Because if - you know what's coming here - he's not what I'm looking for, it won't matter what he does

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails.

I've said this many times, it matters not a jot whether there are 100 men or 1. If that 1 is not what I'm looking for, I'm not going to fuck him just because there's no-one else.

"The Numbers" is a lazy excuse"

Ah Jaysus, don't dispel the last little bit of fucking hope that I have left ffs!

#whatafuckinday

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails.

I've said this many times, it matters not a jot whether there are 100 men or 1. If that 1 is not what I'm looking for, I'm not going to fuck him just because there's no-one else.

"The Numbers" is a lazy excuse"
it’s actually not a lazy excuse at all as admitted numerous times on the past 2 me by women on here. If women sign in 2 a shitload of mail, she’s simply not going to go through each one with a fine toothcomb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails.

I've said this many times, it matters not a jot whether there are 100 men or 1. If that 1 is not what I'm looking for, I'm not going to fuck him just because there's no-one else.

"The Numbers" is a lazy excuse

Ah Jaysus, don't dispel the last little bit of fucking hope that I have left ffs!

#whatafuckinday "

Ah sure look...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails.

I've said this many times, it matters not a jot whether there are 100 men or 1. If that 1 is not what I'm looking for, I'm not going to fuck him just because there's no-one else.

"The Numbers" is a lazy excuse

Ah Jaysus, don't dispel the last little bit of fucking hope that I have left ffs!

#whatafuckinday

Ah sure look..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails. "

This isn't his first profile and the last one got pretty nasty cause he couldn't get a meet

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails.

This isn't his first profile and the last one got pretty nasty cause he couldn't get a meet"
no need for nastiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't even get a meet on here all talkers

You've only been on 4 months what were your expections? Are you putting the effort into chatting to people...what makes you stand out from the crowd? in fairness to the chap, 4 months on any site is a long time especially one where the goal with most is sex. The biggest issue on here for any man regularly looking is the lobsided numbers and unfortunately that’s going nowhere. 4 women only told me lately they each signed up to over 30 messages in their inbox and that was a good day for small numbers. In that regard a lot of it is pot luck whether a man gets a reply or not. I doubt any woman on here is going 2 go along and individually open every one of over 30 mails.

This isn't his first profile and the last one got pretty nasty cause he couldn't get a meetno need for nastiness "
some people seem to miss that memo

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I would luv to meet a nice lady . I luv a nice female companion hopefully to explore different scenarios .

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"I would luv to meet a nice lady . I luv a nice female companion hopefully to explore different scenarios . "
What ever happened to car keys in the bowl and that’s who your having fun with , And do people ever meet again, Not usually !! But on occasion it can happen

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