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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?"

Being honest, we wouldn’t respond if you sent a message except to politely decline.

Your profile needs a bit of work. You’ve got one picture which gives no sense of what you look like and your bio is minimum effort and gives no insight into your personality nor desires.

Just our opinion but thankfully both of those issues are easy things to remedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a good look down the forums... there are another few posts just like yours and that is just today.

No, you're not the only one.

No, people aren't being mean.

Yes, it takes time & effort & social skills.

No, fab is not the sex version of shooting fish in a barrel.

And no, everyone else is not off shagging like rabbits every night of the week.

Maybe try in person social events.

Or perhaps improve your profile as it's basically empty.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a help a fabber out thread, have a look st that maybe someone is Dublin based that might meet you for a coffee abd get you a veri.

Your 28 which may be too young for a lot of people.

Get involved on the forums and interact with people it may help

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Same as above. There is absolutely nothing about your profile that would make me want to meet you.

Also 4 months is a millisecond in fab life. We were here months before we had our first meet. Your profile is to show who you are. The ratios here are mad so you have to stand out a little bit. There are numerous threads with regards to this.

The very best of luck with your journey. Also as per the site rules no reply = not interested x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?

Being honest, we wouldn’t respond if you sent a message except to politely decline.

Your profile needs a bit of work. You’ve got one picture which gives no sense of what you look like and your bio is minimum effort and gives no insight into your personality nor desires.

Just our opinion but thankfully both of those issues are easy things to remedy "

Thanks! will upload more pics and work on the bio

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies! Noted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?"

You're not the first to say this and unfortunately it's a side of fab that does exist very openly. The majority of fabbers are genuine people, great craic and not malicious. But like everywhere there are certain people who's opinion is always right even when they're wrong. And those that will jump on a thread to wind you up.

I'm here 5 years and for the most part I enjoy it. When the keyboard warriors show they're sad faces I generally have a laugh at them and ignore for the most part.

My suggestion to you would be to hang around, try ignore the negative people and enjoy fab.

As far as meeting goes it can be a process. Sell yourself in the forum's. Go to a few meets or even grab a coffee with locals just to a verification or two and you'll see the difference. Sadly the verification here is like a golden ticket to the chocolate factory. Lol.

But it's a fab thing and it's one of those silly quirks about fab.

Anyway, best of luck with whatever you decide to do and if you decide to stay 'Happy Fabbing'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More interaction on the forum is the only way, I was chatting to a fellow fabber told him to chat more on here people will get to know your personality.. hope my my advice helps

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?

Being honest, we wouldn’t respond if you sent a message except to politely decline.

Your profile needs a bit of work. You’ve got one picture which gives no sense of what you look like and your bio is minimum effort and gives no insight into your personality nor desires.

Just our opinion but thankfully both of those issues are easy things to remedy

Thanks! will upload more pics and work on the bio "

No worries and hope it works out for you. Don’t give up but understand it’s a slow game and investment of time. Lads who think they’ve found the holy grail of easy riding quickly fall away because it’s a lot more complex and competitive than they think.

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By *lassic guyMan
over a year ago

my bed to your just ask

Some guys think oh I join fab and I have sex every night fab is not Dial a ride you have to put some time and effort into it and hopefully the effort will pay off best of luck op on your fab journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?

Being honest, we wouldn’t respond if you sent a message except to politely decline.

Your profile needs a bit of work. You’ve got one picture which gives no sense of what you look like and your bio is minimum effort and gives no insight into your personality nor desires.

Just our opinion but thankfully both of those issues are easy things to remedy

Thanks! will upload more pics and work on the bio

No worries and hope it works out for you. Don’t give up but understand it’s a slow game and investment of time. Lads who think they’ve found the holy grail of easy riding quickly fall away because it’s a lot more complex and competitive than they think. "

Perfect advice best of luck op

L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree more needs on your profile the free now app is for taxis not a ride it will take time as above have mentioned there is a back to school help a fabber out thread maybe look at that as mentioned also , as a bloke it’s going be hard it’s a pick and mix for girls on here and what do they say good things come to those who wait… girls get lots of messages hard fish the genuine people out and personally If I got hi how are you or a what’s up message I know what’s up literally up as they type so it’s delete straight I also delete messages with cock pics attached I’m meeting you not your cock first so face pics are good also and Rome wasn’t built in a day remember aim for a coffee meet or a drink get yourself on the ladder first..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree more needs on your profile the free now app is for taxis not a ride it will take time as above have mentioned there is a back to school help a fabber out thread maybe look at that as mentioned also , as a bloke it’s going be hard it’s a pick and mix for girls on here and what do they say good things come to those who wait… girls get lots of messages hard fish the genuine people out and personally If I got hi how are you or a what’s up message I know what’s up literally up as they type so it’s delete straight I also delete messages with cock pics attached I’m meeting you not your cock first so face pics are good also and Rome wasn’t built in a day remember aim for a coffee meet or a drink get yourself on the ladder first.. "

Totally agree. Hi or how are you messages are straight to the delete pile for me

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Low effort profile = poor outcome

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By *eardedvillainMan
over a year ago

Bangor N.Ireland


"More interaction on the forum is the only way, I was chatting to a fellow fabber told him to chat more on here people will get to know your personality.. hope my my advice helps "

Get to know it then not like it lol.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

You're all too nice, piles of well meant advice, yet it most likely goes to waste. Also sometimes the advise helps to camouflage all sorts of dicks.

I'm of the opinion if you can't figure yourself how to get fab working for you, you don't belong here. Simple as that.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

You're not wrong there doghunter.. OP seems to have taken it better than many before him though so cheers to that lol

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork


"No, fab is not the sex version of shooting fish in a barrel.

And no, everyone else is not off shagging like rabbits every night of the week."

Absolutely love this

We're messaged on a near daily basis asking where and who we're fucking that day/hour/minute.. lads just cannot wrap their head around the idea that we don't match the "mindless sex addict" fantasy in their heads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?"

You are 28. The age demographic of Fab is a lot older. Just look at the average age of the people who replied to your post here, all at least 10 years older (myself included) the reason most singles (not couples!!) are on here is because they can’t get sex anywhere else. You’re at an age where there’s a lot more choice/variety on the dating scene and socially. Give your self 10 years and come back when the standard/number has dropped in the real world. That’s what Fab single is about

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with his profile let's not make excuses because fab is a sausage fest.. 300+ men online to less than 50 women, the chances of a single man even getting a reply is slim never mind a meet..

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By *lueAndBooCouple
over a year ago

Meath


"There is nothing wrong with his profile let's not make excuses because fab is a sausage fest.. 300+ men online to less than 50 women, the chances of a single man even getting a reply is slim never mind a meet.. "

Yes the chances are slim by the nature of the ratios. But some have great success here. If you want to increase your chances you need to put effort into your profile. Stand out.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Lol @ one unsuccessful shite profile telling another unsucessful shite profile that his profile is fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is nothing wrong with his profile let's not make excuses because fab is a sausage fest.. 300+ men online to less than 50 women, the chances of a single man even getting a reply is slim never mind a meet..

Yes the chances are slim by the nature of the ratios. But some have great success here. If you want to increase your chances you need to put effort into your profile. Stand out."

Define effort.. More pics? Longer bio? I really can't think of anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol @ one unsuccessful shite profile telling another unsucessful shite profile that his profile is fine "

The only difference between our profiles is you have more pics and a longer winded bio, "shite" as you called it, Many people love reading shite I presume

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By *lueAndBooCouple
over a year ago

Meath


"You're all too nice, piles of well meant advice, yet it most likely goes to waste. Also sometimes the advise helps to camouflage all sorts of dicks.

I'm of the opinion if you can't figure yourself how to get fab working for you, you don't belong here. Simple as that. "

Yeah, this.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age."

Amen

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age."

Difficult convincing the incels of that though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

Difficult convincing the incels of that though "

Lol I’m happily attached so don’t fall into that category fyi. Not interested in meeting on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age."

Sure it is………

Take a look at the age demographic and standard on Fab. Would the M part of your couple profile have any luck with the F half ? Answers truthfully on a stamped addressed envelope

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

Sure it is………

Take a look at the age demographic and standard on Fab. Would the M part of your couple profile have any luck with the F half ? Answers truthfully on a stamped addressed envelope "

Lol we actually MET here amd verified each others single profiles. I've been a well verified single male here

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

..and she was nearly 10 years younger than me so the age argument is bollocks too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..and she was nearly 10 years younger than me so the age argument is bollocks too"

Look at the average age of people on Fab ?

How long are you together? Were you 28 ?

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By *lueAndBooCouple
over a year ago

Meath


"..and she was nearly 10 years younger than me so the age argument is bollocks too

Look at the average age of people on Fab ?

How long are you together? Were you 28 ?"

I'm 28, most of our sexual meets have been the same age range. Met younger and older at parties.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"..and she was nearly 10 years younger than me so the age argument is bollocks too

Look at the average age of people on Fab ?

How long are you together? Were you 28 ?"

I was in my late 30s and she was in her late 20s. I'm nothing special. If I could anyone can. Look at the successful male profiles. Look at the pics, look at the profile text. Rocket science it ain't.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

Difficult convincing the incels of that though

Lol I’m happily attached so don’t fall into that category fyi. Not interested in meeting on here

"

You might want to remove the “looking to meet women” in your profile then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

Difficult convincing the incels of that though

Lol I’m happily attached so don’t fall into that category fyi. Not interested in meeting on here

You might want to remove the “looking to meet women” in your profile then

"

He’s just “ here for the forums “

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

Difficult convincing the incels of that though

Lol I’m happily attached so don’t fall into that category fyi. Not interested in meeting on here

You might want to remove the “looking to meet women” in your profile then

"

Updated just for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

Difficult convincing the incels of that though

Lol I’m happily attached so don’t fall into that category fyi. Not interested in meeting on here

You might want to remove the “looking to meet women” in your profile then

He’s just “ here for the forums “ "

Very true ! I enjoy them…. Don’t think many others enjoy my posts though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

Difficult convincing the incels of that though

Lol I’m happily attached so don’t fall into that category fyi. Not interested in meeting on here

You might want to remove the “looking to meet women” in your profile then

He’s just “ here for the forums “

Very true ! I enjoy them…. Don’t think many others enjoy my posts though "

If you’d to be worrying what an online community think of your posts, you’d have a lot to be worrying about have a good weekend

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"You're all too nice, piles of well meant advice, yet it most likely goes to waste. Also sometimes the advise helps to camouflage all sorts of dicks.

I'm of the opinion if you can't figure yourself how to get fab working for you, you don't belong here. Simple as that. "

Advice is ignored ànyhow 99 per cent of the time so it's pointless to give any. And I do agree that if people can't work out that no effort in will definitely mean chances of a meet will lessen drastically then that's their own problem.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'd got a lot more to do with effort and attitude than age.

Difficult convincing the incels of that though

Lol I’m happily attached so don’t fall into that category fyi. Not interested in meeting on here

You might want to remove the “looking to meet women” in your profile then

He’s just “ here for the forums “

Very true ! I enjoy them…. Don’t think many others enjoy my posts though

If you’d to be worrying what an online community think of your posts, you’d have a lot to be worrying about have a good weekend "

Lol very true some people take it very personally must have little else to worry about

Have a good one yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?"
i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong"

I think you have to be verified by one of “them” to be let into the circle or allowed engage… a bit like the teenage movie Mean Girls !!

That’s truly awful that they would not speak to you. Height of bad manners.

Oh yeah…. There are no cliques on Fab apparently

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"..and she was nearly 10 years younger than me so the age argument is bollocks too

Look at the average age of people on Fab ?

How long are you together? Were you 28 ?"

Fab search says there's about the same amount of women on here in the age bracket 20 to 30years than there's 40 to 50years.

Yes biggest bracket is 30 to 40 but you can't argue that the younger group is underrepresented.

Maybe you should get on to Sydney university to do bit more of research.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..and she was nearly 10 years younger than me so the age argument is bollocks too

Look at the average age of people on Fab ?

How long are you together? Were you 28 ?

Fab search says there's about the same amount of women on here in the age bracket 20 to 30years than there's 40 to 50years.

Yes biggest bracket is 30 to 40 but you can't argue that the younger group is underrepresented.

Maybe you should get on to Sydney university to do bit more of research. "

Lol any mention of Sydney in a profile makes me laugh…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong

I think you have to be verified by one of “them” to be let into the circle or allowed engage… a bit like the teenage movie Mean Girls !!

That’s truly awful that they would not speak to you. Height of bad manners.

Oh yeah…. There are no cliques on Fab apparently

"
that is my experience so far i was out smoking and one lady was beside me i said hi just being friendly she spoke and was sound for a min or 2 and then some people came out and she said she had to go back to her friends and ran as if i was a diseased but sure thats the way it is i am afraid

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Jaysus fucking christ you'd wonder how we ever manage to reproduce as a species sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong

I think you have to be verified by one of “them” to be let into the circle or allowed engage… a bit like the teenage movie Mean Girls !!

That’s truly awful that they would not speak to you. Height of bad manners.

Oh yeah…. There are no cliques on Fab apparently

that is my experience so far i was out smoking and one lady was beside me i said hi just being friendly she spoke and was sound for a min or 2 and then some people came out and she said she had to go back to her friends and ran as if i was a diseased but sure thats the way it is i am afraid"

Yeah but fella that’s not exclusive to fabswingers. Go to any pub/club on a Friday or Saturday night that would be the exact same. She was out with a group, she was polite and said hello and then went back to the people that she’d gone out with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong

I think you have to be verified by one of “them” to be let into the circle or allowed engage… a bit like the teenage movie Mean Girls !!

That’s truly awful that they would not speak to you. Height of bad manners.

Oh yeah…. There are no cliques on Fab apparently

that is my experience so far i was out smoking and one lady was beside me i said hi just being friendly she spoke and was sound for a min or 2 and then some people came out and she said she had to go back to her friends and ran as if i was a diseased but sure thats the way it is i am afraid"

Is that a normal night out at least she spike, I was out one night in derry on my own, not one person spoke to me other than the guy taking drink orders from the table.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

The men that are answering in the thread since the op hasn't come back on

Honestly what did you think would happen when you joined and what have you done to help make that happen

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over a year ago

Yea i have no problem with that that is very true there was posibly 100 of them there and not one person said anything except for that lady i was avoided like the plage i was out smoking and usualy someone would speak or have the craic i was not lookin to join them or anything as i had to be up for work the next morning an i totaly agree with what you said but not to the extent of the crowd that was there they had the full place taken over honestly

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over a year ago


"Yea i have no problem with that that is very true there was posibly 100 of them there and not one person said anything except for that lady i was avoided like the plage i was out smoking and usualy someone would speak or have the craic i was not lookin to join them or anything as i had to be up for work the next morning an i totaly agree with what you said but not to the extent of the crowd that was there they had the full place taken over honestly"

Maybe they thought you were from the Sunday world

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over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong

I think you have to be verified by one of “them” to be let into the circle or allowed engage… a bit like the teenage movie Mean Girls !!

That’s truly awful that they would not speak to you. Height of bad manners.

Oh yeah…. There are no cliques on Fab apparently

that is my experience so far i was out smoking and one lady was beside me i said hi just being friendly she spoke and was sound for a min or 2 and then some people came out and she said she had to go back to her friends and ran as if i was a diseased but sure thats the way it is i am afraid

Is that a normal night out at least she spike, I was out one night in derry on my own, not one person spoke to me other than the guy taking drink orders from the table. "

Exactly this.

It’s gas, ive never actually gone out - on my own. I’d find it strange, bit awkward and to try look through the lens of a woman who is been chatting up with a fella out on his own, well…it would be uncomfortable I’d imagine - I don’t know.

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over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong

I think you have to be verified by one of “them” to be let into the circle or allowed engage… a bit like the teenage movie Mean Girls !!

That’s truly awful that they would not speak to you. Height of bad manners.

Oh yeah…. There are no cliques on Fab apparently

that is my experience so far i was out smoking and one lady was beside me i said hi just being friendly she spoke and was sound for a min or 2 and then some people came out and she said she had to go back to her friends and ran as if i was a diseased but sure thats the way it is i am afraid

Is that a normal night out at least she spike, I was out one night in derry on my own, not one person spoke to me other than the guy taking drink orders from the table. "

Derry is a completely different kettle of fish. Depends what side of the bridge you were on and probably the southern accent, the north is it’s own special place….. read in to that whatever way you want

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over a year ago


"Yea i have no problem with that that is very true there was posibly 100 of them there and not one person said anything except for that lady i was avoided like the plage i was out smoking and usualy someone would speak or have the craic i was not lookin to join them or anything as i had to be up for work the next morning an i totaly agree with what you said but not to the extent of the crowd that was there they had the full place taken over honestly

Maybe they thought you were from the Sunday world "
maby they did i dont know lol

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over a year ago


"Yea i have no problem with that that is very true there was posibly 100 of them there and not one person said anything except for that lady i was avoided like the plage i was out smoking and usualy someone would speak or have the craic i was not lookin to join them or anything as i had to be up for work the next morning an i totaly agree with what you said but not to the extent of the crowd that was there they had the full place taken over honestly"

You weren’t looking to join them or anything but are seemingly getting the hump with them for not including you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong

I think you have to be verified by one of “them” to be let into the circle or allowed engage… a bit like the teenage movie Mean Girls !!

That’s truly awful that they would not speak to you. Height of bad manners.

Oh yeah…. There are no cliques on Fab apparently

that is my experience so far i was out smoking and one lady was beside me i said hi just being friendly she spoke and was sound for a min or 2 and then some people came out and she said she had to go back to her friends and ran as if i was a diseased but sure thats the way it is i am afraid

Is that a normal night out at least she spike, I was out one night in derry on my own, not one person spoke to me other than the guy taking drink orders from the table.

Exactly this.

It’s gas, ive never actually gone out - on my own. I’d find it strange, bit awkward and to try look through the lens of a woman who is been chatting up with a fella out on his own, well…it would be uncomfortable I’d imagine - I don’t know. "

Was in letterkenny the night before was the same, but I've decided I want to start doing things and as I'm single need to embrace been on my own, I will say the band were brill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it personally, they're are some great people on here, it just takes time. If a lady is nice enough not reply to say thanks but not interested, let them know you appreciate the reply and best of luck to them. I have gotten a great meet out of this happening to me. Be kind and respectful that's my 2cents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look i am not trying to give out just trying to point out how hard it is to get in as single male i have been out several times on my own and nobody spoke to me and that dosent bother me but when you usualy go to the smoking area usualy someone speaks even if it is how are you but this was totaly diffrent was as if i was a disease there and definatly not wanted there it was very obvious not wanted there thats all i am trying to say and not trying to offend or anything just how i found it that night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay, going to play Devils Advocate here but I can't believe these social cues are a mystery to be honest. There's an awful lot of unhappy in the air.

If I was approached by a stranger and the convo alluded to "hey, are you here with the swingers" in ANY way, I'd be extremely wary. Especially if I was outside, in the dark, alone with them.

It doesn't matter if, in your opinion, you were polite and had good intentions, why or how would she know or trust that? Serial killers and the like are famously polite (NO I'M NOT SAYING YOU'RE ONE) ....being a stranger and making an approach to a lone female is enough to get you swerved.

A private event in a public place is still a private event. People there will have had pre-event chats and known eachother from previous socials. I've never attended an event but I know that much. Any stranger sidling up alluding to being on fab is not a free pass to joining in. There are often requirements like being veri'd and you might have learned from eavesdropping and be lying. How would they know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not havin the best time here at fab as I thought I would.

I know it takes a while but some people are just rude/ not very responsive. Most of the time ignored and when there is a conversation it'd be a one sided convo where I try and i get a one word answer. I must have a shitty social skills or im that ugly lmao...Im sure most people are havin great craic but kinda upsetting to have been in the community for months now and have not met any female fabbers

Sorry for the rant, anyone the same?i would have to agree with you on that it is very hard to get someine even to open a message i send nevermind a reply i actuly stayed in a hotel in dublin one friday night and it jusst happened there was a fab meeting on there i didint jnow it was on was pure accident i was there was alot of people there and nobody would even speak to me there as if i wasent there so what am i doing wrong or is it that clicky on hear and if not in the click your going nowhere?? Maby i am wrong and its just me doing so.ething wrong

I think you have to be verified by one of “them” to be let into the circle or allowed engage… a bit like the teenage movie Mean Girls !!

That’s truly awful that they would not speak to you. Height of bad manners.

Oh yeah…. There are no cliques on Fab apparently

that is my experience so far i was out smoking and one lady was beside me i said hi just being friendly she spoke and was sound for a min or 2 and then some people came out and she said she had to go back to her friends and ran as if i was a diseased but sure thats the way it is i am afraid

Is that a normal night out at least she spike, I was out one night in derry on my own, not one person spoke to me other than the guy taking drink orders from the table.

Exactly this.

It’s gas, ive never actually gone out - on my own. I’d find it strange, bit awkward and to try look through the lens of a woman who is been chatting up with a fella out on his own, well…it would be uncomfortable I’d imagine - I don’t know.

Was in letterkenny the night before was the same, but I've decided I want to start doing things and as I'm single need to embrace been on my own, I will say the band were brill"
maby we should go together some night for the craic least we have eachother to speak to lol

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over a year ago


"Okay, going to play Devils Advocate here but I can't believe these social cues are a mystery to be honest. There's an awful lot of unhappy in the air.

If I was approached by a stranger and the convo alluded to "hey, are you here with the swingers" in ANY way, I'd be extremely wary. Especially if I was outside, in the dark, alone with them.

It doesn't matter if, in your opinion, you were polite and had good intentions, why or how would she know or trust that? Serial killers and the like are famously polite (NO I'M NOT SAYING YOU'RE ONE) ....being a stranger and making an approach to a lone female is enough to get you swerved.

A private event in a public place is still a private event. People there will have had pre-event chats and known eachother from previous socials. I've never attended an event but I know that much. Any stranger sidling up alluding to being on fab is not a free pass to joining in. There are often requirements like being veri'd and you might have learned from eavesdropping and be lying. How would they know?

"
i mever once mentiond fab or anythin just bit of normal chit chat she actuly asked me for a light thats how we actuly spoke other than that we would not have spoken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask what you were realistically expecting to happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, going to play Devils Advocate here but I can't believe these social cues are a mystery to be honest. There's an awful lot of unhappy in the air.

If I was approached by a stranger and the convo alluded to "hey, are you here with the swingers" in ANY way, I'd be extremely wary. Especially if I was outside, in the dark, alone with them.

It doesn't matter if, in your opinion, you were polite and had good intentions, why or how would she know or trust that? Serial killers and the like are famously polite (NO I'M NOT SAYING YOU'RE ONE) ....being a stranger and making an approach to a lone female is enough to get you swerved.

A private event in a public place is still a private event. People there will have had pre-event chats and known eachother from previous socials. I've never attended an event but I know that much. Any stranger sidling up alluding to being on fab is not a free pass to joining in. There are often requirements like being veri'd and you might have learned from eavesdropping and be lying. How would they know?

i mever once mentiond fab or anythin just bit of normal chit chat she actuly asked me for a light thats how we actuly spoke other than that we would not have spoken"

And maybe she just wasn't interested I wouldn't read too much into it

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Striking up a conversation in a crowded room is very hard for many people. That's particularly true if you are one of many single guys, and other people already know each other. If this doesn't come naturally to you then maybe the big social events arent for you. Maybe you need to start smaller 1 on 1, perhaps the "help a fabber out" thing. Find your niche and find someone who is a good match for you. Target your targets rather than casting your net wide. At the end of you day you need to have game of some kind to differentiate yourself from the crowd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask what you were realistically expecting to happen?"
absuloutly nothing wasent expecting anything as i had to be up to work next morning early just saying how i found the crowd in general just thought it was weird a crowd that size

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over a year ago


"Striking up a conversation in a crowded room is very hard for many people. That's particularly true if you are one of many single guys, and other people already know each other. If this doesn't come naturally to you then maybe the big social events arent for you. Maybe you need to start smaller 1 on 1, perhaps the "help a fabber out" thing. Find your niche and find someone who is a good match for you. Target your targets rather than casting your net wide. At the end of you day you need to have game of some kind to differentiate yourself from the crowd."

I went to my first Midlands mingle on my own, went to the bathroom and a guy spoke to me I was like a deer caught in headlights, lol

When I think back to the socials I've gone to and literally hid in the corner petrified. Now I just go enjoy the night out with the friends I've made, I never go with expectations of anything else just as well as I never hook up with anyone at a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Striking up a conversation in a crowded room is very hard for many people. That's particularly true if you are one of many single guys, and other people already know each other. If this doesn't come naturally to you then maybe the big social events arent for you. Maybe you need to start smaller 1 on 1, perhaps the "help a fabber out" thing. Find your niche and find someone who is a good match for you. Target your targets rather than casting your net wide. At the end of you day you need to have game of some kind to differentiate yourself from the crowd."

That’s good advice. Think ( and I’ve never been to an event , just shooting here ) it’s bare minimum to at least go in the door and arrive with someone anyone. Otherwise, on your one your just too inward, nothing is happening kinda organically or whatever and you feel you’ve to force it. If your naturally extroverted and can approach people at ease to strike up a convo that’s great - but a lot of people aren’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sorry that your not meeting others as you expected.

But for fucks sake, this is a sympathy post!!

Just build a bridge and get over it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im sorry that your not meeting others as you expected.

But for fucks sake, this is a sympathy post!!

Just build a bridge and get over it!! "
lol

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've asked this question a few times but no-one has ever answered.

I've gone to a couple of group socials on my own and despite not knowing or chatting to a single person there I've been made welcome and chatted to a few.

I've also gone to one where people who weren't even there made forum comments the next day hinting that something had happened between us.

On other occasions I've been contacted by women I've never spoken to before saying how much they were looking forward to meeting me at a group social.

I turn up on the night and they completely blank me and don't even respond to my hello. They then message the next day asking why I wasn't at the event.

So out of curiosity can any of the silly gameplayers explain why they do these things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've asked this question a few times but no-one has ever answered.

I've gone to a couple of group socials on my own and despite not knowing or chatting to a single person there I've been made welcome and chatted to a few.

I've also gone to one where people who weren't even there made forum comments the next day hinting that something had happened between us.

On other occasions I've been contacted by women I've never spoken to before saying how much they were looking forward to meeting me at a group social.

I turn up on the night and they completely blank me and don't even respond to my hello. They then message the next day asking why I wasn't at the event.

So out of curiosity can any of the silly gameplayers explain why they do these things?

"

I don't think there's an answer I've had the same be all chat with people that are going to socials and than on the night just about speak , nothing as queer as folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be a confusions between fab names and Kik names

Happens me after a social if there's been a Kik group and then you have to try and remember who was who as the names are often different on both platforms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, just be yourself and find your own way at your own pace.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Could be a confusions between fab names and Kik names

Happens me after a social if there's been a Kik group and then you have to try and remember who was who as the names are often different on both platforms."

There were no Kik groups involved at any stage. These were all PM's on here.

I already the know the answer but I'm curious to see if anyone will actually say it out loud?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could be a confusions between fab names and Kik names

Happens me after a social if there's been a Kik group and then you have to try and remember who was who as the names are often different on both platforms.

There were no Kik groups involved at any stage. These were all PM's on here.

I already the know the answer but I'm curious to see if anyone will actually say it out loud?"

"They got a better offer or they just blowing smoke up your ass, or they keeping all options open"

This is the reasons I reckon I get passed over at a social and it used to upset but now I just think off with them, they missing out on my magic hands lol

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Is it people marking their territory on the forums or kik groups .. .like a dog pissing on a lamp post I think is one of your expressions

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I suspect they either didn't recognise you, or didn't fancy you in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know my comfort level chatting here is a lot higher than it would be facetoface, purely because I feel pressured to keep conversation hopping along unless it's with people I know well and would relax more with.

There's the nice possibility that it's the social pressures making folk a bit dithery or flighty and then there's the less nice possibility that there's games played and the usual social climbing going on.

If you're a friend on here you ought to be a friend in person. No one likes a fake anything

Except boobs, I'm told plenty love those

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"I suspect they either didn't recognise you, or didn't fancy you in person"

Exactly this

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog


"I've asked this question a few times but no-one has ever answered.

I've gone to a couple of group socials on my own and despite not knowing or chatting to a single person there I've been made welcome and chatted to a few.

I've also gone to one where people who weren't even there made forum comments the next day hinting that something had happened between us.

On other occasions I've been contacted by women I've never spoken to before saying how much they were looking forward to meeting me at a group social.

I turn up on the night and they completely blank me and don't even respond to my hello. They then message the next day asking why I wasn't at the event.

So out of curiosity can any of the silly gameplayers explain why they do these things?

"

This is the reason why I never arrange to meet anyone at a social I just show up deink, chat, laugh,shift and drift,pass out and go home..

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I suspect they either didn't recognise you, or didn't fancy you in person"

There's always that possibility but the fact they were all sitting at the one table was telling in itself. They were in the company of someone I had met and who knew exactly who I was.

My point is that it's deemed acceptable for the ladies who lunch to blow smoke up guys arses but then treat them like pariahs if they don't respond in kind.

I've no idea why they felt the need to get in touch in the first place but there's a very simple answer as to why they refused to speak to be on the night.

I was there as a plus one with a friend but it just shows how antisocial some socials can be.

There was absolutely nothing preventing anyone from just saying hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect they either didn't recognise you, or didn't fancy you in person

There's always that possibility but the fact they were all sitting at the one table was telling in itself. They were in the company of someone I had met and who knew exactly who I was.

My point is that it's deemed acceptable for the ladies who lunch to blow smoke up guys arses but then treat them like pariahs if they don't respond in kind.

I've no idea why they felt the need to get in touch in the first place but there's a very simple answer as to why they refused to speak to be on the night.

I was there as a plus one with a friend but it just shows how antisocial some socials can be.

There was absolutely nothing preventing anyone from just saying hello.

"

Perhaps disappointed that you had a +1 ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect they either didn't recognise you, or didn't fancy you in person

There's always that possibility but the fact they were all sitting at the one table was telling in itself. They were in the company of someone I had met and who knew exactly who I was.

My point is that it's deemed acceptable for the ladies who lunch to blow smoke up guys arses but then treat them like pariahs if they don't respond in kind.

I've no idea why they felt the need to get in touch in the first place but there's a very simple answer as to why they refused to speak to be on the night.

I was there as a plus one with a friend but it just shows how antisocial some socials can be.

There was absolutely nothing preventing anyone from just saying hello.

Perhaps disappointed that you had a +1 ?

"

Shouldn't matter whether there's a plus one, nothing stopping them from saying hello.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I suspect they either didn't recognise you, or didn't fancy you in person

There's always that possibility but the fact they were all sitting at the one table was telling in itself. They were in the company of someone I had met and who knew exactly who I was.

My point is that it's deemed acceptable for the ladies who lunch to blow smoke up guys arses but then treat them like pariahs if they don't respond in kind.

I've no idea why they felt the need to get in touch in the first place but there's a very simple answer as to why they refused to speak to be on the night.

I was there as a plus one with a friend but it just shows how antisocial some socials can be.

There was absolutely nothing preventing anyone from just saying hello.

Perhaps disappointed that you had a +1 ?

"

Not an excuse for being ignorant and staring off into space as if I wasn't standing there.

The point of my comment is that this wasn't one person. It was a number of individuals who were all seated together on the night. Too much of a coincidence that they all would have sent me the exact same message.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

So what happened when you went up to this table (where all these people you were chatting with previously were sat) and introduced yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it people marking their territory on the forums or kik groups .. .like a dog pissing on a lamp post I think is one of your expressions "

Are you speaking for yourself too ?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"So what happened when you went up to this table (where all these people you were chatting with previously were sat) and introduced yourself?"

Absolutely nothing. They glanced at me and carried on talking among themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect they either didn't recognise you, or didn't fancy you in person

There's always that possibility but the fact they were all sitting at the one table was telling in itself. They were in the company of someone I had met and who knew exactly who I was.

My point is that it's deemed acceptable for the ladies who lunch to blow smoke up guys arses but then treat them like pariahs if they don't respond in kind.

I've no idea why they felt the need to get in touch in the first place but there's a very simple answer as to why they refused to speak to be on the night.

I was there as a plus one with a friend but it just shows how antisocial some socials can be.

There was absolutely nothing preventing anyone from just saying hello.

Perhaps disappointed that you had a +1 ?

Not an excuse for being ignorant and staring off into space as if I wasn't standing there.

The point of my comment is that this wasn't one person. It was a number of individuals who were all seated together on the night. Too much of a coincidence that they all would have sent me the exact same message.

"
exacly no need for ignorance towards anyone weather part of the group or not costs nothing complety diffrent to any group i have met in hotels before total ignorant

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

All I can say is that's not been my experience of these things... I've had some great nights out and met some lovely people. Its unusual to find a number of people together being that rude. I suspect there is more to this story.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

This isn't a random attempt to hijack the op btw.

Everyone offers solutions to issues that people and especially guys are having on here and going to socials is one.

Clique comments are dismissed as the ramblings of a troll but no one actually has the balls to admit that there is a lot of BS on this site, a lot of which is initiated by some very well verified fabbers for their own entertainment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All I can say is that's not been my experience of these things... I've had some great nights out and met some lovely people. Its unusual to find a number of people together being that rude. I suspect there is more to this story."
that was my experience anyhow warts and all i am certin there is some lovley genuine people on hear

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"All I can say is that's not been my experience of these things... I've had some great nights out and met some lovely people. Its unusual to find a number of people together being that rude. I suspect there is more to this story."

It's the more to this story that I would like explained. There is nothing more from my side of it because I had only ever spoken to one of these women before and it was years ago.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I wonder if any of those on that table have anything to add to this?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Is it people marking their territory on the forums or kik groups .. .like a dog pissing on a lamp post I think is one of your expressions

Are you speaking for yourself too ?"

Have to be honest...I don't really care if some unknown person that I'll never meet off the internet thinks thats what I do....

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"This isn't a random attempt to hijack the op btw.

Everyone offers solutions to issues that people and especially guys are having on here and going to socials is one.

Clique comments are dismissed as the ramblings of a troll but no one actually has the balls to admit that there is a lot of BS on this site, a lot of which is initiated by some very well verified fabbers for their own entertainment. "

Plenty of us have the balls to say there’s plenty of BS on this site. There are cliques, there are also groups of friends. At the end of the day though, who gives a shit if people want to close themselves off to new people. That’s their loss.

However, this is a broken record argument.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a random attempt to hijack the op btw.

Everyone offers solutions to issues that people and especially guys are having on here and going to socials is one.

Clique comments are dismissed as the ramblings of a troll but no one actually has the balls to admit that there is a lot of BS on this site, a lot of which is initiated by some very well verified fabbers for their own entertainment. "

Unfortunately none will have the balls to admit anything etc

Behind the scenes there is drama always going on and it says more about the people involved, what I have learnt most you meet on here are acquaintances and that's it, some will become good friends and I'm grateful for the ones i have. As for the " clique" I'm sure I'm considered part of it , I must be missing the memos and the benefits though.

Think if people less time worrying about what other people are doing, who people are meeting it would be a lot more enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This atmosphere is partly why I'm a little wary of dipping a toe in to that side of things tbh

But that's just my own comfort zone, 100%

I'd be walking in on the lookout for all the landmines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This atmosphere is partly why I'm a little wary of dipping a toe in to that side of things tbh

But that's just my own comfort zone, 100%

I'd be walking in on the lookout for all the landmines "

Ah its like everything in life, have to say I've had some great nights out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is like being at school the cool ones or think they are then the not so cool ones in the other corner and normal people in other corner and the rest not in any group wandering on their own in the middle being ignored as far as i can see lol

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

For anyone organising a group social, how do you decide on percentages in regard to attendees?

The event I'm taking about was very clearly 70% single women with less than 10% single men and the remainder were couples.

I didn't understand the balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is like being at school the cool ones or think they are then the not so cool ones in the other corner and normal people in other corner and the rest not in any group wandering on their own in the middle being ignored as far as i can see lol"

I'd sooner be wandering around on my own

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"For anyone organising a group social, how do you decide on percentages in regard to attendees?

The event I'm taking about was very clearly 70% single women with less than 10% single men and the remainder were couples.

I didn't understand the balance. "

We used to overinvite single men, on the understanding that many wouldn't turn up, and hope to get a balance. Even doing that we usually ended up with less single men than we would have liked actually attending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is like being at school the cool ones or think they are then the not so cool ones in the other corner and normal people in other corner and the rest not in any group wandering on their own in the middle being ignored as far as i can see lol

I'd sooner be wandering around on my own "
lol so woud i to be honest not into that crap myself

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Would you have preferred more single men? Surely having less there would have been an advantage for you?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Would you have preferred more single men? Surely having less there would have been an advantage for you?"

The numbers had no effect on my night. As I said I was there with someone so I wasn't looking for an advantage but having large groups of women sitting at tables would be off-putting to many.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"Would you have preferred more single men? Surely having less there would have been an advantage for you?"

It’s no advantage if no one has any interest in you.

The couple of events I’ve cohosted, we’ve had an equal number of single women and single men with a few couples added in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is like being at school the cool ones or think they are then the not so cool ones in the other corner and normal people in other corner and the rest not in any group wandering on their own in the middle being ignored as far as i can see lol"

I think the bigger issue is people getting stuck in those teenage attitudes of cool v's normal v's odd-bods, and not seeing there's more to life than besting or comparing.

I might feel uncomfortable and choose not to go at all. If I do go I'll likely be walking in wary but I'll still be open to having a great time. I can dance my ass off all by myself if I need to.

I might go and like it/ hate it/ love it / or think it's meh.

But I won't pin my feelings on others and I'll decide in my own head if it's for me or not going forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is like being at school the cool ones or think they are then the not so cool ones in the other corner and normal people in other corner and the rest not in any group wandering on their own in the middle being ignored as far as i can see lol

I'd sooner be wandering around on my own lol so woud i to be honest not into that crap myself"

Your whole post here is that you felt excluded.....

That doesn't tally with not being in to 'that crap'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is like being at school the cool ones or think they are then the not so cool ones in the other corner and normal people in other corner and the rest not in any group wandering on their own in the middle being ignored as far as i can see lol

I'd sooner be wandering around on my own lol so woud i to be honest not into that crap myself

Your whole post here is that you felt excluded.....

That doesn't tally with not being in to 'that crap'"
i didn mean it that way at all

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Has anyone considered borrowing threads from the lounge as a way of getting laid ?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Has anyone considered borrowing threads from the lounge as a way of getting laid ? "

I could be wrong but I think someone has that sewn up already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone considered borrowing threads from the lounge as a way of getting laid ? "

Thank fuck I haven't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thread poaching... carries a hefty penalty

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By *umon337Man
over a year ago

Offaly


"There is nothing wrong with his profile let's not make excuses because fab is a sausage fest.. 300+ men online to less than 50 women, the chances of a single man even getting a reply is slim never mind a meet.. "

Agreed, though with persistence and trial and error you will get some replies and a few meets.

There's kind of a twin system working here where there are a lot of people who like to go to social events and are in the swingers lifestyle and then there's lots of people who are here to meet people for sex. And then there's obviously a crossover between both - basically it's complicated but in general everyone on here is mostly harmless and if people are rude here then they're probably rude in real life too so you'd probably not want to meet them. (But, as was said above, no reply is accepted as a polite way of saying not interested)

Whichever you're here for you still need to put the effort in, like you would on any dating app or a night out in the pub. You have to have a thick skin and ignore the no replies or the deleted texts or the blocks.

And everyone here has a life outside fab too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a male just one of many chances of a meeting a low so don’t think just because u have joined ladies will fall at your feet it won’t happen best advice is don’t take anything to heart here it’s not real life at least 30% of profile are fake

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By *tslife222Man
over a year ago

by the sea louth


"This isn't a random attempt to hijack the op btw.

Everyone offers solutions to issues that people and especially guys are having on here and going to socials is one.

Clique comments are dismissed as the ramblings of a troll but no one actually has the balls to admit that there is a lot of BS on this site, a lot of which is initiated by some very well verified fabbers for their own entertainment.

Unfortunately none will have the balls to admit anything etc

Behind the scenes there is drama always going on and it says more about the people involved, what I have learnt most you meet on here are acquaintances and that's it, some will become good friends and I'm grateful for the ones i have. As for the " clique" I'm sure I'm considered part of it , I must be missing the memos and the benefits though.

Think if people less time worrying about what other people are doing, who people are meeting it would be a lot more enjoyable. "

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Op there is no one size fits all approach. Just remember your profile is your sales pitch you have to stand out from the crowds. Other than that it just takes time. If there was a 100% guaranteed formula every single guy in the world would be using it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks so much for this thread I was having so much trouble sleeping last night with 700000 people in the fields beside me partying. But I've only just woken up after reading this thread

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By *uess.who30Man
over a year ago

Galway/Dublin/London

So, come here to me, does anyone have the Answer for Question 1 on the philosophy Exam?

A- I think therefore I am

B- The only thing i know is that i know nothing

C-No man's knowledge here can go beyond his experience

D-The mind is furnished with ideas by experience alone

E-There is only one thing a philosopher can be relied upon to do, and that is to contradict other philosophers

At the End of the day... every single person on this site started with the same blank profile... same way we were all born...thats equality folks.. life's not fair

Until life is fair on all levels to every single person.. then fab won't be either..

Perhaps apply to the courts on the grounds of descrimination and see how ye fair lol

Yes.. Pun intended

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