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"A co worker I’d love to go out with has handed in her notice. She’s married with kids but has openly confessed to being unhappy in her marriage. We’ve got quite close over years talking and flirting but I never had the courage to make a move because we work together. Should I make a move before she leaves? " I can't tell you what to do ... however I will tell you how I feel . For me its a case of respecting myself to much to get involved with someone I know isn't single and isn't ready . Ij I liked her i would also respect her too much to risk damaging her relationship. I would not make a move unless she was single and not rebounding. | |||
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"If she is not in a relationship that is open to meeting other people and her husband walks away over the affair? Impacting in the children's lives, are you going to man up and pick up the pieces over lust? Are you going to support her while the life she knows falls apart and she needs to rebuild it. No matter how unhappy she may say she is, its dam scary bringing a child up on you're own with no support and hard work. Maybe stay in touch, and wait for ut to break itself and pick up the process after. " This sounds like the best thing to do, if you’re not prepared to be responsible for the children and the marriage you could potentially break up you shouldn’t do it | |||
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"If she is not in a relationship that is open to meeting other people and her husband walks away over the affair? Impacting in the children's lives, are you going to man up and pick up the pieces over lust? Are you going to support her while the life she knows falls apart and she needs to rebuild it. No matter how unhappy she may say she is, its dam scary bringing a child up on you're own with no support and hard work. Maybe stay in touch, and wait for ut to break itself and pick up the process after. " This There are consequences to any action you make. | |||
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"Ermm.. i think that a bit heavy to be putting on OP and seems like a very specific scenario? I wouldn't be one to get involved with people who are not single/open and sure the OP may be the catalyst for such a scenario to potentially arise.. but it would not be him that causes that. It would be her decision to cheat.. (The OP wouldn't be cheating, but would be conscious she was) The Husbands Decision to leave.. If he should leave, it would be extremely unlikely that he would just stop loving his children and abandon them.. but rather just him leaving her.. And those are the types of heavy consequences and considerations that a wife/mother (or Husband/Father) needs to consider before cheating rather than the other person.. it is their life/loved ones that are being risked.. not the OPs Thats why these topics are so divisive/unclear To suggest the OP would need to "Man up" is a weird one to me as in all honesty its suggests a woman cant manage without a man of some kind to support her and even if he were wanting to... it would likely be much more damaging for the children rather than just a parental split Being a single parent is definitely tough.. but for the OP thats just trying to get advice on potentially making a move (or maybe not) its very heavy to suggest.. I mean i wonder has he looked into funeral arrangements and life assurance policies for the two of them also before making any move? Lol Overall, i think you mean you advise the OP to just not do it as the potential risks would out weigh the short term reward? I also think you should look to educate yourself over the phrase "Man Up" and what it implies, the message it sends and severe impact it can have on young men/boys mental health and emotional development...especially if you any young males in your life. Sexism may primarily flow in one of 2 directions.. but don't forget it always a 2 way street.. " I would imagine that what is ment here is that when you consider having an affair with a married mother , then you need to consider all involved, unless of course you see it as ,, its only the person in the relationship that is actually cheating. I think this is a somewhat immature if not even selfish way to avoid responsibility for your part. I would agree you may not be responsible for their break up but providing the catalyst may play a key part and thus comes with responsibility and ramifications for ALL involved. To suggest that if the shit hits the fan because of your catalytic input, then you are in no way responsible, is ludicrous at best and down right denial. Remember every action..... Be responsible for yours | |||
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"Ermm.. i think that a bit heavy to be putting on OP and seems like a very specific scenario? I wouldn't be one to get involved with people who are not single/open and sure the OP may be the catalyst for such a scenario to potentially arise.. but it would not be him that causes that. It would be her decision to cheat.. (The OP wouldn't be cheating, but would be conscious she was) The Husbands Decision to leave.. If he should leave, it would be extremely unlikely that he would just stop loving his children and abandon them.. but rather just him leaving her.. And those are the types of heavy consequences and considerations that a wife/mother (or Husband/Father) needs to consider before cheating rather than the other person.. it is their life/loved ones that are being risked.. not the OPs Thats why these topics are so divisive/unclear To suggest the OP would need to "Man up" is a weird one to me as in all honesty its suggests a woman cant manage without a man of some kind to support her and even if he were wanting to... it would likely be much more damaging for the children rather than just a parental split Being a single parent is definitely tough.. but for the OP thats just trying to get advice on potentially making a move (or maybe not) its very heavy to suggest.. I mean i wonder has he looked into funeral arrangements and life assurance policies for the two of them also before making any move? Lol Overall, i think you mean you advise the OP to just not do it as the potential risks would out weigh the short term reward? I also think you should look to educate yourself over the phrase "Man Up" and what it implies, the message it sends and severe impact it can have on young men/boys mental health and emotional development...especially if you any young males in your life. Sexism may primarily flow in one of 2 directions.. but don't forget it always a 2 way street.. " I was in this situation but the female in it, where I strayed and became the single mom over last. I meant man up as in take some kind of responsibility for your actions, I was swayed over last. Promised the stars moon and sun. The result was me cheating on my sons father, him f'ing off and never talking to me again even though we were close and had years of friendship before then. I became a single mother, with very little support at the time because everyone hated me for what I had done. I got extremely lucky that my sons dad adores him but I know alot more whose father's didn't step up and don't pay even bother paying child support once the wife goes! So maybe some of my wording is not politically correct but OP can not consider something selfish on his side without responsibilities for his actions as well | |||
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