FabSwingers.com forum: What do women gnerally consider a 'good' first message to look like?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just something i came across and it hit a note....

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By *huCullainMan
over a year ago

Rathowen

"Just something i came across and it hit a note.... "

Is masterbating on a piano the answer??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll never please everyone so what will be right for one will be a total turn off for another.

Personally? Be engaging, be specific, and let your personality show.

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By *uccubus1Woman
over a year ago

unknown

Something that's normal! ! !

Lose the "you'll never regret this" or " ill be the best you'll ever have" bullshit. It's very annoying and guys come across arrogant.

I prefer not getting dick pics right away. Especially of guys standing over a toilet

I get a lot of "you're beautiful" when you can't even see my face in photos so you know they send that to loads of women.

I say to guys refer to something in the profile at least it shows you actually read it.

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By *uccubus1Woman
over a year ago

unknown

I should also note. Its not always that the message is bad. Its just with the amount of messages women get we can't possibly reply to them all.

I personally don't have the time to say no thanks to everyone. Unless someone fits what I'm looking for I don't reply just because it's not possible to reply to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there is a one size fits all like a first time message template..

I think getting across that you have read their profile is a good start, show that its not a copy and paste type message, don't start with a dick pic, try show some sense of humour, be creative and genuine....

...like your message still likely won't be read but I think the above are good features of a decent first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def not a one message for all.

The "I'd love to lick you out" " you're beautiful" etc turn me off first of you have no idea what I look like secondly if you going to lick me out you need to interest me both mentally and physically.

When I get a message and I look at your profile if there is something that I've noted on my profile that I don't like I'm done, simple.

Dick pic No thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the humour I'm in. Instant no is anything describing what they would like to do to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if you do send a message and we haven't replied within a couple of hours, don't send another getting pissed about it.

Also.. don't send one, and then another. And another. Especially if we haven't replied to the first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And if you do send a message and we haven't replied within a couple of hours, don't send another getting pissed about it.

Also.. don't send one, and then another. And another. Especially if we haven't replied to the first."

Yeah but there is always the worry that the first message got lost in the post or mislaid

Second one is just to verify it got there OK...

Third is just because I don't like even numbers generally..

Fourth is just a welfare check, out of geniune concern for you because maybe you got hurt and can't reach the phone to reply...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And if you do send a message and we haven't replied within a couple of hours, don't send another getting pissed about it.

Also.. don't send one, and then another. And another. Especially if we haven't replied to the first."

Christ yeah, and don't send the exact same message two weeks later "introducing" yourself again. Feel free to block us if we haven't replied to the first one, or replied turning you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stop fuckin bulk texting that much guys.

Thats the answer .

Running after 100 at the same time , and catching noone .

Target your pray

))) , pour your resources in a few womens. You'llget them. They like attention.

Read their profile and be interested , many of them , they don't know what they fuckin want here, and that's your opportunity to be initiate and be creative.

If you treat them like a product on the shelf , you won't get anything out of this.

And , yeah , be patient. People here have RL , outside.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Maybe a nice wee cheeky joke something to make me laugh along with a hope your having a nice day ..sure would love to chat

bitta flirting

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"And if you do send a message and we haven't replied within a couple of hours, don't send another getting pissed about it.

Also.. don't send one, and then another. And another. Especially if we haven't replied to the first.

Yeah but there is always the worry that the first message got lost in the post or mislaid

Second one is just to verify it got there OK...

Third is just because I don't like even numbers generally..

Fourth is just a welfare check, out of geniune concern for you because maybe you got hurt and can't reach the phone to reply...

Best send on the fifth.. your on an even

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Some silly joke or something like that

definitely not cock with hi attached to it

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By *yche_xWoman
over a year ago

nearby

Don't say "your probably not even going to reply" or "I hope I'm worth replying to" or anything along those lines. It's a huge turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about this...

"Hi, you. Yes, you. I saw you looking at my profile. Now check out my ding a ling."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A cock pic

Hardly anyone sends them you'll be grand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be active in forums and be yourself and you’ll have ladies messaging you first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about this...

"Hi, you. Yes, you. I saw you looking at my profile. Now check out my ding a ling."

See I'd laugh at that and reply

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It's not about trying to cause the other person to reply regardless of compatibility... its about just being what they are looking for and vice versa. Don't just send out messages to everyone because you'd fuck them all. Choose who you think you'd click with, and who is looking for what you are offering. Then there is little convincing needed, and everyone is naturally happy without forcing anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I haven't done this in an age...but just as women get sooo many they can't replay to" (poor things

) Therefore men have to send so many messages to have a chance comparatively. So you can make an excellent message, and then when you see a profile you like just slightly Taylor it and off you go. Rinse and repeat, copy and paste.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Read the profile first before messaging, see what they are looking for...and if your not what they are seeking then move onto another profile. And don't do dickie pics please!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Truth: women can tell if its copypasta

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By *acob12369Man
over a year ago

URPANTS

Need to msg them when they online, or else the message get lost down the inbox

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Just something i came across and it hit a note.... "

Hi Dadbod.e,

your profile caught my attention - spelling mistakes are a real eyesore

- considering your site support, you now have the opportunity to rectify this, not only for your own benefit but for other Fab users.

As for kissing someone with a Dad bod, well, some of us are beggars and can't be choosers, so we make do.

I've been living the dream or is that down to excessive use of certain state altering substances?

Damn, I'm beginning to realise we may not be compatible after all...unless you enjoy a little sarcasm in your life...

I live in hope and dream of a reply...

Yours, a little older than you

This would be something like what I may put together as a first message in response to your particular profile (were I interested in meeting single men)...it's humour that gets my attention

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just something i came across and it hit a note....

Hi Dadbod.e,

your profile caught my attention - spelling mistakes are a real eyesore

- considering your site support, you now have the opportunity to rectify this, not only for your own benefit but for other Fab users.

As for kissing someone with a Dad bod, well, some of us are beggars and can't be choosers, so we make do.

I've been living the dream or is that down to excessive use of certain state altering substances?

Damn, I'm beginning to realise we may not be compatible after all...unless you enjoy a little sarcasm in your life...

I live in hope and dream of a reply...

Yours, a little older than you

This would be something like what I may put together as a first message in response to your particular profile (were I interested in meeting single men)...it's humour that gets my attention

Mrs "

Fuck im editing my profile now.... Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect in a message might go a long way but who knows ,a woman can see if a guy respects her in a message.

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By *exydoctorsCouple
over a year ago

Galway/Clare

Something that's nice and normal, maybe a little humorous or cheeky in a nice way. But definitely have read our profile. It's really easy to see who has and who hasn't so something that's definitely personalized makes a big difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be wined and dined so this would be perfect message to get ..are you one of those horny Mammys in my area I'm up at Junction 14 with me lad out waiting to be blown...Supermacs on me after.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

I've conducted a social experiment on my single profile ( missus is the username if you would like to check it out) where I have listed a small list of things that I'm categorically not looking for, then asking those who don't match my preferences to ignore rest of the profile and a list of very basic questions for those who do match what I'm looking for.

Result has been absolutely outstanding!

I love reading all the answers and most people who message me tell me that it's a great idea as they don't have to sit and scratch their heads busy trying to come up with another boring chat up line

Missus

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Just something i came across and it hit a note.... "

Just come up with a good copy and paste and then blanket bomb. Dont waste your time agonising over every message you send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's anything I've learned, it's that you gotta send at least 40 messages a day. And photos of bananas. B*tches love persistence. And bananas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've conducted a social experiment on my single profile ( missus is the username if you would like to check it out) where I have listed a small list of things that I'm categorically not looking for, then asking those who don't match my preferences to ignore rest of the profile and a list of very basic questions for those who do match what I'm looking for.

Result has been absolutely outstanding!

I love reading all the answers and most people who message me tell me that it's a great idea as they don't have to sit and scratch their heads busy trying to come up with another boring chat up line

Missus "

Love it

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

One that accurately portrays your personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just something i came across and it hit a note....

Just come up with a good copy and paste and then blanket bomb. Dont waste your time agonising over every message you send"

Ding ding ding. Winner winner chicken dinner

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Does anyone ever forgive us our sins?

Many of us, when noobs, would have messaged a lot of people, with possibly lewd messages, in our initial enthusiasm.

We hadn't copped on and understood how Fab worked.

It's one of the reasons I usually clear my Blocklist of a New Year, to give peace a chance like

Wonder if others would give same consideration and do likewise?

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By *iscreet_divorced_guyMan
over a year ago

central

Can I suggest that if a lady is not interested in replying, that after reading the messages, she just delete it, at least that way, there is absolutely no doubt where anyone stands!

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Can I suggest that if a lady is not interested in replying, that after reading the messages, she just delete it, at least that way, there is absolutely no doubt where anyone stands!

Unless this technique leads to something like “hey whore, why did you delete my message”……

Although I’m sure this never happens here….

Unfortunately deleting a message doesn’t seem to leave absolutely no doubt where anyone stands.

# wave of the future, lynx can, sky remote, etc….

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I believe all first messages should begin with ones Sydney University qualification…

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