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"On the surface (and social media) , some of us have a few narcissist tendencies and that's fine ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() All sounds very familiar ![]() | |||
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"Yes for 9 months. He was the classic description of one but i hadnt come across someone like that before and was sucked in. Its hard to explain but phrases such as emotional vampire, icy cold when upset, word salad arguments, extreme fantasy world with grandiose beliefs, and psychological chinese-burns (a mental and emotional push-pull) are what i experienced. " feels so good to get away doesnt it | |||
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"Married one. We dated for years but only lived together after marriage so he kept the veneer up very well in the early stages. A few red flags in hind sight but I was a lot younger than him and I realise now ripe for his picking. He dropped the act when I fell pregnant with our eldest. No longer being my only focus was the end of his fantasy life. Many long hard years later, kids were older and his behaviour was erratic, abusive, etc. so I called time and he lost all reason. Stalked me online, cut up my clothes, tried to tell family I needed psychological help, tried to say I had had an affair, etc. Anything to punish me for upsetting his little apple cart. Free of him now and life is good, life is great actually ![]() Interesting,quite a few things here that my ex husband also did when I told him our marriage was over, although I would stop short at describing him as a narcissist, he certainly tried to control the narrative and undermine me and my mental health with my family, even though we had agreed not to discuss the situation with our families. | |||
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"Married one. We dated for years but only lived together after marriage so he kept the veneer up very well in the early stages. A few red flags in hind sight but I was a lot younger than him and I realise now ripe for his picking. He dropped the act when I fell pregnant with our eldest. No longer being my only focus was the end of his fantasy life. Many long hard years later, kids were older and his behaviour was erratic, abusive, etc. so I called time and he lost all reason. Stalked me online, cut up my clothes, tried to tell family I needed psychological help, tried to say I had had an affair, etc. Anything to punish me for upsetting his little apple cart. Free of him now and life is good, life is great actually ![]() I'm just not comfortable revealing all that happened in the marriage itself to show the narcissistic traits. Too soon and too public. | |||
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"Wow reading the thread so much rings true in my own experience. I think I might be a narcissist" I'd be slow to label anyone a narcissist (Donald Trump aside), we all have elements of narcissism (without which we could be doormats) and people will behave strangely under extreme stress such as a break-up, but they do exist, and to be a victim of one can be extremely damaging. | |||
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"Wow reading the thread so much rings true in my own experience. I think I might be a narcissist I'd be slow to label anyone a narcissist (Donald Trump aside), we all have elements of narcissism (without which we could be doormats) and people will behave strangely under extreme stress such as a break-up, but they do exist, and to be a victim of one can be extremely damaging." Exactly Its my understanding that we're all made of them same stuff both physically and in our psychology. But to differing degrees so traits will be present in all but to different levels, perhaps very prominent or just mild or maybe hardly noticeable. I also believe in a combination of nature and nurture, we can control and regulate ourselves to a point. (Obv not where medical intervention is necessary) | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder." True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified." But if you were a narcissist would you acknowledge you had a problem? | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. But if you were a narcissist would you acknowledge you had a problem?" Does denial mean that you must be?? | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. But if you were a narcissist would you acknowledge you had a problem? Does denial mean that you must be??" I guess not, also it could be another path to elicit sympathy and control | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. But if you were a narcissist would you acknowledge you had a problem? Does denial mean that you must be?? I guess not, also it could be another path to elicit sympathy and control" "Feeling special" | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. But if you were a narcissist would you acknowledge you had a problem? Does denial mean that you must be?? I guess not, also it could be another path to elicit sympathy and control "Feeling special"" I am special but that’s besides the point | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified." This! By no means I want to play down what some have experienced but it doesn't qualify anyone to amateur-diagnose a person. Plus there's always 3 sides to a story. | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. This! By no means I want to play down what some have experienced but it doesn't qualify anyone to amateur-diagnose a person. Plus there's always 3 sides to a story. " Absolutely ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. This! By no means I want to play down what some have experienced but it doesn't qualify anyone to amateur-diagnose a person. Plus there's always 3 sides to a story. Absolutely ![]() ![]() ![]() I agree folk do like to armchair diagnose and I would take issue with that in so far as doing it to a stranger or work colleague or celebrity, etc. It's a different scenario if you are living the illness as an innocent bystander. Front row seats are often the only ones who know the truth ![]() | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. This! By no means I want to play down what some have experienced but it doesn't qualify anyone to amateur-diagnose a person. Plus there's always 3 sides to a story. Absolutely ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I agree as well. Some people are just damaged by their upbringing or by experiences, but they're no Narcissists. | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. This! By no means I want to play down what some have experienced but it doesn't qualify anyone to amateur-diagnose a person. Plus there's always 3 sides to a story. Absolutely ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Plus sometimes people are incompatible to the point of mutual destruction, where the same behavior might not be triggered by a different partner/relationship dynamic | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. This! By no means I want to play down what some have experienced but it doesn't qualify anyone to amateur-diagnose a person. Plus there's always 3 sides to a story. Absolutely ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Indeed that can be sadly true for toxic pairings. I will share that my end point was when the abuse was extended to and damaging for my children. Removing myself from his reach and going zero communication led to them seeking out another focus. It's complicated and just very sad. | |||
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"Theres a spectrum of narcissism as a characteristic its true. Theres also NPD which is a diagnosable disorder. True,diagnosable by someone suitably qualified. This! By no means I want to play down what some have experienced but it doesn't qualify anyone to amateur-diagnose a person. Plus there's always 3 sides to a story. Absolutely ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Sometimes the best thing is to get out ![]() | |||
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"they can be amazing lovers at the start Yep. Its a great way to enthrall " and reel in an empath | |||
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"They've no soul. Empathy switch firmly turned off. Never wrong. Cross one and they'll do everything to destroy you. " ![]() | |||
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