FabSwingers.com forum: Social anxiety!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I was on a forum post recently and saw people saying that as a single man on this site you are basically screwed hehe, verifications don't help and you have no power.

Make sense, I mean a human flaunting a dead chicken between their legs is never going to have much power.

So I decided to ask... How can single men meet anyone on here?

Very nicely I got a reply from one profile telling me a place I can go for tips

But in summary, spend time on your profile, read others profiles, don't be a complete idiot and then finally, get involved in forums.

I have pretty bad social anxiety... And I find it hard to get involved in these things sometimes, or at least consistently... Has anyone else ever had this problem?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I wouldn't say there is no hope for single men at all... certainly they have it a lot harder than the women, but many single men are somehow successful, and its definitely not just the ones with 6 packs.

Social anxiety will obviously make it harder for you. The best way to meet is to raise your profile and get out there and meet people, even for a cuppa and a chat. Getting face to face is the only way to move forward. With regards that first verification... use your wit and charm to convince a lady for a coffee. Make it easy for them to say yes. We've all been there and the first step is the hardest. Good luck!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Only a small percentage of fabbers engage on the forum, it's by no means a must to be successful on here or even a guarantee for a meet. Forum participation can even be a hindrance.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

There are some of us who meet more single guys than anyone

Not everyone is looking for the same experience here and plenty of people prefer nice, respectable, even shy guys over the blatantly fake machismo presented by many of the men here.

We personally wouldn't shy away from you/your profile OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never go to socials, frequently meet single guys, and most of those meets result from messages only, not forum interactions, we have met only a small handful of forum posters.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"We never go to socials, frequently meet single guys, and most of those meets result from messages only, not forum interactions, we have met only a small handful of forum posters. "

We're exactly the same ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The decent single guys do well on here, it may be a little tougher as not everyone is looking fir single guys.

One tip your profile is your shop window you need to entice the female or couples in

When I joined first my social anxiety was shocking I'd go to a social and literally hide in the corner and not speak to anyone now well ill chat to anyone

There's a help a fabber out thread ( starting a new one today) post on that and maybe someone will meet you for a cuppa and get you verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only a small percentage of fabbers engage on the forum, it's by no means a must to be successful on here or even a guarantee for a meet. Forum participation can even be a hindrance."

Very true!! Some people seem love me on the forums

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

I e struggled with social anxiety my whole adult life. And I’m a little introverted too which doesn’t help. I always feel awkward talking to people, never know what to say and worry about continuing conversations. But as with many things in life the more you practice the easier it gets.

When I joined fab first it took me about 12 months or so before I started interacting on the forums or even sending out messages. I still don’t send first messages that often and when I do it’s usually because of a forum post.

It took me nearly 2 years to get to my first social, which was a terrifying experience going into a room with over 100 strangers but after the first 10no it’s all the worries and cares fade away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I e struggled with social anxiety my whole adult life. And I’m a little introverted too which doesn’t help. I always feel awkward talking to people, never know what to say and worry about continuing conversations. But as with many things in life the more you practice the easier it gets.

It took me nearly 2 years to get to my first social, which was a terrifying experience going into a room with over 100 strangers but after the first 10no it’s all the worries and cares fade away. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP i think single woman have a hard time here aswell maybe in a different way but they certainly do. I understand the social anxiety for sure but just make friends here first then maybe someone you connect with well will take you to an event some time if that's what you would like.

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