FabSwingers.com forum: Coming across someone on fabswingers that you know?

By *inag101 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Galway

Have any of you guys come across people on here that you actually know? Fabswingers is growing by the day and I think its bound to happen? Was it awkward? Or worked out better than you thought?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have.It is only awkward if you make it awkward. If you both respect each others privacy it really should not be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've came across two people from fab I know in my local supermarket just winked and walked on..

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

"I've came across two people from fab I know in my local supermarket just winked and walked on.. "

Winked on fab or like physically winked at the time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've came across two people from fab I know in my local supermarket just winked and walked on..

Winked on fab or like physically winked at the time?"

We just winked physically at each other as I had one of my kids with me, ...

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By *m_impact_playMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Have any of you guys come across people on here that you actually know? Fabswingers is growing by the day and I think its bound to happen? Was it awkward? Or worked out better than you thought?

It hasn't happened yet, but I would be more concerned if it would happen in a work environment.

I would personally say nothing either way, public place or office.

Circumstances change and a lot of people also left Fab or used it as a dating site or for parties and not as a life style, not that is anybody's business of my or their private lifestyle.

Some people's jobs can be put at serious risk if word gets around about their sexual behaviour and I don't mean, outrageous behaviour at all!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"I've came across two people from fab I know in my local supermarket just winked and walked on..

Winked on fab or like physically winked at the time?

We just winked physically at each other as I had one of my kids with me, ... "

I wouldn't even wink. You never know their circumstances. You might have been walking towards your unknowing hubby and he clocked the wink or something. Just walk on by, and if you have to then you can message later and say hi.

I spotted a female employee here, and have also seen folk I recognise in shops and restaurants. Never been talked about and never been an issue.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

A couple of weeks ago a female fabber came down a set of stairs in work and didnt recogise me for a second

When she realised who I was we said hello, hugged then moved on....it doesn't have to be a big deal if you have met at socials or had a coffee

If I saw someone off fab that I'd never had an interaction with Id say nothing and move on with my business and leave them to it

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Yeah I guess on reflection in a 1 on 1 non-public situation with someone i had met in person I would say hi as I can't imagine causing anyone any issues for anyone there.

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Yes lots of times, or I've had people come into the store I worked at and used my fab name, no clue who they were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of weeks ago a female fabber came down a set of stairs in work and didnt recogise me for a second

When she realised who I was we said hello, hugged then moved on....it doesn't have to be a big deal if you have met at socials or had a coffee

If I saw someone off fab that I'd never had an interaction with Id say nothing and move on with my business and leave them to it "

That's it bog i know this guy years a good fab friend as I had my child with me we didn't make a big issue out of it, all adults

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Yes lots of times, or I've had people come into the store I worked at and used my fab name, no clue who they were"

Always thought you were the keeper of secrets in that job

I remember placing an order over the phone with you giving my real name and credit card details and you sending the gift to a fabber and me not knowing her real name or address

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I haven't come across anyone I know if I did I'd just ignore and move on. Everyone deserves their privacy.

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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I have a few times. They're on the site for the same reason.

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Scarlett recognised a couple of lads from a local sports group they were all in together. She also recognised a couple from other sporting class. Nothing was said and we just blocked after we realised it. They have never said anything or acted any differently.

We were recognised by a friend of Scarlett’s that she has know a decade. Was acknowledged and laughed about but then moved on.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

On a previous profile I recognised someone who worked for me so I blocked him.

Most people would be respectful and discreet but some like to make a drama out of it even when they claim otherwise.

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By *o hassleMan
over a year ago

moira

"Yes I have.It is only awkward if you make it awkward. If you both respect each others privacy it really should not be a problem. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you mean by coming across people you knew I did twice for a meet both ended up look know each other personally both on here let’s skip crap have fun (still both on here and still know each other and in contact ) but did meet another was with a bit was working my way was going village walked by him and a workmate had one my kids with me was just a hi on passing then a text off him after saying didn’t know say hi I said ah yea all good

That’s what discretion should be not stalking outside your house I’ve had that on few occasions

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By *ork fellaMan
over a year ago

Macroom

Yeah have a few people I know locally on here. Great people no issues.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

I don't think it would be a problem; discreet adults know how to keep their mouths shut and respect other's private activities

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By *olouWoman
over a year ago

Swords

"A couple of weeks ago a female fabber came down a set of stairs in work and didnt recogise me for a second

When she realised who I was we said hello, hugged then moved on....it doesn't have to be a big deal if you have met at socials or had a coffee

If I saw someone off fab that I'd never had an interaction with Id say nothing and move on with my business and leave them to it "

That was a scream Bogman, best surprise of the night lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done , I don't see the big deal. I respect their position and privacy and hope its returned if not I deal with it in a way that works for me

Maturity and appreciation go a long way ...

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Yup came across a few I knew one seen me on cam and private messaged me lol he is lovely and his gf and came across a fella I went to school with primary and secondary school he near had a canary as I know he's lottering around all sites and he's got a gf who I actually know her sister very well! Ohhh yeah and came across my old friend of 20+ years and her married fwbs! I've no issues but they may have...who knows...

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By *neniceguy1Man
over a year ago

Mullingar

"Have any of you guys come across people on here that you actually know? Fabswingers is growing by the day and I think its bound to happen? Was it awkward? Or worked out better than you thought?

Yes, I found out I was going to meet a lady I worked with every day. Her husband had arranged the meet. As soon as I had realised, I called the meet off in order to avoid an embarrassment.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"I don't think it would be a problem; discreet adults know how to keep their mouths shut and respect other's private activities"

You'd think so wouldn't you. Not lways the case though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not chatting but seen older couple in here from there pics i knw who they see them around were i live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup we've recognized a few people from cropped pics they also have on Instagram. Always wonder if they know it's us in return

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By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath

Ive came accross few people i know but its only a big deal if you make it a big deal we are all here for our own reasons and having fun at the end day just got to respect people

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By *hilaboutMan
over a year ago

kilkenny

Yes got a face pic from a mum I meet everyday at school gate just let the messaging dwindle away never told her ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a guy in real but we share so many kinks together. .he wants to neet he diesnt know we are connected in real life should I do it or stay clear

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By *umqueen2022Woman
over a year ago

inish

Have came across soke that I am probably too close with but as long as there is mutual respect and discretion then its OK.

Everyone is here for the same reason so no need to feel embarrassed!

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By *ohn400Man
over a year ago

Dublin or anywhere

the only time i went to a swing club in Dublin i met a girl i had known for years in my local pub /

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen someone I I knew and lived close too on here and got talking and met up and it was a disaster….never again

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I know a guy in real but we share so many kinks together. .he wants to neet he diesnt know we are connected in real life should I do it or stay clear "

Why not tell him that you know him and ask him does he know you

He might have also recognised you

Can you afford to lose the friendship if it doesn't work out

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We've recognised a few on here but just blocked and moved on, not sure if we've ever been recognised though

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By *neniceguy1Man
over a year ago

Mullingar

"Ive came accross few people i know but its only a big deal if you make it a big deal we are all here for our own reasons and having fun at the end day just got to respect people

Totally agree

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By *ysticalWoman
over a year ago

north wexford

Yes I know people in real life on here.we friends here and in real life and just keep our life's here secret

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By *umqueen2022Woman
over a year ago

inish

It only gets very awkward when you come across an uncle lol

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By *nythingsoloCouple
over a year ago

Sexy town

Came across my cousin at a party a few years ago she was strapped to a cross at the time. We still get a good laugh out of it

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By *asual_eyesMan
over a year ago

Sallins/Naas

I wouldn't say anything. I have seen a few people in my area who are on Fab, did my best to not even give them a second look. We hadn't meet before so they deserve privacy.

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

We’ve seen ALOT of people we know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With derry being a small city I have come across a few people I know including my aunts fiancé on here. Have met up with some and had fun, others I politely declined and moved on and nothing said if/when we seen each other

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Seen a few I know … kept it to myself … discretion is part of this lifestyle… right …??

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

There are two couples from our small rural town on here who have public face pics on their profiles.

Also a married man in his sixties who has a single profile claiming to be mid 40s using an old face pic as his public pic, what's worse is he is a friend of the family lol

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By *neniceguy1Man
over a year ago

Mullingar

"Seen a few I know … kept it to myself … discretion is part of this lifestyle… right …??"

Exactly, discretion is key. I think the one or two newspapers that latched on to it as something shocking in the past certainly hasn't helped. Wake up Ireland, swing as a lifestyle is here to stay. We've done so well as a nation in nearly everything else. Let's not be prudes now.

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By *ummer_XOWoman
over a year ago

Tyrone

"Yes I have.It is only awkward if you make it awkward. If you both respect each others privacy it really should not be a problem. "

this

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Yes more than once , one I even came on her tits

Si xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recognized my neighbour. His girlfriend (who I would consider a friend) was heavily pregnant at the time.

I’m finding a lot of people message me pretending to recognize me. I don’t care to be honest.

One guy I do know in real life did know me, but it’s cool. It’s nice to have someone to message and talk about the madness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, yes, no, and no

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By *eise68Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Happened to me on a social event years ago . New to socials one couple generously offered to meet me at a bar before the event . When we met the MR of the couple and I instantly recognised me as a friend. We said hey been a while . Then went over to the event . Had a great catchup few drinks .

Never mentioned it to any of our mutual friends .

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

Isnt aproblem if people can be discreet.....unfortunately we all know the approach in ireland.

Its the main reason i dont do club events.....and yes i realise i am missing out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of our neighbours is one here with a facepic up, I just blocked him when I came across the profile. None of my business what he's doing and our activities are none of his.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually rub my thighs really fast and shout Giggidy Giggidy. Would be rude not to

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By *eardedvillainMan
over a year ago

Bangor N.Ireland

I re joined a month ago and back to the dreaded nobody speaks to a newbie situation lol. But I sent a wee message to someone and she came back saying she knew me and with a very stern No haha. So yes I have I just don't know it

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By *acob12369Man
over a year ago

URPANTS

Happened to me. We got it on a week later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

brilliant thread

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By *ercc63Man
over a year ago

Hillsborough

Had been chatting to a wife arranging a couple meet - the she said hubby recognised me - so all off !!

Another lady she would love to meet but she knew me and blocked !!

lol

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By *nwrap4funMan
over a year ago

Ireland

Ireland is such a small place that your bound to meet someone you know or someone who knows someone that you know at some stage. Happened to me a few times. Luckily most people are respectful and discreet (and there is the mutual let's avoid this situation) but there is always the odd balls who are out to make trouble. TBH, for work reasons that's the main reason I avoid socials in Ireland now.

It's often hard to find trusting like minded people

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

Not an experience I've had directly, but I remember one incident very well - I was hosting a small party and one of the single blokes (whom I happened to know was a police officer) copped off with a rather gorgeous young woman. About ten minutes after taking her upstairs he returned, looking very embarrassed - it had turned out that the woman was the wife of his commanding officer, and the effect of finding that out was like instant anti-viagra for him.

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

Has happened to me..girl I know through work messaged me not knowing who I was out of fairness I told her we met for lunch following week she brought me a butt plug(as u do) and we had a right laugh

Potentially awkward one bumped into a married guy I know from my town and he nearly died..I just approached him said dunno bout u but I'm at a friends birthday tonight hope u had a,great time wherever u were..out if respect for his wife who I know (albeit not well) we both agreed playing would b inappropriate and I have bumped into him at other events and in my town and chatted with his wife about the weather but at the end of the day his marriage is none of my business and he knows I'll never tell a soul

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

"Has happened to me..girl I know through work messaged me not knowing who I was out of fairness I told her we met for lunch following week she brought me a butt plug(as u do) and we had a right laugh

Meant to say bumped into him at a private fab party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few time. Most are ok and we agree to block one another to avoid it being weird. One knew Dee from around the town and got super creepy and demanding. Quickly blocked

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By *imonlebangMan
over a year ago

Casa Lebang Bang

I have ..but no drama we are all here for the same leisure and pleasure.

But ....if someone weaponises your familiarity to use it against you or someone else to "out " them ...well that's just a sinister and bogus act

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By *tslife222Man
over a year ago

by the sea louth

I met a couple at an event last month, who work in the same industry and are a client of mine. And I’d consider them both friends

Had a good laugh about it, nothing too serious.

Neither of us would bring it up in real life.

Respect and discretion for one’s lifestyle choices are of paramount importance.

And actually nobody else’s business anyway.

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By *ercc63Man
over a year ago

Hillsborough

Have seen other "naughty boys" that I know and regularly chat to outside Fab

Would never bring up subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone I worked with at a fet party once, it was a little awkward at first as I was thier boss and try to keep those two lives separate it's kinda something you have to be prepared for in Ireland...sure it's only a wee Island

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brother

turns out he'd uploaded a few new pics one night and mistakenly made a new face pic public without realising, I took a screen shot and messaged him on messenger, told him a close friend of mine who knows our family is on here and spotted it and gave me the heads up with the screen shot.

The photo and the profile soon disappeared. He was well verified too so got about the dirty dog lol.

Both here were in complete shock, we still laugh about it. And he's not brought it up once since I messaged him so no harm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My brother

The photo and the profile soon disappeared. He was well verified too so got about the dirty dog lol.

Both here were in complete shock, we still laugh about it. And he's not brought it up once since I messaged him so no harm done.

A. "

OMG!!!!

Hard to ever forget that!

How was the next family get together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened me , but to be fair my mam is very open minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happened me , but to be fair my mam is very open minded

Thank christ she is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My brother

The photo and the profile soon disappeared. He was well verified too so got about the dirty dog lol.

Both here were in complete shock, we still laugh about it. And he's not brought it up once since I messaged him so no harm done.

A. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My brother

omg!

The photo and the profile soon disappeared. He was well verified too so got about the dirty dog lol.

Both here were in complete shock, we still laugh about it. And he's not brought it up once since I messaged him so no harm done.

A. "

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By *o hassleMan
over a year ago

moira

Totally agree

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Not happen yet but if it does I'll respect their privacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met someone in Mullingar recently.

There was a bit of an awkward moment til

I told her I only recognised her from her ass. Lol

We had a laugh about it and went about or business.

No spark between us but we still chat on here and stay updated on the specials in the shop we were in

I don't see the issue of meeting another fabber somewhere. It's a lifestyle choice that we make and it doesn't harm anyone so why would it be akward to BP into another fabber?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met someone in Mullingar recently.

There was a bit of an awkward moment til

I told her I only recognised her from her ass. Lol"

I'm curious how you recognised her ass.....lol

I chatted with a guy last year who said they recognised me and whilst he looked a bit familiar I couldn't place him. I just said: I'm single and returning to dating so no harm being done, if he spots me about say hi, and that was that

All very mature and respectful.

It's the risk of people putting a grubby spin on private things for their own entertainment or twisted game. Having a sex life is still a dirty thing to so many. And how very dare you to be seeking what pleases you when others make do with birthdays and Christmas with the lights off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met someone in Mullingar recently.

There was a bit of an awkward moment til

I told her I only recognised her from her ass. Lol

I'm curious how you recognised her ass.....lol

All very mature and respectful.

The ass comment was just to break the ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ass comment was just to break the ice

Ahhhhh.... makes more sense than my notion of her being bent over picking up an upsidedown pineapple off the shop floor and a lightbulb going off over your head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ass comment was just to break the ice

Ahhhhh.... makes more sense than my notion of her being bent over picking up an upsidedown pineapple off the shop floor and a lightbulb going off over your head

To be fair there are plenty off recognisable asses one here (both kinds of ass)

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By *otnchillCouple
over a year ago

coleraine

Stayed in Belfast Hotel one Saturday evening. After a few drinks we put a meet up and had a few offers. So I picked one guy who lived in Belfast and thought he would be a stranger.

Arranged to meet at the bar.

I told him were would be sitting and what I was wearing. By then I was so excited of the thought of playing When he walked in and came to were we where we both had that shocked and embarrassed look. It was a guy we knew from home that had moved to the city a few years ago.

He sat down and we had that awkward chat. We agreed it was nsa fun.

He spent the night and stayed for breakfast,

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