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Do ladies ever make the first move?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm curious if ladies on here ever make the 1st move for a single man, if you do, what in their profile make you make the 1st move?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, usually it's the way they comport themselves on the forums as opposed to something specific in the profile - although good pics never go astray

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Running away is a move of sorts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do yes. Preferably if I get that reciprocating vibe that the man likes me too.usually start with the hair playing and lip biting and smiling- Especially when at a social, I’ll approach the men if I feel my teasing is working

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I always send a first message,usually through here on the forum page if something about them catches my eye, let it be there comment,status update or pictures ill look at there profile see what there looking for and pick something from there and message them mabey send a wink also see what happens then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women make the first move here all the time they just don't make threads about it when someone doesn't answer them! As Lolly said if someone catches my eyes with a status update or a really interesting profile etc I'll make the first move. The last few men I met I sent first message. If us ladies want something we aren't shy about getting it!

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By *onjo14Man
over a year ago

Bangor N.Ireland

My experience generally no , need to change my lynx africa lol.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Apparently they do

Haven't sent a first contact message since the beginning of 2020 so someone had to start all those conversations since

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Yes, we do! Otherwise I wouldn't now be part of a couple . And like someone said already, it's all sorts that makes me make first contact - from forum posts (someone has to put these chaps into their place ) to status updates to an attractive, enticing profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my younger/single days 90% of the women I have been with initiated the first move. Still happens regularly now if I’m out with male company. With the standard of looks being quite high too may I add.

Completely different on Fab the ratio of men to women here inflates womens egos it skews their attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women make the first move here all the time they just don't make threads about it when someone doesn't answer them! As Lolly said if someone catches my eyes with a status update or a really interesting profile etc I'll make the first move. The last few men I met I sent first message. If us ladies want something we aren't shy about getting it!"

I can definitely vouch for the last part !!!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Apparently they do

Haven't sent a first contact message since the beginning of 2020 so someone had to start all those conversations since "

Just messaged you, Mr Gorgeous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, we do! Otherwise I wouldn't now be part of a couple . And like someone said already, it's all sorts that makes me make first contact - from forum posts (someone has to put these chaps into their place ) to status updates to an attractive, enticing profile..."

Ditto.

The forum is a great pick up spot (pmsl)

I like being able to see how someone behaves in general as well so I never bother looking at who's near or searching for men that way.

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

It does happen, yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m my experience yes they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m my experience yes they do "

Hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not common, but not rare for me

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Over 3yrs here n hasnt happened yet but we live in hope

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've no issue contacting anyone first.In fact first contact has lead to amazing meets for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my short experience on Fab so far I have had a couple of first messages from ladies.

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By *reative ideasMan
over a year ago

Next door

Absolutely they do, the good thing too is that there's usually content and substance to the message, imagine that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely they do, the good thing too is that there's usually content and substance to the message, imagine that! "

I think ladies here don't take the scatter gun approach. We tend to send less messages but put a bit of effort into them as well.

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By *reative ideasMan
over a year ago

Next door


"Absolutely they do, the good thing too is that there's usually content and substance to the message, imagine that!

I think ladies here don't take the scatter gun approach. We tend to send less messages but put a bit of effort into them as well. "

I think you've summed it up perfectly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shocking I very rarely if ever have sent a first message on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m my experience yes they do

Hi "

Oh god I came…….

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"In my short experience on Fab so far I have had a couple of first messages from ladies. "

Damn Right ye have me included

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"In my short experience on Fab so far I have had a couple of first messages from ladies.

Damn Right ye have me included "

I believe you also send pictures

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"In my short experience on Fab so far I have had a couple of first messages from ladies.

Damn Right ye have me included

I believe you also send pictures "

Haha yeah on occasion ive been known to accidentally on purpose send nudes my apologies to anyone who eye's they graced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my short experience on Fab so far I have had a couple of first messages from ladies.

Damn Right ye have me included

I believe you also send pictures

Haha yeah on occasion ive been known to accidentally on purpose send nudes my apologies to anyone who eye's they graced "

Accident…..yeah right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practically all my meets have come from me making the first move

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"In my short experience on Fab so far I have had a couple of first messages from ladies.

Damn Right ye have me included

I believe you also send pictures

Haha yeah on occasion ive been known to accidentally on purpose send nudes my apologies to anyone who eye's they graced

Accident…..yeah right "

Did say accidentally on purpose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never had a woman make the first move here. In person though, a couple of times. It’s refreshing !

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Yep i have. Sometimes u just gotta take the initiative

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"In my short experience on Fab so far I have had a couple of first messages from ladies.

Damn Right ye have me included

I believe you also send pictures

Haha yeah on occasion ive been known to accidentally on purpose send nudes my apologies to anyone who eye's they graced "

I feel used now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've received a few first messages from ladies. But I generally go by the way they are in the forum's. If they're good craic and interesting I might send a message if within what they are looking for.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"In my short experience on Fab so far I have had a couple of first messages from ladies.

Damn Right ye have me included

I believe you also send pictures

Haha yeah on occasion ive been known to accidentally on purpose send nudes my apologies to anyone who eye's they graced

I feel used now "

Now we both know that pic was accidental or was it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a boring world if they didn’t.

In fairness, with the ratio here I doubt they get much of a chance to lol

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"Practically all my meets have come from me making the first move

"

I can’t imagine many of your messages go unanswered…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes they do

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By *ANG8LOOSEMan
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *ottie00Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

Occasionally

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By *ANG8LOOSEMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Yes women definitely send 1st message and make 1st move in my short experience of it.

Most couples have the male do the contacting on behalf of mrs which ive had most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now and then I have been known to reach out first...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've received a few first messages from ladies. But I generally go by the way they are in the forum's. If they're good craic and interesting I might send a message if within what they are looking for."

Actually I have been receiving a lot more messages from ladies than I ever did before. It's very flattering and who doesn't fancy a woman with confidence

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Can happen even to short hairy bald guys so presumably can happen to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do for the right man

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By *ing PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

No never got first message from ladies on FAB. I live in hope though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish thay would with me so hard to get a reply from them !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Yes we do.

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

near Birmingham

Most of the single woman we have met made the first move.

I (K) have no problem approaching another woman in a club, but don't message them that often as I imagine we would get lost among the other 1000 messages they received that day

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Yes

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, it's very rare to ever have the lady initiate the conversation, 70% of messages never merit a response, and the 30% seem to fizzle out, this could totally be on me and reading up in the forums has already had me reflecting, but I do wish I knew where I was going wrong and how to stand out to merit a first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have. If I see a profile I like I'll message and tell them exactly what I think or like about it or them. Most have replied even if it's just to say thanks.

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By *awkeye_30Man
over a year ago

Limerick

I've realized the forums are a great way to make passing connections and I feel ladies feel more comfortable about messaging first if they see you are fun, witty and inticing.. long may it continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure they do. Sometimes girls like to get some too. It's perfectly natural for a woman to say hi

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By *ysterious milfWoman
over a year ago

gorey

I have a few times but never got a response back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a few times but never got a response back "

You must have been messaging the 'fab Straight'brigade. Any real straight guy would have replied

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