FabSwingers.com forum: Fab versus dating sites

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there a different attitude to girls on Fab and those same girls on Tinder

I saw a update on Fab which gave me a real insight into men's thoughts on it. The guy had recognised a lady on Fab and in her profile she said no hook ups or one night stands he was like yeah right lol. Can you not look for different things on other sites and not be judged for being on Fab being open about your sexuality. Do ladies on Fab not deserve to be wined and dined as well!

A guy opened recently asking could he fuck me in the ass on the Curragh. When I asked would he open with that line on a dating site he replied well you girls here are different you're all up for it. Well I'm certainly not up to get railed in the ass on the Curragh with the sheep looking on baaing

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I have seen many fabbers on dating sites and I get why ladies may have different requirements on both.

What I will say is I'm much more likely to get a response from a single fem on a dating site than here. What happens after that depends on many factors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I'm certainly not up to get railed in the ass on the Curragh with the sheep looking on baaing "

Got a great laugh at that lol

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I think ladies must be respected be it fab or any other site… if you can disrespect you do not deserve … i sometimes feel there is a very thin line between fab and other site profiles … just the reputation i would say … but regardless respect is a must

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By *anandJCouple
over a year ago

Citywest

Well… in some- ability to be open about sexuality causing a feeling of being unrestrained, to speak your mind. Unfortunately in some- the mind is not there… so when they open their mouth or lay their finger tips on a keyboard… there’s nothing productive… constant brain fart…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there is still the mindset with men,

On a sex site only good enough for the ride. Sure that's why we here. And as a plus size lady I've gotten the treatment of sure noone would date you in real life so you have to be desperate on here and will drop all to be ridden by anything.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Is there a different attitude to girls on Fab and those same girls on Tinder

You're right, men do have a different attitude when it comes to women on fab, but look at the bright side - those men are usually the ones who aren't successful among swingers (not celebrating anyones failure) as they would be the first ones to mistreat a woman who god forbid happens to be in any way more liberal and open about her own sexuality, so just as well those kinds of men show their true colours and attitudes from the get go - saves everyone time and trouble

missus

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By *angbangbullsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

City and County

"Is there a different attitude to girls on Fab and those same girls on Tinder

Ewe are being very hard on the guy

Nailing that ass under any circumstances is a mouth watering prospect. Although I'm more bull than ram I'd also still see why even the sheep would gather to drool. I'm pretty sure there would be many fab wolves amongst them.

My offer of wining and dining is still on btw.

Woolly hope it will happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a different attitude to girls on Fab and those same girls on Tinder

Ewe are being very hard on the guy

My offer of wining and dining is still on btw.

Woolly hope it will happen "

If I decide to have a gangbang on the Curragh can you rename your profile to GangbangSheep...we will fuck ewe good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a different attitude to girls on Fab and those same girls on Tinder

Seriously, what is your problem with taking one up the ass in the Curragh?? It’s totally not an unreasonable request! Lol

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

Theres definitely a different attitude. I got called demanding and up my own hole (im not that flexible) because i declined his fuck now request. Youre gorgeous until you say no then youre a c u next tuesday and everything else. I just laugh at them to be honest. If someone hasnt progressed beyond their teenage mental age they may stick with pam and her sisters coz they wont get too far with anyone here

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I think thats not right men do have ferish for plus size so you are as special as any other lady on this site … respect is numero uno

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a different attitude to girls on Fab and those same girls on Tinder

Seriously, what is your problem with taking one up the ass in the Curragh?? It’s totally not an unreasonable request! Lol

I know you're right my bad for not meeting a blank silhouette profile off the Internet at 2am. I think I'll unblock him and tell him I'll be there with my ass cheeks spread and sure fuck it why not bring a friend.

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I think even if you do so and wait on curragh… he will turn you down … these are just time wasters imho

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By *icklowbiguyMan
over a year ago

Wicklow

" Youre gorgeous until you say no then youre a c u next tuesday and everything else."

Just a bit like real life so, most people are all sweetness and suck up to somebody when they think there may be something to be gained from it. If and when that doesnt happen attitudes change very fast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty it seems like more women would like to be wined and dined here than other dating sites/apps. Could be just my personal experience talking but a hookup seems easier to come by somewhere else.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Would your profile pictures be the same here as on a dating site app? Would your list of interests be the same on here as a dating site? I'm going to assume not, but feel free to correct me if I am wrong about that.

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

I often see people highlighting the importance of open and honest communication. The guy who messages you was 100% open and honest about what he wanted from you, should that not be seen as a positive rather than a negative?

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside

"Is there a different attitude to girls on Fab and those same girls on Tinder

I would think a lot of men on fab use it sorry for sexual purposes whereas on tinder they may be looking to date/meet there future partner .

And let's not forget that a lot of men on fab are already in relationships and looking for something on the side .

So in those circumstances they don't want to wine n dine , they just want the sex and perceive that the women on fab are in similar circumstances and looking for the same thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

My profile literally spells this out so he totally ignored my very specific request but my bad for thinking he would read my profile.... "don't want to be wined and dined and 69ined in the back of your truck or go dogging with you or fuck you down some random alley or in the woods"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Unfortunately there is still the mindset with men,

]I think thats not right men do have ferish for plus size so you are as special as any other lady on this site … respect is numero uno (Sorry posted without comment earlier)

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"Unfortunately there is still the mindset with men,

]I think thats not right men do have ferish for plus size so you are as special as any other lady on this site … respect is numero uno (Sorry posted without comment earlier)"
Ladies have to be Respected on everything but on dating sites they will chat as on here ,,They are on inundated with so many messages us guys don’t hear back so it’s wink wink nudge nudge

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By *londy84Man
over a year ago

Scotstown

I find all this boloks pretty shit

I don't really enjoy online chatting.

I like the good old date to see if there is anything else going to happen.

That goes for fab or any other website.

Chatting to someone just because you see their pictures don't do diddly squat to me.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

Aa you were the OP I did try to use you as a general example. The not reading of profiles/ignoring boundaries within a profile is something that can't be defended or justified.

To steer it more on topic, I guess if a person didn't have those boundaries on their profile would(and should?) those interactions be viewed more positively.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself."

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

We all know there are a significant portion of men on fab who would happily fuck you but would not want to be seen with you in public.

Alongside that, a lot of us will have experienced opening up to guys in dating sites about being sexually liberated and have the guy react poorly to it and/or just see you as a hook up.

There’s a good reason that many of us display our more innocent sides on dating sites when we’re looking for more than casual sex.

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By *egsyWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Nope men on dating sites are horrible lol. In fact some are worse cos they have no idea how to have a conversation and think they are gods gift to female kind

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By *icklowbiguyMan
over a year ago

Wicklow

"I find all this boloks pretty shit

I don't really enjoy online chatting.

I like the good old date to see if there is anything else going to happen.

That goes for fab or any other website.

Chatting to someone just because you see their pictures don't do diddly squat to me. "

Ah now, pics are king on fab, the ladies get offended by " dick pics" yet to the same ladies use a pic showing only their tits, also there is usually at least one a week " arent men proper bastards altogether" thread popping up on the forums, dunno what purpose they serve but hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction. "

You are being deliberately obtuse. You were insinuating that due to the way Rosy presents herself - if it's different to how she presents on dating sites - that she is asking for people to speak to her like that Curragh person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find all this boloks pretty shit

I don't really enjoy online chatting.

I like the good old date to see if there is anything else going to happen.

That goes for fab or any other website.

Chatting to someone just because you see their pictures don't do diddly squat to me.

This isn't a men are bastards thread. I'm sure men on dating sites and on Fab might have this happen to them as well. This is simply a discussion on attitudes to people on different sites.

There's lots of wonderful guys on Fab who I'm lucky to call a friend and I've had amazing experiences and I'm sure all the ladies will agree to this. But I'm just curious why being on Fab you are open to being treated like a set of three holes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most people on fab have problems forming a deeper relationship, this makes that all more clear

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"most people on fab have problems forming a deeper relationship, this makes that all more clear"

When did you carry out your survey and what sample size did you use?

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction.

If a person joins fab and has a array of photos of themselves in sexually inticing clothing and positions, has a list of their sexual interests then what is an acceptable or unacceptable way to approach them?

And if that person receives the same message from curragh man then why is that wrong? Again, he is being open and honest about what is looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction.

And if that person receives the same message from curragh man then why is that wrong? Again, he is being open and honest about what is looking for.

You could try treating them like a person, maybe? Again, you're insinuating people don't deserve that based on how they dress.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction.

And if that person receives the same message from curragh man then why is that wrong? Again, he is being open and honest about what is looking for.

You could try treating them like a person, maybe? Again, you're insinuating people don't deserve that based on how they dress."

I would say that they are being treated like a person though. Now it might not be how you want to be treated but you also don't get to decide how everyone should be treated or what is/isn't acceptable.

At the end of the day if everyone is open, honest and upfront about what they want from someone and why they are communicating with them then I don't see how that would ever lead to significantly negative consequences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction.

And if that person receives the same message from curragh man then why is that wrong? Again, he is being open and honest about what is looking for.

You could try treating them like a person, maybe? Again, you're insinuating people don't deserve that based on how they dress.

There is literally no reasoning with you

if you think that's treating someone like a person then I have even less time for you than I did an hour ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are way more men on fabswingers compared to woman, it might imply that both sexes are mostly looking for something else.The observation that so many get nasty when they get a rejection (both sexes)makes me make this conclusion, I could be wrong. Anyway in my book no is no.I for one am not looking for pure casual sex but I respect that others do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction.

And if that person receives the same message from curragh man then why is that wrong? Again, he is being open and honest about what is looking for.

So in a nut shell if are sexually open and join Fab you pose in your lingerie on a swinger site people as long as they are "open and honest" can approach you in any manner they want. So maybe I'm wrong maybe I should embrace the Curragh man ideology and message randomers at 2am and ask to fuck his ass. Fuck it knew I was going wrong somewhere. Watch out men after midnight I'll be sliding into your inbox and other things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My approach probably doesn't vary much tbh because I really have a limited personality to draw from....

But in my experience interactions are very different with people depending on WHAT they are looking for rather than WHERE they are looking.

I don't think the sentence " would you say that to someone on a dating site" has much relevance though.

This site is build around causal sexualbl encounters that is of course going to shape the communication.

It doesn't excuse abuse but its going to influence the language and directness

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction.

And if that person receives the same message from curragh man then why is that wrong? Again, he is being open and honest about what is looking for.

You could try treating them like a person, maybe? Again, you're insinuating people don't deserve that based on how they dress.

There is literally no reasoning with you

if you think that's treating someone like a person then I have even less time for you than I did an hour ago."

Come on now Isserly, talk about the pot call the kettle black with that one. It really must be running on fumes at this stage.

But at least we can use this as another example of the benefits of open, honest communication then!

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

I’d treat fab like any other dating site. Granted one might be looking for something different here but you never know who’s path you’ll cross along the way.

Recently I’ve asked a few women out on dinner dates, both didn’t happen for various reasons but if I’m interested I’d still ask.

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By *angbangbullsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

City and County

"Is there a different attitude to girls on Fab and those same girls on Tinder

Ewe are being very hard on the guy

My offer of wining and dining is still on btw.

Woolly hope it will happen

If I decide to have a gangbang on the Curragh can you rename your profile to GangbangSheep...we will fuck ewe good "

Compromise; Gangbangrams?

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Rightly or wrongly how people present themselves can have a significant impact on how people interact with them. It happens in all areas of life. Fab is never going to be any different.

Also, if he did open with "can I take you out for dinner and then take you to the curragh and fuck you in the ass?" Would your response/reaction be any different.

This is basically just another way of saying you're asking for it depending on how you dress/present yourself.

Asking for what exactly? Interaction, communication? I assume nearly everyone on fab is looking for communication and interaction.

And if that person receives the same message from curragh man then why is that wrong? Again, he is being open and honest about what is looking for.

Maybe more of a case should their approach be seen as such a negative. I get messages from guys asking me for a blowjobs etc etc. I don't take the view point that they aren't treating me as a person. If I was more popular with the women and got those sort of messages I'd have a similar mindset. I wouldn't view them negatively. I'd appreciate there honesty at the very least.

You certainly won't be short on men willing you take you up on your offer anyway.

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By *oulernerMan
over a year ago

Dublin City

I think it heavily depends on how you present yourself. I've seen people on here that were all "I like to be humiliated, do your worst when sending me a message, nothing can shock me" but apart from that I think I'd usually treat everyone with respect first an foremost.

Unless you're pretty much literally asking for it I'd never open with a line like that though. But I guess I'm possibly more shy than other men on here.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I never been on a dating site so I can't say what they are like.I have met two men on here though for a social that told me they would never date any woman they met on fab no matter how well they got on with them when I asked why their answer was along the lines of they are on here so they must be shagging all round them and they are not worth dating. When I asked what made them worth dating so as they were on here as well they didn't understand my point,they were of the opinion they were men so somehow it is was okay for them to be on a swingers site but not for women. Neither meets went beyond a coffee not because they wouldn't want to date me but more because of what I consider to be misogynistic attitude. They obviously looked down on the women who are on here and I've no interest in fucking anyone who would have that attitude towards me. I actually have to like the people I meet off here. I have never asked to be wined or dined on here ,I do however expect people to show me the same respect I show them if I meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never been on a dating site so I can't say what they are like.I have met two men on here though for a social that told me they would never date any woman they met on fab no matter how well they got on with them when I asked why their answer was along the lines of they are on here so they must be shagging all round them and they are not worth dating. When I asked what made them worth dating so as they were on here as well they didn't understand my point,they were of the opinion they were men so somehow it is was okay for them to be on a swingers site but not for women. Neither meets went beyond a coffee not because they wouldn't want to date me but more because of what I consider to be misogynistic attitude. They obviously looked down on the women who are on here and I've no interest in fucking anyone who would have that attitude towards me. I actually have to like the people I meet off here. I have never asked to be wined or dined on here ,I do however expect people to show me the same respect I show them if I meet them."

like when someone messages 'whats a nice person like you doing on a site like this'

I cant deal with the double standards

But at least its easy here to out the dickheads early on rather than getting their 'shiny respectable' face on a dating app only to discover the misogyny later.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

like when someone messages 'whats a nice person like you doing on a site like this'

I cant deal with the double standards

But at least its easy here to out the dickheads early on rather than getting their 'shiny respectable' face on a dating app only to discover the misogyny later.

That's so true. And yes it's the double standards that annoys me but they can't even see the irony. But yes at least it's good to see what they think of us early on so they can be avoided.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

like when someone messages 'whats a nice person like you doing on a site like this'

I cant deal with the double standards

But at least its easy here to out the dickheads early on rather than getting their 'shiny respectable' face on a dating app only to discover the misogyny later.

"Can't be bringing you home to Mammy" was what one guy said to me. Said it was pity we met on Fab as I was such a nice girl! I'm still a nice girl but I just like having sexy time!

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

like when someone messages 'whats a nice person like you doing on a site like this'

I cant deal with the double standards

But at least its easy here to out the dickheads early on rather than getting their 'shiny respectable' face on a dating app only to discover the misogyny later.

"Can't be bringing you home to Mammy" was what one guy said to me. Said it was pity we met on Fab as I was such a nice girl! I'm still a nice girl but I just like having sexy time! "

For all he knows his mammy might be on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

like when someone messages 'whats a nice person like you doing on a site like this'

I cant deal with the double standards

But at least its easy here to out the dickheads early on rather than getting their 'shiny respectable' face on a dating app only to discover the misogyny later.

"Can't be bringing you home to Mammy" was what one guy said to me. Said it was pity we met on Fab as I was such a nice girl! I'm still a nice girl but I just like having sexy time!

For all he knows his mammy might be on fab

I think a few sons might be traumatised if they found their Mammy on Fab

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Found an app for 3 fun wondering if many use it

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