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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We’ve been on here now for a while.He has been trying too interact with people on here for my benefit,only to be questioned and some people saying that he’s not taking their sensitivity or their situations in too account.l’m sorry but how the f u c k are we supposed too know how your life has went,if his spelling has been bad that doesn’t give anyone the right to think that he’s on here too upset people that’s not what we are about now I’ve had my rant night all because I’ve kids too get sorted for tomorrow

L

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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago

Enfield & Dublin

I just read your profile Lisa and it’s all explained quite clearly. If people are getting hurt feelings over it then I’m afraid life is going to be pretty tough for them.

I hope you guys get to meet someone who ticks the boxes for you.

Happy Fabbing

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Not to be annoying but if you just want to be locked, a tongue is a tongue.

There are guys who know what they are doing orally.

Is it more the sensual experience of being with a woman that you are looking for?

I imagine so, so put that on your profile and not just that you want to be licked by a woman.

Describe what you want to do with a woman and that will likely attract more of them

Happy Fabbing

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By *agdoll-and-BonedaddyCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town, Belfast

We're looking for a pretty similar dynamic, it can be pretty frustrating, we've had people get annoyed at us because Sally, not wanting to be with the male half of another couple, was an absurd concept to them - despite making that quite clear in our profile. It's tricky but you just have to ignite those people and focus on three prone who do match what you're into.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Why not just filter out single guys so they can't message you?

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

As previous poster said.....your profile states what is required

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

Just a question , is mrs looking to meet a lady to meet 1 on 1, or are ye looking for a lady to join ye both ?

Mr crazy

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

So basically you want a bi female

No single guys

Maybe a couple

Why not explain it clearer ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read your profile, it comes across as angry and entitled,all about you and what you want.

As for finding a woman to suit your needs what about trying to find a woman that you both can enjoy but she gets some enjoyment too.

Having chatted with friends who are couples the recurring message is yes it is hard to find rhe elusive unicorn, but also you have to take into consideration your bringing a 3rd person into your couple, they have to feel comfortable with you both. Not feel used for your satisfaction.

As for the messages etc telling you what to do etc ignore them, it's the rubbish taking itself out.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Not just getting at you seen it numerous times bout the "Hi messages" In fairness to start some sort of convo, Hi how are you isn't either lack of interest or no imagination, me personally prefere being addressed with a hello How's you or whatever, than the usual what a fuck now, or let me lick your pussy dry !!!.

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By *anillabelliniCouple
over a year ago

limerick


"Just read your profile, it comes across as angry and entitled,all about you and what you want.

As for finding a woman to suit your needs what about trying to find a woman that you both can enjoy but she gets some enjoyment too.

Having chatted with friends who are couples the recurring message is yes it is hard to find rhe elusive unicorn, but also you have to take into consideration your bringing a 3rd person into your couple, they have to feel comfortable with you both. Not feel used for your satisfaction.

As for the messages etc telling you what to do etc ignore them, it's the rubbish taking itself out.

"

This. We read the profile and it does come across as rude and angry, as well as self centered, correct me if wrong but English doesn’t seem to be your first language?? This could also explain why your profile reads so angrily without you meaning it that way. We were once also looking for a similar scenario of playing with a unicorn or female half of a couple and yes it is hard to find on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this not about the "Mothers" thread?

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
over a year ago

Northside

I may be wrong but isn't the OP saying that her partner is trying to interact with people on here for her benefit and getting stick for his misspelling and apparent lack of understanding? If that's the case OP then your partner is going to have to develop a thick skin and just ignore the unpleasant messages. As stated above,your profile does come across a bit angry and demanding. Reword it and that's that part fixed. If your partner has dyslexia or similar maybe he should mention that in the messages he sends, people are a lot more forgiving if they know bad spelling is not just down to lack of effort. And sometimes we all need a rant...so rant away! Best of luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The message on your profile says its you Lisa and comes across as its you in charge..yet its he that's doing the messages for you.

That in itself would be confusing.

Also most people here are real people..all different personalities. Some are sensitive ,some experienced, some shy some definitely not shy. People have a right to their own sensitivity and fears etc.

Nobody is on here tailor made to give you satisfaction.. if you want that then pay for it. Otherwise deal with people as people and have some respect and understanding of where others are coming from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not set up a single profile and leave your husband out of it if that what you really want...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read your bio and it sounds like you're confused

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Just a few thoughts..

It's a very specific sexual desire you have and unfortunately it involves a unicorn, so it won't be easy to find someone.

Additionally it sounds a bit like an unbalanced deal or will you return pleasure to the woman you're meeting?

Lisa, it might be a better approach when you yourself make contact with the ladies as you're the one who's looking for the sexual encounter (dunno where your partner comes in this scenario)

Finally by 'their situation' they probably mean that meeting as a single woman is a fair amount more challenging as you're more vulnerable on your own. That might be reflected in a very cautious approach which your partner might find harder to understand as a man.

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny


"Just a few thoughts..

It's a very specific sexual desire you have and unfortunately it involves a unicorn, so it won't be easy to find someone.

Additionally it sounds a bit like an unbalanced deal or will you return pleasure to the woman you're meeting?

Lisa, it might be a better approach when you yourself make contact with the ladies as you're the one who's looking for the sexual encounter (dunno where your partner comes in this scenario)

Finally by 'their situation' they probably mean that meeting as a single woman is a fair amount more challenging as you're more vulnerable on your own. That might be reflected in a very cautious approach which your partner might find harder to understand as a man."

Very well said

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By *he wanerding bullMan
over a year ago

cavan


"Read your bio and it sounds like you're confused"

A few full stops wouldn't go astray in it either.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Is he asking women from couples to play alone with you ? Because that's a bit of an insult.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Firstly I don't think it's right for the man/partner to interact with others on your behalf you need to suss your own friends to play with...totally different if he's looking for you both yous both should talk to the people then not just him...many many couples profiles are just men hiding behind them and the wife is nowhere to be seen! I'd say People likely don't wanna talk to him because it's you they are interested in not him...think you need a singles profile to accomplish this...just say on it you have a couples profile with your fella name on it!

It just like this you can't send your partner to the doctors to speak for you so why would you let him if your on here to find lady friends for yourself? Just doesn't make sense

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Most people won't interact with unverified people. You are lucky to get replies to your emails at all. 8 months without a verification even by webcam is suss

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

Yeah if it’s your fanny it should be your conversation

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By *aidbare5Couple
over a year ago

down the road


"Firstly I don't think it's right for the man/partner to interact with others on your behalf you need to suss your own friends to play with...totally different if he's looking for you both yous both should talk to the people then not just him...many many couples profiles are just men hiding behind them and the wife is nowhere to be seen! I'd say People likely don't wanna talk to him because it's you they are interested in not him...think you need a singles profile to accomplish this...just say on it you have a couples profile with your fella name on it!

It just like this you can't send your partner to the doctors to speak for you so why would you let him if your on here to find lady friends for yourself? Just doesn't make sense "

The point made above about "many couples profiles are men hiding behind them" is what I get from this profile.

My bullshit meter is going crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly I don't think it's right for the man/partner to interact with others on your behalf you need to suss your own friends to play with...totally different if he's looking for you both yous both should talk to the people then not just him...many many couples profiles are just men hiding behind them and the wife is nowhere to be seen! I'd say People likely don't wanna talk to him because it's you they are interested in not him...think you need a singles profile to accomplish this...just say on it you have a couples profile with your fella name on it!

It just like this you can't send your partner to the doctors to speak for you so why would you let him if your on here to find lady friends for yourself? Just doesn't make sense

The point made above about "many couples profiles are men hiding behind them" is what I get from this profile.

My bullshit meter is going crazy

"

Especially when the writing styles of both are almost identical

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By *arti and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Here, there & everywhere

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By *arti and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Here, there & everywhere

We are the same dynamic as yourselves.

You need to make your profile clear (people will still message but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have it clear as to what you want)

You will also still have people trying to push the boundaries but that’s their problem, not yours.

And sometimes rejection can make them spit their dummies out of the pram and stomp their feet.

Stick your head up, ignore childish behaviour & messages, if the female does the messaging it is a lot better and sort your profile.

You need full stops, commas and a bit more about yourselves as at the moment it’s not very appealing.

Hopefully we have helped you out a bit.

M&P xx

Deleted previous as I made a spelling mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with puting in a few spelling mistakes. It s out some of the over judgement people. It it’s for you it will find you I say.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"Firstly I don't think it's right for the man/partner to interact with others on your behalf you need to suss your own friends to play with...totally different if he's looking for you both yous both should talk to the people then not just him...many many couples profiles are just men hiding behind them and the wife is nowhere to be seen! I'd say People likely don't wanna talk to him because it's you they are interested in not him...think you need a singles profile to accomplish this...just say on it you have a couples profile with your fella name on it!

It just like this you can't send your partner to the doctors to speak for you so why would you let him if your on here to find lady friends for yourself? Just doesn't make sense

The point made above about "many couples profiles are men hiding behind them" is what I get from this profile.

My bullshit meter is going crazy

Especially when the writing styles of both are almost identical "

I am glad others are thinking along the same lines as what I have suspected for quite some time

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Firstly I don't think it's right for the man/partner to interact with others on your behalf you need to suss your own friends to play with...totally different if he's looking for you both yous both should talk to the people then not just him...many many couples profiles are just men hiding behind them and the wife is nowhere to be seen! I'd say People likely don't wanna talk to him because it's you they are interested in not him...think you need a singles profile to accomplish this...just say on it you have a couples profile with your fella name on it!

It just like this you can't send your partner to the doctors to speak for you so why would you let him if your on here to find lady friends for yourself? Just doesn't make sense

The point made above about "many couples profiles are men hiding behind them" is what I get from this profile.

My bullshit meter is going crazy

Especially when the writing styles of both are almost identical

I am glad others are thinking along the same lines as what I have suspected for quite some time "

Now that ye mention it .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love the rant fuxkers lol

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

You changed your wording

Would bet it was written by the male

I go to bed dreaming of being licked by a woman

Ya right

typical male getting turned on by bi ladies fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with puting in a few spelling mistakes. It s out some of the over judgement people. It it’s for you it will find you I say. "

I would niver sleep or have sex wit somebody that made a spilling mistake. Evan if she was supper rich and had her own private yath and prevate island.

Seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So basically you want a bi female

No single guys

Maybe a couple

Why not explain it clearer ?"

So you advise us too make it clearer,we make it so and all of a sudden it’s a male getting turned on really omg

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"So basically you want a bi female

No single guys

Maybe a couple

Why not explain it clearer ?

So you advise us too make it clearer,we make it so and all of a sudden it’s a male getting turned on really omg"

OP, at the moment, it's all very confusing. Having no public pics doesn't help things. If I were you i'd put up a few pics of you as a couple and try to attend that social in Cork next month to get yourself meet verified. We'll happily verify you if we see you there

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Couple with fully bi female here. Come along to bobnbets Cork social next month and we would be happy to have a face to face chat and verify you also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are getting some great offers for verifications.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couple with fully bi female here. Come along to bobnbets Cork social next month and we would be happy to have a face to face chat and verify you also."

Thanks would you mind if we pm you guys

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Couple with fully bi female here. Come along to bobnbets Cork social next month and we would be happy to have a face to face chat and verify you also.

Thanks would you mind if we pm you guys "

Sure go ahead!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people struggle to find that elusive unicorn. Maybe try attending a social it's a great way to meet some of the single ladies. Also maybe outline on the profile what your looking for is it soft swap only will you play with the girl or is it pillow princess scenario. I know from speaking to other single girls they appreciate knowing what is expected of them. Some of us single girls feel like a Fluffer here ie come blow my hubby and please fuck off immediately it gives us the JustEat vibes. Good communicating and having all three people involved makes for a more intimate and fun meet. Good luck with it

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

OP.with your warm ans friendly approach I'm sure yous must be drowning in messages at this stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opening my bag of popcorn

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

This is comedy gold

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Salt and butter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooops

Back in a while with coffee and cake for everyone

Or maybe Ice Cream ??

The choice is yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Salt and butter?"

Oh no I don't like pop corn at all at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Question here. Why are people attacking their profile regardless of what this forum post is about?

When did the OP say it is ok to attack their profile? They made a post, a valid rant, like most others, and all of a sudden they are ripped to shreds because of what and why?

Because they dared to speak up? The OP has the right to raise a concern, you do not have the right to attack them.

……. "

But there’s no attack really. I see it as people taking the piss, just having a laugh, which is very common in this forum. I like to think there’s no malice or Ill intention in the approach of any of the ‘clique’ people of fab.

I’ve seen other posts derailed and the op had a great attitude getting along with the laughs and ‘messers’…

Obviously there are some rude and nasty comments that can’t be overlooked but no need to get angry or take it personal…..And last thing I wanted to say to you. Very brave for confronting what doesn’t sit well with you. Maybe just take it less serious. It takes time to get that on fab but if you manage you are good to keep going….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is comedy gold"

Sure is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is comedy gold

Sure is."
in one ear out the two...lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Question here. Why are people attacking their profile regardless of what this forum post is about?

When did the OP say it is ok to attack their profile? They made a post, a valid rant, like most others, and all of a sudden they are ripped to shreds because of what and why?

Because they dared to speak up? The OP has the right to raise a concern, you do not have the right to attack them.

…….

But there’s no attack really. I see it as people taking the piss, just having a laugh, which is very common in this forum. I like to think there’s no malice or Ill intention in the approach of any of the ‘clique’ people of fab.

I’ve seen other posts derailed and the op had a great attitude getting along with the laughs and ‘messers’…

Obviously there are some rude and nasty comments that can’t be overlooked but no need to get angry or take it personal…..And last thing I wanted to say to you. Very brave for confronting what doesn’t sit well with you. Maybe just take it less serious. It takes time to get that on fab but if you manage you are good to keep going….

"

We haven’t and won’t after all there’s more to life,but thanks for your input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve been on here now for a while.He has been trying too interact with people on here for my benefit,only to be questioned and some people saying that he’s not taking their sensitivity or their situations in too account.l’m sorry but how the f u c k are we supposed too know how your life has went,if his spelling has been bad that doesn’t give anyone the right to think that he’s on here too upset people that’s not what we are about now I’ve had my rant night all because I’ve kids too get sorted for tomorrow

L"

Lisa far too many snowflakes in this world. Hope ye get sorted and all the best with your fab journey x

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

Jameson main bar

I genuinely wish you the very best of luck in your search though. Don't worry there's something for everyone in here. It may take time but you'll get there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I genuinely wish you the very best of luck in your search though. Don't worry there's something for everyone in here. It may take time but you'll get there. "

Thanks we will be looking our profile,both of us and see what we need too change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve been on here now for a while.He has been trying too interact with people on here for my benefit,only to be questioned and some people saying that he’s not taking their sensitivity or their situations in too account.l’m sorry but how the f u c k are we supposed too know how your life has went,if his spelling has been bad that doesn’t give anyone the right to think that he’s on here too upset people that’s not what we are about now I’ve had my rant night all because I’ve kids too get sorted for tomorrow

L

Lisa far too many snowflakes in this world. Hope ye get sorted and all the best with your fab journey x"

Hey thanks is your next meet on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Look we’d like too thank everyone that contributed,

Positive or negative we’ve learned a lot from this so thanks and good night

L&S

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