FabSwingers.com forum: What does a wink mean to you?

By *outh Dub 29 OP Man
over a year ago

Clapham

Just curious what people think when they receive a wink. Do you see it as an invitation to chat (or do you send them with that thought) or is it more of a "you're looking well, fair play, happy fabbing"? Just curious to know other people's thoughts but I feel it's more of the first than second

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

It means fab my pics but I'm seriously not interested otherwise so don't try and contact me after - but don't dare pass my profile without a fab

And now on a serious note

...it means different things for different people.

Personally, we've put effort into writing our profile and displayed what we feel are original pics - if someone is interested in getting to know us - send us a message. I actually reply to them (yes, that's because we're not inundated because we've got men blocked

). There's plenty to go on from our profile (and forum contributions), so make it something original and eye catching. Anything else is sheer laziness and unoriginality.

However, if your profile is an eye catcher, we might forgive you and make a rare exception and acknowledge the wink

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

To me personally, a wink is as good as a nod…..

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

I wink if I like pics and/or profile. Sometimes it's one without the other, sometimes both.

Either way, I'd usually be interested in chatting with the person I winked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd see it as a way to gauge interest. Send one of you get one back send a message. Wouldn't seek many share the sentiment so a message is probably better

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

Never really leave a wink myself, would rather send a detailed message but if I was to receive a wink, I'd be guessing they be interested in chatting

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Someone has something stuck in their eye normally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always look at it that a wink is a opening to say hello usually if I receive if I’m interested it starts a conversation

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Never look at winks myself but if a profile catches my eye ill wink but also send a message to show im interested if they reply well and good if they don't i take it as not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It mean they are ready to have sex with me everytime I wink

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Never look at them so it means nothing

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

"Never look at them so it means nothing "

I'm not sending you a wink ever again then lol

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

"It mean they are ready to have sex with me everytime I wink

In your dreams maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sheer laziness to be honest. Especially from women, they’ll wink and expect you to message. If you’re interested send a message imo

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By *onny17Man
over a year ago

city

Means I recognise your profile and I'm interested however I want to hear from you and see if you're as capable within conversation

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Means sweet fa to me never look

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

"Never look at winks myself but if a profile catches my eye ill wink but also send a message to show im interested if they reply well and good if they don't i take it as not interested

This

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

For me it means “I’m too lazy to send an interesting message so I’ll wink and she better be on her way.”

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've all notifications turned off and I rarely look at my home screen so I often have winks that are weeks or even months old before I notice them.

I don't send messages or winks but as already said people use them for all sorts of reasons.

I've even seen them used as a nudge to tell people they've just been blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who it's from. If it's someone we have on our hotlist or are interested in talking to we will wink back. If it's some randomner we'll take it as their not bothered writing a mail or unable to think of something to write

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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago

Sensual Center

It means they didn't read our profile and send us a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its mad how negative some of you people view someone sending a wink.

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By *herry...Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I think of it as a way of letting someone know I like their profile, gives them a chance to look at mine, if I get a wink back I send a message

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore

"I think of it as a way of letting someone know I like their profile, gives them a chance to look at mine, if I get a wink back I send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think of it as a way of letting someone know I like their profile, gives them a chance to look at mine, if I get a wink back I send a message

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totally agree

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I rarely look at my winks anymore.I just got out of the habit.

I've used them before to make first contact if I like someone's profile or when someone might be outside my filters if they wink back I'd message them or they have messaged me depending on when we are online.I rarely use them now tho I would prefer to just send a message .

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It means coffee meet then play meet, followed by weekends away, then declarations of love, mountain walks, marriage, children, pets, mortgages, trips to Woodies, all inclusive holidays, pension, retirement. Do I have that right?

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Winks are nothing to me here, I rarely look at them so if you want to talk to me message me don’t wink I won’t see it.

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

city

I don't see what all the fuss is about winks. It's just a like button. If I saw something interesting on fb I'd like it and in the same way if someone caught my eye in here I'd like it too. There's no expectations no alterier motive no can I msg you now, it's just a "hey that's a nice profile" . If someone winks back then well and good if not,no sleep will be lost, no one needs to perish and no animals will be harmed in the making of a wink.

It's just a wink

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

It usually just means lads have been looking at my profile again but if it's from someone I want to contact me then I'll email them to thank for the wink and.... Then who knows

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

If I send a wink: invitation to chat, check out my profile. Generally prefer to message but it's hard when so many profiles are bare.

If I receive one: I guess I'm taking it as an expression of interest. Would tend to send a message

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

A blink with one eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us,we send one because we like the profile ,if we get one in return we will send an opening message

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"For us,we send one because we like the profile ,if we get one in return we will send an opening message

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Even out shopping if you see something Interesting you would wink in the real world so why not wink here too , Always the raised eyebrow too

it’s appreciation without the chat it’s a start or not

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I never ever check my winks I’m afraid

I forget all about them

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I never ever check my winks I’m afraid

I forget all about them

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O I know lol

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Definite invitation to message

may as well be honest. I very rarely get them but if you wink me, you'll more often than not get a message when I see it*

*exception for when there's a winky forum game going on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means that the person didn't read our profile

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By *illerQueen1Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"For me it means “I’m too lazy to send an interesting message so I’ll wink and she better be on her way.”"

this.

also, I rarely check winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us,we send one because we like the profile ,if we get one in return we will send an opening message

As above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious what people think when they receive a wink. Do you see it as an invitation to chat (or do you send them with that thought) or is it more of a "you're looking well, fair play, happy fabbing"? Just curious to know other people's thoughts but I feel it's more of the first than second "

‘Wanna go halves on a mortgage’ usually

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By *ka ..Agent k ..Man
over a year ago

'Sfa basically ,

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By *ngel and EvilCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I think of it as a way of letting someone know I like their profile, gives them a chance to look at mine, if I get a wink back I send a message

Same here. We see it as an expression of interest. If we like the profile we wink back or message

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By *oungukbull97Man
over a year ago

Manchester

A wink to me is kind of the same as fabbing a photo, but you're fabbing their entire profile instead.

As in you like what they've written in their bio and are interested in striking up a conversation.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Hello

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Winks are really a lazy means of making first contact; but they are a pleasant reminder after contact has been made at a meet, that you haven't been completely 'erased'.

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
over a year ago

waterford

I've never gotten a wink

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By *lytrucker32Man
over a year ago

Killeagh

No harm in the odd wink here n there. Be it winking yourself or winking at someone or on a serious trifecta day being winked at.....

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By *ed Viking80Man
over a year ago

Northern Ireland

Wink to me means that you are interested. I use it as testing the waters if someone responds I then send a message as I don’t what to be sending unwanted messages and blocking up there inbox. That’s my view of winks. I don’t use it to be lazy or a lack of homework effort

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin

i think wink is nothing more then a momentary interest in a profile cuz of the pics or the content.

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

I check them every now and then. A couple i have responded to. I get a lot from the uk for some weird reason

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin

yeah.. they do give a nice boost to self.. dont they... what do we call that hormone..dopamine ..

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By *ergalMan
over a year ago

east cork

My wink button must be broken, it never displays a hit

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin

maybe u used it a lot..;-) mail the admin

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By *ergalMan
over a year ago

east cork

"maybe u used it a lot..;-) mail the admin"

Meant I never get winked at

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin

ahh got it..

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By *obshortMan
over a year ago

Cork

"I wink if I like pics and/or profile. Sometimes it's one without the other, sometimes both.

Either way, I'd usually be interested in chatting with the person I winked

What he said...

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

We use the wink just to say we like what we see , without anoying them with a message , if they wink back we will mail then as we know they may be interested too,

Mrs crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We regard winks more of as an initial hailing frequencies open. We're interested in you.

If they like our profile and send a wink back then it's an invitation to send a PM.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Very rarely look at winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seldom look at Winks a I have no interest in gents that cannot write a proper introduction email never mind their own Profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wink at someone it means I'm interested in them. I dont see it as lazy at all.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

A wink for us is a “look at me” statement. We review all the winks we receive and if we like we wink back and/or message depending on how shy I’m feeling.

Funny how none of the men we wink back ever message

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By *outh Dub 29 OP Man
over a year ago

Clapham

They must be feeling shy too is my guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I seldom look at Winks a I have no interest in gents that cannot write a proper introduction email never mind their own Profile lol "

Haha dope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replace the i in wink with an a,and you might get some funny replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t send winks, because I think they mean “I’m interested in you, but I don’t have the balls to actually initiate conversation, and want you to do it.”

I don’t mind girls sending me winks, because traditionally the man is seen as the one who should initiate conversation, but have nothing against girls approaching me (or wouldn’t have if it ever happened )

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