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By *agic_B OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballina

To all FAB people.

(I hope that I will not be banned for this post)

I am on this site on / off for good few years now. But something is wrong here. In real word there is no situation where is 1 female for 30 males. And I know for fact that it has nothing to do with lust, cheating or need to spread DNA. In natural world we (female and male) are quite close in all aspects of our life. I understand that this ratio can be more profitable but I think is just WRONG. What do you think?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It will never be properly balanced until people have a chip on both shoulders.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Is it WRONG for more women than men to attend a tennis club?

Is it WRONG for more men than women to attend football training?

I would suggest that you have a biased point of view because you would like there to be more women here, because you think you'd have a better chance of having sex. That doesn't make it wrong. Just because you don't like the gender balance here, doesn't mean anything is wrong.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

The ubiquitous presence of testosterone in all males, propels them libidinously to venues, sites and locations where NSA sex might be available;

a swingers site is similar to the manner in which moths are attracted to lights after nightfall.

Moths do not realise they are wasting their time; as evidently do most males!

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By *agic_B OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballina

Absolutely not

It is not about chances of scoring sex as you suggested.

If I go to pub my chance of picking girl are quite close to a girl who want to pick a guy!

The ratio applied is abusive.

Read profiles description, demands and general tones to get the picture.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

OP do you attend socials or clubs, you might be able to see better rato of females.

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By *agic_B OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballina

Beautiful analogy, but do t you think that same way of thinking can be applied to the fact that females desire to spread this light to feel that it is noticed? Just compare the work and effort for going out.

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By *amsonite69Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"The ubiquitous presence of testosterone in all males, propels them libidinously to venues, sites and locations where NSA sex might be available;

a swingers site is similar to the manner in which moths are attracted to lights after nightfall.

Moths do not realise they are wasting their time; as evidently do most males!"
excellwnt response

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By *agic_B OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballina

Exactly.

Social meets are moderated to provide best experience for everyone.

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"The ubiquitous presence of testosterone in all males, propels them libidinously to venues, sites and locations where NSA sex might be available;

a swingers site is similar to the manner in which moths are attracted to lights after nightfall.

Moths do not realise they are wasting their time; as evidently do most males!"

Agreed and I think that this reflected by many aspects of the lifestyle and indeed vanilla life too.

Also, I don’t think the 30-to-1 data (where ever this comes from or is merely an approximation) takes into consideration high number of dormant male profiles that join, expect a quick ride, then park the profile when they get frustrated.

It’d be interesting to see the active profile data. By that, profile that have at least one-two log ins a week and then forms of interaction (send messages/winks, post pictures, or forum engagements). I think that if you start to look at active fabbers, you’ll see the standard 30-1 statement isn’t that accurate.

Also, it’d be interesting to then compare a peer analysis against other lifestyle accounts and even the popular dating apps. Statistically, I’m pretty sure you find higher numbers of males across all platforms

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin


"The ubiquitous presence of testosterone in all males, propels them libidinously to venues, sites and locations where NSA sex might be available;

a swingers site is similar to the manner in which moths are attracted to lights after nightfall.

Moths do not realise they are wasting their time; as evidently do most males!

Agreed and I think that this reflected by many aspects of the lifestyle and indeed vanilla life too.

Also, I don’t think the 30-to-1 data (where ever this comes from or is merely an approximation) takes into consideration high number of dormant male profiles that join, expect a quick ride, then park the profile when they get frustrated.

It’d be interesting to see the active profile data. By that, profile that have at least one-two log ins a week and then forms of interaction (send messages/winks, post pictures, or forum engagements). I think that if you start to look at active fabbers, you’ll see the standard 30-1 statement isn’t that accurate.

Also, it’d be interesting to then compare a peer analysis against other lifestyle accounts and even the popular dating apps. Statistically, I’m pretty sure you find higher numbers of males across all platforms "

Very astute analysis

Glad to see you’re taking a scientific approach to the boyfriend hunt

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By *acob12369Man
over a year ago

URPANTS


"To all FAB people.

(I hope that I will not be banned for this post)

I am on this site on / off for good few years now. But something is wrong here. In real word there is no situation where is 1 female for 30 males. And I know for fact that it has nothing to do with lust, cheating or need to spread DNA. In natural world we (female and male) are quite close in all aspects of our life. I understand that this ratio can be more profitable but I think is just WRONG. What do you think?"

The banning point u make, just back from a days ban because i said the admins were dry. Don't worry about getting banned from this thread.

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By *agic_B OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballina

The most extreme outcome of this off balance is this (and this is very worrying);

User picture: none

One user picture: tit or a pussy

Profile description: if you have a dick picture in your profile you will be banned for life. I like a banter and bbc. No one liners….

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"To all FAB people.

(I hope that I will not be banned for this post)

I am on this site on / off for good few years now. But something is wrong here. In real word there is no situation where is 1 female for 30 males. And I know for fact that it has nothing to do with lust, cheating or need to spread DNA. In natural world we (female and male) are quite close in all aspects of our life. I understand that this ratio can be more profitable but I think is just WRONG. What do you think?

The banning point u make, just back from a days ban because i said the admins were dry. Don't worry about getting banned from this thread."

You can also get banned for telling everyone in a post that you were banned

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Op...genuinely dont know what you want or how to fix what you think is wrong....whats your ideas

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By *agic_B OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballina

Designing algorithm that will reflect natural balance will not be difficult. That could improve interaction on the site.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Designing algorithm that will reflect natural balance will not be difficult. That could improve interaction on the site. "

Any algorithm is only as good as the available data.

Its not complicated. We need more women so unless you plan on standing outside handing out vouchers and inviting women in to check out the wares there isn't a lot that can be done.

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By *agic_B OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballina

Both ways! Why any woman should be expose to hundreds of messages like “I will fuck you now” if there was no verification that one off with this particular guy was absolutely amazing?

There is so many questionable profiles. 150 porn quality pictures, 50 verification 49 by web cam 1 in person lovely coffee hope for more..,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both ways! Why any woman should be expose to hundreds of messages like “I will fuck you now” if there was no verification that one off with this particular guy was absolutely amazing?

There is so many questionable profiles. 150 porn quality pictures, 50 verification 49 by web cam 1 in person lovely coffee hope for more..,"

Where are these porn quality pictures you speak of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Designing algorithm that will reflect natural balance will not be difficult. That could improve interaction on the site.

Any algorithm is only as good as the available data.

Its not complicated. We need more women so unless you plan on standing outside handing out vouchers and inviting women in to check out the wares there isn't a lot that can be done. "

He could leave?

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"The ubiquitous presence of testosterone in all males, propels them libidinously to venues, sites and locations where NSA sex might be available;

a swingers site is similar to the manner in which moths are attracted to lights after nightfall.

Moths do not realise they are wasting their time; as evidently do most males!

Agreed and I think that this reflected by many aspects of the lifestyle and indeed vanilla life too.

Also, I don’t think the 30-to-1 data (where ever this comes from or is merely an approximation) takes into consideration high number of dormant male profiles that join, expect a quick ride, then park the profile when they get frustrated.

It’d be interesting to see the active profile data. By that, profile that have at least one-two log ins a week and then forms of interaction (send messages/winks, post pictures, or forum engagements). I think that if you start to look at active fabbers, you’ll see the standard 30-1 statement isn’t that accurate.

Also, it’d be interesting to then compare a peer analysis against other lifestyle accounts and even the popular dating apps. Statistically, I’m pretty sure you find higher numbers of males across all platforms

Very astute analysis

Glad to see you’re taking a scientific approach to the boyfriend hunt"

Yeah, and look how well that is working for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Designing algorithm that will reflect natural balance will not be difficult. That could improve interaction on the site.

Any algorithm is only as good as the available data.

Its not complicated. We need more women so unless you plan on standing outside handing out vouchers and inviting women in to check out the wares there isn't a lot that can be done. "

I'm a sucker vouchers .. love a good bargain lol

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By *rakesterlingMan
over a year ago

Dublin

*scratches his balls carelessly through his pyjama as he takes another swig from his bottle of cider and keeps on watching the spectacle, since its way better then any other Netflix shite currently available*

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork

Not sure if implying the imbalance is a forced one in an underhanded way to get males to spend money the way tinder has done stuff to do that. But no....the church has forced social morals on us for hundreds of years on western society. Where women are to remain chaste and be "pure" of mind etc. Men to the lesser extent. The word slut as a pejorative label for example. It's nothing to do with males naturally wanting it more. It's an ingrained stigma that will take a long time as a society to shake.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

As above, I think testosterone has nothing to do with it. Society has created far more barriers to no strings sex for women. Perception as mentioned above and safety would be my guesstimate as the two biggest barriers. Next one the list I would assume is trying to get a satisfying sexual experience from a ONS is very more rare too.

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork

PS. Has the OP any idea how many new and curious ladies the unrestrained single men and women have scared off the site before they even log off for the first time? Never to be seen again. Lads. To an extent we force the imbalance on our selves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As above, I think testosterone has nothing to do with it. Society has created far more barriers to no strings sex for women. Perception as mentioned above and safety would be my guesstimate as the two biggest barriers. Next one the list I would assume is trying to get a satisfying sexual experience from a ONS is very more rare too. "

I dunno

Have had some great one nighters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easier for women to get casual sex than it is for most men hence why there is more men here than women.

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork


"It's easier for women to get casual sex than it is for most men hence why there is more men here than women. "

Fail to see your logic here, pal. As you'll find that's life in general. Only difference here is that the ladies have more of a chance to sit back and really go for what they want. Not just go for who wants them. Guys on the other hand our standards are.....I'll say more dynamic lol

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"As above, I think testosterone has nothing to do with it. Society has created far more barriers to no strings sex for women. Perception as mentioned above and safety would be my guesstimate as the two biggest barriers. Next one the list I would assume is trying to get a satisfying sexual experience from a ONS is very more rare too.

I dunno

Have had some great one nighters "

I'm sure she felt the same as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's easier for women to get casual sex than it is for most men hence why there is more men here than women.

Fail to see your logic here, pal. As you'll find that's life in general. Only difference here is that the ladies have more of a chance to sit back and really go for what they want. Not just go for who wants them. Guys on the other hand our standards are.....I'll say more dynamic lol"

It's a lot easier for a girl to get casual sex in say a bar than it is for a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good explanation

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork


"It's easier for women to get casual sex than it is for most men hence why there is more men here than women.

Fail to see your logic here, pal. As you'll find that's life in general. Only difference here is that the ladies have more of a chance to sit back and really go for what they want. Not just go for who wants them. Guys on the other hand our standards are.....I'll say more dynamic lol

It's a lot easier for a girl to get casual sex in say a bar than it is for a guy."

Like I said. It's life in general. Not just on here. It's not why there is an imbalance on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's easier for women to get casual sex than it is for most men hence why there is more men here than women.

Fail to see your logic here, pal. As you'll find that's life in general. Only difference here is that the ladies have more of a chance to sit back and really go for what they want. Not just go for who wants them. Guys on the other hand our standards are.....I'll say more dynamic lol

It's a lot easier for a girl to get casual sex in say a bar than it is for a guy.

Like I said. It's life in general. Not just on here. It's not why there is an imbalance on the site."

Oh sorry I'm actually in agreement with you. My apologies if I've worded things poorly. This site is no different than the rest of the world no algorithm is going to change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PS. Has the OP any idea how many new and curious ladies ...scared off the site before they even log off for the first time? Never to be seen again "

Definitely this is true. It is overwhelming to be a newbie here, especially for single women.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"The ubiquitous presence of testosterone in all males, propels them libidinously to venues, sites and locations where NSA sex might be available;

a swingers site is similar to the manner in which moths are attracted to lights after nightfall.

Moths do not realise they are wasting their time; as evidently do most males!

Agreed and I think that this reflected by many aspects of the lifestyle and indeed vanilla life too.

Also, I don’t think the 30-to-1 data (where ever this comes from or is merely an approximation) takes into consideration high number of dormant male profiles that join, expect a quick ride, then park the profile when they get frustrated.

It’d be interesting to see the active profile data. By that, profile that have at least one-two log ins a week and then forms of interaction (send messages/winks, post pictures, or forum engagements). I think that if you start to look at active fabbers, you’ll see the standard 30-1 statement isn’t that accurate.

Also, it’d be interesting to then compare a peer analysis against other lifestyle accounts and even the popular dating apps. Statistically, I’m pretty sure you find higher numbers of males across all platforms "

That has to be balanced against many female and couple profiles created by men

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By *rakesterlingMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I think the imbalance you speak of guarantees many double penetrations and spit roasting for the ladies.

If it was the other way around, what ever would the benefits be?

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"I think the imbalance you speak of guarantees many double penetrations and spit roasting for the ladies.

If it was the other way around, what ever would the benefits be? "

A double blow job ?

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By *agic_B OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballina

Exactly!

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By *outh_of_EdenMan
over a year ago

fota

If women were respected more onmthismsitemthey mughtmstay longer. A good few join but are gone or chased off by being pestered my emails and guys that wont go away.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Sure there'd be no challenge if the numbers were equal! I need the challenge to keep me interested.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Sure there'd be no challenge if the numbers were equal! I need the challenge to keep me interested. "

And I quite like the pedestal view and the choice. So nothing wrong with the balance.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Sure there'd be no challenge if the numbers were equal! I need the challenge to keep me interested.

And I quite like the pedestal view and the choice. So nothing wrong with the balance. "

I don't mind looking up your dress from down here either... Oh my, no panties?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If women were respected more onmthismsitemthey mughtmstay longer. A good few join but are gone or chased off by being pestered my emails and guys that wont go away."

They just didn't learn to use filters or the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure there'd be no challenge if the numbers were equal! I need the challenge to keep me interested.

And I quite like the pedestal view and the choice. So nothing wrong with the balance. "

It's amazing being a stunning hottie for the first time in my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might get shot down here but I think genetically men are more designed for casual sex where women will build some sort of relationship before the have sex. So that would have to reflect in lower numbers of women

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Sure there'd be no challenge if the numbers were equal! I need the challenge to keep me interested.

And I quite like the pedestal view and the choice. So nothing wrong with the balance.

It's amazing being a stunning hottie for the first time in my life "

Please dont ruin the illusion

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By *rakesterlingMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I think the imbalance you speak of guarantees many double penetrations and spit roasting for the ladies.

If it was the other way around, what ever would the benefits be?

A double blow job ?"

Think out of the box: force-fed viagra and wired to a car battery to keep things going? *rotfl*

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin


"To all FAB people.

(I hope that I will not be banned for this post)

I am on this site on / off for good few years now. But something is wrong here. In real word there is no situation where is 1 female for 30 males. And I know for fact that it has nothing to do with lust, cheating or need to spread DNA. In natural world we (female and male) are quite close in all aspects of our life. I understand that this ratio can be more profitable but I think is just WRONG. What do you think?"

"Wrong" might not be the best choice of word.

It's not a very optimised system and could do with improvements.

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