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Why is it so hard to get meets???

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By *haggyherhim OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longford

Single guys yer not alone .. lol

We’ve been on numerous weekends away well preposted here from Donegal to Sligo, Mayo and the Midland. Every time we message and send winks to couples and women it the area and very few even reply. Why is this we’re just curious can anyone enlightened us as to what we’re doing wrong..

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By *amsonite69Man
over a year ago

Belfast

probably because you are after the same thing that all the single guys are after, women and couples.. i have never been to one but have been told that m&g meets and social evenings is the best way to gain traction, i assume even more so as a couple. worth a try

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

[Removed by poster at 16/10/22 10:10:27]

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's probably exactly the same as anyone who doesn't get replies.

Maybe they just don't feel they fit what you are looking for.

Maybe they prefer to chat for a while rather than meet quickly.

Maybe the location or time doesn't suit them.

Maybe they want more than just girl on girl.

It doesn't have to be any of the above or it could be all of them.

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By *amsonite69Man
over a year ago

Belfast

though you do have lots of veris lol

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

Just because you’re on a weekend away doesn’t mean the people you are messaging are . Family , work commitments still have to be dealt with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your on a weekend away and post a meet and hope someone in the area is willing to drop all and meet

most people work, have family commitments, can't get babysitters at the drop of a hat, etc

Than we have the dynamics of finding 4 people that are attracted to each other from chatting with couples if one isn't attracted to one of the party they not going to take one for the team. A lot of people would like a social first to see if there's an attraction.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Single guys yer not alone .. lol

We’ve been on numerous weekends away well preposted here from Donegal to Sligo, Mayo and the Midland. Every time we message and send winks to couples and women it the area and very few even reply. Why is this we’re just curious can anyone enlightened us as to what we’re doing wrong.. "

Simple .. you didn't cum to wexford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because you’re on a weekend away doesn’t mean the people you are messaging are . Family , work commitments still have to be dealt with "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So your on a weekend away and post a meet and hope someone in the area is willing to drop all and meet

most people work, have family commitments, can't get babysitters at the drop of a hat, etc

Than we have the dynamics of finding 4 people that are attracted to each other from chatting with couples if one isn't attracted to one of the party they not going to take one for the team. A lot of people would like a social first to see if there's an attraction.

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Pretty much this. I posted the same on another thread, but we know when we post a meet that the chances are slim of us finding someone mutually compatible who is free when we are. Add into the mix that you guys don't share face photos and you're reducing the number even more

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

A lot of people already have plans/ commitments

If looking to meet a couple there would have to be attraction all round and unless youre sending pics of both of you with said message the vast majority of the pic on profile are of the female half so it isnt going to be as enticing to couples/women as say a profile with equal percentage of pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single Mammy so for me personally takes lot of time to organise my meets. I'm not going to drop everything and meet people because they happen to be in the area. Maybe try putting up in the meets section a week before to give people notice you're looking for meet.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"A lot of people already have plans/ commitments

If looking to meet a couple there would have to be attraction all round and unless youre sending pics of both of you with said message the vast majority of the pic on profile are of the female half so it isnt going to be as enticing to couples/women as say a profile with equal percentage of pics. "

Yep and many couples don't do blind meets anyway, even after a face pic swap. There would have to be a social first.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

You also might have a problem as you're not a couple.

I'd imagine its an issue for some other couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fab , sadly the place is full of Timewasters and ghosters, people who are only here and have no intention of every meeting , they will lead you on with the intention of meeting but never do,it's understandable that not everyone floats a person's boat but don't lead people on, it's not cool, the forums and updated status's are full of the same.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

A weekend break for you is just a normal day for those who live in the area. The urgency for you is not an urgency for them.

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By *ickyAthleticMan
over a year ago

Galway

It's simply a matter of numbers here. You will obv have a lot of timewasters, but Ireland is not like the UK where population density makes meets a lot easier.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"It's simply a matter of numbers here. You will obv have a lot of timewasters, but Ireland is not like the UK where population density makes meets a lot easier."

And yet the Lounge is full of daily threads about no shows,being ghosted and how difficult it is to meet reliable people as well as numerous people discussing all the same issues we have here including privacy and facepics.

It's not really much different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys yer not alone .. lol

We’ve been on numerous weekends away well preposted here from Donegal to Sligo, Mayo and the Midland. Every time we message and send winks to couples and women it the area and very few even reply. Why is this we’re just curious can anyone enlightened us as to what we’re doing wrong.. "

I've always found it harder to arrange meets as a couple than as a single guy. As a couple I/we preferred the no pressure meets and playing at parties and clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A weekend break for you is just a normal day for those who live in the area. The urgency for you is not an urgency for them. "

Perfectly put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try chatting and sending the winks a week or two before ye go, and give the others a chance to plan rather than think they can drop everything that weekend

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"A weekend break for you is just a normal day for those who live in the area. The urgency for you is not an urgency for them. "

I just love when randos I never spoke to let us know they're nearby - such a turn on!

I immediately cancel all work and plans and jump in the shower to shave my flaps just in case they want sex too.

Bonus points if it's a blind date too or they have a mate who's not on fab but likes our photos.

Favourite thing ever!

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By *weetfrenchkissMan
over a year ago

cork city

It’s very hard to find a meet when you are single man and non vérification ! The first is very rare and after it’s better but still not easy

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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago

Cork

It’s pretty much all been said as to why the “we’re staying near you next weekend/ tomorrow/ right now, fancy meeting?” messages aren’t practical for us to respond positively to… but we’d also like to throw her cycle and our self enforced play meet grooming readiness into the mix as two ADDITIONAL practicalities for couples like us.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"A weekend break for you is just a normal day for those who live in the area. The urgency for you is not an urgency for them.

I just love when randos I never spoke to let us know they're nearby - such a turn on!

I immediately cancel all work and plans and jump in the shower to shave my flaps just in case they want sex too.

Bonus points if it's a blind date too or they have a mate who's not on fab but likes our photos.

Favourite thing ever! "

Since you wrote shave my flaps my legs have been crossed and I don't even have flaps

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"A weekend break for you is just a normal day for those who live in the area. The urgency for you is not an urgency for them.

I just love when randos I never spoke to let us know they're nearby - such a turn on!

I immediately cancel all work and plans and jump in the shower to shave my flaps just in case they want sex too.

Bonus points if it's a blind date too or they have a mate who's not on fab but likes our photos.

Favourite thing ever! "

You have hairy flaps ??

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By *haggyherhim OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longford

Thanks for the posts and the messages we appreciate them.. guess if it was easy they’d all be at it.. lol

Enjoy your weekend..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it very difficult getting meets too , we just presumed it was the area where we live

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By *haggyherhim OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longford


"We find it very difficult getting meets too , we just presumed it was the area where we live "

We’re booking a flight make up the spare bed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the posts and the messages we appreciate them.. guess if it was easy they’d all be at it.. lol

Enjoy your weekend.. "

Was supposed to have a coffee meet this afternoon he's already cancelled 2 wks ago but thought I'd give him a 2nd chance, man flu has come on since 9pm Thursday eve, so cancelled on twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the posts and the messages we appreciate them.. guess if it was easy they’d all be at it.. lol

Enjoy your weekend..

Was supposed to have a coffee meet this afternoon he's already cancelled 2 wks ago but thought I'd give him a 2nd chance, man flu has come on since 9pm Thursday eve, so cancelled on twice "

that's shite DD

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By *haggyherhim OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longford


"Thanks for the posts and the messages we appreciate them.. guess if it was easy they’d all be at it.. lol

Enjoy your weekend..

Was supposed to have a coffee meet this afternoon he's already cancelled 2 wks ago but thought I'd give him a 2nd chance, man flu has come on since 9pm Thursday eve, so cancelled on twice "

I’m afraid that happens all too often hope ye called in a substitute and made the most of the opportunity..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the posts and the messages we appreciate them.. guess if it was easy they’d all be at it.. lol

Enjoy your weekend..

Was supposed to have a coffee meet this afternoon he's already cancelled 2 wks ago but thought I'd give him a 2nd chance, man flu has come on since 9pm Thursday eve, so cancelled on twice

I’m afraid that happens all too often hope ye called in a substitute and made the most of the opportunity.. "

Unfortunately can't find a sub either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the posts and the messages we appreciate them.. guess if it was easy they’d all be at it.. lol

Enjoy your weekend..

Was supposed to have a coffee meet this afternoon he's already cancelled 2 wks ago but thought I'd give him a 2nd chance, man flu has come on since 9pm Thursday eve, so cancelled on twice

I’m afraid that happens all too often hope ye called in a substitute and made the most of the opportunity..

Unfortunately can't find a sub either lol"

Men of Sligo

Get your act together and someone treat this nice lady to a coffee and a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the posts and the messages we appreciate them.. guess if it was easy they’d all be at it.. lol

Enjoy your weekend..

Was supposed to have a coffee meet this afternoon he's already cancelled 2 wks ago but thought I'd give him a 2nd chance, man flu has come on since 9pm Thursday eve, so cancelled on twice

I’m afraid that happens all too often hope ye called in a substitute and made the most of the opportunity..

Unfortunately can't find a sub either lol

Men of Sligo

Get your act together and someone treat this nice lady to a coffee and a chat "

This was a guy from Belfast lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the posts and the messages we appreciate them.. guess if it was easy they’d all be at it.. lol

Enjoy your weekend..

Was supposed to have a coffee meet this afternoon he's already cancelled 2 wks ago but thought I'd give him a 2nd chance, man flu has come on since 9pm Thursday eve, so cancelled on twice

I’m afraid that happens all too often hope ye called in a substitute and made the most of the opportunity..

Unfortunately can't find a sub either lol

Men of Sligo

Get your act together and someone treat this nice lady to a coffee and a chat

This was a guy from Belfast lol"

Guy from Belfast!!!, don't commit to something you can't follow through with

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By *ang onMan
over a year ago

Arklow

Don't know how whit them legs and sexy high heels

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By *ePreferPineappleCouple
over a year ago

Citywest


"Single guys yer not alone .. lol

We’ve been on numerous weekends away well preposted here from Donegal to Sligo, Mayo and the Midland. Every time we message and send winks to couples and women it the area and very few even reply. Why is this we’re just curious can anyone enlightened us as to what we’re doing wrong.. "

Well we winked you few month ago and nothing happened. We not always get what we want

Keep up the good game

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By *ohn400Man
over a year ago

Dublin or anywhere

Most people on here have no intention of meeting up.About 10% of cpls on here meet up and 5% of the single ladies.Everyone else just leads you on and wastes your time.Go to the clubs over in the UK,there good / This site is all about putting pictures up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some things that stand out.

1.Couples profile but only a pic of mrs.

2. You don't send face pics.

3. Looking for girl to girl fun so the fella won't be there?

4. Says yer are friends so not a couple. I'd imagine this is off putting for alot of people.

5. Maybe people don't find ye attractive

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