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"The Oxford Dictionary description of cliques: 'a small close-knit group of people who do not readily allow others to join them' Cliques exist in all walks of life and they definately do exist on Fab in both the chatrooms and forums. Most probably due to how well people know each other due to locations, socials and such like. It shouldn't matter to anyone if they are 'members of the cliques' or not as we each paddle our own canoe's and Fab is not the most important thing in anyones lives....least it shouldn't be! Lol But bearing in mind that mental health is so very important now, it never hurts to acknowledge other people and, if not include them in conversations, even acknowlege their views and opinions at times especially if they are new as I know a lot are put off posting in the forum and chat room as they are ignored. Not everyone wants to be part of the so called 'cliques' but are still fab members. "Well said  | |||
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"I don't give them much thought really. Yes of course there are cliques on here,some are friendships that have developed over time,some are used as power play to those who believe they are 'fab royalty' and to try and ostracise others. Either way it most likely can feel quite unfriendly to new people on here but then everyone was new at some stage and the more you post especially on the forums the more people will get to know you and interact. But the forum's are only a tiny section of fab and most don't even look in here much less post. And like Phoenix said not everyone wants or needs to be in a clique,a lot just go on and enjoy their fab journey and chat to whoever they want without the pressure and hassle of the you can't talk to that person because we don't like them brigade. But as a grown adult I will make my own mind up about people and continue on my own journey and chat to whoever i want without the pressure from others,omg maybe I am my own little clique after all "Solo cliques- love it! Lol Likewise I am on my own journey and choose my chat friends | |||
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Irish swinger scene is rather small, so same bunch appears on socials and parties and obviously (get to) know each other and cluster. However a healthy cluster should be easy enough to join over a bit of time.
The acidic cliques/elements or anything that comes with drama, intrigues, lies, jealousy, power struggles etc. I'd avoid like the plague. They might come across glamourous and desirable at the first glance but are normally proper sad fucks.
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"Fab is no different to any other online platform. The abuse people give to virtual strangers is beyond me. Why does anyone actually give a crap how someone else lives their life or has whatever opinion. No one is asking you to be friends or interact with them. Why waste your time worrying or even thinking about it. Live your own life, make friends with the people you get good vibes from and just enjoy yourself " | |||
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"Fab is no different to any other online platform. The abuse people give to virtual strangers is beyond me. Why does anyone actually give a crap how someone else lives their life or has whatever opinion. No one is asking you to be friends or interact with them. Why waste your time worrying or even thinking about it. Live your own life, make friends with the people you get good vibes from and just enjoy yourself "100% | |||
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"I thunk with cliques there are usually two separate issues that get confused when it's discussed. Finding groups of people you are comfortable with is natural as tou can see from kids doing it in camps. That will lead to some bitchiness because some people are just dicks and could cause drama alone in a room. The other issues that I think people over estimate is the effect cliques ate having in their chances of meeting. There is no one over arching clique plotting your in going dry spell folks" When all is said and done, the main reason people complain about "cliques" on here is because they think (wrongly) that its the reason they may not be getting much traction. Otherwise why would you care? | |||
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"I thunk with cliques there are usually two separate issues that get confused when it's discussed. Finding groups of people you are comfortable with is natural as tou can see from kids doing it in camps. That will lead to some bitchiness because some people are just dicks and could cause drama alone in a room. The other issues that I think people over estimate is the effect cliques ate having in their chances of meeting. There is no one over arching clique plotting your in going dry spell folks When all is said and done, the main reason people complain about "cliques" on here is because they think (wrongly) that its the reason they may not be getting much traction. Otherwise why would you care?" Traction? Or action?  | |||
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"So as most of you probably already see or know that fab has it’s ``cliques’’ or groups etc. Some very bitchy against the other and the rest. Was just thinking when chatting a friend today she was giving out about cliques forming at her kids summer camps. We give out and tell our kids its wrong but us as adults do it. " I don't tell my children being part of a "clique" or being part of a group of friends who have certain interests in common is wrong! Why would I? 
What I do (try to) teach my children is to be inclusive, not to be nasty/aggressive with others and to know the line between a harmless tease/joke and bullying.
I try to teach my children to be able to show compassion and to include those who they may notice are being left out. And I certainly hope that my children don't actively prevent other children taking part in any activities they do - though my teen is autistic and the likelihood is they wouldn't notice or necessarily have the social skills and confidence to intervene.
My younger son, as the sibling of a child with special needs and gender identity issues, is very aware of minorities and how to behave accordingly (with understanding and compassion, rather than ignorance and rudeness), probably more so than many adults who "should" know better, never mind children...
We all have a tendency to have a draw towards certain people, be that in an online presence or in reality.
If you find people "bitchy", they're probably not someone you want to hang around with anyway...so in Fab terms on the forum, you're probably better off just ignoring them and concentrate on those who you may have common ground with. | |||
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"I don't give them much thought really. Yes of course there are cliques on here,some are friendships that have developed over time,some are used as power play to those who believe they are 'fab royalty' and to try and ostracise others. Either way it most likely can feel quite unfriendly to new people on here but then everyone was new at some stage and the more you post especially on the forums the more people will get to know you and interact. But the forum's are only a tiny section of fab and most don't even look in here much less post. And like Phoenix said not everyone wants or needs to be in a clique,a lot just go on and enjoy their fab journey and chat to whoever they want without the pressure and hassle of the you can't talk to that person because we don't like them brigade. But as a grown adult I will make my own mind up about people and continue on my own journey and chat to whoever i want without the pressure from others,omg maybe I am my own little clique after all "LIKEWISE I CREATED And joined my very own Clique And immediately made it exclusive. To this day I am still the soul member | |||
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"There's a phenomenon to cliques: only outsiders can see them.
Irish swinger scene is rather small, so same bunch appears on socials and parties and obviously (get to) know each other and cluster. However a healthy cluster should be easy enough to join over a bit of time.
The acidic cliques/elements or anything that comes with drama, intrigues, lies, jealousy, power struggles etc. I'd avoid like the plague. They might come across glamourous and desirable at the first glance but are normally proper sad fucks.
"Well said.... These type of groups should be code named " The Secret Sad Fucks Clique " So called because its own members don't even realise they are in it. | |||
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"I thunk with cliques there are usually two separate issues that get confused when it's discussed. Finding groups of people you are comfortable with is natural as tou can see from kids doing it in camps. That will lead to some bitchiness because some people are just dicks and could cause drama alone in a room. The other issues that I think people over estimate is the effect cliques ate having in their chances of meeting. There is no one over arching clique plotting your in going dry spell folks When all is said and done, the main reason people complain about "cliques" on here is because they think (wrongly) that its the reason they may not be getting much traction. Otherwise why would you care? Traction? Or action? "A little less conversation, a little more traction
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"So as most of you probably already see or know that fab has it’s ``cliques’’ or groups etc. Some very bitchy against the other and the rest. Was just thinking when chatting a friend today she was giving out about cliques forming at her kids summer camps. We give out and tell our kids its wrong but us as adults do it. I don't tell my children being part of a "clique" or being part of a group of friends who have certain interests in common is wrong! Why would I?
What I do (try to) teach my children is to be inclusive, not to be nasty/aggressive with others and to know the line between a harmless tease/joke and bullying.
I try to teach my children to be able to show compassion and to include those who they may notice are being left out. And I certainly hope that my children don't actively prevent other children taking part in any activities they do - though my teen is autistic and the likelihood is they wouldn't notice or necessarily have the social skills and confidence to intervene.
My younger son, as the sibling of a child with special needs and gender identity issues, is very aware of minorities and how to behave accordingly (with understanding and compassion, rather than ignorance and rudeness), probably more so than many adults who "should" know better, never mind children...
We all have a tendency to have a draw towards certain people, be that in an online presence or in reality.
If you find people "bitchy", they're probably not someone you want to hang around with anyway...so in Fab terms on the forum, you're probably better off just ignoring them and concentrate on those who you may have common ground with."My youngest is on the autistic spectrum. 15 years ago in primary school her teachers daughter who was in the same class was causing all sorts of issues with the other kids and her mum acted on everything she accused others of. I told my daughter to stay away from her and have nothing to do with her which was difficult in a school with less than 60 pupils. 3 weeks later my daughter was suspended for bullying by exclusion. A complaint was made about teaching practices and only resolved when the board of governors decided the issue didn't begin with my daughter. | |||
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" My youngest is on the autistic spectrum. 15 years ago in primary school her teachers daughter who was in the same class was causing all sorts of issues with the other kids and her mum acted on everything she accused others of. I told my daughter to stay away from her and have nothing to do with her which was difficult in a school with less than 60 pupils. 3 weeks later my daughter was suspended for bullying by exclusion. A complaint was made about teaching practices and only resolved when the board of governors decided the issue didn't begin with my daughter. " I'm sorry to hear that your daughter was treated unfairly! I would regard it as unfair to suspend someone who avoids a troublemaker. Primary school children do not necessarily have the social skills to deal with complicated situations effectively and need to be guided by staff and parents alike. I'm sure that someone who teaches and has a child in the same class, a position of power is easily abused. Teaching children with different needs in a mainstream school must be very difficult for teachers and staff, especially with the lack of appropriate education for teachers on the wide variety of needs which can present themselves - but with the prevalence of special needs I believe we need these children in mainstream schools to practically teach our youths tolerance, acceptance and compassion. We were lucky with our primary school teachers. Unfortunately secondary school is proving a lot more difficult with teachers themselves being blatantly discriminatory of ability/disability  . I dread the return to school - if I had my way is be homeschooling!
My teen has very strong views too with lots of OCD behaviours, typical of ASD - these can lead to them becoming very antisocial usually to the detriment of excluding themselves, because behaviour is perceived as rude (rather than highly anxious and insecure).
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" My youngest is on the autistic spectrum. 15 years ago in primary school her teachers daughter who was in the same class was causing all sorts of issues with the other kids and her mum acted on everything she accused others of. I told my daughter to stay away from her and have nothing to do with her which was difficult in a school with less than 60 pupils. 3 weeks later my daughter was suspended for bullying by exclusion. A complaint was made about teaching practices and only resolved when the board of governors decided the issue didn't begin with my daughter. I'm sorry to hear that your daughter was treated unfairly! I would regard it as unfair to suspend someone who avoids a troublemaker. Primary school children do not necessarily have the social skills to deal with complicated situations effectively and need to be guided by staff and parents alike. I'm sure that someone who teaches and has a child in the same class, a position of power is easily abused. Teaching children with different needs in a mainstream school must be very difficult for teachers and staff, especially with the lack of appropriate education for teachers on the wide variety of needs which can present themselves - but with the prevalence of special needs I believe we need these children in mainstream schools to practically teach our youths tolerance, acceptance and compassion. We were lucky with our primary school teachers. Unfortunately secondary school is proving a lot more difficult with teachers themselves being blatantly discriminatory of ability/disability . I dread the return to school - if I had my way is be homeschooling!
My teen has very strong views too with lots of OCD behaviours, typical of ASD - these can lead to them becoming very antisocial usually to the detriment of excluding themselves, because behaviour is perceived as rude (rather than highly anxious and insecure).
"I agree and while she continued to have issues in secondary school this particular incident was compounded by the fact that the teacher in question was a SENCO so all the more reason it should never have happened. | |||
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" My youngest is on the autistic spectrum. 15 years ago in primary school her teachers daughter who was in the same class was causing all sorts of issues with the other kids and her mum acted on everything she accused others of. I told my daughter to stay away from her and have nothing to do with her which was difficult in a school with less than 60 pupils. 3 weeks later my daughter was suspended for bullying by exclusion. A complaint was made about teaching practices and only resolved when the board of governors decided the issue didn't begin with my daughter. I'm sorry to hear that your daughter was treated unfairly! I would regard it as unfair to suspend someone who avoids a troublemaker. Primary school children do not necessarily have the social skills to deal with complicated situations effectively and need to be guided by staff and parents alike. I'm sure that someone who teaches and has a child in the same class, a position of power is easily abused. Teaching children with different needs in a mainstream school must be very difficult for teachers and staff, especially with the lack of appropriate education for teachers on the wide variety of needs which can present themselves - but with the prevalence of special needs I believe we need these children in mainstream schools to practically teach our youths tolerance, acceptance and compassion. We were lucky with our primary school teachers. Unfortunately secondary school is proving a lot more difficult with teachers themselves being blatantly discriminatory of ability/disability . I dread the return to school - if I had my way is be homeschooling!
My teen has very strong views too with lots of OCD behaviours, typical of ASD - these can lead to them becoming very antisocial usually to the detriment of excluding themselves, because behaviour is perceived as rude (rather than highly anxious and insecure).
I agree and while she continued to have issues in secondary school this particular incident was compounded by the fact that the teacher in question was a SENCO so all the more reason it should never have happened. "Crikey, most definitely not!!! | |||
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" I don't pay enough attention to others to notice or care. I do my own thing. " Well said | |||
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"I found myself being judged my entire life by association and it is not an enjoyable experience. People think they know you but they don't at all. I have practised to my best ability to not do the same so cliques don't bother me. I won't judge people who have and are entitled to have a clique if they want to. They are a natural part of life and it makes us a better person when we can accept that we are not for everybody. Besides, if I am not accepted into a clique then it is just the world telling that the company I currently enjoy is just right for me. When it turns into a bunch of people being nasty as a group to others or as individuals it is completely unacceptable in every circumstance. Have your friends and enjoy their company. If that involves upsetting somebody then I won't be clicking with the clique. All you need is love." Spot on. I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc | |||
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"Why does anyone give a shit about the cliques? You caring that they exist is not going to have any effect on them. On fab, more than any other place, the best advice is to do what keeps you happy, preferably without hurting others. " 100% this lifes too short for silly games, just be yourself, | |||
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"Why does anyone give a shit about the cliques? You caring that they exist is not going to have any effect on them. On fab, more than any other place, the best advice is to do what keeps you happy, preferably without hurting others. " Totally agree with this too. Life's too short | |||
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"Why does anyone give a shit about the cliques? You caring that they exist is not going to have any effect on them. On fab, more than any other place, the best advice is to do what keeps you happy, preferably without hurting others. 100% this lifes too short for silly games, just be yourself, "Perfectly said divine | |||
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"I found myself being judged my entire life by association and it is not an enjoyable experience. People think they know you but they don't at all. I have practised to my best ability to not do the same so cliques don't bother me. I won't judge people who have and are entitled to have a clique if they want to. They are a natural part of life and it makes us a better person when we can accept that we are not for everybody. Besides, if I am not accepted into a clique then it is just the world telling that the company I currently enjoy is just right for me. When it turns into a bunch of people being nasty as a group to others or as individuals it is completely unacceptable in every circumstance. Have your friends and enjoy their company. If that involves upsetting somebody then I won't be clicking with the clique. All you need is love. Spot on. I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc "These people are more to be pitied than laughed at really, it's only deep unhappiness within themselves that leads to such behaviour. | |||
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"I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc "This is a big part of why we don't generally join these chat groups. Nasty peoole chatting shit about other peoole behind their backs. Gross. | |||
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"I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc
This is a big part of why we don't generally join these chat groups. Nasty peoole chatting shit about other peoole behind their backs. Gross."Absolutely, our one foray into a group taught us that | |||
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"I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc
This is a big part of why we don't generally join these chat groups. Nasty peoole chatting shit about other peoole behind their backs. Gross."Same here. | |||
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"I found myself being judged my entire life by association and it is not an enjoyable experience. People think they know you but they don't at all. I have practised to my best ability to not do the same so cliques don't bother me. I won't judge people who have and are entitled to have a clique if they want to. They are a natural part of life and it makes us a better person when we can accept that we are not for everybody. Besides, if I am not accepted into a clique then it is just the world telling that the company I currently enjoy is just right for me. When it turns into a bunch of people being nasty as a group to others or as individuals it is completely unacceptable in every circumstance. Have your friends and enjoy their company. If that involves upsetting somebody then I won't be clicking with the clique. All you need is love. Spot on. I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc
These people are more to be pitied than laughed at really, it's only deep unhappiness within themselves that leads to such behaviour. "I often wonder if some of the forumites with recent veries knew the full extent of what their new friends were saying about them not so very long ago if they would still be so effusive in their praise? | |||
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"I found myself being judged my entire life by association and it is not an enjoyable experience. People think they know you but they don't at all. I have practised to my best ability to not do the same so cliques don't bother me. I won't judge people who have and are entitled to have a clique if they want to. They are a natural part of life and it makes us a better person when we can accept that we are not for everybody. Besides, if I am not accepted into a clique then it is just the world telling that the company I currently enjoy is just right for me. When it turns into a bunch of people being nasty as a group to others or as individuals it is completely unacceptable in every circumstance. Have your friends and enjoy their company. If that involves upsetting somebody then I won't be clicking with the clique. All you need is love. Spot on. I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc
These people are more to be pitied than laughed at really, it's only deep unhappiness within themselves that leads to such behaviour.
I often wonder if some of the forumites with recent veries knew the full extent of what their new friends were saying about them not so very long ago if they would still be so effusive in their praise?"Not my circus, not my monkeys | |||
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"I found myself being judged my entire life by association and it is not an enjoyable experience. People think they know you but they don't at all. I have practised to my best ability to not do the same so cliques don't bother me. I won't judge people who have and are entitled to have a clique if they want to. They are a natural part of life and it makes us a better person when we can accept that we are not for everybody. Besides, if I am not accepted into a clique then it is just the world telling that the company I currently enjoy is just right for me. When it turns into a bunch of people being nasty as a group to others or as individuals it is completely unacceptable in every circumstance. Have your friends and enjoy their company. If that involves upsetting somebody then I won't be clicking with the clique. All you need is love. Spot on. I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc
These people are more to be pitied than laughed at really, it's only deep unhappiness within themselves that leads to such behaviour.
I often wonder if some of the forumites with recent veries knew the full extent of what their new friends were saying about them not so very long ago if they would still be so effusive in their praise?"That's just schoolyard level bullshit IMO | |||
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"Is there like a news letter or a daily email that I can subscribe to, to see who is saying what about who where and when. I'm far too self obsessed to keep track of it all" Do you want the FauxNews or the CUNT version? | |||
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"Is there like a news letter or a daily email that I can subscribe to, to see who is saying what about who where and when. I'm far too self obsessed to keep track of it all" You know all those forum lurkers who are afraid to post publicly? They're not afraid to message privately with unsolicited updates. Hans Christian Andersen would be very jealous. | |||
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"I found myself being judged my entire life by association and it is not an enjoyable experience. People think they know you but they don't at all. I have practised to my best ability to not do the same so cliques don't bother me. I won't judge people who have and are entitled to have a clique if they want to. They are a natural part of life and it makes us a better person when we can accept that we are not for everybody. Besides, if I am not accepted into a clique then it is just the world telling that the company I currently enjoy is just right for me. When it turns into a bunch of people being nasty as a group to others or as individuals it is completely unacceptable in every circumstance. Have your friends and enjoy their company. If that involves upsetting somebody then I won't be clicking with the clique. All you need is love. Spot on. I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc
These people are more to be pitied than laughed at really, it's only deep unhappiness within themselves that leads to such behaviour.
I often wonder if some of the forumites with recent veries knew the full extent of what their new friends were saying about them not so very long ago if they would still be so effusive in their praise?"its a sure fact that someone who talks about others unkindly will undoubtedly be talking about you too  | |||
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"I found myself being judged my entire life by association and it is not an enjoyable experience. People think they know you but they don't at all. I have practised to my best ability to not do the same so cliques don't bother me. I won't judge people who have and are entitled to have a clique if they want to. They are a natural part of life and it makes us a better person when we can accept that we are not for everybody. Besides, if I am not accepted into a clique then it is just the world telling that the company I currently enjoy is just right for me. When it turns into a bunch of people being nasty as a group to others or as individuals it is completely unacceptable in every circumstance. Have your friends and enjoy their company. If that involves upsetting somebody then I won't be clicking with the clique. All you need is love. Spot on. I found myself and a friend being the topic of discussion in private groups a while ago and it was nasty bitchy stuff. But like everything in life you just need to ride out the storm, especially when it's a small storm caused by small minded people. And we had a great laugh at the two sided personas of some people in the group. All woe is me and innocent as pie in the forum's and evil and nasty in the groups. And I still laugh when I see the same people posting in the forum's etc
These people are more to be pitied than laughed at really, it's only deep unhappiness within themselves that leads to such behaviour.
I often wonder if some of the forumites with recent veries knew the full extent of what their new friends were saying about them not so very long ago if they would still be so effusive in their praise?
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"Can I, as a member of the Elite Phoenix Clique (elite as only 1 member - Moi lol) comment on the amount of hot guys who have commented on this post! "I second that.. | |||
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"Can I, as a member of the Elite Phoenix Clique (elite as only 1 member - Moi lol) comment on the amount of hot guys who have commented on this post! "You're welcome | |||
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"Can I ask, do these cliques exist mainly on the forum or in group chats on other platforms? Born in the forums and given oxygen on other platforms" I hope they speak of me softly…..  | |||
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"Can I, as a member of the Elite Phoenix Clique (elite as only 1 member - Moi lol) comment on the amount of hot guys who have commented on this post! I second that.."It’s a clique…….  | |||
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"Can I ask, do these cliques exist mainly on the forum or in group chats on other platforms? Born in the forums and given oxygen on other platforms I hope they speak of me softly….. "If you want me to whisper softly in your ear just ask | |||
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"Can I ask, do these cliques exist mainly on the forum or in group chats on other platforms? Born in the forums and given oxygen on other platforms I hope they speak of me softly….. "Rather than how hard you are Okaaayyy  | |||
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"Can I, as a member of the Elite Phoenix Clique (elite as only 1 member - Moi lol) comment on the amount of hot guys who have commented on this post! I second that..
It’s a clique……. "Damn it.....  | |||
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"Can I ask, do these cliques exist mainly on the forum or in group chats on other platforms? Born in the forums and given oxygen on other platforms I hope they speak of me softly…..
If you want me to whisper softly in your ear just ask "“Linden” she whispered, “I paid good money for that Tom Hardy mask now put it back on ya little fucker”…… | |||
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"Can I ask, do these cliques exist mainly on the forum or in group chats on other platforms? Born in the forums and given oxygen on other platforms I hope they speak of me softly…..
Rather than how hard you are Okaaayyy "Hard to look at or hard to listen to? I’ve been told both…..
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It’s a clique…….
Damn it.....
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"So as most of you probably already see or know that fab has it’s ``cliques’’ or groups etc. Some very bitchy against the other and the rest. Was just thinking when chatting a friend today she was giving out about cliques forming at her kids summer camps. We give out and tell our kids its wrong but us as adults do it. I don't tell my children being part of a "clique" or being part of a group of friends who have certain interests in common is wrong! Why would I?
What I do (try to) teach my children is to be inclusive, not to be nasty/aggressive with others and to know the line between a harmless tease/joke and bullying.
I try to teach my children to be able to show compassion and to include those who they may notice are being left out. And I certainly hope that my children don't actively prevent other children taking part in any activities they do - though my teen is autistic and the likelihood is they wouldn't notice or necessarily have the social skills and confidence to intervene.
My younger son, as the sibling of a child with special needs and gender identity issues, is very aware of minorities and how to behave accordingly (with understanding and compassion, rather than ignorance and rudeness), probably more so than many adults who "should" know better, never mind children...
We all have a tendency to have a draw towards certain people, be that in an online presence or in reality.
If you find people "bitchy", they're probably not someone you want to hang around with anyway...so in Fab terms on the forum, you're probably better off just ignoring them and concentrate on those who you may have common ground with." well said | |||
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It’s a clique…….
Damn it.....
I know, I couldn’t get into that one either, bastards…. "You obviously didnt show them your pics | |||
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