FabSwingers.com forum: Leaving fab/the lifestyle

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can u ever leave this lifestyle!? Do u need to change the person u r? Can u change?

I ask this as a former fabber is about to get married. Their new partner knows they’re a little kinky but not to the extent of hooking up regularly on fab.

On the recent pre wedding night out the group consisted of 70% fab friends and 30% vanilla!!

A few cheeky kisses were exchanged but when the other half to be learnt of this the wedding was off and we were uninvited!!!

So where does it leave them

1. As they’re not getting married here we were the only ones from r friends side

2. Throughout the relationship they have hidden their profile but still enjoyed a few hook ups.

3. They still haven’t been honest with their new partner about they’re fab lifestyle. But does openly. Admit to being bi.

4. Is a kiss on a stag/hen do really a reason to b removed from an already tiny guest list (after the expense of flights and hotels have been booked)

Your thoughts please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a drama to steer well clear of.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Did you meet through fab or friends before..

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

It’s very difficult to leave isn’t it

Because whatever you have in your monogamous relationship needs to be stronger alone than multiple partners and obscene amounts of toys , marathon sessions , kink , lingerie etc and all the things this lifestyle brings without the usual responsibilities of life ...

And yes that happens , but after a while , when you hit that rough patch , and you know fab exists , not being tempted and acting on that temptation is difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can u ever leave this lifestyle!? Do u need to change the person u r? Can u change?

I ask this as a former fabber is about to get married. Their new partner knows they’re a little kinky but not to the extent of hooking up regularly on fab.

On the recent pre wedding night out the group consisted of 70% fab friends and 30% vanilla!!

A few cheeky kisses were exchanged but when the other half to be learnt of this the wedding was off and we were uninvited!!!

So where does it leave them

1. As they’re not getting married here we were the only ones from r friends side

2. Throughout the relationship they have hidden their profile but still enjoyed a few hook ups.

3. They still haven’t been honest with their new partner about they’re fab lifestyle. But does openly. Admit to being bi.

4. Is a kiss on a stag/hen do really a reason to b removed from an already tiny guest list (after the expense of flights and hotels have been booked)

Your thoughts please"

I don't think a person can ever change . If the Wedding is off , so what ? Better to call it off now that discover the truth later.That person is here for a reason , better to be honest if marriage is involved.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Who kissed who? Was it the fabber half of the couple that kissed someone other than their soon to be wife/husband?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To answer a few questions

They kissed me. They started it!

The wedding is on … we don’t agree with it or believe it should happen at all.

We r staying we’ll clear

We met on fab and became friends that way

They have blocked and deleted us on Facebook lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To answer a few questions

They kissed me. They started it!

The wedding is on … we don’t agree with it or believe it should happen at all.

We r staying we’ll clear

We met on fab and became friends that way

They have blocked and deleted us on Facebook lol"

This person is not your friend, you're well rid of them and their fucked-up ways

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

Yep sounds like a right bit of drama

Tbh I don’t think it’s fair on the vanilla partner

They’re entering into what they think is a committed monogamous marriage whilst their partner is having their cake and eating it.

As far as marriages go, it’s a bad start...

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"To answer a few questions

They kissed me. They started it!

The wedding is on … we don’t agree with it or believe it should happen at all.

We r staying we’ll clear

We met on fab and became friends that way

They have blocked and deleted us on Facebook lol"

You said before the wedding was off... and now it's on??

Confused. Smells like drama

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Personally if the wedding is on or off, not being friends is the right thing for you both as a couple. It's too much drama do you need it ?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Making assumptions here I know

I am assuming the lady of the soon to be married couple kissed the lady of the op profile

She has being open about being bi so no secrets there

Maybe its just from being in this life style but if my wife or back then soon to be wife kissed a girl and liked it Id be over the moon

But thats me if hes only interested in a monagomaus relationship maybe they need to sit down and talk more about their future

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

Yeah I’d say they probably fucked you under the bus (metaphor) to save their skin with their other half

That’s probably why you’re cut off and uninvited

It would be great if they came on to the post to explain themselves, like a written Jeremy Kyle show

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry, the updates r live … it was all off were if the Facebook etc so we’re updated via a friend of a friend that it’s back on! We’re keeping r flights but have changed hotels. We’re still looking forward to a great break away with no drama

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"Making assumptions here I know

I am assuming the lady of the soon to be married couple kissed the lady of the op profile

She has being open about being bi so no secrets there

Maybe its just from being in this life style but if my wife or back then soon to be wife kissed a girl and liked it Id be over the moon

But thats me if hes only interested in a monagomaus relationship maybe they need to sit down and talk more about their future

That makes a lot of sense. Better communication and self control needed all round I'd say.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

"Sorry, the updates r live … it was all off were if the Facebook etc so we’re updated via a friend of a friend that it’s back on! We’re keeping r flights but have changed hotels. We’re still looking forward to a great break away with no drama "

Whilst I am enjoying the salacious nature of this thread, I‘ve a question for you

If the wedding goes ahead and things end in tears, would you welcome that person back into your life in the future if they admitted doing wrong or is the hurt too much?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

"
sure the sexual tension between you too , get a room

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

sure the sexual tension between you too , get a room "

I'd love to watch that one!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

sure the sexual tension between you too , get a room

I'd love to watch that one!

Pervert

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

sure the sexual tension between you too , get a room

I'd love to watch that one!

Pervert

sure we all have our little kinks

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Dom dom dom dom dom

Eastenders music.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I would leave the two of them to sort it out and stay away from it

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I would leave the two of them to sort it out and stay away from it"

that sounds like the best plan. I would definitely avoid any more to do with them or the situation.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

I gave an opinion before that it must be difficult to enter into (and maintain) a monogamous relationship, having been in the swing lifestyle for a while and people (mainly ladies) disagreed with me. I still maintain that opinion. Mrs

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

I'm not a bit envious off your big hairy monstrosity off an arse. The last time I saw something like that I had to spend two days at it with a hedge trimmer

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

sure the sexual tension between you too , get a room "

Only if you're there as well...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Whilst I am enjoying the salacious nature of this thread, I‘ve a question for you

If the wedding goes ahead and things end in tears, would you welcome that person back into your life in the future if they admitted doing wrong or is the hurt too much?"

Real friends are always there. Even when u fuck up … so yes, we’ll b supportive if/when ut goes tits up.

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By *angtasticallyMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

Of course they can change but it up to how willing they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s very difficult to leave isn’t it

And yes that happens , but after a while , when you hit that rough patch , and you know fab exists , not being tempted and acting on that temptation is difficult

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

I'm not a bit envious off your big hairy monstrosity off an arse. The last time I saw something like that I had to spend two days at it with a hedge trimmer "

Was that no a lady garden up on a hill

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

sure the sexual tension between you too , get a room

Only if you're there as well...

Make sure shes wearing her glasses or she may pull ur pick

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"I have to admit I'm a bit confused..

"The wedding is off" and then "we're uninvited"

Surely if the wedding is off then nobody at all is invited. If you are "uninvited" doesn't that imply that the wedding is going ahead..

It's the little things that get to me..

See mick I told them putting three shovles against a wall and asking u take ur pick would a step to far

Would you believe I have one in my hand as we speak?

Oh no, wait, that's a prick

Jayus Mick if ur mistaking ur prick for a pick maybe u should go see the doc

That or the optican

Sure 'tis like a length of hickory combined with the finest steel. I can feel your envy from here, old timer.

Jayus Mick wood combined with steel who ever caged u is one lucky person sur their garden must be neat and trim pity ur caged no chance to enjoy it

Envy me arse

sure the sexual tension between you too , get a room

Only if you're there as well...

Make sure shes wearing her glasses or she may pull ur pick

"
hey I'm not that bad

ohhh wait

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By *adhatter and coCouple
over a year ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

"Yep sounds like a right bit of drama

Tbh I don’t think it’s fair on the vanilla partner

They’re entering into what they think is a committed monogamous marriage whilst their partner is having their cake and eating it.

As far as marriages go, it’s a bad start...

"
... That's the thing though, there aint gonna be any cake to eat is there, for the bride groom and wedding guests

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By *ustkrissMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Its simple he is an asshole who has her so mentally insecure that she is even scared to be who she really is! It's mental abuse.

The events that happened at the hen night where mild compared to alot of vanilla hen nights I've been at

Plus isn't the point of a hen night to have fun before you get married. What happens in Vegas kinda rules.

Marrying someone who doesnt love u for who u r is insane! What even is the point then???

I feel so sorry for her and hope she breaks free from this torture soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well by the sounds of things, it seems best to keep a distance now. I guess going into a marriage without honesty between both is a pretty bad start. Although I know what it's like to lose best friends.. I've lost two over the last two years, over stupid things.

However, if you're needing a new friend to take the place.. I'm free lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I am enjoying the salacious nature of this thread, I‘ve a question for you

If the wedding goes ahead and things end in tears, would you welcome that person back into your life in the future if they admitted doing wrong or is the hurt too much?

Real friends are always there. Even when u fuck up … so yes, we’ll b supportive if/when ut goes tits up. "
Fair play to you both in doing this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can u ever leave this lifestyle!? Do u need to change the person u r? Can u change?

I ask this as a former fabber is about to get married. Their new partner knows they’re a little kinky but not to the extent of hooking up regularly on fab.

On the recent pre wedding night out the group consisted of 70% fab friends and 30% vanilla!!

A few cheeky kisses were exchanged but when the other half to be learnt of this the wedding was off and we were uninvited!!!

So where does it leave them

1. As they’re not getting married here we were the only ones from r friends side

2. Throughout the relationship they have hidden their profile but still enjoyed a few hook ups.

3. They still haven’t been honest with their new partner about they’re fab lifestyle. But does openly. Admit to being bi.

4. Is a kiss on a stag/hen do really a reason to b removed from an already tiny guest list (after the expense of flights and hotels have been booked)

Your thoughts please"
How did he find out about the kiss? Was he watching while it was happening? Did someone report back to him? Or did the fiancee tell him about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be the only one who thinks this thread has gone way beyond indiscreet

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I can't be the only one who thinks this thread has gone way beyond indiscreet

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its straightforward thing..if someone is committed or about to get married and there partner dnt want them to go around....one must stop.or look for a partner who dnt mind such lifestyle..if one still go and do meets on back of there partners thats cheating and no one wanted to be cheated it hurts.....as far as related to univite...that can be someone personal choice..may be they are not that broad minded as we are here on fab.....calling off wedding again personal choice...and if you want to be happy in your life always respect people personal choices....xx

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