FabSwingers.com forum: A dishearthened friend

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just received a message on an app from a disheartened friend regarding messages he has sent.

He says that he has sent messages to ladies and couples, a lot of them have been read, but no reply.

Yes, i understand its personal choice if you reply or not, plus the amount of messages ladies and couples receive is horrendous to go through but do you think that a simple 'not interested' is better than no reply??

And yes, I am actually asking for a fellow fabber!!!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Sorry Mike no reply is just that sorry I am not interested

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Is a "not interested" better than a nothing??

Well I could ask that question from the guys who dont take a "not interested" as a final answer.

No response is always final

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

Hurt feelings because no one responded to his messages?

Lord God give me strength

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is a "not interested" better than a nothing??

Well I could ask that question from the guys who dont take a "not interested" as a final answer.

No response is always final"

Well the guys that cant take a 'not interested' is easily remedied by the block button??

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Tell your friend that if hes getting disheartened by the no replies he needs to stop sending the messages and try another way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell your friend that if hes getting disheartened by the no replies he needs to stop sending the messages and try another way "

I did tell him either to keep messaging or leave the site!!!

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Maybe fab isn’t for him. This is the big leagues, we shit standing up here.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

"Is a "not interested" better than a nothing??

Well I could ask that question from the guys who dont take a "not interested" as a final answer.

No response is always final

Well the guys that cant take a 'not interested' is easily remedied by the block button?? "

Or people could just realise that no reply means not interested and move on with their lives.

If he’s not getting any replies at all, he needs to look at his profile, the messages he’s sending and try something different.

Since I’m having a quiet night, if he wants some constructive criticism tell him to message me the usual message he sends out. (With the caveat that what I look for won’t be what every woman looks for.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is a "not interested" better than a nothing??

Well I could ask that question from the guys who dont take a "not interested" as a final answer.

No response is always final

Well the guys that cant take a 'not interested' is easily remedied by the block button?? "

Have you seen any of the messages ladies receive when they say not interested to some guys..

..tell him to delete his messages..might stop him fixating on whether they have been read or not..

If he's to receive a message he will get it anyway..my thoughts..

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Not getting replies might not be very uplifting or encouraging, but I think most mature thing is to read sites FAQ section and take it on board. It is clearly written there that no reply means no interest.

Most women and couples join here with every intention to reply to all mail, but after getting hundreds of monotonous messages from incompatible people who clearly didn't bother reading a profile it gets tedious to reply to them all..

Then you have the "why not brigade" who can't take "no" for an answer.

Then you have "you're fat/ugly anyway, I wouldn't go near you in real life" brigade who get huffy after hearing "no".

Then you get "I like a challenge" brigade who keep trying to convince you that your "no" is a "maybe" and a "maybe" is definitely a "yes", you just don't know it yet.

So all of that added up into a big pot - most women and couples simply give up on replying to anyone they're not immediately interested in.

One thing is certain - they have clicked on your friends profile, they looked at the photos, they read written text, they also have read the message.

Maybe it's time for the friend to have a look at his own shop window and assess how inviting it is to others?

Nobody in their sane mind likes negative vibes, so not many will risk inviting them into their own inbox by turning people down.

Missus

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"Is a "not interested" better than a nothing??

Well I could ask that question from the guys who dont take a "not interested" as a final answer.

No response is always final

Well the guys that cant take a 'not interested' is easily remedied by the block button?? "

Or just by ignoring the message... or you can save time and just ignore the original message

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is a "not interested" better than a nothing??

Well I could ask that question from the guys who dont take a "not interested" as a final answer.

No response is always final

Well the guys that cant take a 'not interested' is easily remedied by the block button??

Have you seen any of the messages ladies receive when they say not interested to some guys..

..tell him to delete his messages..might stop him fixating on whether they have been read or not..

If he's to receive a message he will get it anyway..my thoughts.."

Yes, ive been to about the abuse that people have received when guys have been told that.

Well it truly shows that they chose wisely to not be interested in them.

Personally, i just block them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not getting replies might not be very uplifting or encouraging, but I think most mature thing is to read sites FAQ section and take it on board. It is clearly written there that no reply means no interest.

Then you have the "why not brigade" who can't take "no" for an answer.

Then you have "you're fat/ugly anyway, I wouldn't go near you in real life" brigade who get huffy after hearing "no".

Then you get "I like a challenge" brigade who keep trying to convince you that your "no" is a "maybe" and a "maybe" is definitely a "yes", you just don't know it yet.

So all of that added up into a big pot - most women and couples simply give up on replying to anyone they're not immediately interested in.

One thing is certain - they have clicked on your friends profile, they looked at the photos, they read written text, they also have read the message.

Maybe it's time for the friend to have a look at his own shop window and assess how inviting it is to others?

Nobody in their sane mind likes negative vibes, so not many will risk inviting them into their own inbox by turning people down.

Missus "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is a "not interested" better than a nothing??

Well I could ask that question from the guys who dont take a "not interested" as a final answer.

No response is always final

Well the guys that cant take a 'not interested' is easily remedied by the block button??

Have you seen any of the messages ladies receive when they say not interested to some guys..

..tell him to delete his messages..might stop him fixating on whether they have been read or not..

If he's to receive a message he will get it anyway..my thoughts..

Yes, ive been to about the abuse that people have received when guys have been told that.

Well it truly shows that they chose wisely to not be interested in them.

Personally, i just block them. "

Do you mean to block as soon as you send a not interested message..not give them a chance to hurl abuse..?

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

If someone has clearly read my profile or made an effort with a message, I’ll reply Thanks but no thanks. However the volume of abuse I get by saying “not interested” varies from “fuck you, you fat c*nt” to “I hope you die of AIDS”.

So, no, I won’t reply with a negative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is a "not interested" better than a nothing??

Well I could ask that question from the guys who dont take a "not interested" as a final answer.

No response is always final

Well the guys that cant take a 'not interested' is easily remedied by the block button??

Have you seen any of the messages ladies receive when they say not interested to some guys..

..tell him to delete his messages..might stop him fixating on whether they have been read or not..

If he's to receive a message he will get it anyway..my thoughts..

Yes, ive been to about the abuse that people have received when guys have been told that.

Well it truly shows that they chose wisely to not be interested in them.

Personally, i just block them.

Do you mean to block as soon as you send a not interested message..not give them a chance to hurl abuse..?"

I mean to block them if they hurl abuse!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone has clearly read my profile or made an effort with a message, I’ll reply Thanks but no thanks. However the volume of abuse I get by saying “not interested” varies from “fuck you, you fat c*nt” to “I hope you die of AIDS”.

So, no, I won’t reply with a negative. "

Im sure he never saw your profile again!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, no, I won’t reply with a negative. "

Yeah it's kinda depressing to be told your a flabby slag whose probably riddled with everything going just because you said thanks but not interested to their fancy a fuck message

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

So, no, I won’t reply with a negative.

Im sure he never saw your profile again!!! "

Which one? The four abusive responses to “Thanks but no Thanks” mails I got today including the 7 day old profile that called me a slew of names before I’d even interacted with him? Or the guy who last week detailed how he was going to r@pe me.

Oh you mean all of them!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you seen any of the messages ladies receive when they say not interested to some guys..

..tell him to delete his messages..might stop him fixating on whether they have been read or not..

If he's to receive a message he will get it anyway..my thoughts..

Yes, ive been to about the abuse that people have received when guys have been told that.

Well it truly shows that they chose wisely to not be interested in them.

Personally, i just block them.

Do you mean to block as soon as you send a not interested message..not give them a chance to hurl abuse..?

I mean to block them if they hurl abuse!! "

So the fab rules say no answer means not interested..and yet some men think I should reply not interested and then wait to see do they send me an abusive message so I can then block them..I think not..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does he really think 20 "not interested" mails will make him feel better than 20 no replies?

It will very quickly progress to "why can't the just give a conversation a chance" from the" just reply not interested"

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

"Just received a message on an app from a disheartened friend regarding messages he has sent.

He says that he has sent messages to ladies and couples, a lot of them have been read, but no reply.

And yes, I am actually asking for a fellow fabber!!! "

Just out of interest, did you respond to your mates message?

Or just go straight to the forums without responding?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just received a message on an app from a disheartened friend regarding messages he has sent.

He says that he has sent messages to ladies and couples, a lot of them have been read, but no reply.

And yes, I am actually asking for a fellow fabber!!!

Just out of interest, did you respond to your mates message?

Or just go straight to the forums without responding?"

If you read my previous messages, yes i did respond to his message!!

My question was simple!!

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Where no response may be rude or disheartening, as a single female I'm not saying all men but if your refuse, they ask why. Then the abuse can start, it's hard to know who's going to abuse. I've had lovely first messages but have had to refuse due to various reasons and the next message to be vile messages, I find no response is better for me, I know it's not ideal but im doing what is best for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Where no response may be rude or disheartening, as a single female I'm not saying all men but if your refuse, they ask why. Then the abuse can start, it's hard to know who's going to abuse. I've had lovely first messages but have had to refuse due to various reasons and the next message to be vile messages, I find no response is better for me, I know it's not ideal but im doing what is best for me. "

Thank you

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By *illiwontiCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Then you have the "why not brigade" who can't take "no" for an answer.

Then you have "you're fat/ugly anyway, I wouldn't go near you in real life" brigade who get huffy after hearing "no".

Then you get "I like a challenge" brigade who keep trying to convince you that your "no" is a "maybe" and a "maybe" is definitely a "yes", you just don't know it yet.

So all of that added up into a big pot - most women and couples simply give up on replying to anyone they're not immediately interested in.

One thing is certain - they have clicked on your friends profile, they looked at the photos, they read written text, they also have read the message.

Maybe it's time for the friend to have a look at his own shop window and assess how inviting it is to others?

Nobody in their sane mind likes negative vibes, so not many will risk inviting them into their own inbox by turning people down.

Missus "

This absolutely sums it up for us, I have to say you have replied to this in the most polite but yet so accurate way. It really explains everything what some people experience on here but in such a manerable way..fair play

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By *oudiniHMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Firstly the fact you have had to send this for the fabber probably characterises his personality.

I send messages that 98% aren’t replied to that’s sadly the name of the game. Women and couples hold the monopoly on here and that’s how it will always be.

Wee John writing how’s things want to fuck? Or how are you kinkyKinmy? What are you looking for?

These messages have shown ladies what they don’t want. I’ll be lucky to get 2 replies a day- I suck it up and move on. He should do likewise

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By *aidbare5Couple
over a year ago

down the road

Then you have the "why not brigade" who can't take "no" for an answer.

Then you have "you're fat/ugly anyway, I wouldn't go near you in real life" brigade who get huffy after hearing "no".

Then you get "I like a challenge" brigade who keep trying to convince you that your "no" is a "maybe" and a "maybe" is definitely a "yes", you just don't know it yet.

So all of that added up into a big pot - most women and couples simply give up on replying to anyone they're not immediately interested in.

One thing is certain - they have clicked on your friends profile, they looked at the photos, they read written text, they also have read the message.

Maybe it's time for the friend to have a look at his own shop window and assess how inviting it is to others?

Nobody in their sane mind likes negative vibes, so not many will risk inviting them into their own inbox by turning people down.

Missus

I also read MrandMrsright's post yesterday and like that agreed 100% with the post. I think it's the first line on our bio that no reply means no interest.

So herself was out last night and with time on my hands I decided to do a test. I replied to the last 10 messages from guys. I made up a nice reply and yes I copy and pasted it, slightly adjusting it to match each reply. This was it "Hi, thanks for attaching a photo and expressing interest but we are not looking to meet any new people."

This morning I woke up with 8 replies. Every one of them was nice, respectful, not leading and thanking me for replying.

To be honest I feel a bit sad that we don't reply to all messages. Will I start replying to everyone, not a chance, I would never have the time and it's in our bio no reply no interest.

A positive result for single guys but single guys also need to be aware that the admin side of fab gets overwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Then you have the "why not brigade" who can't take "no" for an answer.

Then you have "you're fat/ugly anyway, I wouldn't go near you in real life" brigade who get huffy after hearing "no".

Then you get "I like a challenge" brigade who keep trying to convince you that your "no" is a "maybe" and a "maybe" is definitely a "yes", you just don't know it yet.

So all of that added up into a big pot - most women and couples simply give up on replying to anyone they're not immediately interested in.

One thing is certain - they have clicked on your friends profile, they looked at the photos, they read written text, they also have read the message.

Maybe it's time for the friend to have a look at his own shop window and assess how inviting it is to others?

Nobody in their sane mind likes negative vibes, so not many will risk inviting them into their own inbox by turning people down.

Missus

I also read MrandMrsright's post yesterday and like that agreed 100% with the post. I think it's the first line on our bio that no reply means no interest.

This morning I woke up with 8 replies. Every one of them was nice, respectful, not leading and thanking me for replying.

To be honest I feel a bit sad that we don't reply to all messages. Will I start replying to everyone, not a chance, I would never have the time and it's in our bio no reply no interest.

A positive result for single guys but single guys also need to be aware that the admin side of fab gets overwhelming. "

Fair play for carrying out your survey. Maybe it shows that 80% of the guys here are genuine and you can decide what to call the other 20% yourself!!

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By *awtieCouple
over a year ago

Galway

Used to reply to every damn message as it seemed the polite thing to do.

The fact is though, if you say "not interested" 99% of the time people take even a negative reply as an "in" - as in they are now in a conversation with you.

Then it becomes "why are you not interested", then objecting to your reasons, basically trying to argue their way into your bedroom. It's horrible.

This is particularly the case if they feel they meet your requirements. "But I'm the age you specify" like this is a transactional contract.

Your mate is probably saying "Hi how are you this (insert weather) (insert day) ?"

If you repeatedly drill for a reason someone doesn't want to meet you, you're gonna get insulted.

No reply is easy, block is even easier.

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By *awtieCouple
over a year ago

Galway

Then you have the "why not brigade" who can't take "no" for an answer.

Then you have "you're fat/ugly anyway, I wouldn't go near you in real life" brigade who get huffy after hearing "no".

Then you get "I like a challenge" brigade who keep trying to convince you that your "no" is a "maybe" and a "maybe" is definitely a "yes", you just don't know it yet.

So all of that added up into a big pot - most women and couples simply give up on replying to anyone they're not immediately interested in.

One thing is certain - they have clicked on your friends profile, they looked at the photos, they read written text, they also have read the message.

Maybe it's time for the friend to have a look at his own shop window and assess how inviting it is to others?

Nobody in their sane mind likes negative vibes, so not many will risk inviting them into their own inbox by turning people down.

Missus

I also read MrandMrsright's post yesterday and like that agreed 100% with the post. I think it's the first line on our bio that no reply means no interest.

This morning I woke up with 8 replies. Every one of them was nice, respectful, not leading and thanking me for replying.

To be honest I feel a bit sad that we don't reply to all messages. Will I start replying to everyone, not a chance, I would never have the time and it's in our bio no reply no interest.

A positive result for single guys but single guys also need to be aware that the admin side of fab gets overwhelming. "

Interesting. I would not have called those results. Will try this and let you know what we get north of the wall ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Used to reply to every damn message as it seemed the polite thing to do.

The fact is though, if you say "not interested" 99% of the time people take even a negative reply as an "in" - as in they are now in a conversation with you.

Then it becomes "why are you not interested", then objecting to your reasons, basically trying to argue their way into your bedroom. It's horrible.

This is particularly the case if they feel they meet your requirements. "But I'm the age you specify" like this is a transactional contract.

Your mate is probably saying "Hi how are you this (insert weather) (insert day) ?"

If you repeatedly drill for a reason someone doesn't want to meet you, you're gonna get insulted.

No reply is easy, block is even easier. "

I normally block myself

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway

Then you have the "why not brigade" who can't take "no" for an answer.

Then you have "you're fat/ugly anyway, I wouldn't go near you in real life" brigade who get huffy after hearing "no".

Then you get "I like a challenge" brigade who keep trying to convince you that your "no" is a "maybe" and a "maybe" is definitely a "yes", you just don't know it yet.

So all of that added up into a big pot - most women and couples simply give up on replying to anyone they're not immediately interested in.

One thing is certain - they have clicked on your friends profile, they looked at the photos, they read written text, they also have read the message.

Maybe it's time for the friend to have a look at his own shop window and assess how inviting it is to others?

Nobody in their sane mind likes negative vibes, so not many will risk inviting them into their own inbox by turning people down.

Missus "

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

I also read MrandMrsright's post yesterday and like that agreed 100% with the post. I think it's the first line on our bio that no reply means no interest.

This morning I woke up with 8 replies. Every one of them was nice, respectful, not leading and thanking me for replying.

To be honest I feel a bit sad that we don't reply to all messages. Will I start replying to everyone, not a chance, I would never have the time and it's in our bio no reply no interest.

A positive result for single guys but single guys also need to be aware that the admin side of fab gets overwhelming.

Fair play for carrying out your survey. Maybe it shows that 80% of the guys here are genuine and you can decide what to call the other 20% yourself!!

Why would you call the other 20% anything? They just took no thanks as an answer without responding. So 100% of messages were accepted without abuse.

In my couple of years on Fab as a single woman and as a couple, I can count on one hand the abusive messages I got after a no thanks, not interested. I usually made a point of answering most messages unless it was a FAF now message...jeez, I must be pig ugly or had something on my profile to put people off - is there a smell emanating from here?

Unfortunately in the Fab world, no answer means no interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also read MrandMrsright's post yesterday and like that agreed 100% with the post. I think it's the first line on our bio that no reply means no interest.

This morning I woke up with 8 replies. Every one of them was nice, respectful, not leading and thanking me for replying.

To be honest I feel a bit sad that we don't reply to all messages. Will I start replying to everyone, not a chance, I would never have the time and it's in our bio no reply no interest.

A positive result for single guys but single guys also need to be aware that the admin side of fab gets overwhelming.

Fair play for carrying out your survey. Maybe it shows that 80% of the guys here are genuine and you can decide what to call the other 20% yourself!!

Why would you call the other 20% anything? They just took no thanks as an answer without responding. So 100% of messages were accepted without abuse.

Unfortunately in the Fab world, no answer means no interest. "

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

I think the op used not interested as an example of some sort of reply ... really the question was dose a message not warrant a reply out of good manners .

Its cool that you bother to take the time to reply politely

So, no, I won’t reply with a negative. "

I think this is what the op was asking

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Seems like a learnt approach. Makes sense

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Then you have the "why not brigade" who can't take "no" for an answer.

Then you have "you're fat/ugly anyway, I wouldn't go near you in real life" brigade who get huffy after hearing "no".

Then you get "I like a challenge" brigade who keep trying to convince you that your "no" is a "maybe" and a "maybe" is definitely a "yes", you just don't know it yet.

So all of that added up into a big pot - most women and couples simply give up on replying to anyone they're not immediately interested in.

One thing is certain - they have clicked on your friends profile, they looked at the photos, they read written text, they also have read the message.

Maybe it's time for the friend to have a look at his own shop window and assess how inviting it is to others?

Nobody in their sane mind likes negative vibes, so not many will risk inviting them into their own inbox by turning people down.

Missus

I also read MrandMrsright's post yesterday and like that agreed 100% with the post. I think it's the first line on our bio that no reply means no interest.

This morning I woke up with 8 replies. Every one of them was nice, respectful, not leading and thanking me for replying.

To be honest I feel a bit sad that we don't reply to all messages. Will I start replying to everyone, not a chance, I would never have the time and it's in our bio no reply no interest.

A positive result for single guys but single guys also need to be aware that the admin side of fab gets overwhelming.

Fair play for carrying out your survey. Maybe it shows that 80% of the guys here are genuine and you can decide what to call the other 20% yourself!!

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Used to reply to every damn message as it seemed the polite thing to do.

The fact is though, if you say "not interested" 99% of the time people take even a negative reply as an "in" - as in they are now in a conversation with you.

Then it becomes "why are you not interested", then objecting to your reasons, basically trying to argue their way into your bedroom. It's horrible.

This is particularly the case if they feel they meet your requirements. "But I'm the age you specify" like this is a transactional contract.

Your mate is probably saying "Hi how are you this (insert weather) (insert day) ?"

If you repeatedly drill for a reason someone doesn't want to meet you, you're gonna get insulted.

No reply is easy, block is even easier.

I normally block myself "

Yep this

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

I used to reply to every message with a sorry I’m not interested message but inevitably there would be another message asking why not ? Or give me a try you won’t regret it shite. I feel sorry for your friend but honestly all he wants is sex , he wants replies so he can continue on to the next step which is sex . Nice guy genuine whatever he’s still messaging for the intent of sex . He’s not entitled to it just because he joined Fab

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"I used to reply to every message with a sorry I’m not interested message but inevitably there would be another message asking why not ? Or give me a try you won’t regret it shite. I feel sorry for your friend but honestly all he wants is sex , he wants replies so he can continue on to the next step which is sex . Nice guy genuine whatever he’s still messaging for the intent of sex . He’s not entitled to it just because he joined Fab

I'm sure he joined for the chats, why did you join ?

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

I'm sure he joined for the chats, why did you join ?

I found my soon to be husband on here but that wasn’t expected lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many threads on this subject ...toxic rejection from immature people...moaning about an expectation they have because they've send someone a message ffs ...get over it already ...

YAWNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

No response is a reply accept it move on ...anything can happen in the future ...Not happy take a break or leave stop moaning it happens to everyone....move on, fab will survive with out you

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

I know precisely where he is coming from and I'm being sincere when I say:

- tell him to examine his expectations of fab and drop them

- ask him what is it he is looking for from fab? That might sound like an obvious question but the underlying "need" might be better met elsewhere.

- examine every aspect of his profile and his approach to messaging and see if there is anything that he might change. Better pics, better bio, more humorous messages (none of this will work of course, but it puts the focus back on what is under his control).

It can also help in other interactions such as tinder.

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By *awtieCouple
over a year ago

Galway

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By *awtieCouple
over a year ago

Galway

"I know precisely where he is coming from and I'm being sincere when I say:

- tell him to examine his expectations of fab and drop them

- ask him what is it he is looking for from fab? That might sound like an obvious question but the underlying "need" might be better met elsewhere.

It can also help in other interactions such as tinder."

This guy knows the craic

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

I'm sure he joined for the chats, why did you join ?

I found my soon to be husband on here but that wasn’t expected lol

Cool

What did you hope to get from joining fab ?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"So many threads on this subject ...toxic rejection from immature people...moaning about an expectation they have because they've send someone a message ffs ...get over it already ...

YAWNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

No response is a reply accept it move on ...anything can happen in the future ...Not happy take a break or leave stop moaning it happens to everyone....move on, fab will survive with out you

I think your missing the point ... it wasn't a quest for unconditional or expectational sex,, rather a request for manners when messaged ... as I read the ops post .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're friend needs to grow a pair and man up, people here are under no obligation to reply to his messages, best off to have no expectations from a place like this that way you won't be disappointed

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By *ild WomanWoman
over a year ago

Carlow

I have it on my profile don't contact me if can't handle rejection. I do answer most of my messages. But block if what they say on profile is not what saying in messages. I know only 2 guys that blocked me because they didn't like my answers. All I did was laugh as I was going to give these guys a taste of their own medicine. They blocked me before I had decided to block them.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"Just received a message on an app from a disheartened friend regarding messages he has sent.

He says that he has sent messages to ladies and couples, a lot of them have been read, but no reply.

And yes, I am actually asking for a fellow fabber!!! "

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Tbh wouldn't get disheartened as each of us is much more than a pic and a few words as far as Fab is concerned. No guy here gets replies 100% of the time so even having mail opened and read shows your message is standing out

Get your mate to send his opener to a Fabber for a critique, adjust and use.

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

I'm sure he joined for the chats, why did you join ?

I found my soon to be husband on here but that wasn’t expected lol

Cool

What did you hope to get from joining fab ?"

Sex but I’m a woman so that bound to happen

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"I have it on my profile don't contact me if can't handle rejection. I do answer most of my messages. But block if what they say on profile is not what saying in messages. I know only 2 guys that blocked me because they didn't like my answers. All I did was laugh as I was going to give these guys a taste of their own medicine. They blocked me before I had decided to block them. "

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

I'm sure he joined for the chats, why did you join ?

I found my soon to be husband on here but that wasn’t expected lol

Cool

What did you hope to get from joining fab ?

Sex but I’m a woman so that bound to happen

So you and the ops friend aren't so different after all ...

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