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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

Anyone any dos or donts for meets? Im aware everyone has their own rules etc just interested to see how much these vary……. X

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Do set groundrules beforehand !

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Do set groundrules beforehand !"

Not just your own but with the person your meeting?x

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland


"Do set groundrules beforehand !

Not just your own but with the person your meeting?x"

Absolutley !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do set groundrules beforehand !

Not just your own but with the person your meeting?x

Absolutley !"

100% this

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Do set groundrules beforehand !

Not just your own but with the person your meeting?x

Absolutley !

100% this "

Brilliant thank you always good to know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give out your phone number arrange to meet by chatting here or on another social app ...

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Don't give out your phone number arrange to meet by chatting here or on another social app ..."

Yep I've never given out my number before a first meet.

I always do a social first as well to see if they are who they say and to see if we actually get on in person.

Set boundaries that suit you both .

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By *oejoxxxMan
over a year ago

anywhere

Be yourself, show respect and respect the boundaries of those you meet

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore


"Be yourself, show respect and respect the boundaries of those you meet"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communicate before, during and after.

Read the room ALWAYS

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Communicate before, during and after.

Read the room ALWAYS "

I can only read text

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Some girls do

Some girls don't

Some girls need a lotta loving......

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Don't give out your phone number arrange to meet by chatting here or on another social app ..."

Oh never would x

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Some girls do

Some girls don't

Some girls need a lotta loving......"

Hahaha not all but some

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Be yourself, show respect and respect the boundaries of those you meet"

Yes that’s it

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

How long is a piece of string?

Realistically, it depends on how high you set your standards and the amount of effort you are prepared to commit, which will be evident to the other party, very evident!

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By *oulernerMan
over a year ago

Dublin City

Do be prepared that nothing sexual is going to happen, for one or the other reason.

Don't be surprised or overly sad when they don't show up.

Do be polite and treat them as you would want to be treated. (Unless both if you are into that, but that's another story.)

Don't be surprised if they're different from what you expected.

Do tell someone you trust where you're going and have a check-in interval.

Don't force yourself or worse get coerced into anything you don't really want to do.

Do set boundaries and manage expectations on both sides.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be respectful.

Don't set high expectations as the meet could end up then and there, plus if you don't have high expectations it's less likely to be disappointed.

Be yourself.

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Do be prepared that nothing sexual is going to happen, for one or the other reason.

Don't be surprised or overly sad when they don't show up.

Do be polite and treat them as you would want to be treated. (Unless both if you are into that, but that's another story.)

Don't be surprised if they're different from what you expected.

Do tell someone you trust where you're going and have a check-in interval.

Don't force yourself or worse get coerced into anything you don't really want to do.

Do set boundaries and manage expectations on both sides."

These are clear’ really like them

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


" Be respectful.

Don't set high expectations as the meet could end up then and there, plus if you don't have high expectations it's less likely to be disappointed.

Be yourself."

Respect is no 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Be respectful.

Don't set high expectations as the meet could end up then and there, plus if you don't have high expectations it's less likely to be disappointed.

Be yourself.

Respect is no 1 "
always, if you can't respect the other person/people then don't do it at all

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Do try to quickly ascertain if they’re worth your time . Are they actually what they state on their profile ? Are you likely to get on ? Trust your instinct and move on if it doesn’t feel right

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


" Be respectful.

Don't set high expectations as the meet could end up then and there, plus if you don't have high expectations it's less likely to be disappointed.

Be yourself.

Respect is no 1 always, if you can't respect the other person/people then don't do it at all"

Oh agreed 100%

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Do try to quickly ascertain if they’re worth your time . Are they actually what they state on their profile ? Are you likely to get on ? Trust your instinct and move on if it doesn’t feel right "

So always go with your guy?x

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Yes your gut feeling is your sense after decades of interacting with people . You d hardly want to be in a vulnerable situation in a car or a hotel with someone you have had some concerns about

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Yes your gut feeling is your sense after decades of interacting with people . You d hardly want to be in a vulnerable situation in a car or a hotel with someone you have had some concerns about "

Very true yes I get that do you have different rules for different people then

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

You should find some useful information in the helpful public service booklet entitled:

Don't Do What Donny Don't Did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our only real rules are

Go with our gut feeling

Either of us has the right to veto someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes your gut feeling is your sense after decades of interacting with people . You d hardly want to be in a vulnerable situation in a car or a hotel with someone you have had some concerns about "

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin


"Yes your gut feeling is your sense after decades of interacting with people . You d hardly want to be in a vulnerable situation in a car or a hotel with someone you have had some concerns about "

The only issue with trusting your gut is that it can give a lot of false positives. It's great as a survival strategy but not necessarily as a thriving strategy.

It can often be used to avoid potentially painful situations which can cause us to avoid potentially rewarding situations.

Of course,the negative consequences of not trusting your gut can far outweigh the benefits, if it does go wrong. But, rather than avoid such situations completely, it might be possible to take precautions which mitigate the possibility of the negative outcome.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Our only real rules are

Go with our gut feeling

Either of us has the right to veto someone"

I agree with going with your gut feeling as well.I always do now especially after ignoring it once on here taught me not to ignore it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't show up with a 10 inch blade and duct tape. They never appreciate that I find

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Our only real rules are

Go with our gut feeling

Either of us has the right to veto someone

I agree with going with your gut feeling as well.I always do now especially after ignoring it once on here taught me not to ignore it again.

"

Totally agree 100% learnt that the hard way will NEVER make that mistake again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't show up with a 10 inch blade and duct tape. They never appreciate that I find "

Some people just can’t take a joke ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't show up with a 10 inch blade and duct tape. They never appreciate that I find

Some people just can’t take a joke ??"

The bastards

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Our only real rules are

Go with our gut feeling

Either of us has the right to veto someone"

We have the same thing, regarding vetoing a meet. If one isn’t sure then we don’t do it.

Going with my gut feeling is stopping us meeting at the moment even though logically, I know why certain people or couples say and do the things they do.

Gx

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By *inaandterryCouple
over a year ago

Westmeath

A quick cam before the meet. This is good way to find out if there is some attraction and the obvious, that they are real of course. Spur of moment meets can be exciting, but a planned one is even better

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By *asual_eyesMan
over a year ago

Sallins/Naas

Don't expect to be having porn star sex. Hope for a nice chat and everything else is a bonus.

Don't let anyone pressure you into anything or lower your standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do what Donnie Don't does.

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By *amesy6918Man
over a year ago

newry

Definitely the most important!

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"A quick cam before the meet. This is good way to find out if there is some attraction and the obvious, that they are real of course. Spur of moment meets can be exciting, but a planned one is even better "

Yeh break the ice and check the attraction x

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By *andR2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Don't expect to be having porn star sex. Hope for a nice chat and everything else is a bonus.

Don't let anyone pressure you into anything or lower your standards. "

Yeh this is good too xx

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

The dos and donts of a meet can be compared to the task of flying a plane from one destination to another.

The checklists are really common sense and are essentially the same for every flight; but each aircraft is different and the weather one encounters along the way reveals the real skill of the pilot, and the comfort of the ride he provides to the passenger(s)!

The skilled pilot does the best he can on each sector, and each flight enhances his or her experience!

The real experts become like Captain Sully and despite a bird strike he was able to land on water.

There are no checklists for such an eventuality!

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