FabSwingers.com forum: Men mailing straight men

By *orad OP Man
over a year ago

South Central Dublin

Been on sites for approx 25 years, but never seen so many bi/gay men mailing clearly and obviously straight men for M2M fun. Whats that about?

I know the ladies here have bemoaned lads not reading their profiles for eons, but surely this is the ultimate waste of time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno but I'm sick of men messaging me offering allsorts

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Filters...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Update your filters

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By *laveishMan
over a year ago

kildare

"Been on sites for approx 25 years, but never seen so many bi/gay men mailing clearly and obviously straight men for M2M fun. Whats that about?

I know the ladies here have bemoaned lads not reading their profiles for eons, but surely this is the ultimate waste of time? "

Boredom I would say. Anything to have contact with another person maybe. Lots of reasons and none of them healthy

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just block men from messaging. Problem solved.

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By *aitingstillMan
over a year ago

East of Cork

Probably just looking for someone to talk to and hoping to get lucky with someone

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By *orad OP Man
over a year ago

South Central Dublin

I get the filter point, I just dont understand why anyone would bother in such a futile exercise. There are plenty of bi/gay men on this and other more bespoke sites. The effort/return must be dire.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Filters to block men from messaging

The men that message you are hoping that the men that they message are also hiding their sexuality

Some men on here have a profile stating ....men stop messaging me Im not gay

Then on their fabguys have pics and verifications showing otherwise

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By *hesexaddictMan
over a year ago

Dublin 24

OP is talking about Gay and Bi man contacting straight guys, but I have in my profile Bi but gets lots and lots of messages from guys with Straight on their profiles, also lots of guys with straight have verification from other guys.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Just block men from messaging. Problem solved. "

Begs the question why this isn't done ?

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By *ntouchedMan
over a year ago

north dub

Likewise I get straight men contacting me! Guess people often don’t put up the truth encase they are found out. I will fab a straight man’s pic even say he looks great but respect he’s straight. I have meet up with straight men and went for a drink it’s not just all sex.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Op,I'm surprised that in your 25 years of 'being on sites' you've never learned about the fab straight. There's a fair amount of 'straight' men that aren't that straight but wouldn't declare it on their profile for whatever reason. So in other words what you describe as a futile exercise, is actually a fab mining process to find those nuggets.

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By *ubkidMan
over a year ago

University

"Op,I'm surprised that in your 25 years of 'being on sites' you've never learned about the fab straight. There's a fair amount of 'straight' men that aren't that straight but wouldn't declare it on their profile for whatever reason. So in other words what you describe as a futile exercise, is actually a fab mining process to find those nuggets. "

Beautifully put! xD

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

cc hotel

Beautifully put! xD"

Guys even put straight on their fabguy profiles

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Beautifully put! xD

Guys even put straight on their fabguy profiles"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just taking a chance that the other guy is not so straight after all.

I've messaged guys who identify as straight and they were up for it.

I also have guys messaging me who identify as straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah here here's me thinking I was special getting all the messages.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I'd guess they keep doing it because of how often the recipients say yes

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Its like the Nigerian email scams....just 1 saying yes keeps everything going

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By *ohn400Man
over a year ago

Dublin or anywhere

just block each of them as you get them/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are afraid to put anything but straight on their profile and are just hoping someone will suck them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex pests is what they are...unattractive needy sex pests...

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

They can be a pest alright but put on filters....lots of chancers on here...

Although, there are also a lot of 'fab straight' men on here who don't mind meeting men on occasion...

I cannot understand why you just can't be open about your sexuality!

B x

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Been on sites for approx 25 years, but never seen so many bi/gay men mailing clearly and obviously straight men for M2M fun. Whats that about?

I know the ladies here have bemoaned lads not reading their profiles for eons, but surely this is the ultimate waste of time? "

There would appear to be a fair sprinkling of bi or at least bi-curious men here listed as straight for whatever reason. I suspect the gay men who are mailing straight men are aware of that and are just testing the waters.

I've occasionally had messages from other "straight" men looking to suck my cock. In that scenario both of us end up being confused

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By *ancylaceloverTV/TS
over a year ago

Limerick

"Been on sites for approx 25 years, but never seen so many bi/gay men mailing clearly and obviously straight men for M2M fun. Whats that about?

I know the ladies here have bemoaned lads not reading their profiles for eons, but surely this is the ultimate waste of time? "

Probably for the same reason that men who profess to be straight message bi or gay men profile s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of these messages. Even though I state that I’m straight and have in my profile that I’m not into guys so not to bother messaging. Just shows that they haven’t read the profile

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

It's kind of amusing to see men getting frustrated over other men disregarding their boundaries.

Something that women have to learn to deal with from a young age seems to be a brand new discovery to grown up men...

Missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple solution, block guys from contacting you.

I get loads of guys that have straight on their profile who message me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messaged straight men and bi men.

The reason I have is to find a guy to join an ex lady friend and I for a straight mfm.

I have no issues regarding their sexual preferences as long as they play straight in a group setting.

But if a guy messages me regarding a sexual proposal with me, im polite and decline their offer.

Costs nothing to be nice!!??

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

There are several obvious reasons why single guys (on a swinging website) message other guys who have profiled themselves as being straight; I am usually unwilling to block anyone from contacting me, but when their behaviour is repeated, blocking is the simplest solution.

I suspect they believe that some guys may not be entirely honest about their sexuality, or may be susceptible to persuasion, if they are persistent.

If any of them read this, take note: I am NOT at all interested!

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By *ardyboy54321Man
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Wild carry on altogether

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"There are several obvious reasons why single guys (on a swinging website) message other guys who have profiled themselves as being straight; I am usually unwilling to block anyone from contacting me, but when their behaviour is repeated, blocking is the simplest solution.

I suspect they believe that some guys may not be entirely honest about their sexuality, or may be susceptible to persuasion, if they are persistent.

If any of them read this, take note: I am NOT at all interested!

Do men message blank profiles offering blow jobs as well as profiles with a picture

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By *orkGuyFunGuyMan
over a year ago

Cork

It’s the fake profiles of gay men pretending to women and couples is getting tedious at this stage

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"They can be a pest alright but put on filters....lots of chancers on here...

Although, there are also a lot of 'fab straight' men on here who don't mind meeting men on occasion...

I cannot understand why you just can't be open about your sexuality!

B x"

You honestly can't understand why ... Given ffbi has always be far more acceptable culturally than mmbi?

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Just taking a chance that the other guy is not so straight after all.

I've messaged guys who identify as straight and they were up for it.

I also have guys messaging me who identify as straight. "

And for some bi/gay men it's a kink to "turn" a straight man, and possibly also for the "straight" man who's being "turned".

Whatever way you identify, regardless of what your profile states, the bottom line is, anyone who doesn't want to be contacted by men, use your filters and block men from messaging you, then you can't be messaged to start with, or repeatedly for that matter or pestered. Otherwise, if you do enjoy engaging in chat with other men who do respect boundaries, block those who don't or you'll just have to put up and... well, I'll keep it polite

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

It's actually kind of, sort of flattering. I've never felt like taking a guy up on his offer but....I think it's just good manners to respond to someone if they are friendly and respectful.

That what I hope for if I message a lady.

I've never had anyone get nasty over giving them a polite "no thanks but appreciate the thought".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a bisexual man. Just today I decided to turn on the filter. The amount of so called straight men messaging me totally weirded me out. So I can imagine how a straight guy would feel about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's kind of amusing to see men getting frustrated over other men disregarding their boundaries.

Something that women have to learn to deal with from a young age seems to be a brand new discovery to grown up men...

Missus "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of guys on this site say they’re straight but are actually bi because there’s a lot of women who look down on bi men here or being bi makes it harder to get women.

I don’t mind guys messaging me as long as they respect that I’m straight and not interested. But they always follow up with drugs ?! If I’m not interested when I’m sober I won’t be if you offer . It makes me feel sleazy and gross when guys do that. I dont care how high and horny you are…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a bi couple and it's stated clearly we are only interested in bi people .and also state no straight males .

And yip straight males every day .the answer is easy block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only likes I ever get are from 'fab straight ' men. Like why waste your time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gay friend of.mine says they're no straight men after they had 6 pints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A gay friend of.mine says they're no straight men after they had 6 pints

6, he can have two and give me half an hour

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

The reason they do it is there is no way to tell the real straight guys from the fab straight ones.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Id imagine most of the straight men laugh when they see posts about fab straight or a few pints to change you

A few pints is not going to change a straight man....but it might make it easier for a bi curious man to experiment...not too many pints though in fairness

If you're straight you're straight

If your curious you might never get the chance to act on it but hopefully you do

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Just taking a chance that the other guy is not so straight after all.

I've messaged guys who identify as straight and they were up for it.

I also have guys messaging me who identify as straight.

And for some bi/gay men it's a kink to "turn" a straight man, and possibly also for the "straight" man who's being "turned".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It goes the other way around too. I have had straight men message me. Its very annoying.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"It goes the other way around too. I have had straight men message me. Its very annoying. "

Why do they message you ....are they secretly bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It goes the other way around too. I have had straight men message me. Its very annoying.

Why do they message you ....are they secretly bi "

Ffs mate thought that convo was between just us

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

Jameson main bar

Idk it makes me feel good about myself in at least someone wants me. Everyone loves that warm and fuzzy feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy mailed me yesterday a said he would pay me to wank on his face! Was a bit offended

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By *huCullainMan
over a year ago

Rathowen

"A guy mailed me yesterday a said he would pay me to wank on his face! Was a bit offended "

How much was he offering...asking for a friend

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"A guy mailed me yesterday a said he would pay me to wank on his face! Was a bit offended

How much was he offering...asking for a friend

Five dolla Five dolla he wank you long time

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By *oxo4319Man
over a year ago

North Dublin

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By *oxo4319Man
over a year ago

North Dublin

"A guy mailed me yesterday a said he would pay me to wank on his face! Was a bit offended

How much was he offering...asking for a friend

Five dolla Five dolla he wank you long time

Happens me alot thankfully actualy I'd rather it didn't sure I'm getting bombarded today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn’t say a price. Just said he would pay me.

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By *ot neuteredMan
over a year ago

Kildare

"Didn’t say a price. Just said he would pay me."

He could have a fetish for Cum, with subtle undertones of a Single Malt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says gay.

99% of the guys who message me wanting to meet say they are straight on their profile.

Its no big deal, there are message filters available for those that require them

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"A guy mailed me yesterday a said he would pay me to wank on his face! Was a bit offended

How much was he offering...asking for a friend

Paying by the millilitre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently it's because there are more men on here then women.so I heard anyway.women don't talk on here a lot though

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By *ingobrian70Man
over a year ago

tallaght

I’m here 10 mins and had to block them..!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here 10 mins and had to block them..!!"

So thats why you didnt reply to my dick pic

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"The reason they do it is there is no way to tell the real straight guys from the fab straight ones."

There is a secret handshake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow that's so strange men not reading the profile and messaging even though they aren't what you're looking for. Phew at least us ladies don't need to worry about that ever happening...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a compliment mate you're that hot even other men want to fuck you

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By *eathernsilkMan
over a year ago

armagh

Of the messages i have received, all men, none had profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of the messages i have received, all men, none had profile pic."
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Its the jock strap 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow that's so strange men not reading the profile and messaging even though they aren't what you're looking for. Phew at least us ladies don't need to worry about that ever happening..."

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Men mailing straight men - why?