FabSwingers.com forum: Why do single guys get it hard to meet

By *rvaman OP Man
over a year ago

Cavan

Afternoon fabbers.. hope your keeping well and having lots of fun this wkd..

Question... Why is it so hard for a single guy ( like myself) who wants to join in with couples etc for fun..

I'm a decent guy I think, but finding it so hard to find a couple to play with..

Any advice welcome folks..

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Take a step back for a second and ask yourself if you are happy and content with how you present yourself on here and if you were to look at a similar profile to your own would you see enough to entice you to say hello or respond to a message from them or would you think they needed a little more effort?

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

As said above how much effort have you actually put in to meeting with couples have you gone to any of the socials and events that are advertised as said numberous times before your profile is a shop window is there enough there to entice people in it's not going to come to you you have to go looking for it

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Because the number of single men far outnumber the number of women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Afternoon fabbers.. hope your keeping well and having lots of fun this wkd..

Question... Why is it so hard for a single guy ( like myself) who wants to join in with couples etc for fun..

I'm a decent guy I think, but finding it so hard to find a couple to play with..

Any advice welcome folks..

Many couples dont have bicurious males so I guess they filter out the single guys they like to play with. We do. There's someone for everyone though but everyone needs to stand by their sexual preferences and orientation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause there is fuck loads of us and some are more appealing than others.

Also though its not that hard

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By *uess.who30Man
over a year ago

Galway/Dublin/London

Theres alot to this.. but simply put..

Imagine you are in a couple on fab, in Love, perhaps even married and have a happy life together with Children.

You have an established sex life which you enjoy but are both open to Fab and expanding your experiences together to Heighten sexual pleasures and treat each other to fantasy and desires.

You still have good/great sex together regularly and have a life to manage and as such are not as sexually needy/frustrated as a single may be (especially men) and so you are happy to be patient to find those few quality people to connect with and possibly play with..

Bearing in mind all the boxed to be ticked, and if one isn't, its likely a no go; (and you have to have 2 people ticking these boxes, not just one like a single)

-Attraction

-Connection

-Personality Match

-Sexuality Match

-Respect

-Patience

-Sense of Comfort

-Aligned availability/timing

The list goes on..

Then consider, many seek other couples so as to enjoy experiences all together simultaneously and only a smaller percentage are seeking/open to males joining

Then think when they are open, how many men contact them and they may only be seeking 1-2 per year if even, and may prefer to meet at socials/parties rather than privately..

How many of those requirements stated above do you think you match straight away and are obvious to couples (bearing in mind everyone is unique) and even if you were to match all and they found 5 others similar but only 1 or 2 were wanted.. whos to say you would make the final cut of being the top 2 of 6?

Pretty much put, you'd ve quicker attending Nasa and trying to pass all the tests you become an astronaut! Lol and at least their test has set perameters.. they are ever changing here and from 1 couple to the next..

You can't enter with any expectation (it'll be picked up on).. its a game of chance, just stay true to you and keep rolling the dice, you just need to graciously accept your losses and not get frustrated... one day you'll roll and hit the JackPot!

But like the lottery.. don't assume because you've one once, you'll win again... you're back you starting again lol

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Op, you are important and most likely a good guy

but the harsh reality here is that Fab is like one big sausage fest where couples

are inundated, barraged and tormented with mail and pics of many, many sausages of varying shapes, sizes and flavours to choose from. Couple this with the fact that a couple can really only savour so much sausage at any one time

Do hope this little analogy helps

Anyway, the after thought here is that you can either try and stand out with a cock pic like 95% of the other guys here

or craft a decent profile and ice breaker that shows that you're much, much more than a cock.

(Me am a smart ass, hence my pic

)

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By *onnrodMan
over a year ago

moira

Op, you are important and most likely a good guy

but the harsh reality here is that Fab is like one big sausage fest where couples

Do hope this little analogy helps

Anyway, the after thought here is that you can either try and stand out with a cock pic like 95% of the other guys here

or craft a decent profile and ice breaker that shows that you're much, much more than a cock.

(Me am a smart ass, hence my pic

) "

As has been said before on this thread and probably in countless others across the forum, a cock pic and a couple of lines written while waiting for a bus on a Tuesday morning isn't going to cut it. Take the advice offered on here in other threads and make your profile as interesting as it can be without being bullshit and pics that show an accurate reflection of you, not just your dick.

Then when you've done that make sure your first message is literate and shows that you've read their profile (that also means that if you're clearly not what they're looking for, don't waste both your time sending the message). Say something in the message that would make them give you a second glance.

Once you've done that then bad news, it's still a numbers game and if the couple receive a dozen messages after yours, your hard work and effort may well go unnoticed.

Now is the time to NOT take a sulk and accuse the couple of being stuck up and just accept that you're one of hundreds of others who are doing the right thing, and just suck it up and keep trying.

Check out the forums for meet and greets, they're a good way to introduce yourself to people as long as you don't whip your cock out there too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just the numbers really. It's like being in an arse kicking contest with one leg. My advice ,be patient ,keep on hopping and you'll get there

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Because its difficult to preform when its soft

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

Because all your veris are from men and also you are a smoker

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"It's just the numbers really. It's like being in an arse kicking contest with one leg. My advice ,be patient ,keep on hopping and you'll get there

Or sit down and kick yourself in the arse

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Because all your veris are from men and also you are a smoker "

Alot of your vers are from men ,,, whats you point ?

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By *rvaman OP Man
over a year ago

Cavan

"Afternoon fabbers.. hope your keeping well and having lots of fun this wkd..

Question... Why is it so hard for a single guy ( like myself) who wants to join in with couples etc for fun..

I'm a decent guy I think, but finding it so hard to find a couple to play with..

Any advice welcome folks..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Afternoon fabbers.. hope your keeping well and having lots of fun this wkd..

Question... Why is it so hard for a single guy ( like myself) who wants to join in with couples etc for fun..

I'm a decent guy I think, but finding it so hard to find a couple to play with..

Any advice welcome folks..

Are you looking to meet a couple with a bi guy? Are you interested in playing with a couple and giving attention to but of the couple. As already said above your profileneefs to entice people in and at the moment from a woman point if view its ok.

But best of luck on your fab journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres alot to this.. but simply put..

Imagine you are in a couple on fab, in Love, perhaps even married and have a happy life together with Children.

You have an established sex life which you enjoy but are both open to Fab and expanding your experiences together to Heighten sexual pleasures and treat each other to fantasy and desires.

Bearing in mind all the boxed to be ticked, and if one isn't, its likely a no go; (and you have to have 2 people ticking these boxes, not just one like a single)

-Attraction

-Connection

-Personality Match

-Sexuality Match

-Respect

-Patience

-Sense of Comfort

-Aligned availability/timing

The list goes on..

Then consider, many seek other couples so as to enjoy experiences all together simultaneously and only a smaller percentage are seeking/open to males joining

Then think when they are open, how many men contact them and they may only be seeking 1-2 per year if even, and may prefer to meet at socials/parties rather than privately..

But like the lottery.. don't assume because you've one once, you'll win again... you're back you starting again lol"

This is pretty much it spot on. We do meet single bi males, but we meet others infrequently. We aren't inundated with messages any day of the week but when we are planning to meet someone the chances of finding someone compatible, where there is mutual attraction and who is actually free when we are, are actually pretty slim

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

The only two things which helped in my case were

1. An actual commitment to and prioritisation of meeting people , even if they’re some distance away , ensuring you allocate time to and not Clock watch when doing so .

2. Establishing a clear niche , USP if you will which sets you apart from others vying for the same connections.

Those two things open doors IMO. Whether that door stays open will depend on things you can control (your conduct, punctuality , reliability etc ) and things you have less control over (how you come across to others) .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys ?..lots of reasons tbh , other people see something , whatever , that just doesn't attract them to certain single guys , you will never find out what it is because they won't say so.

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