FabSwingers.com forum: FF bullying

By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

I've had conversation with more than one lady here recently where they told me they were really turned off this site lately because they have been bullied by other women. Cruel comments about looks & figure as well as accusations of photoshopping their profile pics are just the tip of the iceberg.

Are there any other ladies out there who have had similar experiences and did you get help? The few I talked to tried but nothing changed.

I can't understand the kind of female mind that would turn on another woman in that way. It's not like there is a Willy shortage on here is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

find the vast majority of ladies here very supportive and empowering of each other. I value my female friendships here very much. I've met some amazing ladies here over the years.

But not everyone feels the same I suppose. I got one very bitchy message recently from a lady who berated my profile. Now I could have slated hers right back but I'm way too much of a lady to lower myself to that level.

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"find the vast majority of ladies here very supportive and empowering of each other. I value my female friendships here very much. I've met some amazing ladies here over the years.

You've always come across as a nice person, a live and let live type. The only thing not to like about you is your choice of age restrictions! Lol

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Have never had a rude message from a girl about Laura ever in about 15years on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have never had any abuse directed at me (to my face anyway). Jealousy is generally the trigger for that kind of behaviour, so maybe they don't see anything to be jealous about

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Actually thought it was about Fianna Fail when I read the headline

I wonder are the women doing the bullying actually women or just men pretending to be women

I know from any kik group I'm in or even at the socials the level of support that women give women is incredible to see and not what I expected at all

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

As regards online stuff...I always wonder...(would they say that to me if I was stood in front of them) the majority of the time the answer is no

People see no consequences for being nasty online...

Im sure everyone has said stuff that people don't agree with..me included..

People look differently

Act differently..

And are different..

Unfortunately bullying is accepted in some circles (some workplaces,teams,online)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually thought it was about Fianna Fail when I read the headline

I wonder are the women doing the bullying actually women or just men pretending to be women

I know from any kik group I'm in or even at the socials the level of support that women give women is incredible to see and not what I expected at all

I wouldn't doubt for one second that there are women here who behave shittily to others. It's about their own low self-esteem at the end of day, there are people whose only way to make themselves feel better is by running others down.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

There's a few well known characters who make up stories about others.

I've been their target a few years ago too.

Haven't seen much rubbish these days though.

Missus

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By *208numeWoman
over a year ago

Navan

I have found the ladies here to be all very supportive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My motto on Fab and real life is Real Queens fix each others Crowns

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"My motto on Fab and real life is Real Queens fix each others Crowns "

Exactly that!

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By *uckypuppy007Woman
over a year ago

dublin

"Actually thought it was about Fianna Fail when I read the headline

I wonder are the women doing the bullying actually women or just men pretending to be women

I know from any kik group I'm in or even at the socials the level of support that women give women is incredible to see and not what I expected at all

agreed, someone from the past that's disgruntled

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"My motto on Fab and real life is Real Queens fix each others Crowns "

love this

you are an amazing friend to those who value you xxx

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

I've been lucky with my time on here that no one has said anything to me ( not my face anyways) however recently I think I've upset some one but only though being my chatty/ happy self, I can't help how someone views me , all I can do is keep being respectful to ever one I meet ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen the odd catty status on here obviously directed at other women so I'd say there's some element to it. Probably more in the groups of people that regularly meet from here

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Said it many times that women can be absolutely vicious in cutting other women down. Their social medias plastered with be kind etc while theyre busy cutting the back off someone while smiling to their faces in every day life dont see why it wouldnt be the same here. That being said i havent had anyone say anything in messages or anything but thats not to say its not happening to other people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of divas here who love attention, heaven forbid other women would get more male attention than they are, obviously makes some very jealous.

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"Plenty of divas here who love attention, heaven forbid other women would get more male attention than they are, obviously makes some very jealous. "

I'm not even sure it's that simple

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Actually thought it was about Fianna Fail when I read the headline

I wonder are the women doing the bullying actually women or just men pretending to be women

I know from any kik group I'm in or even at the socials the level of support that women give women is incredible to see and not what I expected at all

I'm not in any chatgroups anymore but I've found that for every person offering support in groups is another who gets enjoyment from doing the exact opposite and often those who claim to have your back are drawing a target on it.

That may sound cynical but it's based on personal experience.

Some of the worst breaches of trust I have witnessed during my time here have been committed by prominent and extremely well verified "supportive" women.

That includes the unsolicited sharing of names, facepics and social media details of other prominent forumites.

I'm sure anyone who has been given my personal details will be fully aware of all this and it won't come as a surprise.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Never had a problem with any ladies here to be honest but then i do moslty keep myself to myself .It does go on, no doubt and have seen it happen in forums once or twice aswell but in general most of the ladies here seem pretty nice !

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By *egsyWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Im very lucky to have met so many lovely ladies who support and look out for each other.

Not everyone likes me, and thats fine..im fucking awesome, so they are wrong

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

Unfortunately that some people are like that, most of the time they are just key board warriors and could not hold a conversation face to face

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Strange how everyone forgets the hotpics debacle. I don't remember much in the way of support there when some women were getting abuse from the "girls".

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"Strange how everyone forgets the hotpics debacle. I don't remember much in the way of support there when some women were getting abuse from the "girls". "

I'm not sure I knew about this in the first instance in order to forget it. What happened here?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"Im very lucky to have met so many lovely ladies who support and look out for each other.

Not everyone likes me, and thats fine..im fucking awesome, so they are wrong

Love this

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"Strange how everyone forgets the hotpics debacle. I don't remember much in the way of support there when some women were getting abuse from the "girls".

I'm not sure I knew about this in the first instance in order to forget it. What happened here?"

haven't heard about this either ?

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

There are some absolute weapons on here but only one or two have been single women. The rest have been women in couples. Lovely to your face but holy crap they are unreal behind your back. Jealous and suspicious and just bloody spiteful.

As for the 95% of freaking awesome single women on here, I would happily turn to any of them for advice support help or just an ear. I’ll also happily offer it without fear of being pushed away rudely. And a few of them are on this thread. I’ve recommended men, doctors, medications, makeups, recipes, and other women to many without the bat of an eyelid. It’s like anywhere really. It takes one to know one.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Strange how everyone forgets the hotpics debacle. I don't remember much in the way of support there when some women were getting abuse from the "girls".

I'm not sure I knew about this in the first instance in order to forget it. What happened here?"

That's not my story to tell. I'm sure those who posted about it before and the war of the status updates can fill in the blanks.

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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago

kildare

"There are some absolute weapons on here but only one or two have been single women. The rest have been women in couples. Lovely to your face but holy crap they are unreal behind your back. Jealous and suspicious and just bloody spiteful.

right back at you beautiful lady

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

right back at you beautiful lady

I’d ride ya AND buy you chips.

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By *omebirdWoman
over a year ago

Has been a mostly positive experience over the years here with other ladies..

Few that had a very different approach to me and I had to pull away from interacting but you live and learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've experienced it here before but I laugh it off. Shows them up for being jealous

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By *atts n titsCouple
over a year ago

everywhere

There are some god awful cunts on this usually ones that get turned down and can't handle it cos they get so much smoke blown up there arses that they believe the shite that's sent to them. But we've also met awful funny people who make it worth it

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes it goes on its the same on here as in real life . Mostly behind people's backs tho occasionally when they join up to go against some women who they have taken a dislike to tho.Sometimes you see the jibes on the forums by some who like to tell everyone how much better they are than others .But like in real life it is easy to remove yourself from people or groups like that and I've had to do that in the past and I've no doubt in fact I know I've been the topic of conversation at times but I don't care,and those who listen and encourage it remember today they are talking about someone else tomorrow it could be you and your information shared by those people.There is a few like to hunt with the hounds and run with the hare.

But look it is what it is and it's why I tend to keep to a very small circle on here of people I like and trust. Anyone who had an issue with me well it's their problem not mine as I'm happy with my fab journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like in life people will like you or not like you. People make assumptions of people without knowing the person and jealousy resentment and envy are the reasoning behind it.

The one thing I have learnt over the last few years who will have friends in your life, acquaintances in your life and than you have people who don't like you but pretend do be your friend. Just like life there are a lot of "fake" nice people on here and it's all okay while you follow their rules but if you stray off be careful.

At end of day any nasty behaviour by a man or woman says more about them than it does about you. I've been on the receiving end of it and some from very 'popular" men and women.

But they can fuck right off because if I'm your friend I will have your back, I will give you an alibi and if you need me at 4am I'm there.

By attitude anymore is you do you and off with ya love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many people go out of their way these days to tarnish peoples names, talk shit, give it all the he says she says drama... it's like everyone's nice to your face & throwing daggers or else just straight out horrible.. can we all not just be grown ups and have fun and keep our noses on are faces & not go out off our way to be dicks & rude & just enjoy the rides

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Maybe it's weird guys setting up female accounts then mailing women ?

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By *ONDYWoman
over a year ago

00heaven

"So many people go out of their way these days to tarnish peoples names, talk shit, give it all the he says she says drama... it's like everyone's nice to your face & throwing daggers or else just straight out horrible.. can we all not just be grown ups and have fun and keep our noses on are faces & not go out off our way to be dicks & rude & just enjoy the rides

Couldn't agree with you more. Life is too short to hold grudges or talk shite about ppl.

Let's keep calm & ride on.

Bigblondey lets see those diddies shake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answer equals block all women from contacting you and live in your own little bitch free zone here, works for me

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"Answer equals block all women from contacting you and live in your own little bitch free zone here, works for me

You’re also missing out on some great fun unforch.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Answer equals block all women from contacting you and live in your own little bitch free zone here, works for me

How do you look after your bi side if you block every women...

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Answer equals block all women from contacting you and live in your own little bitch free zone here, works for me

How do you look after your bi side if you block every women..."

Just because you block people from messaging you doesn't mean you can't go and search for profiles yourself and make the first move if you want.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Answer equals block all women from contacting you and live in your own little bitch free zone here, works for me

To be fair real bitchy ones usually never bother messaging you anyway, they work by spreading gossip to others, nasty status updates on their own or their mates profiles, in some extreme cases create a bunch of fake profiles using your photos and much more, so blocking women from messaging doesn't really make much difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just like in life people will like you or not like you. People make assumptions of people without knowing the person and jealousy resentment and envy are the reasoning behind it.

At end of day any nasty behaviour by a man or woman says more about them than it does about you. I've been on the receiving end of it and some from very 'popular" men and women.

But they can fuck right off because if I'm your friend I will have your back, I will give you an alibi and if you need me at 4am I'm there.

By attitude anymore is you do you and off with ya love.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Answer equals block all women from contacting you and live in your own little bitch free zone here, works for me

How do you look after your bi side if you block every women...

Just because you block people from messaging you doesn't mean you can't go and search for profiles yourself and make the first move if you want."

True...dope here never thought of this being a two way street

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Answer equals block all women from contacting you and live in your own little bitch free zone here, works for me

How do you look after your bi side if you block every women...

Just because you block people from messaging you doesn't mean you can't go and search for profiles yourself and make the first move if you want.

True...dope here never thought of this being a two way street

now I didn't say that

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Maybe it's weird guys setting up female accounts then mailing women ?"

Blaming men for women doing nasty shit online

Because who ever heard of gossiping women who like tearing strips off mostly other women.

This happens online all the time but throw sex into the mix like here on fab and you better be ware.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

"Maybe it's weird guys setting up female accounts then mailing women ?

Blaming men for women doing nasty shit online

Because who ever heard of gossiping women who like tearing strips off mostly other women.

This happens online all the time but throw sex into the mix like here on fab and you better be ware.

Stop taking sense ffs.

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By *raggyjackMan
over a year ago

Dublin

FF bullying

I was all set for a discussion on the problems with Fianna Fáil

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"FF bullying

I was all set for a discussion on the problems with Fianna Fáil

HAHAHA ME TOO!!

This is all either virtue signalling or white knighting or a fishing expedition, either way it’s just like something FF would do

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"FF bullying

I was all set for a discussion on the problems with Fianna Fáil

HAHAHA ME TOO!!

This is all either virtue signalling or white knighting or a fishing expedition, either way it’s just like something FF would do

Do you mean me, or some of the contributors Red?

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By *umon337Man
over a year ago

Offaly

So there's bitches and bollixes on fab as well as in the real world - who knew?

I'm not saying that to belittle the subjects of their bullying. On the contrary, bullies should be taken on and exposed as much as possible. However, often the subjects of their bullying will be hurt and isolated and negatively affected before the bully is stood up to.

Unfortunately bullies are further emboldened by the relative anonymity of social media and have been given a louder voice and are commanding the conversation a lot these days.

Its lovely to see that there seems to be a willingness to provide support to people who are being bullied and I hope that if anyone is that they have a support base of a friendly face to turn to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the general consensus seems to be that female on female bullying is very rare here ...

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"I think the general consensus seems to be that female on female bullying is very rare here ..."

So is violence against minority groups in the larger world sense but it still happens a lot and shouldn't be tolerated, ever.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

"I think the general consensus seems to be that female on female bullying is very rare here ..."

And it's generally the female halfs of couples that do it....

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

From the distance it looks like fab has been quite settled lately, I’m sure there are individuals receiving nasty mails occasionally but it does seem calm for the main.

The party scene years ago was the main source of angst, so possibly lockdowns and closures have reduced the amount of trouble starting events.

Btw, this is no reflection on those that organised events, def not their fault.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I've the impression it was way worse a couple of years ago, there was regularly explosions on the forum and behind the scenes. I got once or twice drawn in on the outer periphery of it by rumours spread to cause division.

Although I'm completely disconnected from the fab drama scene today - a lonesome cowgirl life cuts out the bs - I'm sure there's still bitch fighting and always will be.

Ps: I find it fascinating that a few men think it could be men pretending to be women. Is this some sort of white knighting or are complete naivety?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've the impression it was way worse a couple of years ago, there was regularly explosions on the forum and behind the scenes. I got once or twice drawn in on the outer periphery of it by rumours spread to cause division.

Although I'm completely disconnected from the fab drama scene today - a lonesome cowgirl life cuts out the bs - I'm sure there's still bitch fighting and always will be.

Ps: I find it fascinating that a few men think it could be men pretending to be women. Is this some sort of white knighting or are complete naivety?

I find it hard to believe that anyone on here is really that naive in this day and age so I put it down to selective myopia brought on by a bad case of fomo.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Ps: I find it fascinating that a few men think it could be men pretending to be women. Is this some sort of white knighting or are complete naivety?

That was my thought as well when I read those posts. I don't think anyone can be that naive surely and it's fab and someone will always try and blame men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I'm completely disconnected from the fab drama scene today - a lonesome cowgirl life cuts out the bs - I'm sure there's still bitch fighting and always will be.

Ps: I find it fascinating that a few men think it could be men pretending to be women. Is this some sort of white knighting or are complete naivety?

I find it hard to believe that anyone on here is really that naive in this day and age so I put it down to selective myopia brought on by a bad case of fomo. "
fomofabbers, plenty of them

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

Although I'm completely disconnected from the fab drama scene today - a lonesome cowgirl life cuts out the bs - I'm sure there's still bitch fighting and always will be.

Ps: I find it fascinating that a few men think it could be men pretending to be women. Is this some sort of white knighting or are complete naivety?

A couple of year ago it was very full on. There was a whole heap of nastiness going on. Havnt seen the main perps around for a while, only one or two.

But yeah, complete naivety. Women can be utter cunts without men to put them up to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps: I find it fascinating that a few men think it could be men pretending to be women. Is this some sort of white knighting or are complete naivety?

I laughed aloud when I read those comments earlier - it's fab, women are wonderful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what online platform you're on these days there will be bitching. I had to leave a foraging Facebook group and a Wild Camping one it was full of moaning passive aggressive know it alls! Men arguing over the best way to pitch a tent was ridiculous. Will stick to pitching trouser tents on Fab!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Although I'm completely disconnected from the fab drama scene today - a lonesome cowgirl life cuts out the bs - I'm sure there's still bitch fighting and always will be.

Ps: I find it fascinating that a few men think it could be men pretending to be women. Is this some sort of white knighting or are complete naivety?

Don't underestimate the influence of a full ballbag to make a desperate man see past literally ANY downside to any woman.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"No matter what online platform you're on these days there will be bitching. I had to leave a foraging Facebook group and a Wild Camping one it was full of moaning passive aggressive know it alls! Men arguing over the best way to pitch a tent was ridiculous. Will stick to pitching trouser tents on Fab! "

Arguing over the best way to pitch a tent is practical at least.

Online bullying is a totally different animal tho.

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

Although I'm completely disconnected from the fab drama scene today - a lonesome cowgirl life cuts out the bs - I'm sure there's still bitch fighting and always will be.

Ps: I find it fascinating that a few men think it could be men pretending to be women. Is this some sort of white knighting or are complete naivety?

A couple of year ago it was very full on. There was a whole heap of nastiness going on. Havnt seen the main perps around for a while, only one or two.

But yeah, complete naivety. Women can be utter cunts without men to put them up to it

Ah yes, I remember primary school. The girls were all soooooo nasty to each other and the boys.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

To put this into perspective, in this thread alone I have met 6 people who have posted here.

I know one person's full name and one other first name. I don't know any other details in regard to the other 4 profiles because I've no reason to and I've never asked or been asked.

Regardless, despite never having met or even spoken to some of the other posters I have been shown facepics, full names and FB details of at least 2 other posters by women with their own particular agenda.

These details were, at the time, a couple of years old and were accompanied by screenshots of messages exchanged with the profiles in question.

The bullying, information sharing and general nastiness is not done in the heat of the moment and is proof, if any were needed, that very often victims are the perpetrators and they just need to fool enough people into taking their "side".

If this sounds like a broken record so be it but the sooner people open their eyes to this being a sharing community rather than a caring community the sooner the real bullies, stalkers and predators of both sexes will no longer be able to hide in plain sight.

And no I won't be giving any further details because then I would be no better than they are.

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area

"To put this into perspective, in this thread alone I have met 6 people who have posted here.

I know one person's full name and one other first name. I don't know any other details in regard to the other 4 profiles because I've no reason to and I've never asked or been asked.

These details were, at the time, a couple of years old and were accompanied by screenshots of messages exchanged with the profiles in question.

And no I won't be giving any further details because then I would be no better than they are. "

I know this to be true too, after being told by a fellow fabber, with respect to them, they were only telling me how it was on forums, they divulged nothing and extremely trustworthy. But what I was told was that certain people revealed,name , social media,job , location etc. And 'warned' people off. Have had bans but have been always back in a variable name. It's a learning curve. And even social interaction now I'm wary. I enjoy the forums that's why I'm currently back on. And it is better that it was in regards to people being openly nasty. But who knows what is said. personally I would not like to divulge anyone's information. I find it unsavory.

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

I just don't understand the kind of mentality that can act like that. It's not like there aren't enough decent men to go around or anything.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I just don't understand the kind of mentality that can act like that. It's not like there aren't enough decent men to go around or anything."

Partly because some of those "decent" men facilitate them.

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area

"I just don't understand the kind of mentality that can act like that. It's not like there aren't enough decent men to go around or anything.

Partly because some of those "decent" men facilitate them.

I've been tested with messages from these "ladies" on the pretense of being supportive and warning of particular people's behaviour and my response to those messages has been repeated right here on the forums by the prominent male poster they were warning about within a few minutes as a wink and a nod to the "crew"."
End of the day it's nobody's business. You are very eloquent in your way of going about it. I personally was irked at the start but that was a long time ago. I realised it's not my place to judge them. Just don't do the same.

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By *olouWoman
over a year ago

Swords

I just treat everyone with respect and honesty in the hope I get the same back xxxx

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area

"I just treat everyone with respect and honesty in the hope I get the same back xxxx"
damn right

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"I just don't understand the kind of mentality that can act like that. It's not like there aren't enough decent men to go around or anything."

It’s NOTHING to do with “decent” men. Nothing to do with men at all. It’s to do with women knocking other women back because they’re jealous of their looks or personality of ability to make friends or their confidence or anything that they feel that person shouldn’t be.

And no. There aren’t enough “decent” men to go around. Just look at any woman’s inbox. Dick pics, insults, derogatory statements. Look at most of the posts on this forum? Anything to do with women and it’s immediately mansplained or white knighted or a load of men virtue signalling. It’s a joke.

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork

I seem to have an issue with the term man splaining. Do ladies not realise it's how men communicate. Even with each other?. It's not just to inform a person. It's also to be clear in communication. And signaling any working knowledge on the given subject Ladies in fairness have a better ability to read between the lines. But if you mean in a way of talking down..boy do both genders do that.

On a side note. Most work bullying cases come from female dominated professions. I do find that pretty interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never run I to it by females but there are males and females who jump on the band wagon together sometimes to come down on people. In groups I tend to just stay neutral and even though I attend event's often enough I don't spend enough time to be to involved so much on a personal level a such, I avoid dramatic people as much as I can.

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork

"I have never run I to it by females but there are males and females who jump on the band wagon together sometimes to come down on people. In groups I tend to just stay neutral and even though I attend event's often enough I don't spend enough time to be to involved so much on a personal level a such, I avoid dramatic people as much as I can."

Agree...if you keep it light. You'll never fight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been lucky with my time on here that no one has said anything to me ( not my face anyways) however recently I think I've upset some one but only though being my chatty/ happy self, I can't help how someone views me , all I can do is keep being respectful to ever one I meet ..."

I hear you darling seriously people can pick each other up wrong through chatty happy self . I try having a bit of craic sometimes too but see it doesn't go down well , must be Sargent major at all times lol. And to honest people must remember we are all communicating through a bloody screen, things gey lost in translation can't see peoples real facial expressions, reactions etc. Miss me be you your funny out and I enjoy your company, leave out those who don't get you or support you . Don't loose any sleep over it which am sure you don't, it's not worthwhile. I am a realist and no place has made me realise that even more than on here.

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork

Yeah..umm..had an incident of lost in translation last week. I still cringe at it. Again..soz cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah..umm..had an incident of lost in translation last week. I still cringe at it. Again..soz cool"

Hey ah no worries at all , sorry for my part also if i annoyed you .

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

Jameson main bar

Yeap I've seen it first hand and I was shocked if I'm honest but it happens and it's not very sound at all. If you put enough ppl together it's only a matter of time.

Men will resort to more physical aggression, but women resort to innuendo, gossip and reputation destruction

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"Yeap I've seen it first hand and I was shocked if I'm honest but it happens and it's not very sound at all. If you put enough ppl together it's only a matter of time.

Men will resort to more physical aggression, but women resort to innuendo, gossip and reputation destruction "

Yeah. Innuendo is a great one…. Especially as then she can act all innocent. I saw it happen on a k*k group recently and literally 4 other women went

Hilarious. And pretty impressively MIAOW too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Upon messaging some women here I've been outright asked if I've ever met with any of a list of female profile names and that they wouldn't meet if I had.

Tells me more about them than anyone if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It absolutely does go on here. In the forums in the past ive had a thread started about how ugly and overweight i am, started by a couple, ive also had a couple of women throw constant digs at me on threads, ive also had nasty status updates about me, also from women. It used to bother me but now...i couldn't give a flying fuck what some random dope im never gonna meet thinks of me.

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"It absolutely does go on here. In the forums in the past ive had a thread started about how ugly and overweight i am, started by a couple, ive also had a couple of women throw constant digs at me on threads, ive also had nasty status updates about me, also from women. It used to bother me but now...i couldn't give a flying fuck what some random dope im never gonna meet thinks of me.

OMG I remember that. And I remember your response being fecking awesome. You absolute legend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG I remember that. And I remember your response being fecking awesome. You absolute legend.

Ah the good old days eh!

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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago

Sensual Center

Well done You

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Upon messaging some women here I've been outright asked if I've ever met with any of a list of female profile names and that they wouldn't meet if I had.

Tells me more about them than anyone if you ask me

Omg really now that's a first I have ever heard of that's mad, and yes it definitely says more about them course.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

Thats cause you are awesome xxx

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

You ARE awesome. It would be great if everyone had that strength. I bet it still hurt though at the time. The mentality of some people to be that way though......

What do they think they can gain from it besides hurting you. I've heard stories about bullying and even black mail by proxy on people here. This is supposed to be a safe, fun place for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats cause you are awesome xxx"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ARE awesome. It would be great if everyone had that strength. I bet it still hurt though at the time. The mentality of some people to be that way though......

What do they think they can gain from it besides hurting you. I've heard stories about bullying and even black mail by proxy on people here. This is supposed to be a safe, fun place for everyone."

As long as there is fab there will be horrible people, drama, lies and gossip. I just keep well away from all that nonsense. I havent the energy or the interest.

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

You ARE awesome. It would be great if everyone had that strength. I bet it still hurt though at the time. The mentality of some people to be that way though......

What do they think they can gain from it besides hurting you. I've heard stories about bullying and even black mail by proxy on people here. This is supposed to be a safe, fun place for everyone.

As long as there is fab there will be horrible people, drama, lies and gossip. I just keep well away from all that nonsense. I havent the energy or the interest. "

The best way to be I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah fuck the haters you're fucking hilarious and gorgeous and those curves swoons totally girl crush

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By *on Draper2.0 OP Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

Ah fuck the haters you're fucking hilarious and gorgeous and those curves swoons totally girl crush "

True beauty is, as they say, more than skin deep. The so called ladies that would treat someone like that are truly ugly on the inside.

That's what I think.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Maybe time to put this thread to bed now?

Ok I only dipped in and ou of it over the past while however, I think the overall feeling is that the majority of women help each other out here.

So, let's stop the window for vitriol unnecessarily and close this thread without anyone else commenting please

Love to all and Happy Fabbing xxx

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Maybe time to put this thread to bed now?

Ok I only dipped in and ou of it over the past while however, I think the overall feeling is that the majority of women help each other out here.

So, let's stop the window for vitriol unnecessarily and close this thread without anyone else commenting please

Love to all and Happy Fabbing xxx"

That's part of the problem though. Lip service and a few sentences in a forum thread while using the fab selective memory theory usually absolves them from their misdemeanors.

Right up to the point where one of the apologists becomes the target and all hell breaks loose.

We're all here for fun so get it out of your system folks and then go back to turning a blind eye.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Maybe time to put this thread to bed now?

Ok I only dipped in and ou of it over the past while however, I think the overall feeling is that the majority of women help each other out here.

So, let's stop the window for vitriol unnecessarily and close this thread without anyone else commenting please

Love to all and Happy Fabbing xxx"

Have you even read the thread.

Maybe it's time you put yourself to bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been watching this thread since we commented and I have to say some posters hit the nail on the head. Rumours, gossip and lies are some people's currency of choice on here. Half the time people don't even realize that their the victim of it and go about abusing and berating others, all the while prodded on by someone who appears to be everyone's friend but is really treating the site users as their own personal cast of a soap opera.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe time to put this thread to bed now?

Ok I only dipped in and ou of it over the past while however, I think the overall feeling is that the majority of women help each other out here.

So, let's stop the window for vitriol unnecessarily and close this thread without anyone else commenting please

Love to all and Happy Fabbing xxx

Have you even read the thread.

Maybe it's time you put yourself to bed"

Well said

One of the white knights trying to earn brownie points from the women thinking he’ll get the leg over lol lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been watching this thread since we commented and I have to say some posters hit the nail on the head. Rumours, gossip and lies are some people's currency of choice on here. Half the time people don't even realize that their the victim of it and go about abusing and berating others, all the while prodded on by someone who appears to be everyone's friend but is really treating the site users as their own personal cast of a soap opera. "

You certainly hit the nail on the head there and drove it home

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

From the same handbook as the chapter about telling people to "be kind" while being anything but or the old shell game where distraction is your friend.

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By *iggles-000Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

A couple of years ago I had a message from a woman accusing me of being a fake and being a man. This is despite having verifications. I had never spoken to her before so not sure why the felt the need to message me.

I blocked and moved on, some people have nothing better to do with their time.

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