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What is something you learnt about yourself while being on Fab

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

From the lounge

I learnt that I am more willing to experiment than I had previously thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a keyboard warrior is

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

That my first marriage wasn't nearly as strong as I thought it was.

That my sex drive is unusual and that a lot of my decisions are almost subconsciously driven by it.

That people will be surprisingly understanding if you stop worrying about how to hide what you get up to here, and be more sexually open. If they have a problem with this the that's their problem not my problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I am confident enough not to run with the crowd on here just to be “liked”. Think this site brings out a lot of insecurities in people that way.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

That I'm bisexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I was right about people all along

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

That I still had/have a lot of work to do on myself around attachment and expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How being a Dom in play is a privalage I deeply respect and enjoy.

Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void.

Handling Rejection maturely is a skill that's lacking in a lot of swingers

Never take one for the team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How being a Dom in play is a privalage I deeply respect and enjoy.

Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void.

Handling Rejection maturely is a skill that's lacking in a lot of swingers

Never take one for the team

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Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void. 100% agree with this, it’s a strange feeling

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Trust your gut and trust no one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How being a Dom in play is a privalage I deeply respect and enjoy.

Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void.

Handling Rejection maturely is a skill that's lacking in a lot of swingers

Never take one for the team

Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void. 100% agree with this, it’s a strange feeling "

Hard lesson to learn and part of growth too. Trusting ones gut instincts and learning to be comfortable saying thanks but no thanks has helped hugely and strengthens self esteem

Some mainly females in my experience don't like being told no not for me I'm not interested

It's a power thing I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How being a Dom in play is a privalage I deeply respect and enjoy.

Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void.

Handling Rejection maturely is a skill that's lacking in a lot of swingers

Never take one for the team

Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void. 100% agree with this, it’s a strange feeling

Hard lesson to learn and part of growth too. Trusting ones gut instincts and learning to be comfortable saying thanks but no thanks has helped hugely and strengthens self esteem

Some mainly females in my experience don't like being told no not for me I'm not interested

It's a power thing I think "

Very true, not saying no when I was younger led me to being in some silly situations when I was younger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cutting your teeth like us all and lived to tell the tale

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True that man, true that. Part of growing up

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By *an I Kiss youMan
over a year ago

D2

That monogamy is not natural, no matter how much effort some members of our species put in to assert otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt no one wants to sleep with me lol

That people can be cruel and not think about what they say.

People are so jugdemental and think better than others

And lot of fakes out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I'm not as undesirable as I once thought and that I'm far more submissive than I realised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm as shy online as I am in real life

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By *otorman20021Man
over a year ago

East Cork

After a marriage breakdown I was left feeling very undesirable to women but fab has given me the confidence that maybe I ain't so bad after all and you just got to dust yourself off and keep moving forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt POLARIZE jealous, sexual humiliation for sexual arousal what turned me into SWITCH (I used to thought I can be only DOM).

Titanium Tushy learnt to enjoy watching your husband get excited to see her and another man, so enjoy twice.

We both learnt the swingers judge a book by its cover, they are very intolerant.

We learnt both walk only your own path without looking back.

We both learnt Self-sufficient.

We never assume that someone will come to the meeting. That's hard lesson on here.

Both learnt to not being fake. Better to being not accepted on first the meeting and find your second half later, spend more time on it.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

How photogenic my penis is

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By *ligolad321Man
over a year ago

Donegal

That I need to take better care of my spelling and grammar as there are grammar police amongst us...

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By *limfitladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I've learnt and changed a bit since joining. At least some of these are true:

I'm much more like others than I thought.

After the initial adaptation to the site, I've actually increased in confidence.. (not quite the same as rejection confidence, but close. )

I am a poor photographer.

Although my jokes are often missed (or mistaken), I'm not the worst.

I have a new found respect for wasps.

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore

That giving pleasure is just as enjoyable as being desired and getting pleasure if not more so

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By *tarboy300Man
over a year ago

DUBLIN/KILDARE

That ive wanted to have fun with a wife while her husband is in the next room listening I dont know where this came from but fab took it out of me haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt that I can suck a orange through a hose pipe...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a Tart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That if we don’t get off here we will be divorced lol

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By *oxtrotTangoLoveMan
over a year ago

monkstown/kentstown

That more sex mad then I thought I was and when I'm relaxed I do anything!

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ive hight standards and low tolerance for fuckwits and cockwombles plus im extremely judgemental on who people have met or intend to meet i just cut ties with them gradually on here......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a Tart "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jay learned he's a massive voyeur and learned not to be manipulated into taking genades for others.

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By *ealmc1973Man
over a year ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary

...that I am dirty old ugly perverted bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...that I am dirty old ugly perverted bastard "

We must be related lol

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By *ealmc1973Man
over a year ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary


"...that I am dirty old ugly perverted bastard

We must be related lol "

Yep, would explain my lack of luck

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

I've also learned that I have preconceptions about how I'm supposed to interact with women on here which causes me to adopt a certain mindset when I message.

I used to have a similar pattern of behaviour on the swiping apps, which I have gotten beyond, but it seems I've lapsed back into it here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How quick people are to judge

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By *otorman20021Man
over a year ago

East Cork


"...that I am dirty old ugly perverted bastard

We must be related lol "

Nothing wrong with a bit of perving, I even welcome it sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im too impulsive

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

That it's good to be open minded

Never take yourself seriously

That I am more experimental than I thought

That humans really aren't made for monogamy

That unfortunately people can be so judgemental and fake (a minority here)

How sad keyboard warriors are..really just a reflection of themselves

That coconut oil rocks

B xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting people, Sex and all the fun that comes with it is more important in my life than I previously considered.

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By *oulernerMan
over a year ago

Dublin City

That I'm too timid and I should probably ask for things that I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys don't understand no, being polite dosent mean it'll be reciprocated.

The block button will be my best friend.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

That I have opinions on a wide range of subjects, and that some, but not the majority, elicit an adverse reaction.

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

That being honest is rarity. That verbalising your needs is empowering. That textual banter may not translate to real life. That I'm patient.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

That I need to work on my impulse control

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Too many things to list but first and foremost...that (most of) my boundaries are not set in stone. They evolve and are entirely dependent on whom I'm interacting with - and to trust my gut instinct...whereas I've done things that may well have been dangerous, my instincts to trust have been right... and when I've gone against my gut, the experience in question has left me with negative feelings to work through.

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By *azirlMan
over a year ago

Marbella


" Some mainly females in my experience don't like being told no not for me I'm not interested

It's a power thing I think "

Exactly people generally like to talk about how badly men take rejection(even though most are so used to it that it’s practically water of a ducks back) while ignoring how badly some women take it and just how nasty some become.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I'm much more open minded than I ever even taught I would be.

My tolerance for demanding people has dwindled the longer I am on this.

I still have not got the balls to even tell my closest circle I'm am or into swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I am a open book and tells the truth about myself I have learnt that I can't stand liers and the amount of lies between told here is disappointing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s not true

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

I am a kinky dirty minded perverted individual who loves sex and needs someone like minded …. No vanilla here please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learnt to be more confident

That most people are acquaintances and very few genuinely care

And men are fickle

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

That I'm into more stuff than I thought. That I admire a good cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive hight standards and low tolerance for fuckwits and cockwombles plus im extremely judgemental on who people have met or intend to meet i just cut ties with them gradually on here......"

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

Confidence and that it is ok to have a voice and use it and that you don't need a man or a woman to feel happy true happiness comes from within yourself oh and never trust man they all let you don't in the end lol

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By *ubeMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

I'm no good and awkward at chatting to women on line, I'm more a face to face lad just chatting over a coffee.

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By *ancy38Woman
over a year ago

galway

That I'm more open-minded but very picky. More picky here than when out in town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I much more confident and comfortable naked than clothed, especially Infront of people I don't know. Also I'm willing to experiment much more than I thought I would

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By *hare liasonMan
over a year ago

north and south of Ireland


"What a keyboard warrior is "

Lol…. Brilliant answer!!!

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Monogamy is a social construct and is not natural.

That I'm attractive to women.

Penis size actually doesnt matter, to someone who cares about you.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Am very socialable and out going and people actually like me...and my confidence is on the up! And it's also not as scary meeting new people if anything it's rather exciting xx

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By *laymates30Couple
over a year ago

The West


"That I need to take better care of my spelling and grammar, as there are grammar police amongst us..."

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By *ome_wild_girlWoman
over a year ago

Antrim Town

I've learned that I am enough, I dont have to be something or into certain stuff just cos others are into it and it's okay.

I'm much more tolerant and patient than I used to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't understand text speak. Also my humour dosent always translate or land the way I think it will when texting in a conversation rather than in person.

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