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By *ree051970 OP   Woman
over a year ago

greystones

Hi everyone,

i'm queen bee...

i'm new to the fab world, i just have to vent this topic that has really peed me off...

After chatting with some guys on fab, i agree to meet for a social coffee or drink, to see if we hit it off...

Don't get me wrong i have met some realy great guys on fab.

But in the short time i've been here i have traveled somtimes far to meet guys for a social meet and they were a no show. They would be texting you untill you arrive to your meeting point, then nothing!!!. I'm of the understanding that we are all here to meet people and have fun. Time waisters rune being on a site like this for everyone. I'm sure it happens with the females to the guys aswell. Sorry it's happened to me three times now. And it's put me off meeting all the really genuine men on here for the fear of being stood up. I just felt i needed to share this with you all. Miss T

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By *ceOfDiamondsMan
over a year ago

Cork/Limerick/Tipperary

Sadly you are too right Miss T... This (thankfully) minority of time wasters really do try their best to take the fun and enjoyment out of the Fab experience...unfortunately it's the nature of the swing world and it is not going to change anytime soon...I'm sorry that you had those bad experiences Miss T...it really does make it more difficult for the decent genuine people on here...all we can do is tighten our filters...and ramp up our vetting protocol before we travel for a proposed meet...Still and all I'm very sure that the good experiences will far outweigh the bad ones... I hope this will be the case for you Miss T

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I prefer to chat for a while before arranging any meet and I don't travel long distances or expect anyone else to.

It may not suit everyone but I've never had a no show in more than 5 years here and I've never been one either.

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Well it's a sad state of affairs when guys no show for women, it has happened with me with women no showing but in all the years I'm in the swing scene I think it's only happened twice or 3 times. I've never not shown even if it's just a coffee or social meet up.

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By *oulernerMan
over a year ago

Dublin City

I've been on the receiving end of this as well, so I've set some ground rules for myself that have since prevented me from experiencing it again.

- Never agree to meet someone on the same day that you started first communicating. Probably best to not even make concrete plans on that day.

- Send pictures back and forth first, bonus points for video chats and/or "verification" pictures where a previously agreed upon text is written visibly and held next to their face.

That with a healthy dose of scepticism and common sense should generally help a lot to out the people that would probably be a no-show, too flaky or too uncaring about other people's time.

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By *ree051970 OP   Woman
over a year ago

greystones

They definitely have outweighted the bad ones. Your absolutely right in what you say and thank you for your reply...

I need to protect myself and stop being so trusting at first.

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By *ree051970 OP   Woman
over a year ago

greystones

Yes i think thats the way to go..

I'm glad it's alays worked out for you when meeting fellow fabbers. Thank you for you're reply.

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny


"They definitely have outweighted the bad ones. Your absolutely right in what you say and thank you for your reply...

I need to protect myself and stop being so trusting at first. "

I usual will travel for a coffee meet takes the pressure off the woman for travelling.

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By *ree051970 OP   Woman
over a year ago

greystones

I will take all you're information on board thank you for sharing. Miss T

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By *ree051970 OP   Woman
over a year ago

greystones

I know it happens and will keep hapening...

I have learned alot from you're helpfull comments. Thank you. Miss T

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


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I usual will travel for a coffee meet takes the pressure off the woman for travelling. "

I wouldn't agree to that if I was meeting someone new, mainly because it can lead to more expectations from the person who travelled that they deserve something sexual because they made the effort. It happened to me before that a guy travelled 10 mins for a social (I had actually travelled 20 mins but he didn't know that as I had picked the town ) he thought he deserved a bj as he has made the effort to show up.Ye,he got a goodbye that was it.

But I will always travel to meet someone halfway at least I don't think anyone should be expected to do more than the other person especially for a first meet.

Op I don't know if there is a fail safe solution to no shows or those who aren't what they say they are on here. I've been lucky I've never had a no show but I have met a small handful who weren't what they claimed to be on their profile like age etc. I chat for a good bit before I meet anyone though and I found that helps but that doesn't suit everyone to do that. I also don't do sex talk or exchanging any more pics than what is on my profile I find that gets rid of those who are on when horny and just want wank chat.

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny


"

I usual will travel for a coffee meet takes the pressure off the woman for travelling.

I wouldn't agree to that if I was meeting someone new, mainly because it can lead to more expectations from the person who travelled that they deserve something sexual because they made the effort. It happened to me before that a guy travelled 10 mins for a social (I had actually travelled 20 mins but he didn't know that as I had picked the town ) he thought he deserved a bj as he has made the effort to show up.Ye,he got a goodbye that was it.

But I will always travel to meet someone halfway at least I don't think anyone should be expected to do more than the other person especially for a first meet.

Op I don't know if there is a fail safe solution to no shows or those who aren't what they say they are on here. I've been lucky I've never had a no show but I have met a small handful who weren't what they claimed to be on their profile like age etc. I chat for a good bit before I meet anyone though and I found that helps but that doesn't suit everyone to do that. I also don't do sex talk or exchanging any more pics than what is on my profile I find that gets rid of those who are on when horny and just want wank chat."

If I'm meeting for coffee or a social meet up nothing is excepted except a coffee and conversation

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"

If I'm meeting for coffee or a social meet up nothing is excepted except a coffee and conversation"

Sadly not everyone thinks the same as you though Scotty. There are plenty who think because they meet off here they deserve more. Hence why I said that I personally won't allow the other person to do most of the traveling.Plus I also don't think it's fair if the other person has to make all the effort just to meet me. But yet again that's just the way I do fab.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"

I usual will travel for a coffee meet takes the pressure off the woman for travelling.

I wouldn't agree to that if I was meeting someone new, mainly because it can lead to more expectations from the person who travelled that they deserve something sexual because they made the effort. It happened to me before that a guy travelled 10 mins for a social (I had actually travelled 20 mins but he didn't know that as I had picked the town ) he thought he deserved a bj as he has made the effort to show up.Ye,he got a goodbye that was it.

But I will always travel to meet someone halfway at least I don't think anyone should be expected to do more than the other person especially for a first meet.

Op I don't know if there is a fail safe solution to no shows or those who aren't what they say they are on here. I've been lucky I've never had a no show but I have met a small handful who weren't what they claimed to be on their profile like age etc. I chat for a good bit before I meet anyone though and I found that helps but that doesn't suit everyone to do that. I also don't do sex talk or exchanging any more pics than what is on my profile I find that gets rid of those who are on when horny and just want wank chat.

If I'm meeting for coffee or a social meet up nothing is excepted except a coffee and conversation"

The whole distance travelled and expectation thing has been discussed before and it works both ways.

I've driven 3 hours for a social and that has caused all sorts of drama because the expectation then was that I'd done it once so there was nothing stopping me from doing it again.

Or that because I'd spent a few hours getting there they assumed I would be happy to have sex with them to make the journey worthwhile even when there was no attraction on my part.

I make it very clear that I only do social meets initially and yet a few women and couples have suggested they would travel and book an hotel and therefore we would have a room to go to immediately after the coffee meet.

Everyone has their own approach but making assumptions like that before meeting is enough to put me off chatting completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are messers everywhere these days unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you had to put up with that type of rudeness. Some good advice given above. Hope that helps to make sure you don't have similar experiences in the future.

In the meantime Happy Swinging

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

That's not catfishing. Catfishing is when you're deliberately pretending to be something you aren't (often a guy pretending to be a girl) in order to get someone to be sexual with you.

You had a no-show. It happens to guys and girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well first of all don't take it personally people are flaky as fuck here but it's the sound hot decent ones that make it worth staying. To avoid the picture collectors and the people just here to have a wank and not meet I don't send photos or sext. That usually sees them disappear pretty soon if they are getting nothing. I stick to well verified people and friends of friends. I don't book the hotels for meets anymore I was very naive starting off on Fab and had too many no shows. I only give them one chance as well if they flake once than that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I can identify I had a no show just recently he was supposed to show up at a social event and I get a message late that night saying "I didn't make it after all" lol. Amusing I thought not even a proper attempt to make an excuse really or just be a man and message to sat can't make it for whatever reason. That's the issue here though most are just boys rather than men it's just a matter of poking out the good guys. I didn't mind seeing as it was a busy event and I was going alone anyway with my big girl knickers on lol but if it was a one on one I would have been abit more bothered by it . Anyway he's down as a no show not with the event organisers aswell. Try not let it get to you to much I know easier said than done but maybe chat for a longer stint of time before meeting next time as this is what happened with me I was only chatting to that "boy" for about a week or so but he was well verified so the block button does come in handy. I wish you all the best going forwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had it three times for coffee meets. One actually recently contacted us again and was told no and why it was a no. Had no recollection. One of them deleted their profile and came back a week or two later. It happens and it's a pain in the hole but there's no sure fire method to avoid it unfortunately.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Oh my what a lovely bottom

To think fools decided to gost it is beyond comprenhension

Maybe reset ur sights and chat a little more and only travd half way at least then you will get comimitment once you are on the road make a call to see that at least they are in the car on the same road

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would also say that if you are chatting and they add you to kik and the first thing they ask for is naughty pics that to me is a major red flag. They are after a bit of wank fodder. Also if they fob you off about getting a social another red flag. From experience there's people here with zero interest in meeting because they are either attached using fake photos etc so it's so time consuming ing them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would also say that if you are chatting and they add you to kik and the first thing they ask for is naughty pics that to me is a major red flag. They are after a bit of wank fodder. Also if they fob you off about getting a social another red flag. From experience there's people here with zero interest in meeting because they are either attached using fake photos etc so it's so time consuming ing them out. "

All excellent advice, including your first post. This is what we do also, have never had a social meet not turn up.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Op ...whatever about one on one coffee meets you might like to try the group social coffee meets

It just means you won't travel somewhere and end on your own as others will be there

Look out for them on the forums

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By *m_impact_playMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"That's not catfishing. Catfishing is when you're deliberately pretending to be something you aren't (often a guy pretending to be a girl) in order to get someone to be sexual with you.

You had a no-show. It happens to guys and girls."

"No shows" rather than catfishing, indeed.

Not sure if one is worst than the other, but both extremely disappointing and frustrating, not to mention the time wasted.

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By *antona33Man
over a year ago

collon

I’ve been catfished just this morning… some American girl supposedly living in Louth … wanting to meet after a few messages … sending me an address in Louth … this happened on another messaging app snap … she was sending live pics of her … but when I asked her to send a video of her or do a video chat at the said address … that’s when she couldn’t lol …

There profile is gone from here now obviously they deleted it but who is it trying to lure men to the address is the question??

I have the eircode

Is it some kind of entrapment thing to lure men to said address ??

Be careful folks there’s a lot of scammers on here just my 2 cents …

Just giving guys the heads up .

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By *acob12369Man
over a year ago

URPANTS


"I’ve been catfished just this morning… some American girl supposedly living in Louth … wanting to meet after a few messages … sending me an address in Louth … this happened on another messaging app snap … she was sending live pics of her … but when I asked her to send a video of her or do a video chat at the said address … that’s when she couldn’t lol …

There profile is gone from here now obviously they deleted it but who is it trying to lure men to the address is the question??

I have the eircode

Is it some kind of entrapment thing to lure men to said address ??

Be careful folks there’s a lot of scammers on here just my 2 cents …

Just giving guys the heads up .

"

Young lads having a laugh more like.

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By *antona33Man
over a year ago

collon

And my general rule of thumb is get to know someone a bit before jumping into meets

Basically have a bit of common sense

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I’ve been catfished just this morning… some American girl supposedly living in Louth … wanting to meet after a few messages … sending me an address in Louth … this happened on another messaging app snap … she was sending live pics of her … but when I asked her to send a video of her or do a video chat at the said address … that’s when she couldn’t lol …

There profile is gone from here now obviously they deleted it but who is it trying to lure men to the address is the question??

I have the eircode

Is it some kind of entrapment thing to lure men to said address ??

Be careful folks there’s a lot of scammers on here just my 2 cents …

Just giving guys the heads up .

"

It wouldn't bother me if someone wouldn't videochat but I wouldn't meet any woman who had so little thought for her own personal safety that she would send me her address even if it was completely genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 years on & off here both as a part of a couple or a single & the rule has always been to chat for a good while before committing to meeting. Been so many timewasters over the years but also been so many that we now call friends.

Unfortunately it's part of the site but stick with it, there are some fabulous people here too.

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County

We had a good run of meets both couples and me. In regards to showing up etc

Recently no showing etc has started to creep back in (for us anyways)

It's always disappointing and disheartening but always have to fall back on its their loss.

One of more recent ones no showed ,no text to cancel or anything or to apologize afterwards . Furthermore he put a status a few days after looking for a meet. The immaturity of people is bafflingly at times and it's not just exclusive to fab.

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By *an I Kiss youMan
over a year ago

Manchester City Centre


"

I usual will travel for a coffee meet takes the pressure off the woman for travelling.

I wouldn't agree to that if I was meeting someone new, mainly because it can lead to more expectations from the person who travelled that they deserve something sexual because they made the effort. It happened to me before that a guy travelled 10 mins for a social (I had actually travelled 20 mins but he didn't know that as I had picked the town ) he thought he deserved a bj as he has made the effort to show up.Ye,he got a goodbye that was it.

But I will always travel to meet someone halfway at least I don't think anyone should be expected to do more than the other person especially for a first meet.

Op I don't know if there is a fail safe solution to no shows or those who aren't what they say they are on here. I've been lucky I've never had a no show but I have met a small handful who weren't what they claimed to be on their profile like age etc. I chat for a good bit before I meet anyone though and I found that helps but that doesn't suit everyone to do that. I also don't do sex talk or exchanging any more pics than what is on my profile I find that gets rid of those who are on when horny and just want wank chat."

.

With all due respect, but any man or a woman or a couple who set any expectations for anything beyond a kiss (if the mutual chemistry is there) on a first social meet, are not worth meeting.

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I know it should be common sense, but I deliberately make this absolutely clear when a coffee/pint meet is arranged.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"

I usual will travel for a coffee meet takes the pressure off the woman for travelling.

I wouldn't agree to that if I was meeting someone new, mainly because it can lead to more expectations from the person who travelled that they deserve something sexual because they made the effort. It happened to me before that a guy travelled 10 mins for a social (I had actually travelled 20 mins but he didn't know that as I had picked the town ) he thought he deserved a bj as he has made the effort to show up.Ye,he got a goodbye that was it.

But I will always travel to meet someone halfway at least I don't think anyone should be expected to do more than the other person especially for a first meet.

Op I don't know if there is a fail safe solution to no shows or those who aren't what they say they are on here. I've been lucky I've never had a no show but I have met a small handful who weren't what they claimed to be on their profile like age etc. I chat for a good bit before I meet anyone though and I found that helps but that doesn't suit everyone to do that. I also don't do sex talk or exchanging any more pics than what is on my profile I find that gets rid of those who are on when horny and just want wank chat.

.

With all due respect, but any man or a woman or a couple who set any expectations for anything beyond a kiss (if the mutual chemistry is there) on a first social meet, are not worth meeting.

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I know it should be common sense, but I deliberately make this absolutely clear when a coffee/pint meet is arranged."

So do I it doesn't mean they listen though all the time and a small minority still think they are owed more .

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"

I usual will travel for a coffee meet takes the pressure off the woman for travelling.

I wouldn't agree to that if I was meeting someone new, mainly because it can lead to more expectations from the person who travelled that they deserve something sexual because they made the effort. It happened to me before that a guy travelled 10 mins for a social (I had actually travelled 20 mins but he didn't know that as I had picked the town ) he thought he deserved a bj as he has made the effort to show up.Ye,he got a goodbye that was it.

But I will always travel to meet someone halfway at least I don't think anyone should be expected to do more than the other person especially for a first meet.

Op I don't know if there is a fail safe solution to no shows or those who aren't what they say they are on here. I've been lucky I've never had a no show but I have met a small handful who weren't what they claimed to be on their profile like age etc. I chat for a good bit before I meet anyone though and I found that helps but that doesn't suit everyone to do that. I also don't do sex talk or exchanging any more pics than what is on my profile I find that gets rid of those who are on when horny and just want wank chat.

.

With all due respect, but any man or a woman or a couple who set any expectations for anything beyond a kiss (if the mutual chemistry is there) on a first social meet, are not worth meeting.

.

I know it should be common sense, but I deliberately make this absolutely clear when a coffee/pint meet is arranged."

I chatted to the female half of a couple on here for weeks. No sex talk at all and all very down to earth and civilised.

She asked if I was interested in meeting for coffee and I agreed.

Then her partner got involved in the chat for the first time.

He listed all the do's and don'ts, told me exactly how I was going to fuck his wife, what hotel to book and how long I was allowed to stay.

I told him it was coffee only and nothing else and he said it's never only coffee when it comes to meeting them and I wouldn't be able to resist his wife's advances and would be gagging to fuck her.

I wished him all the best with that attitude and blocked them.

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By *ree051970 OP   Woman
over a year ago

greystones

Thank you everyone for you're kind words and insight on your experiences...

I feel better informed on how to go forward in the future on any site...

Happy Fabbing everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well first of all don't take it personally people are flaky as fuck here but it's the sound hot decent ones that make it worth staying. To avoid the picture collectors and the people just here to have a wank and not meet I don't send photos or sext. That usually sees them disappear pretty soon if they are getting nothing. I stick to well verified people and friends of friends. I don't book the hotels for meets anymore I was very naive starting off on Fab and had too many no shows. I only give them one chance as well if they flake once than that's it. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been talking to someone for a month who is a totally different person. In fact I still have no idea who I've been talking to and it's a bit disconcerting. Thing is I have been on here 7 years (been in a relationship since and recently came back) 7 years ago, I met 2 people, saw only 1 pic of them, they are both sound and I still speak to them both now. So I just didn't click at all. It's so wierd, he lived in another part of the Uk, making plans to meet etc, to discover (thanks to a friend questioning me and reverse image search) that it's someone else completely is a real shock. I'm sure these people have their reasons and I'd def never be so naive again, but why waste people's/their time. It's so odd!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone,

i'm queen bee...

i'm new to the fab world, i just have to vent this topic that has really peed me off...

After chatting with some guys on fab, i agree to meet for a social coffee or drink, to see if we hit it off...

Don't get me wrong i have met some realy great guys on fab.

But in the short time i've been here i have traveled somtimes far to meet guys for a social meet and they were a no show. They would be texting you untill you arrive to your meeting point, then nothing!!!. I'm of the understanding that we are all here to meet people and have fun. Time waisters rune being on a site like this for everyone. I'm sure it happens with the females to the guys aswell. Sorry it's happened to me three times now. And it's put me off meeting all the really genuine men on here for the fear of being stood up. I just felt i needed to share this with you all. Miss T"

But you had no reason to believe the guys that you had arranged to meet weren’t genuine, right ? I mean the act of not turning up was what showed their true colours. OP you don’t really need to change your approach or what your doing i believe. You haven’t done anything wrong. Like hooking up, online dating, chat rooms - you gotta take it with a pinch of salt. You can’t decide whether someone is genuine online. You can definitely spot red flags and see that they are disingenuous. However, the litmus test of finding out what someone is like is meeting them . Again, not on you. I certainly wouldn’t be doing anything different.

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By *appyhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"They definitely have outweighted the bad ones. Your absolutely right in what you say and thank you for your reply...

I need to protect myself and stop being so trusting at first. "

We’ve had some good experiences on fab so far.

We have been on another site,

Where we got completely catfished by a guy.

Face pic was years old.was smaller than his bio said!!!!!!

Was a horrible experience.

Then we also got a lad who just start hurling abuse at my wife last weekend from that site.

They been chatting for a bit..

We told him we’d like to meet as a couple first.

He was fine.

Then one night last week sent a tirade of abuse aimed at my wife and myself.

Scary experience.

Even had a go at our kids (which he didn’t even know about)

But so far on fans we’ve chatted to some genuine guys,respectful and understanding.

Only here two months,but experience has been quite positive so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely have outweighted the bad ones. Your absolutely right in what you say and thank you for your reply...

I need to protect myself and stop being so trusting at first.

We’ve had some good experiences on fab so far.

We have been on another site,

Where we got completely catfished by a guy.

Face pic was years old.was smaller than his bio said!!!!!!

Was a horrible experience.

Then we also got a lad who just start hurling abuse at my wife last weekend from that site.

They been chatting for a bit..

We told him we’d like to meet as a couple first.

He was fine.

Then one night last week sent a tirade of abuse aimed at my wife and myself.

Scary experience.

Even had a go at our kids (which he didn’t even know about)

But so far on fans we’ve chatted to some genuine guys,respectful and understanding.

Only here two months,but experience has been quite positive so far"

Should of handed it over to the guards. Especially verbals aimed at kids - that’s intolerable.

The context in how ye met “ a swinging “ site , is neither here nor there. Should be real life for consequences for online prickish behaviour.

Would he say what he said to you both if he passed you in the street ? Unlikely.

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By *appyhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"They definitely have outweighted the bad ones. Your absolutely right in what you say and thank you for your reply...

I need to protect myself and stop being so trusting at first.

We’ve had some good experiences on fab so far.

We have been on another site,

Where we got completely catfished by a guy.

Face pic was years old.was smaller than his bio said!!!!!!

Was a horrible experience.

Then we also got a lad who just start hurling abuse at my wife last weekend from that site.

They been chatting for a bit..

We told him we’d like to meet as a couple first.

He was fine.

Then one night last week sent a tirade of abuse aimed at my wife and myself.

Scary experience.

Even had a go at our kids (which he didn’t even know about)

But so far on fans we’ve chatted to some genuine guys,respectful and understanding.

Only here two months,but experience has been quite positive so far

Should of handed it over to the guards. Especially verbals aimed at kids - that’s intolerable.

The context in how ye met “ a swinging “ site , is neither here nor there. Should be real life for consequences for online prickish behaviour.

Would he say what he said to you both if he passed you in the street ? Unlikely. "

Very unlikely.

We just blocked and left alone. Just gonna put it down to experience (a nasty one).

The chap must have some serious issues. But we’re not here to be someone’s counsellor.

Hopefully he gets the help he needs.

But as for us,

Makes us more aware of not everyone is genuine,there is fakes profiles.

But overall,

Our experience has been positive and has definitely brought us closer together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely have outweighted the bad ones. Your absolutely right in what you say and thank you for your reply...

I need to protect myself and stop being so trusting at first.

We’ve had some good experiences on fab so far.

We have been on another site,

Where we got completely catfished by a guy.

Face pic was years old.was smaller than his bio said!!!!!!

Was a horrible experience.

Then we also got a lad who just start hurling abuse at my wife last weekend from that site.

They been chatting for a bit..

We told him we’d like to meet as a couple first.

He was fine.

Then one night last week sent a tirade of abuse aimed at my wife and myself.

Scary experience.

Even had a go at our kids (which he didn’t even know about)

But so far on fans we’ve chatted to some genuine guys,respectful and understanding.

Only here two months,but experience has been quite positive so far

Should of handed it over to the guards. Especially verbals aimed at kids - that’s intolerable.

The context in how ye met “ a swinging “ site , is neither here nor there. Should be real life for consequences for online prickish behaviour.

Would he say what he said to you both if he passed you in the street ? Unlikely.

Very unlikely.

We just blocked and left alone. Just gonna put it down to experience (a nasty one).

The chap must have some serious issues. But we’re not here to be someone’s counsellor.

Hopefully he gets the help he needs.

But as for us,

Makes us more aware of not everyone is genuine,there is fakes profiles.

But overall,

Our experience has been positive and has definitely brought us closer together "

Delighted to hear it

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By *tslife222Man
over a year ago

by the sea louth

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By *tslife222Man
over a year ago

by the sea louth

I think it’s always best to go with your gut instinct. And if something looks to good to be true…. Etc

Always best in my view to chat for a while to help build a rapport.

Luckily I’ve never had a no show as I’ve followed my instincts, however real life can mess up meets at times

So Patience is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you. "

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid.

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By *tslife222Man
over a year ago

by the sea louth


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid. "

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you. "

That's part of the problem on here that some people do actually believe this crap.

Any woman that isn't prepared to make an effort and at least meet halfway isn't worth meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid. "

Thats my opinion and I do think that anyone lucky enough to meet this lovely lady should be more than glad to travel to meet her.

In my experience here on fab I have almost always travelled to meet someone for the first time. Goes without saying that they would select the meeting place that they are both comfortable with and she would be doing a certain amount of traveling. I guess that's just the gentleman in me. But each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

That's part of the problem on here that some people do actually believe this crap.

Any woman that isn't prepared to make an effort and at least meet halfway isn't worth meeting.

"

Again this is down to personal opinion and choice. As I said I would have no problem travelling to meet someone. The halfway rule is completely down the people meeting. Me personally, prefer to meet the person somewhere that they are comfortable meeting. And that is usually closer to them than me.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid.

Thats my opinion and I do think that anyone lucky enough to meet this lovely lady should be more than glad to travel to meet her.

In my experience here on fab I have almost always travelled to meet someone for the first time. Goes without saying that they would select the meeting place that they are both comfortable with and she would be doing a certain amount of traveling. I guess that's just the gentleman in me. But each to their own."

I’m curious…have you chatted to the op and got to know her or is your view of her being a lovely lady based on pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid.

Thats my opinion and I do think that anyone lucky enough to meet this lovely lady should be more than glad to travel to meet her.

In my experience here on fab I have almost always travelled to meet someone for the first time. Goes without saying that they would select the meeting place that they are both comfortable with and she would be doing a certain amount of traveling. I guess that's just the gentleman in me. But each to their own.

I’m curious…have you chatted to the op and got to know her or is your view of her being a lovely lady based on pics? "

I see where this is going and I'm not going to entertain it. You have your opinion and I have mine.

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin


"Hi everyone,

i'm queen bee...

i'm new to the fab world, i just have to vent this topic that has really peed me off...

After chatting with some guys on fab, i agree to meet for a social coffee or drink, to see if we hit it off...

Don't get me wrong i have met some realy great guys on fab.

But in the short time i've been here i have traveled somtimes far to meet guys for a social meet and they were a no show. They would be texting you untill you arrive to your meeting point, then nothing!!!. I'm of the understanding that we are all here to meet people and have fun. Time waisters rune being on a site like this for everyone. I'm sure it happens with the females to the guys aswell. Sorry it's happened to me three times now. And it's put me off meeting all the really genuine men on here for the fear of being stood up. I just felt i needed to share this with you all. Miss T"
well if we agree to met I'll turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid.

Thats my opinion and I do think that anyone lucky enough to meet this lovely lady should be more than glad to travel to meet her.

In my experience here on fab I have almost always travelled to meet someone for the first time. Goes without saying that they would select the meeting place that they are both comfortable with and she would be doing a certain amount of traveling. I guess that's just the gentleman in me. But each to their own.

I’m curious…have you chatted to the op and got to know her or is your view of her being a lovely lady based on pics? "

Are you implying that some people on fabswingers are superficial and fickle ?? Well i never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid.

Thats my opinion and I do think that anyone lucky enough to meet this lovely lady should be more than glad to travel to meet her.

In my experience here on fab I have almost always travelled to meet someone for the first time. Goes without saying that they would select the meeting place that they are both comfortable with and she would be doing a certain amount of traveling. I guess that's just the gentleman in me. But each to their own.

I’m curious…have you chatted to the op and got to know her or is your view of her being a lovely lady based on pics?

Are you implying that some people on fabswingers are superficial and fickle ?? Well i never "

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid.

Thats my opinion and I do think that anyone lucky enough to meet this lovely lady should be more than glad to travel to meet her.

In my experience here on fab I have almost always travelled to meet someone for the first time. Goes without saying that they would select the meeting place that they are both comfortable with and she would be doing a certain amount of traveling. I guess that's just the gentleman in me. But each to their own.

I’m curious…have you chatted to the op and got to know her or is your view of her being a lovely lady based on pics?

I see where this is going and I'm not going to entertain it. You have your opinion and I have mine."

It was a genuine question but ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're a very sexy, good looking woman so you really shouldn't have to do any traveling to meet someone. Any man that expresses an interest in you should have no problem travelling to meet you and should be glad of the opportunity to meet you.

No, no, no to all of this. It should be equal effort from both parties unless there’s a reason for one person to be closer than usual.

Anyone who expects a potential meet to jump through hoops to meet them, is a person to avoid.

Thats my opinion and I do think that anyone lucky enough to meet this lovely lady should be more than glad to travel to meet her.

In my experience here on fab I have almost always travelled to meet someone for the first time. Goes without saying that they would select the meeting place that they are both comfortable with and she would be doing a certain amount of traveling. I guess that's just the gentleman in me. But each to their own.

I’m curious…have you chatted to the op and got to know her or is your view of her being a lovely lady based on pics?

I see where this is going and I'm not going to entertain it. You have your opinion and I have mine.

It was a genuine question but ok "

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By *otownkid1967Man
over a year ago

Portlaoise

Having read through this thread, firstly I'm surprised that guys don't show up. Now I know not all guys are no shows. Its no wonder its so hard for newbies like myself to get a meet even just a coffee meet. Pity the no shows can't be named and shamed. Might help others avoid the time wasters. I'm sure the OP will have plenty of other people who would be only too delighted to meet her.

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore

I think chatting for a while maybe a week or two then a vid chat and if everyone is comfortable then a face to face. Can't understand why people don't show up especially after a bit of effort by both parties but Fab is Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m actually quite annoyed at how stung I get with so called men on here. Arranging hotel meets after weeks of chatting, to these boys just disappearing days before the meet. I know it’s common on here but it’s just a bit deflating for people too. Still met some little gems though and more to come I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to hear so many are having no show meets. must be very annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's very odd isn't it. I'm kind of freaked because I was going to meet someone in Belfast and I live in England. Spoke for a month and then found out that his pic is fake and he's not spoken to me since I challenged him. He was so adamant that he wanted me to go over and made all these plans and Really got on. I actually (stupidly) probably would have gone, but my friend questioned me and I asked for more pics, facetime... Made excuses, then found him on some Italian guys Instagram!actually find it quite scary.. Maybe he'd never have turned up but who knows. Reported him but nothing been done as yet!

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I always meet half way that way if there a no show at least I wouldn't have traveled too far..

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

As the saying goes fool me once shame on you, fool me twice....

Given the prevalence the risk of booking holidays or traveling long distance to meet someone you haven't meet is huge and simply wouldn't be worth it for me. Especislly with videos calls being so easy to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As the saying goes fool me once shame on you, fool me twice....

Given the prevalence the risk of booking holidays or traveling long distance to meet someone you haven't meet is huge and simply wouldn't be worth it for me. Especislly with videos calls being so easy to do.

"

That's true. I'd like to think I'd have realised before I went! But been busy moving house so I think i was quite distracted! Was also on here 7 years ago, met a couple of people who are still friends now and pretty sure I only saw one facepics. Anyway moving forward facetime is def the way to go!!!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I always meet half way that way if there a no show at least I wouldn't have traveled too far.."

Unless the fella you were meeting was in Australia..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always meet half way that way if there a no show at least I wouldn't have traveled too far..

Unless the fella you were meeting was in Australia.. "

And the price of green diesel

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By *ancy38Woman
over a year ago

galway


"

I usual will travel for a coffee meet takes the pressure off the woman for travelling.

I wouldn't agree to that if I was meeting someone new, mainly because it can lead to more expectations from the person who travelled that they deserve something sexual because they made the effort. It happened to me before that a guy travelled 10 mins for a social (I had actually travelled 20 mins but he didn't know that as I had picked the town ) he thought he deserved a bj as he has made the effort to show up.Ye,he got a goodbye that was it.

But I will always travel to meet someone halfway at least I don't think anyone should be expected to do more than the other person especially for a first meet.

Op I don't know if there is a fail safe solution to no shows or those who aren't what they say they are on here. I've been lucky I've never had a no show but I have met a small handful who weren't what they claimed to be on their profile like age etc. I chat for a good bit before I meet anyone though and I found that helps but that doesn't suit everyone to do that. I also don't do sex talk or exchanging any more pics than what is on my profile I find that gets rid of those who are on when horny and just want wank chat."

I'm not one for constant sex talk on here. There's been a few men on here that once they knew I wasn't into the sex talk or meeting straight away for sex, they turned nasty! It's made me very cautious about who to meet now because some did sound very nice when first chatting. I think most of the men on here thinks its OK to chat like this, expect us to meet for a quick fuck then they go on there way. It most certainly won't be happening like this with me. I want to get to know someone before I play with them.

I have been let down for some coffee meets. Its very disheartening when it happens, esp after making all the effort for it.

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