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By *ootyKitFan OP   Man
over a year ago

Carlow

Just wondering if there are any alpha Tops out there? Bottom here looking to be dominated by an assertive, confident guy.

Keen to hear from you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"alpha" is a big red flag. Generally screams "total arsehole"

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By *ootyKitFan OP   Man
over a year ago

Carlow

Perhaps I should be more specific : I'm basically looking for a guy who is assertive and dominant, the kind of person who is quietly confident in themselves and their ability to get what they want from a sub

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

The guy is stating a preference for a particular type he is looking for. Nothing wrong with that. Just because it's not your preference doesn't mean it should be criticised.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Perhaps I should be more specific : I'm basically looking for a guy who is assertive and dominant, the kind of person who is quietly confident in themselves and their ability to get what they want from a sub"

Hopefully you've got done inboxed responses and you find what you're looking for

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City


"The guy is stating a preference for a particular type he is looking for. Nothing wrong with that. Just because it's not your preference doesn't mean it should be criticised."

Alphas believe they are better than everyone else and spout shite regularly to support this. It’s an MO I see quite frequently.

Clearly the OP is not looking for an “alpha”, but a dominant. And the observation stands.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"The guy is stating a preference for a particular type he is looking for. Nothing wrong with that. Just because it's not your preference doesn't mean it should be criticised.

Alphas believe they are better than everyone else and spout shite regularly to support this. It’s an MO I see quite frequently.

Clearly the OP is not looking for an “alpha”, but a dominant. And the observation stands. "

How nice of you to correct him on what he is looking for sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy is stating a preference for a particular type he is looking for. Nothing wrong with that. Just because it's not your preference doesn't mean it should be criticised.

Alphas believe they are better than everyone else and spout shite regularly to support this. It’s an MO I see quite frequently.

Clearly the OP is not looking for an “alpha”, but a dominant. And the observation stands.

How nice of you to correct him on what he is looking for sexually. "

Don't think it was the Op he was correcting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy is stating a preference for a particular type he is looking for. Nothing wrong with that. Just because it's not your preference doesn't mean it should be criticised.

Alphas believe they are better than everyone else and spout shite regularly to support this. It’s an MO I see quite frequently.

Clearly the OP is not looking for an “alpha”, but a dominant. And the observation stands. "

Quite so.

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

A few alphas in this thread

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"The guy is stating a preference for a particular type he is looking for. Nothing wrong with that. Just because it's not your preference doesn't mean it should be criticised.

Alphas believe they are better than everyone else and spout shite regularly to support this. It’s an MO I see quite frequently.

Clearly the OP is not looking for an “alpha”, but a dominant. And the observation stands. "

Agree with red.

I think the other response wasn't criticising him but trying to help him.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

An alpha top and alpha bottom are gay terms and have no bearing on animal or human hierarchy

Nobody should be commenting other than the op and suitable guys

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"The guy is stating a preference for a particular type he is looking for. Nothing wrong with that. Just because it's not your preference doesn't mean it should be criticised.

Alphas believe they are better than everyone else and spout shite regularly to support this. It’s an MO I see quite frequently.

Clearly the OP is not looking for an “alpha”, but a dominant. And the observation stands.

Agree with red.

I think the other response wasn't criticising him but trying to help him."

The guy doesn't need anybodies "help"

He knows exactly what he is looking for

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Just wondering if there are any alpha Tops out there? Bottom here looking to be dominated by an assertive, confident guy.

Keen to hear from you! "

Have a look at Hotpics and filter to Irish males. Tops seem to like posting pics and vids so you might find what you are looking for that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few alphas in this thread "

They’d be beta off saying nothing

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By *ootyKitFan OP   Man
over a year ago

Carlow


"Just wondering if there are any alpha Tops out there? Bottom here looking to be dominated by an assertive, confident guy.

Keen to hear from you!

Have a look at Hotpics and filter to Irish males. Tops seem to like posting pics and vids so you might find what you are looking for that way "

Thank you! I'll try that!

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"Just wondering if there are any alpha Tops out there? Bottom here looking to be dominated by an assertive, confident guy.

Keen to hear from you!

Have a look at Hotpics and filter to Irish males. Tops seem to like posting pics and vids so you might find what you are looking for that way

Thank you! I'll try that! "

You're welcome and good luck

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By *ootyKitFan OP   Man
over a year ago

Carlow


"Just wondering if there are any alpha Tops out there? Bottom here looking to be dominated by an assertive, confident guy.

Keen to hear from you!

Have a look at Hotpics and filter to Irish males. Tops seem to like posting pics and vids so you might find what you are looking for that way

Thank you! I'll try that!

You're welcome and good luck "

Again, I welcome any suggestions or help! Much appreciated

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Are true alpha males those guys with charm, charisma and natural leadership skills who percolate to the upper echelon of most social groups, rather than dominant egomaniacs who want to aggressively be top dog, but without necessarily have skills, personality and aptitude to naturally get there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah

Alpha males are like Aaron, Aidan, Anthony ..etc

Beta males are like Brian, Bill, Bert ....etc

And so on and so on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sigma male here ..

I’m too sigma to reply unfortunately

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Good luck OP

As an aside. Hasn't the classic definition of Alpha male been thoroughly debunked as a red herring. The original author of the wolf study just made the whole thing up.

And there's at least three definitions already in this thread

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Good luck OP

As an aside. Hasn't the classic definition of Alpha male been thoroughly debunked as a red herring. The original author of the wolf study just made the whole thing up.

And there's at least three definitions already in this thread "

Kinda. There is definitely such a thing as an alpha male in the wild, primates for example... But seemingly no, not wolves.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I'd rather compare humans to spider monkeys or bonobo's than chimp's or gorilla's.

I just wonder if those anthropomorphic identifications are a little arbitrary.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"I'd rather compare humans to spider monkeys or bonobo's than chimp's or gorilla's.

I just wonder if those anthropomorphic identifications are a little arbitrary."

Meh. We are all animals. The point is there IS such a thing as an alpha male in groups in the animal kingdom.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Of course. I just don't believe the animal kingdom definition translates to humans.

The classic trope of the 'alpha' power broker going straight to his domme after work is a good example.

Primates live in social hierarchies that continue throughout life in their pack and the selection process isn't understood.

Humans don't live like that. We often adopt various persona's that suit or environment. Professional and personal. Parent and Kinky Ridebag.

Men might like to play alpha or ascribe selective traits to others but as a species there's no evidence that we select a dominant male to fertilize all our females

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Not sure I believe that. You don't think many girls gravitate towards tall healhy powerful built protective males? It's a genetic thing that's designed to pass on the best genes and have strong healthy kids who get to live into adulthood. Obviously I'm speaking in general terms and there are many other factors at play also.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Not sure I believe that. You don't think many girls gravitate towards tall healhy powerful built protective males? It's a genetic thing that's designed to pass on the best genes and have strong healthy kids who get to live into adulthood. Obviously I'm speaking in general terms and there are many other factors at play also."

Not sure I believe that no. Partly because I'm not tall or powerful and have successfully fulfilled my genetic imperative more than once and partly because a lot of women on here like a dad bod with emotional intelligence.

Genetic diversity doesn't equal the classic definition of beauty.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Modern medicine, together with a lack of physical danger, and power structures financial and othewise, have meant these things aren't so important these days. There is still an instinct for it though.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Well I am that case I am grateful to modern civilization for getting me laid.

I think I will leave there. Thank you Filthynights for an interesting discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""alpha" is a big red flag. Generally screams "total arsehole""

Whoever said, this before they left the site, were 100% right.

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