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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

The unequal paradigm of fab. When someone who you have never engaged with send a abrasive message and then blocks you.

Like huh..

In real life would you engage in such a way, where is the right to respond. Is it fair to accept that or is that the journey you're on. I like dialogue, give me a counter argument and let's discuss like consenting adults. You might even convince me of your opinion.

But remove the right to respond...

Thoughts please.

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By *ome_wild_girlWoman
over a year ago

Antrim Town

I put a note on their profile, then block and move on, not worth my energy and they dont have my permission to annoy me.

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

Just block and report them, otherwise you are wasting your own time.

I was at my over 50's exercise class yesterday doing warm up on bike machine. A lady sat in the bike next to me. The conversation started real nice then she got serious, so I just politely said, that my time was up on the machine and moved on. I'm at an age were I'm not in the mood for listening to stupid chat. There are a lot of key board warriors on here.

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By *ealmc1973Man
over a year ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary

This topic has been here on a numerous occasions, already - and even I have noticed, me, not forum regular

Anyway, in my opinion, blocking someone after a chat, no matter how brief or volatile it might have been is pretty low standard. And it says a lot about the 'blocker', more than weeks of chatting.

Personally, I believe that there's no need to slip into abuse or sulking while having introductory message exchange, as I believe that what it was? It is what it is, no matter how excited one might get over the profile photos, it's the mind behind the scene, which makes body hot. If, for some reason chat isn't going well, then 'No, thank you' is good enough answer. No need to block, I like to perv even though I know it's out of reach

Not sure if that makes sense?

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By *ealmc1973Man
over a year ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary

sorry, read it the wrong way...someone send abusive message for no reason?

Fuck 'em - report - block - delete...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the Internet innit

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Why would you want to engage with someone who’s been a dick to you?

Make a note, block and forget about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block and move on, I often what people gain from abrasive or abusive messages but at least it shows the true colours of that person. The rubbish has just taken itself out.

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Right to response? Where would it end?

If you were to respond to their abusive message have they a right to respond then to your message. As others have said just block and move on

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By *ergalMan
over a year ago

East Cork

As above posters have said, add a note and block.....fek em

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Of course people behave differently face to face and most wouldn't dare acting like this. However the online world differs from the offline one, so consequently behaviour can change. The possibility to hide behind the keyboard or a fake persona seems for some all they need to air their frustration and anger by attacking others.

As a receiver consider that it's coming from a stranger you've never met, who doesn't know you and you've no intention to ever meet him/her. So no point bothering too much about it.

If you like and seek dialogue and discussions there's plenty of lovely people out there worth spending your time with rather than feeding a sad troll.

Or check out the forum more often, loads of controversy to be had...

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

It has happened to me too. It's annoying, if people don't like a profile, pics or whatever, I really don't know why they can't just scroll on by and/or block you. The fact that they can't just do that says more about them than you.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

There has to be a way to sever communication for those who are victims to choose to not get abuse any more.... unfortunately this protection mechanism also means that the perpetrators are able to escape response. Since fab doesn't know who is the victim and who is the perpetrator, it is unable to facilitate a right to respond, and simultaneously protect victims from further abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind them don't take anything

they say personally and block them right back in case they decide to un block you. I've gotten few nasty messages our of nowhere over the years calling me flabby and out of shape and a old slapper who loves dick. Sure tell me something I don't know love!

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away


"It has happened to me too. It's annoying, if people don't like a profile, pics or whatever, I really don't know why they can't just scroll on by and/or block you. The fact that they can't just do that says more about them than you. "

Yes that's what happened.. Essentially didn't like something in my profile.. Chose to be abrasive and insulting.. Then block me... Like why....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It has happened to me too. It's annoying, if people don't like a profile, pics or whatever, I really don't know why they can't just scroll on by and/or block you. The fact that they can't just do that says more about them than you.

Yes that's what happened.. Essentially didn't like something in my profile.. Chose to be abrasive and insulting.. Then block me... Like why.... "

Seems to be part of fab, always think just move on if you don't like me or my pictures.

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away


"Right to response? Where would it end?

If you were to respond to their abusive message have they a right to respond then to your message. As others have said just block and move on"

But that's the question... Why not allow the person ie me the right to respond. Why send an abusive abrasive message then block me... Is it control, a power thing, just belittle someone then control their right to respond to them...

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Right to response? Where would it end?

If you were to respond to their abusive message have they a right to respond then to your message. As others have said just block and move on

But that's the question... Why not allow the person ie me the right to respond. Why send an abusive abrasive message then block me... Is it control, a power thing, just belittle someone then control their right to respond to them... "

Why would you want to respond and feed their ego?

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Right to response? Where would it end?

If you were to respond to their abusive message have they a right to respond then to your message. As others have said just block and move on

But that's the question... Why not allow the person ie me the right to respond. Why send an abusive abrasive message then block me... Is it control, a power thing, just belittle someone then control their right to respond to them...

Why would you want to respond and feed their ego? "

You may be overthinking it. People who want to abuse you don't want to read your reply and they're probably quite chuffed at seeing how irritated you are about it.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin


"Right to response? Where would it end?

If you were to respond to their abusive message have they a right to respond then to your message. As others have said just block and move on

But that's the question... Why not allow the person ie me the right to respond. Why send an abusive abrasive message then block me... Is it control, a power thing, just belittle someone then control their right to respond to them...

Why would you want to respond and feed their ego? "

Or even worse, create a forum post about how annoyed you are by not being able to respond

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away


"This topic has been here on a numerous occasions, already - and even I have noticed, me, not forum regular

Anyway, in my opinion, blocking someone after a chat, no matter how brief or volatile it might have been is pretty low standard. And it says a lot about the 'blocker', more than weeks of chatting.

Personally, I believe that there's no need to slip into abuse or sulking while having introductory message exchange, as I believe that what it was? It is what it is, no matter how excited one might get over the profile photos, it's the mind behind the scene, which makes body hot. If, for some reason chat isn't going well, then 'No, thank you' is good enough answer. No need to block, I like to perv even though I know it's out of reach

Not sure if that makes sense?

"

We all love a perv don't we... Good points tho.

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away


"Of course people behave differently face to face and most wouldn't dare acting like this. However the online world differs from the offline one, so consequently behaviour can change. The possibility to hide behind the keyboard or a fake persona seems for some all they need to air their frustration and anger by attacking others.

As a receiver consider that it's coming from a stranger you've never met, who doesn't know you and you've no intention to ever meet him/her. So no point bothering too much about it.

If you like and seek dialogue and discussions there's plenty of lovely people out there worth spending your time with rather than feeding a sad troll.

Or check out the forum more often, loads of controversy to be had...

"

The keyboard warriors will always be there. I enjoy constructive dialogue however, a diatribe without ever even chatted to the person.. That's just trolling.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham


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Or even worse, create a forum post about how annoyed you are by not being able to respond"

This, i assumed it was a post about an admin decision with no right of appeal....

Ive always been a make love not war type so the idea of spending more than 3seconds wondering why... next please!

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away


"

Or even worse, create a forum post about how annoyed you are by not being able to respond

This, i assumed it was a post about an admin decision with no right of appeal....

Next please...

Ive always been a make love not war type so the idea of spending more than 3seconds wondering why... next please!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who send abusive first messages and then immediately block you aren't interested in dialogue. They're purely here to stir and feed their ego. Why on earth you'd want to feed their nonsense is beyond me. Let them run on and they'll eventually starve themselves of oxygen. If it's discourse you seek surely your time is better invested in those who actually want discussion?

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