FabSwingers.com forum: Safety

By *ack cough OP Man
over a year ago

sligo

With recent murders in sligo town just good time for all out there to keep safe .public place for first meeting ,tell someone and make sure person meeting knows that. Maybe only meet up when you know and trust the person who has verifed them already?the value of safe meeting places like the clubs also?

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By *aydendemmellWoman
over a year ago

Inishowen

"With recent murders in sligo town just good time for all out there to keep safe .public place for first meeting ,tell someone and make sure person meeting knows that. Maybe only meet up when you know and trust the person who has verifed them already?the value of safe meeting places like the clubs also?

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Agreed

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By *mokey and the bandit 1Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

If people didn't learn from the O'Hara murder , or all the other murders that happened where people met their murderer online via kink, dating or swinging sites. Then there is no hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some tips and maybe others can share

1) Meet in a public place

2) let a friend know where your going

3) if you have a phone number for the person guv that to your friend too

4) go with your gut if you dont feel comfortable , leave

Was told my a male fabber when I first joined to not give out your home address to someone that you don't know.

Also and I aim this at guys, sorry gents but if a woman insists on meeting you someone public don't take it personally it is her looking after her safety.

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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago

Cork

Agreed.

There were a couple of purists who recently insisted that pre-arranged dogging ain’t real dogging… we’d say there was a time you couldn’t be considered a real full back if you wore a helmet… safety standards evolve all the time… be wide people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a discussion about meet safety few weeks ago. Those incidents in Sligo serve as a reminder why I'm so paranoid about my safety on meets.

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By *ack cough OP Man
over a year ago

sligo

Well said

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't care who I'm meeting but it will only ever be in a public place for the first meet. Anyone insisting on meeting in their own home gets a firm no. If they have so little thought for their own personal safety that they are prepared to invite a complete stranger, namely me, into their home they are a fruit loop and to be avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some tips and maybe others can share

1) Meet in a public place

2) let a friend know where your going

3) if you have a phone number for the person guv that to your friend too

4) go with your gut if you dont feel comfortable , leave

Was told my a male fabber when I first joined to not give out your home address to someone that you don't know.

Also and I aim this at guys, sorry gents but if a woman insists on meeting you someone public don't take it personally it is her looking after her safety.

Think the guards released a very similar statement to the above but you’ve summed it up well here.

Would also say, given the nature of this site compared to other dating sites people tend to be a lot more hesitant to share personal details or photos for discretion, but god I’d be very, very careful of meeting anyone who won’t give a face photo now that you can just delete pictures from messages once they’re read. Has always been my approach but more so now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An Garda Síochána would like to provide the following advice to the public in general when speaking with, or intending to meet up with, persons they have met online:

• Get a face picture from the person you intend to meet. Be very cautious of a person who doesn't share a recent face picture with you, particularly after you have shared yours.

• If they don't want to share a face picture, consider asking them to go on a live video call (many apps have this option built in so you don't have to share your mobile number).

• Ask for their social media handles. Do you have friends in common on Instagram or Facebook? Be wary of new accounts with low follower count and few posts.

• Let friends know where you're going - send a text to a trusted friend or in a group chat, include your live location so you can be found if you need help.

• Meet in a public place first. Take a few minutes to chat and feel confident you want to proceed before going somewhere private.

• Think before accepting food or drink. Unless you've seen them prepare it - it's best not to accept to avoid being spiked.

• If an emergency unfolds, call 999. If something happens - report it!

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

In the US several years ago a string of victims were specifically targeted on Craigslist.

Some people with malintent are very highly skilled at appearing normal; until it's too late!

Very concerning.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Frankly, if the need should arise you need to be prepared to use extreme violence, if you cannot otherwise extract yourself; an attitude of preparedness is sometimes enough to deter a violent attacker.

Thugs really prefer compliant victims; from my experience if they see that you will fight back, most will back off, particularly if they have misjudged your resolve.

Learn a few basic self-defense moves; but attitude is everything.

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By *ack cough OP Man
over a year ago

sligo

Looks like could be more victims

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad that it took 2 horrible deaths or possibly more for men to understand our safety concerns

Miss_tattoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frankly, if the need should arise you need to be prepared to use extreme violence, if you cannot otherwise extract yourself; an attitude of preparedness is sometimes enough to deter a violent attacker.

Thugs really prefer compliant victims; from my experience if they see that you will fight back, most will back off, particularly if they have misjudged your resolve.

Learn a few basic self-defense moves; but attitude is everything."

Agreed but I'd put extract yourself first and then if you can't then use violence

A light touch to the larynx can disable a person fairly easily. A box to it would totally knock them out of commission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sad that it took 2 horrible deaths or possibly more for men to understand our safety concerns

Miss_tattoo "

I think a lot of men can forget they need to be equally as cautious. I know two people who ended up getting stalkers from Fab and both were guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sad that it took 2 horrible deaths or possibly more for men to understand our safety concerns

Miss_tattoo

I think a lot of men can forget they need to be equally as cautious. I know two people who ended up getting stalkers from Fab and both were guys. "

Yes. Both genders have to be careful never know what situation you can walk into

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People, particularly women should be mindful of this at all times. Not just after some horrible murders.

It's a dangerous world out there with dangerous people. Take as little chances as you possibly can .

Everyone should do their best to familiarise themselves with any tips and tricks to aid this, like being able to dial 999 with just 1 button.

Just my 2 cents.

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over a year ago

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork

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By *olves at bayCouple
over a year ago

cork

Glad for the ladies on how much the percentage of averages in reports has shot up. However they have always been higher than the amount males report instances. In all regards of violence and various other types of assault. And being as an ex doorman...fuck me the amount of shit that men keep quiet about. And don't proceed with. I stopped a few non consensual forced encounters between males in toilets over the years that went unreported. Even after sheltering the guy and advising not to let the animal away with it. Not to mention amount of unprovoked physical assaults. To further on that. Ladies...just because he is stronger than you. Does not mean he should take it. The amount of female on male violence that is found acceptable is frightening. Most laugh at it. Other way around, Only then is it a concern.

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By *atekeeperAndKeymasterCouple
over a year ago

Derry/Donegal

Personally we'd like to see an improved way of verification on this site and others.

Something along the lines of bio security or randomly generated number system.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"An Garda Síochána would like to provide the following advice to the public in general when speaking with, or intending to meet up with, persons they have met online:

• Get a face picture from the person you intend to meet. Be very cautious of a person who doesn't share a recent face picture with you, particularly after you have shared yours.

• If they don't want to share a face picture, consider asking them to go on a live video call (many apps have this option built in so you don't have to share your mobile number).

• Ask for their social media handles. Do you have friends in common on Instagram or Facebook? Be wary of new accounts with low follower count and few posts.

• Let friends know where you're going - send a text to a trusted friend or in a group chat, include your live location so you can be found if you need help.

• Meet in a public place first. Take a few minutes to chat and feel confident you want to proceed before going somewhere private.

• Think before accepting food or drink. Unless you've seen them prepare it - it's best not to accept to avoid being spiked.

• If an emergency unfolds, call 999. If something happens - report it!"

This is brilliant! Never seen this before. There should be stickied forum threads at the top with this (and the site rules) in, so it's always there in your face.

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