FabSwingers.com forum: Fears

By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

We all have them...what about death? How do you feel about your own mortality?

I'm not afraid of death - but I am afraid of going painfully and the end being dragged out over a long time, as well as leaving prematurely and not having everything in place for my children...reminds me, I need to update my final will and testament

- do you have yours in place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have fears I die suddenly and my parents will be sorting out my house and will think I was a professional domme with the amount of stuff hiding under my bed. But I have Fab friends who have promised to deal with all that. I'll have to write it up in the will who gets my Lelo toys. I also want them to make sure I'm dressed in my finest black Honeybirdette lingerie so I won't be the only stiff at the wake...

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By *ofistimacatedMan
over a year ago

cavan town

Jaysus keep it light hearted guys

I used to be terrified of death.my own, but even more so of those close to me. That fear absolutely ruined my life, suffering numerous panic attacks weekly. without going into details, my outlook on life absolutely changed, actually exactly 10 years ago this month, after a life changing experience that made me realise how lucky we all are to be here for as long as we have

Panic attacks stopped and have stayed away for the last 10 years

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I have fears I die suddenly and my parents will be sorting out my house and will think I was a professional domme with the amount of stuff hiding under my bed. But I have Fab friends who have promised to deal with all that. I'll have to write it up in the will who gets my Lelo toys. I also want them to make sure I'm dressed in my finest black Honeybirdette lingerie so I won't be the only stiff at the wake..."

You're all set so as not to send your parents to an early grave too

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Jaysus keep it light hearted guys

Panic attacks stopped and have stayed away for the last 10 years

Sometimes it's good to self reflect

Delighted to hear those panic attacks have subsided...

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"I also want them to make sure I'm dressed in my finest black Honeybirdette lingerie so I won't be the only stiff at the wake..."

Hilarious Rosy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not worried about it!!

When it happens, it happens!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have nothing to fear only fear itself

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Not afraid of death but wouldn't like to hang around being sick either

Spoke to my family and they know I'd be on the first plane to Switzerland to organise Dignitas to help me on my way ( there's a one off joining fee )

I'm shit scared of leaving my family to be honest but only because I have the silly idea that they need me but I'm sure they'd be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that I'm afraid is loosing my daughter, or loosing my sight and not being able to see her growing up...

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Not afraid of death but wouldn't like to hang around being sick either

Spoke to my family and they know I'd be on the first plane to Switzerland to organise Dignitas to help me on my way ( there's a one off joining fee )

I'm shit scared of leaving my family to be honest but only because I have the silly idea that they need me but I'm sure they'd be fine

Yes, yes, yes!!! This exactly...

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I have a fear of being buried alive. Im not afraid of dying, though.

Ive overcome a lot of my fears, shyness, talking in public, giving presentations, poor body image, etc, and all the fears that go with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of our fears are imaginary and created in our minds! They are not real but made up! So how can you be afraid of something that is not real?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of our fears are imaginary and created in our minds! They are not real but made up! So how can you be afraid of something that is not real? "

I'm afraid of my mother, and she's very fucking real unfortunately

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Most of our fears are imaginary and created in our minds! They are not real but made up! So how can you be afraid of something that is not real?

I'm afraid of my mother, and she's very fucking real unfortunately "

But what can she really do to you at your age - if you are autonomous, and not relying on her for anything in life?

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I have vaguely achieved all my goals só death scares me less than a chocolate shortage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not worried about dying too soon, living too long is worse IMO. My children will be left provided for, unless my nursing home care eats it all up

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I have vaguely achieved all my goals só death scares me less than a chocolate shortage "

I definitely second fear of a chocolate shortage

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

I’m afraid of dropping dead and people seeing my search history

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By *an I Kiss youMan
over a year ago

Manchester City Centre

"We all have them...what about death? How do you feel about your own mortality?

- do you have yours in place?"

If anything people are my worst fear. The vast majority of pain and hurt are caused by people.

Death is not scary at all. It could even be a mercy and a relief of pains.

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I’m afraid of dropping dead and people seeing my search history

Always delete as you go, or surf incognito when looking at things not for the fainthearted

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"We all have them...what about death? How do you feel about your own mortality?

- do you have yours in place?

If anything people are my worst fear. The vast majority of pain and hurt are caused by people.

Death is not scary at all. It could even be a mercy and a relief of pains."

You sound like you're in a place I was once upon a time.

Yes, people are often the cause of untold pain - but they can also be the cause of so much joy and love...we're so much more resilient than we think and I, for one, don't want to have regrets for not letting people into my heart in fear of getting hurt.

I (try to) live by the quote "better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".

We thrive on love, much more so than hate and anger.

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

Well i believe in reincarnation,, so much so that i have left everything to my self in my will..

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Well i believe in reincarnation,, so much so that i have left everything to my self in my will.. "

How do you know who you're coming back as?

And must be some inheritance!!!

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

I used to be consumed with fear. Constantly in fear of being judged or of not being adequate. A lot of that would have stemmed from the household I grew up in - loving but dysfunctional.

It was only after going into treatment for alcohol that I started to become aware of all that. I got into meditation and became aware of how fear was a constant undercurrent.

Fast forward 10 years and meditation has transformed me. Now I use the inevitability of death as a cure for fear bcos I just try to imagine how much fear I will feel when I'm dead.

(Where's that bloody edit button already?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eternity, the fact that something can go on forever without end is terrifying. But the opposite is equally terrifying.

Regardless, both are out of my control so I put those worries to the side most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eternity, the fact that something can go on forever without end is terrifying.

This exactly….reminds me of confirmation mass which goes on and on and on….

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

"I’m afraid of dropping dead and people seeing my search history

Always delete as you go, or surf incognito when looking at things not for the fainthearted

But then I can’t find them again! Let’s just hope I don’t drop dead or someone steals my phone while I’m on the ground

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

"You sound like you're in a place I was once upon a time.

I (try to) live by the quote "better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".

We thrive on love, much more so than hate and anger.

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I used to be consumed with fear. Constantly in fear of being judged or of not being adequate. A lot of that would have stemmed from the household I grew up in - loving but dysfunctional.

It was only after going into treatment for alcohol that I started to become aware of all that. I got into meditation and became aware of how fear was a constant undercurrent.

Fast forward 10 years and meditation has transformed me. Now I use the inevitability of death as a cure for fear bcos I just try to imagine how much fear I will feel when I'm dead.

(Where's that bloody edit button already?)"

Sounds like you found your path

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I’m afraid of dropping dead and people seeing my search history

Always delete as you go, or surf incognito when looking at things not for the fainthearted

But then I can’t find them again! Let’s just hope I don’t drop dead or someone steals my phone while I’m on the ground "

I feel your pain

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Eternity, the fact that something can go on forever without end is terrifying. But the opposite is equally terrifying.

Regardless, both are out of my control so I put those worries to the side most of the time."

I never thought about it that way but when you say it like that, it is scary as hell - so the motto is "grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference, living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; taking this world as it is and not as I would have it"

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

Sounds like you found your path

You could say that I guess

Fab is certainly a great place for providing another fucking opportunity for growth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say I fear not being able to change myself long-term, though I've achieved a lot of life goals.

Other than that, leaving family behind and maybe climate change.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

My main one is one of my kids getting a serious illness or being in a bad accident. I can't even watch a TV programme where there is a sick child.

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"My main one is one of my kids getting a serious illness or being in a bad accident. I can't even watch a TV programme where there is a sick child."

Yes, I count my lucky stars every day they get through unscathed!!!

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I'd say I fear not being able to change myself long-term, though I've achieved a lot of life goals.

Other than that, leaving family behind and maybe climate change."

Time is a gift - baby steps and you'll get there!

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By *oadrunner2000Man
over a year ago

city centre

"We have nothing to fear only fear itself"

Unfortunately that still leaves people in fear

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Very depressing thread or maybe my head space is not in the right place for this.....brought tears to my eyes

Biggest fear is burying my son......seen too many friends doing this and know full well I wouldn't survive.

The other is being alone

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By * la carte OP Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Very depressing thread or maybe my head space is not in the right place for this.....brought tears to my eyes

Biggest fear is burying my son......seen too many friends doing this and know full well I wouldn't survive.

The other is being alone

I'm sorry - I certainly didn't intend to create cause for tears. Hopefully other threads make up for a little lift!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very depressing thread or maybe my head space is not in the right place for this.....brought tears to my eyes

Biggest fear is burying my son......seen too many friends doing this and know full well I wouldn't survive.

The other is being alone

I'm sorry - I certainly didn't intend to create cause for tears. Hopefully other threads make up for a little lift!

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there no bigger dear than losing your child...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very depressing thread or maybe my head space is not in the right place for this.....brought tears to my eyes

Biggest fear is burying my son......seen too many friends doing this and know full well I wouldn't survive.

The other is being alone

You will never be alone although you might feel that’s how you are feeling right now they will look after you till ye meet again

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I've a fear of been buried in a coffin as I'm claustrophobic

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

" baby steps and you'll get there!

Or......atomic habits perhaps.

Yes, I've just listened to the audiobook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've a fear of been buried in a coffin as I'm claustrophobic "

Ask Wendi bud this is different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having had a life changing experience recently after a build up of society enduced stress, I've grown to be calm about mortality. Of course I feel for those loved ones left behind but I know that their lives were enriched in someway by my presence and hey life goes on we are here to live the best possible way and leave this world a better place because of us.

My last good deed will be to be buried wrapped in the roots of a young tree, give my body back in a meaningful way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a life changing experience recently after a build up of society enduced stress, I've grown to be calm about mortality. Of course I feel for those loved ones left behind but I know that their lives were enriched in someway by my presence and hey life goes on we are here to live the best possible way and leave this world a better place because of us.

My last good deed will be to be buried wrapped in the roots of a young tree, give my body back in a meaningful way.

Ya great

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