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By *B1969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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Hi guys,

A newbie here needing some advice please!

I seem to be getting nowhere though I've messaged a few of you (grrrrr stop deleting me lol) I appreciate that you ladies get lots of offers!

I think if I could get a verification that I'm a normal (well mostly) person it would help. I'd like to do this by meeting up for a coffee if possible but I can't even get that far never mind into someone's pants lol.

I hate cams but is that the only way forward do you think?

Thanks in advance for your advice??

DB

PS: I live in the arsehole of nowhere but work in Belfast so if you would like a coffee after work some time let me know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys,

A newbie here needing some advice please!

I seem to be getting nowhere though I've messaged a few of you (grrrrr stop deleting me lol) I appreciate that you ladies get lots of offers!

I think if I could get a verification that I'm a normal (well mostly) person it would help. I'd like to do this by meeting up for a coffee if possible but I can't even get that far never mind into someone's pants lol.

I hate cams but is that the only way forward do you think?

Thanks in advance for your advice??

DB

PS: I live in the arsehole of nowhere but work in Belfast so if you would like a coffee after work some time let me know! "

ah rome was,nt built in day and u,ve only been here 7 of them , talk a bit first and don,t invade their inbox with cock pics cause thats one of the biggest turn offs , if we wnat cock pics we will ask lol good luck i live in the arsehole of no where too but if they are genuine enough they will travel to meet you and vice versa so play it cool lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey pal, I hear ya. You'll get some pointed comments from certain members about your profile, beef it up a bit more. I'm still a newbie (just over a month) and have managed to meet a couple of members for the initial coffee 'n' chat. As a lone male looking to meet up, it'll be difficult but not impossible. You'll just have to be prepared to take your time and realise that many of the members here have been doing this for such a long time that they have established groups and contacts, and aren't necessarily looking for a single guy to join in. Bit of a generalisation, but something to bear in mind.

What I get from reading the forums is that women / couples are not just looking for sex. It's more than that. Honesty and discretion are paramount. Be honest with yourself as in what you want, and convey that as eloquently as possible to whomever you chat with.

Patience, Grasshopper

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By *B1969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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Lol, can't understand why anyone would want a cock pic anyway!

Yeah, I'll take it easy, I'm not mailing back if I don't get a reply.

Thanks

Oh, I lied, I don't really live in the arsehole of nowhere, I live beside it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol, can't understand why anyone would want a cock pic anyway!

Yeah, I'll take it easy, I'm not mailing back if I don't get a reply.

Thanks

Oh, I lied, I don't really live in the arsehole of nowhere, I live beside it!

"

well we all live beside or know an arsehole good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the forums, chat, let people get to know ur "personality" ... It's not JUST about being a "normal" or "sound" guy

it takes time .... But worth the effort.

You get out what you put in ... So to speak

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By *B1969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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Thanks guys,

So have I shot my bolt, so to speak?

Would I have been better not mailing anyone till I've been seen about the forums for a while?

I guess you know what it's like, the wee head is impatient lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" So have I shot my bolt, so to speak?

Would I have been better not mailing anyone till I've been seen about the forums for a while?

"

How many people did you mail?

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By *B1969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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Erm........lots??

Well those with profiles that seemed to match mine.

Have I fucked up then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't honestly say, as I'm still new. Bear in mind that this is a relatively small pool you're dipping your toe into. A lot of people on here know each other and mail each other regularly or chat in the forums. Someone I met for coffee recently told me she regularly chats with her friends on here when she gets contacted by someone, just to see what she can find out. But as long as you don't bombard their inbox with repeated requests, you should be ok. It really does take time and patience. I think I emailed around 8-10 people, and got 2 responses, some were deleted or read & ignored. Don't take it personally. Check out the forum conversation, "Blocked." You'll see what I mean. We are in the majority, so ladies / couples can afford to be very very choosy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't honestly say, as I'm still new. Bear in mind that this is a relatively small pool you're dipping your toe into. A lot of people on here know each other and mail each other regularly or chat in the forums. Someone I met for coffee recently told me she regularly chats with her friends on here when she gets contacted by someone, just to see what she can find out. But as long as you don't bombard their inbox with repeated requests, you should be ok. It really does take time and patience. I think I emailed around 8-10 people, and got 2 responses, some were deleted or read & ignored. Don't take it personally. Check out the forum conversation, "Blocked." You'll see what I mean. We are in the majority, so ladies / couples can afford to be very very choosy."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't honestly say, as I'm still new. Bear in mind that this is a relatively small pool you're dipping your toe into. A lot of people on here know each other and mail each other regularly or chat in the forums. Someone I met for coffee recently told me she regularly chats with her friends on here when she gets contacted by someone, just to see what she can find out. But as long as you don't bombard their inbox with repeated requests, you should be ok. It really does take time and patience. I think I emailed around 8-10 people, and got 2 responses, some were deleted or read & ignored. Don't take it personally. Check out the forum conversation, "Blocked." You'll see what I mean. We are in the majority, so ladies / couples can afford to be very very choosy."

Hmmmmmm

So I suppose the definition of discretion means nowt for some???

SOME women have loose lips and discuss the ins and outs of a ducks arse with anyone

However note the word SOME

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By *araMan
over a year ago

na

Only a wee bit of advice but, remember manners and be honest with people. Just because we are on here for a sexual purpose doesn't mean rudness or crudeness is acceptable.

Treat people the way you would like to be treated in a normal everyday enviroment, with respect.

And lastly respect people if they say no, and dont take it personnal each to their own personnal taste.

good luck chum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hmmmmmm

So I suppose the definition of discretion means nowt for some???

SOME women have loose lips and discuss the ins and outs of a ducks arse with anyone

However note the word SOME"

Not at all. At no time were any secrets revealed, nor details of any meets divulged. It was advice imparted in order to keep the experience on here as safe as possible. For instance, if I PM someone then why shouldn't that person PM their friends to ask if anyone can vouch for me?

So to be fair, they were still very discrete, honest and helpful. I don't see there being any harm in what was said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only a wee bit of advice but, remember manners and be honest with people. Just because we are on here for a sexual purpose doesn't mean rudness or crudeness is acceptable.

Treat people the way you would like to be treated in a normal everyday enviroment, with respect.

And lastly respect people if they say no, and dont take it personnal each to their own personnal taste.

good luck chum "

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"

Hmmmmmm

So I suppose the definition of discretion means nowt for some???

SOME women have loose lips and discuss the ins and outs of a ducks arse with anyone

However note the word SOME

Not at all. At no time were any secrets revealed, nor details of any meets divulged. It was advice imparted in order to keep the experience on here as safe as possible. For instance, if I PM someone then why shouldn't that person PM their friends to ask if anyone can vouch for me?

So to be fair, they were still very discrete, honest and helpful. I don't see there being any harm in what was said.

To be honest U right nothing wrong in inquiring amost other peeps ur possibly meeting a peep from outside ur area and U need to feel safe also there so many time wasters no harm in checking

"

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By *B1969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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Thanks for the comments folks.

I absolutely agree that manners and respect are paramount. That's the way I am in the rest of my life so it's the way that I'd be here!

DB

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