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"Hey all, Wondering what the _iew is from ladies and couples in general. What are the chances of married guys, on here without the knowledge of partners, getting a meet? I’m no oil painting, but I wouldn’t consider myself horrible either. Yet, I have zero success on here. Not sure what it is. Interested in genuine thoughts and comments/feedback. Cheers, FIG" I think you are leading with honesty and openess on here, so that's a start, you may have to build up trust with who you do end up meeting, that you will be worth the extra effort. Zero judgement here, alot of glasshouses about,and each to their own what they are looking for but I am sure there are plenty of married women in similar situations should they only be lucky enough to come on fab, as another poster just said fresh faces would be nice and I'm sure some couples would be open to inviting you. There could be advantages to you like you won't be making a long term play for the Mrs. Anyway just my opinion Mrs c. X | |||
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"Hey all, Wondering what the _iew is from ladies and couples in general. What are the chances of married guys, on here without the knowledge of partners, getting a meet? I’m no oil painting, but I wouldn’t consider myself horrible either. Yet, I have zero success on here. Not sure what it is. Interested in genuine thoughts and comments/feedback. Cheers, FIG I think you are leading with honesty and openess on here, so that's a start, you may have to build up trust with who you do end up meeting, that you will be worth the extra effort. Zero judgement here, alot of glasshouses about,and each to their own what they are looking for but I am sure there are plenty of married women in similar situations should they only be lucky enough to come on fab, as another poster just said fresh faces would be nice and I'm sure some couples would be open to inviting you. There could be advantages to you like you won't be making a long term play for the Mrs. Anyway just my opinion Mrs c. X"  | |||
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"Not too sure if this is just a whiny ‘poor me’ or even a wind up post OP. Being ‘successful’ on here is more to do with you, your personality and the way you approach people too. Interaction is key… Also a point to note, maybe you’ve forgotten but your profile says you’ve had a number of meets (4 meets and 1 cam), hardly “zero success”, which would be the same as me stating that I never posted on this thread
"Definitely not a wind up, my post is genuine. All the meets mentioned are from years ago. I’m willing to build up trust and a connection. My question was genuine, as most profiles seem to exclude married guys. Maybe I’m just looking at the wrong profiles ????? Thanks for the replies | |||
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"Just to go back on the initial query… The only issue we have with anyone who is married/attached is that they can’t always be reliable to meet as plans can and have been changed the very last minute. (Or they do an impression of a Panda bear - Eats shoots and leaves ) "there are married ladies on here in a similar position as you n it just takes time openness n honesty to get to know them . Patience | |||
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"If the single bi female is the nice sweet ripe fresh red pink lady apple, and couples are a bog standard granny smith and single men are the ton of normal apples that are lying around on the ground, then cheating men are the bruised old apples that ended up in someone else's garden, and you need to hop across fences and risk getting yelled at by a grumpy wife chasing you with her mop. " Im loving this analogy haha! | |||
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"Just to go back on the initial query… The only issue we have with anyone who is married/attached is that they can’t always be reliable to meet as plans can and have been changed the very last minute. (Or they do an impression of a Panda bear - Eats shoots and leaves ) "I 2nd this | |||
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"Just to go back on the initial query… The only issue we have with anyone who is married/attached is that they can’t always be reliable to meet as plans can and have been changed the very last minute. (Or they do an impression of a Panda bear - Eats shoots and leaves ) there are married ladies on here in a similar position as you n it just takes time openness n honesty to get to know them . Patience "Hey we’re not the ones giving out.. The OP is | |||
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"Not too sure if this is just a whiny ‘poor me’ or even a wind up post OP. Being ‘successful’ on here is more to do with you, your personality and the way you approach people too. Interaction is key… Also a point to note, maybe you’ve forgotten but your profile says you’ve had a number of meets (4 meets and 1 cam), hardly “zero success”, which would be the same as me stating that I never posted on this thread
"Definitely not a wind up, my post is genuine. All the meets mentioned are from years ago. I’m willing to build up trust and a connection. My question was genuine, as most profiles seem to exclude married guys. Maybe I’m just looking at the wrong profiles ????? Thanks for the replies | |||
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"Yep, that’s what I was thinking. Seems I’m doomed to a life of no sex ??" How about fixing it with your wife? | |||
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"Hey all, Wondering what the _iew is from ladies and couples in general. What are the chances of married guys, on here without the knowledge of partners, getting a meet? I’m no oil painting, but I wouldn’t consider myself horrible either. Yet, I have zero success on here. Not sure what it is. Interested in genuine thoughts and comments/feedback. Cheers, FIG" Honestly? Cannot stand the dishonesty and disrespect. | |||
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"Mrs wouldn't hear of it!...But morals aside, cheating married men are a high-risk environment! Last thing you want is some scorned woman trying to contact you!!" Thinking about it - higher risk of stis too as I can't picture a married person regularly going to the gum clinic.  | |||
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"Mrs wouldn't hear of it!...But morals aside, cheating married men are a high-risk environment! Last thing you want is some scorned woman trying to contact you!! Thinking about it - higher risk of stis too as I can't picture a married person regularly going to the gum clinic. "That’s a pretty good point that we’ve not considered. We also agree with most of the couple responses and morals are a huge part of it for us, but even ignoring that (not that we would). Attached guys are less available for a start. We tend to be greedy with Scarlett seeing a lad often (especially at the start) and attached lads just don’t have that flexibility. If they are cheating, then we can do without the bad karma and potential justifiably upset wife calling us out in person or online. The guy won’t be able to accommodate and probably can’t put hotels on his CC so less options for play. Also, filming is huge for us and a non-negotiable dealbreaker. Naturally, attached men tend to be camera shy | |||
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"Mrs wouldn't hear of it!...But morals aside, cheating married men are a high-risk environment! Last thing you want is some scorned woman trying to contact you!!" Had that, from gf of a guy I believed was single. It was not pretty  | |||
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"In my experience, married men are a lot more careful, responsible and honest than single men on here. They make more of an effort, rarely let you down and don’t just want to get their cocks seen to as often as possible. I’ve met - what - 3 single guys that actually do what they say on the tin. No one knows anyone elses story and not everyones story is clear as to why they are not monogamous with their partner. The comment “sort it out with your wife” is laughable, ridiculous and downright asinine. If you’re looking for NSA, it’s literally that. If you’re looking for a relationship, make it clear. But judging men and women because of what’s going on in their private personal lives is virtue gesturing. And let’s be honest, if you fancy them enough, you’ll fuck then anyways. All the veris on here make that quite clear" Couldnt have said it better and the funny thing is those self rightous holier than thou detractors have no quams about meeting a married woman | |||
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"Married is one thing but as has been said, availability of date , availability of time for meeting, reliability and can't accommodate puts you at a disadvantage from the get go. You probably can't attend party's and maybe only have an hour free to meet which again will limit who wants to meet you. Bummer really!" Yeah. You’d think. Never been an issue in my experience. Maybe it’s the people you choose don’t want to prioritise their time accordingly? | |||
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"Married is one thing but as has been said, availability of date , availability of time for meeting, reliability and can't accommodate puts you at a disadvantage from the get go. You probably can't attend party's and maybe only have an hour free to meet which again will limit who wants to meet you. Bummer really! Yeah. You’d think. Never been an issue in my experience. Maybe it’s the people you choose don’t want to prioritise their time accordingly? " Each have their own unique availability & limitations, i am a married guy whos partner knows and encourages, i can not only meet but can also accomadate. So please dont assume married guys are trouble. | |||
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"In my experience, married men are a lot more careful, responsible and honest than single men on here. They make more of an effort, rarely let you down and don’t just want to get their cocks seen to as often as possible. I’ve met - what - 3 single guys that actually do what they say on the tin. No one knows anyone elses story and not everyones story is clear as to why they are not monogamous with their partner. The comment “sort it out with your wife” is laughable, ridiculous and downright asinine. If you’re looking for NSA, it’s literally that. If you’re looking for a relationship, make it clear. But judging men and women because of what’s going on in their private personal lives is virtue gesturing. And let’s be honest, if you fancy them enough, you’ll fuck then anyways. All the veris on here make that quite clear" | |||
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"In my experience, married men are a lot more careful, responsible and honest than single men on here. They make more of an effort, rarely let you down and don’t just want to get their cocks seen to as often as possible. I’ve met - what - 3 single guys that actually do what they say on the tin. No one knows anyone elses story and not everyones story is clear as to why they are not monogamous with their partner. The comment “sort it out with your wife” is laughable, ridiculous and downright asinine. If you’re looking for NSA, it’s literally that. If you’re looking for a relationship, make it clear. But judging men and women because of what’s going on in their private personal lives is virtue gesturing. And let’s be honest, if you fancy them enough, you’ll fuck then anyways. All the veris on here make that quite clear" | |||
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"Reading some of the comments here and stones and glass houses spring to mind" Why is that?... | |||
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"Mrs wouldn't hear of it!...But morals aside, cheating married men are a high-risk environment! Last thing you want is some scorned woman trying to contact you!!" Oh yeah and that's the last thing you want. | |||
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"Reading some of the comments here and stones and glass houses spring to mind" Why is that? You think everyone is cheating? | |||
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"Reading some of the comments here and stones and glass houses spring to mind Why is that? You think everyone is cheating?" Very quick to jump to that conclusion considering i never said that and if you think i implied it the word some does not encapsulate everyone | |||
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"Yep, that’s what I was thinking. Seems I’m doomed to a life of no sex ?? You can always get divorced "Nah, the other qualities are good | |||
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"Yep, that’s what I was thinking. Seems I’m doomed to a life of no sex ?? You can always get divorced
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"I'm genuinely interested so don't take it as an attack But why do people go to the effort of proposing, spending a fortune on a wedding, building a life with somebody if your heart just isn't in it, why go behind somebody's back who you have committed yourself to for a bit of meaningless sex, is it not more worthwhile to work on things with your partner and rebuild what it is you once had. I'm aware men feel loved when getting Sexual intimacy from their spouse but on the other hand women require non secure intimacy, holding hands a hug a kiss the small things, studies have shown women don't 'put out' when their needs aren't being met. I think personally if you have gone through the effort of getting married then it's worth the effort of rebuilding " Are you seriously that naive? you think that people don’t change over the course of 5/10/20yrs? Leaving one person gasping for air while the other sits back and rides roughshod over family life? You really think that everyone is in a situation to just get up and leave a difficult situation? Do you think everyone who perhaps has a chronically ill or emotionally abusive or controlling partner can decide “ok I’m done, I want to get laid now” and pack a bag and go? Do YOU think so little of marriage that one fancy expensive day a a pretty dress should define the rest of your life? I’ve seen many marriages fall apart and never once have I experienced anything even close to the flippancy of which you describe a failing marriage. As for women not “putting out”?? Christ. You really havnt got a clue. | |||
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"I'm genuinely interested so don't take it as an attack But why do people go to the effort of proposing, spending a fortune on a wedding, building a life with somebody if your heart just isn't in it, why go behind somebody's back who you have committed yourself to for a bit of meaningless sex, is it not more worthwhile to work on things with your partner and rebuild what it is you once had. I'm aware men feel loved when getting Sexual intimacy from their spouse but on the other hand women require non secure intimacy, holding hands a hug a kiss the small things, studies have shown women don't 'put out' when their needs aren't being met. I think personally if you have gone through the effort of getting married then it's worth the effort of rebuilding Are you seriously that naive? you think that people don’t change over the course of 5/10/20yrs? Leaving one person gasping for air while the other sits back and rides roughshod over family life? You really think that everyone is in a situation to just get up and leave a difficult situation? Do you think everyone who perhaps has a chronically ill or emotionally abusive or controlling partner can decide “ok I’m done, I want to get laid now” and pack a bag and go? Do YOU think so little of marriage that one fancy expensive day a a pretty dress should define the rest of your life? I’ve seen many marriages fall apart and never once have I experienced anything even close to the flippancy of which you describe a failing marriage. As for women not “putting out”?? Christ. You really havnt got a clue. " Never been married, but been cheated on. Genuinely much rather be dumped or ghosted. That person broke my heart and my head, I will never be able to trust anyone in the same way, I will never be able to look at myself the same way I did before either. I know many people who have been cheated on and all of them are broken in one way or another and will remain broken for the rest of their lives. I know even more people who are divorced - after initial year or two of the mess of a divorce they're living a new, better life, they're dating, they suit themselves, they improved their self worth and became stronger, more independent and more adventurous. Go figure what's better - keeping a housemate who cleans and cooks but doesn't fuck then breaking their heart if they find you cheating or actually giving that person a chance to build their own new life without holding them back even if it hurts for a bit. Obviously not all cases are the same, but I highly doubt that everyone has these mysterious medical conditions and/or are in abusive relationships. Vast majority of cheaters just think grass is greener on the other side and can't keep it in their pants. Missus | |||
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"I'm genuinely interested so don't take it as an attack But why do people go to the effort of proposing, spending a fortune on a wedding, building a life with somebody if your heart just isn't in it, why go behind somebody's back who you have committed yourself to for a bit of meaningless sex, is it not more worthwhile to work on things with your partner and rebuild what it is you once had. I'm aware men feel loved when getting Sexual intimacy from their spouse but on the other hand women require non secure intimacy, holding hands a hug a kiss the small things, studies have shown women don't 'put out' when their needs aren't being met. I think personally if you have gone through the effort of getting married then it's worth the effort of rebuilding Are you seriously that naive? you think that people don’t change over the course of 5/10/20yrs? Leaving one person gasping for air while the other sits back and rides roughshod over family life? You really think that everyone is in a situation to just get up and leave a difficult situation? Do you think everyone who perhaps has a chronically ill or emotionally abusive or controlling partner can decide “ok I’m done, I want to get laid now” and pack a bag and go? Do YOU think so little of marriage that one fancy expensive day a a pretty dress should define the rest of your life? I’ve seen many marriages fall apart and never once have I experienced anything even close to the flippancy of which you describe a failing marriage. As for women not “putting out”?? Christ. You really havnt got a clue. " It’s never simple | |||
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"I'm genuinely interested so don't take it as an attack But why do people go to the effort of proposing, spending a fortune on a wedding, building a life with somebody if your heart just isn't in it, why go behind somebody's back who you have committed yourself to for a bit of meaningless sex, is it not more worthwhile to work on things with your partner and rebuild what it is you once had. I'm aware men feel loved when getting Sexual intimacy from their spouse but on the other hand women require non secure intimacy, holding hands a hug a kiss the small things, studies have shown women don't 'put out' when their needs aren't being met. I think personally if you have gone through the effort of getting married then it's worth the effort of rebuilding Are you seriously that naive? you think that people don’t change over the course of 5/10/20yrs? Leaving one person gasping for air while the other sits back and rides roughshod over family life? You really think that everyone is in a situation to just get up and leave a difficult situation? Do you think everyone who perhaps has a chronically ill or emotionally abusive or controlling partner can decide “ok I’m done, I want to get laid now” and pack a bag and go? Do YOU think so little of marriage that one fancy expensive day a a pretty dress should define the rest of your life? I’ve seen many marriages fall apart and never once have I experienced anything even close to the flippancy of which you describe a failing marriage. As for women not “putting out”?? Christ. You really havnt got a clue. It’s never simple "It is simple really. It either is cheating or isn't cheating. The reason doesn't suddenly mean it isn't cheating does it?? | |||
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"I'm genuinely interested so don't take it as an attack But why do people go to the effort of proposing, spending a fortune on a wedding, building a life with somebody if your heart just isn't in it, why go behind somebody's back who you have committed yourself to for a bit of meaningless sex, is it not more worthwhile to work on things with your partner and rebuild what it is you once had. I'm aware men feel loved when getting Sexual intimacy from their spouse but on the other hand women require non secure intimacy, holding hands a hug a kiss the small things, studies have shown women don't 'put out' when their needs aren't being met. I think personally if you have gone through the effort of getting married then it's worth the effort of rebuilding Are you seriously that naive? you think that people don’t change over the course of 5/10/20yrs? Leaving one person gasping for air while the other sits back and rides roughshod over family life? You really think that everyone is in a situation to just get up and leave a difficult situation? Do you think everyone who perhaps has a chronically ill or emotionally abusive or controlling partner can decide “ok I’m done, I want to get laid now” and pack a bag and go? Do YOU think so little of marriage that one fancy expensive day a a pretty dress should define the rest of your life? I’ve seen many marriages fall apart and never once have I experienced anything even close to the flippancy of which you describe a failing marriage. As for women not “putting out”?? Christ. You really havnt got a clue. It’s never simple
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It either is cheating or isn't cheating.
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"I can't lie to you about your chances. But you have my sympathies... Sorry, but this quote seemed to fit this thread perfectly
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"I can't lie to you about your chances. But you have my sympathies... Sorry, but this quote seemed to fit this thread perfectly
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"Everyone is entitled to choose what type of person they want, whether if they are married or not!! I've no preference to either, but theres something about a married lady that hasnt experienced much in her sex life?? " Please, don’t tell me that a married women or guy, doesn’t know what good sex is!!! In relationships it can fizzle out or not… that depends on them and their situation, but we believe that we will always have the best sex together. Intimacy and fun creates the best sex in our _iew… But as a couple we enjoy to invite a select few people to have fun with. Not because we have bad or boring sex. It is, like we call it, a “different” experiences. So saying there are some experiences a married lady hasn’t had is absolute BS…  a cock is a cock… it is how you gel and play with another person when you meet. | |||
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"Yeah… we do get a bad rap…. There are a lot of reasons for attached being on here… and everyone has their opinion on why. My partner does not know I play on here, but we have our own agreement as we both accept our sex life broke down years ago. And since I have joined it has been an amazing experience and I have met some wonderful people who are the exact same position as myself. But in my experience from being on here as a fabber, is being honest with fellow fabbers. That’s why it says ‘Attached’ on my profile. Nor do I judge any one’s reasons why they are on here, we all have our reasons. And everyone has to make their own choices. After all we are all adults!" I don't see any reference to 'attached' on your profile. Regardless, being married/attached is not the issue. The issue with most people is playing away without knowledge/consent and you don't come under that category. We're very torn on the issue I must admit. As a long-time married couple, we could be on our high (moral) horse but reading posts like this just makes us feel lucky to be on here together. Most couples don't get to experience what we do because they're not on the same page. Irish society and the church have a lot to answer for there. But our preference is not to meet people whose partner hasn't given their consent as we don't want the potential drama that it may bring. Plus we want to definitely avoid people in 'happy' marriages who are cheating because they are assholes and for no other reason. | |||
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"Yep, that’s what I was thinking. Seems I’m doomed to a life of no sex ?? How about fixing it with your wife? " In fairness if that was the case he wouldn't be here, and I know what I'm talking about. Count yourself one of the lucky ones. | |||
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"In my experience, married men are a lot more careful, responsible and honest than single men on here. They make more of an effort, rarely let you down and don’t just want to get their cocks seen to as often as possible. I’ve met - what - 3 single guys that actually do what they say on the tin. No one knows anyone elses story and not everyones story is clear as to why they are not monogamous with their partner. The comment “sort it out with your wife” is laughable, ridiculous and downright asinine. If you’re looking for NSA, it’s literally that. If you’re looking for a relationship, make it clear. But judging men and women because of what’s going on in their private personal lives is virtue gesturing. And let’s be honest, if you fancy them enough, you’ll fuck then anyways. All the veris on here make that quite clear" Well said, thank you. | |||
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" Regardless, being married/attached is not the issue. The issue with most people is playing away without knowledge/consent and you don't come under that category. We're very torn on the issue I must admit. As a long-time married couple, we could be on our high (moral) horse but reading posts like this just makes us feel lucky to be on here together. Most couples don't get to experience what we do because they're not on the same page. Irish society and the church have a lot to answer for there. But our preference is not to meet people whose partner hasn't given their consent as we don't want the potential drama that it may bring. Plus we want to definitely avoid people in 'happy' marriages who are cheating because they are assholes and for no other reason." You guys are cut from different stuff tho. You made your decision and that’s it. I’ve NEVER seen you be rude or judgemental or horrid. It’s heartening cos when we met you were so lovely, the first couple I ever met and liked. Not a bitchy judgey bone in your body, regardless of my situation, which you STILL never asked about. I admire your respect and resolution. The judgey ones can all fuck off. You guys Rick. | |||
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" Regardless, being married/attached is not the issue. The issue with most people is playing away without knowledge/consent and you don't come under that category. We're very torn on the issue I must admit. As a long-time married couple, we could be on our high (moral) horse but reading posts like this just makes us feel lucky to be on here together. Most couples don't get to experience what we do because they're not on the same page. Irish society and the church have a lot to answer for there. But our preference is not to meet people whose partner hasn't given their consent as we don't want the potential drama that it may bring. Plus we want to definitely avoid people in 'happy' marriages who are cheating because they are assholes and for no other reason. You guys are cut from different stuff tho. You made your decision and that’s it. I’ve NEVER seen you be rude or judgemental or horrid. It’s heartening cos when we met you were so lovely, the first couple I ever met and liked. Not a bitchy judgey bone in your body, regardless of my situation, which you STILL never asked about. I admire your respect and resolution. The judgey ones can all fuck off. You guys Rick. " Oops  | |||
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" Regardless, being married/attached is not the issue. The issue with most people is playing away without knowledge/consent and you don't come under that category. We're very torn on the issue I must admit. As a long-time married couple, we could be on our high (moral) horse but reading posts like this just makes us feel lucky to be on here together. Most couples don't get to experience what we do because they're not on the same page. Irish society and the church have a lot to answer for there. But our preference is not to meet people whose partner hasn't given their consent as we don't want the potential drama that it may bring. Plus we want to definitely avoid people in 'happy' marriages who are cheating because they are assholes and for no other reason. You guys are cut from different stuff tho. You made your decision and that’s it. I’ve NEVER seen you be rude or judgemental or horrid. It’s heartening cos when we met you were so lovely, the first couple I ever met and liked. Not a bitchy judgey bone in your body, regardless of my situation, which you STILL never asked about. I admire your respect and resolution. The judgey ones can all fuck off. You guys Rick. Oops "Oops??? Why? | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married "Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples. | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples. "May we ask Red. Are you married? | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?"Why is that any of your business ? Have you even chatted to her? And why would you think it's okay to ask anyone such a private question on a public forum just because you obviously don't agree with her opinion. It's a forum people don't agree on it always but asking personal questions on here in my opinion is out of order. | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?"Your old account used to take pleasure in commenting on every thread you could find critical of married people on here without their partner knowing. Your new account seems to do the same Why ....... | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?"No. You cant. Cause its none of your fucking business. And the fact that you ask something like that in a public forum like this just proves her point and shows how fucking high-horsed and judgemental you are. | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?"LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures. My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing… | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?
LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures.
My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing… "That sounds kinda judgemental | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?
LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures.
My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing… "Why take a dig at "most cpls " not sure what you are trying to get at , but it seems your fairly pissed at most cpls on here
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?
LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures.
My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing…
That sounds kinda judgemental "Nah. I don’t make sweeping generalised unfounded statements. And I’m nice to everyone | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?
LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures.
My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing…
That sounds kinda judgemental
Nah. I don’t make sweeping generalised unfounded statements. And I’m nice to everyone "You did and your really not though | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?
LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures.
My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing…
Why take a dig at "most cpls " not sure what you are trying to get at , but it seems your fairly pissed at most cpls on here
Mrs crazy "Goodness no. I even earlier on complimented a couple on their fairness and friendliness. You have to agree tho that most couples that lost about this topic do so with judgement and distaste. My sincere apologies if you felt swept up in that, it was not my intention. | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
Hand gestures hey??
Right back at you.
Enjoy. Xx
May we ask Red.
Are you married?
LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures.
My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing… "Hand gestures hey?? Right back at you. | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?
LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures.
My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing…
That sounds kinda judgemental
Nah. I don’t make sweeping generalised unfounded statements. And I’m nice to everyone
You did and your really not though"Well said. | |||
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"In my experience, married men are a lot more careful, responsible and honest than single men on here. They make more of an effort, rarely let you down and don’t just want to get their cocks seen to as often as possible. I’ve met - what - 3 single guys that actually do what they say on the tin. No one knows anyone elses story and not everyones story is clear as to why they are not monogamous with their partner. The comment “sort it out with your wife” is laughable, ridiculous and downright asinine. If you’re looking for NSA, it’s literally that. If you’re looking for a relationship, make it clear. But judging men and women because of what’s going on in their private personal lives is virtue gesturing. And let’s be honest, if you fancy them enough, you’ll fuck then anyways. All the veris on here make that quite clear" | |||
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"Hey all, Wondering what the _iew is from ladies and couples in general. What are the chances of married guys, on here without the knowledge of partners, getting a meet? I’m no oil painting, but I wouldn’t consider myself horrible either. Yet, I have zero success on here. Not sure what it is. Interested in genuine thoughts and comments/feedback. Cheers, FIG I think you are leading with honesty and openess on here, so that's a start, you may have to build up trust with who you do end up meeting, that you will be worth the extra effort. Zero judgement here, alot of glasshouses about,and each to their own what they are looking for but I am sure there are plenty of married women in similar situations should they only be lucky enough to come on fab, as another poster just said fresh faces would be nice and I'm sure some couples would be open to inviting you. There could be advantages to you like you won't be making a long term play for the Mrs. Anyway just my opinion Mrs c. X" | |||
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"Just for the judgemental ones!!! Im not one of them as im married
Plenty of judgemental ones on here for a site that encourages open mindedness. And they aren’t always couples.
May we ask Red.
Are you married?
LOL!!!! You can. But my answer is “none of your goddam business”. Also some hand gestures.
My conscience is clear… pretty sure most of the couples on here can’t say the same thing…
Why take a dig at "most cpls " not sure what you are trying to get at , but it seems your fairly pissed at most cpls on here
Mrs crazy
Goodness no. I even earlier on complimented a couple on their fairness and friendliness. You have to agree tho that most couples that lost about this topic do so with judgement and distaste. My sincere apologies if you felt swept up in that, it was not my intention. "Mrs C she’s pissed that she’s not getting attention and that people have copped on to what she really is so she takes a dig at couples Says she’s not judgmental lol lol Water always finds its own level | |||
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"A well known single guy on here comes to an event. Leaves after 10 mins, sends a mail to say he had to leave as hes married and cheating on his wife and saw a couple from his home town at the event. So freaked out... He took the place of a genuine single guy who could have had the space instead but he chose to attend depriving an actual single lad of a space. Why the fook would anyone want that level of unreliability in their lives? " .. and the risk! The act of just turning up at a party before even doing anything could risk his marriage. Risks his kids growing up in a house without him. Financial ruin. For what!?? Silly boy. | |||
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"I’m such a hypocrite. I approach this site as honest as possible. State clearly on my profile that I’m married and require discretion because I don’t want to lie, yet the biggest lie is that I’m not telling my wife!! It’s some form of an addiction I guess, strange as that sounds, crave the chase and the adrenaline. We all have our reasons for doing what we do. Some people drink, gamble, take drugs etc. I put committing adultery into a similar addiction category . Right now I’m strung out cause I haven’t had a fix in a while ?? You’d swear reading some of the comments above that men only commit adultery! (Although yes we do outnumber ladies by a mile) " A very honest post I must say. Cheating men here nearly always have a someone else to blame. At least you own what you do. I'll add that it really sounds like you need to talk to someone as this is a compulsion for you. There are things like CBT that can help to recognise and alter behaviour like compulsive sexual activity. It really works. | |||
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" I’m willing to build up trust and a connection. " How some one who admits to cheat on his wife or husband can say they trustworthy and looking for connection? | |||
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" I’m willing to build up trust and a connection. How some one who admits to cheat on his wife or husband can say they trustworthy and looking for connection?" Fab honest | |||
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" I’m willing to build up trust and a connection. How some one who admits to cheat on his wife or husband can say they trustworthy and looking for connection?" Some people will say anything to get the ride. | |||
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" I’m willing to build up trust and a connection. How some one who admits to cheat on his wife or husband can say they trustworthy and looking for connection?" Shush or you'll be called judgemental | |||
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" I’m willing to build up trust and a connection. How some one who admits to cheat on his wife or husband can say they trustworthy and looking for connection? Shush or you'll be called judgemental "I wear it like a badge | |||
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"Hey all, Wondering what the _iew is from ladies and couples in general. What are the chances of married guys, on here without the knowledge of partners, getting a meet? I’m no oil painting, but I wouldn’t consider myself horrible either. Yet, I have zero success on here. Not sure what it is. Interested in genuine thoughts and comments/feedback. Cheers, FIG" I for one rather meet married guys than single . So much less hassle or demanding or bunny boilers . Live your fab journey for yourself . By the way there is a nice group for attached More than welcome 
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"Hey all, Wondering what the _iew is from ladies and couples in general. What are the chances of married guys, on here without the knowledge of partners, getting a meet? I’m no oil painting, but I wouldn’t consider myself horrible either. Yet, I have zero success on here. Not sure what it is. Interested in genuine thoughts and comments/feedback. Cheers, FIG" I hear you, its next to.impossible | |||
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"IMI there are no issues with married guys getting a meet . If someone is struggling on the site they ll need to attend to the usual issues (pics, bio, messages , availability , forum and socials presence ). Remember some people don’t mind picking up an apple from a disputed boundary fence if it’s sufficiently tasty . I am sure if you could ‘fix it’ with your wife you would have and would avoid the effort required to be here plus the public judgement thing. Some married men go to an STI clinic . Some don’t . Some single people go to the STI clinic . Some don’t . Also , you can use condoms regardless of whether people are attending them . Some married guys book hotels . Some don’t , some single people book hotels . Some don’t . The throwaway suggestions of ‘just get divorced’ are interesting . Really ? Without knowing the circumstances and consequences ? Also the assumptions that the lack of sex is the result of not holding hands and giving hugs is interesting . I don’t see that in the OP yet assumptions are ok because , well he is in the bruised apple category . The assumption that it’s the non cheating partner who is cooking and cleaning is also interesting . I can give you an alternative hypothesis which is that the partner being denied sex does all the housework in the hope that this will finally ‘work’. Having your cake and eating it is interesting . What about the cake being getting Married and the eating it being not working on your cause of low libido ? Do agree that the leaving the fully booked social thing was shitty . And also being on here when in a marriage with a good sex life without consent . I find the praise for the self confessed sex addict interesting . I guess it fits into the narrative of the cheater being mentally unwell in some way and requiring psychological intervention . The Surprise expressed in seeking a connection sums it all up tbh … " There stands a wise and knowalageable man casting no aspersions and living his best life a breath of fresh air on such a cloudy topic loving ur outlook | |||
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"Hey all, Wondering what the _iew is from ladies and couples in general. What are the chances of married guys, on here without the I’m no oil painting, but I wouldn’t consider myself horrible either. Yet, I have zero success on here. Not sure what it is. Interested in genuine thoughts and comments/feedback. Cheers, FIG I for one rather meet married guys than single . So much less hassle or demanding or bunny boilers . Live your fab journey for yourself . By the way there is a nice group for attached More than welcome
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"IMI there are no issues with married guys getting a meet . If someone is struggling on the site they ll need to attend to the usual issues (pics, bio, messages , availability , forum and socials presence ). Remember some people don’t mind picking up an apple from a disputed boundary fence if it’s sufficiently tasty . I am sure if you could ‘fix it’ with your wife you would have and would avoid the effort required to be here plus the public judgement thing. Some married men go to an STI clinic . Some don’t . Some single people go to the STI clinic . Some don’t . Also , you can use condoms regardless of whether people are attending them . Some married guys book hotels . Some don’t , some single people book hotels . Some don’t . The throwaway suggestions of ‘just get divorced’ are interesting . Really ? Without knowing the circumstances and consequences ? Also the assumptions that the lack of sex is the result of not holding hands and giving hugs is interesting . I don’t see that in the OP yet assumptions are ok because , well he is in the bruised apple category . The assumption that it’s the non cheating partner who is cooking and cleaning is also interesting . I can give you an alternative hypothesis which is that the partner being denied sex does all the housework in the hope that this will finally ‘work’. Having your cake and eating it is interesting . What about the cake being getting Married and the eating it being not working on your cause of low libido ? Do agree that the leaving the fully booked social thing was shitty . And also being on here when in a marriage with a good sex life without consent . I find the praise for the self confessed sex addict interesting . I guess it fits into the narrative of the cheater being mentally unwell in some way and requiring psychological intervention . The Surprise expressed in seeking a connection sums it all up tbh … " Have to ask, what is the effort to be here? And from the many cheating guys that we have known personally there usually is no drama at home, and they are doing it because they want more, or they are doing it because they think it is funny. | |||
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"I guess speaking to your other half is not an idea? Before I meet someone mine has to approve, but it does make life much simpler and fun for us as a couple, and of course much fair to other people. Any reason why you are here as a single guy?? " Any particular reason as to why you constantly question why people are here. You could have so more fun if you just concentrated on yourselves. | |||
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"I guess speaking to your other half is not an idea? Before I meet someone mine has to approve, but it does make life much simpler and fun for us as a couple, and of course much fair to other people. Any reason why you are here as a single guy?? " We have a couple's profile and each one have our own single's profile. | |||
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"I guess speaking to your other half is not an idea? Before I meet someone mine has to approve, but it does make life much simpler and fun for us as a couple, and of course much fair to other people. Any reason why you are here as a single guy?? Any particular reason as to why you constantly question why people are here. You could have so more fun if you just concentrated on yourselves. " the funny part is that you are the inquisitive_lady | |||
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"I guess speaking to your other half is not an idea? Before I meet someone mine has to approve, but it does make life much simpler and fun for us as a couple, and of course much fair to other people. Any reason why you are here as a single guy?? Any particular reason as to why you constantly question why people are here. You could have so more fun if you just concentrated on yourselves. the funny part is that you are the inquisitive_lady "That I sure am .
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"Im watching this while eating popcorn and a large coca cóla!!! Im taking odds on inquisitive lady to win?? " I am a lover not a fighter Isn't that what fab is all about. | |||
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"I guess speaking to your other half is not an idea? Before I meet someone mine has to approve, but it does make life much simpler and fun for us as a couple, and of course much fair to other people. Any reason why you are here as a single guy?? Any particular reason as to why you constantly question why people are here. You could have so more fun if you just concentrated on yourselves. " You don't know us my dear. We have great fun on here!! Enjoy. | |||
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