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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK so any tips on how do you know if someone is interested in you?

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

In a chat the other night I was told I don't come across as shy, I come across friendly bubbly and easy to chat to and seem.very popular but at the moment heck no in the last year on here I feel like I'm always the bridesmaid never the bride.

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By *ngel and EvilCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Same DD. Wondering where ive went wrong lol

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By *obroyman17Man
over a year ago

I tend to call it as it is, if I’m interested I’ll let them know. Is a swing scene so no point n being vague xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering you’ve got 101 verifications in wouldn’t say your always the bridesmaid and never the bride. Also your not the only swinger who’s not swinging. The amount of verifications you have suggests otherwise wise. One of which was only a week ago. Somebody tell me I’m missing something, surely my own profile suggests I’m more likely to be the only swinger who’s not swinging. I’ve not got a single verification.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Considering you’ve got 101 verifications in wouldn’t say your always the bridesmaid and never the bride. Also your not the only swinger who’s not swinging. The amount of verifications you have suggests otherwise wise. One of which was only a week ago. Somebody tell me I’m missing something, surely my own profile suggests I’m more likely to be the only swinger who’s not swinging. I’ve not got a single verification. "

The majority of my veris are socials and mngs, dont judge a profile just on verifications

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"I’m more likely to be the only swinger who’s not swinging. I’ve not got a single verification. "

Remind us all, did you have any on your last profile here?

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down


"

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

"

What you describe are the symptoms of a person who is potentially on the autism spectrum: one of the principal traits is an inability to read social signals! Lots of info is available on the web. Might be worth checking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

What you describe are the symptoms of a person who is potentially on the autism spectrum: one of the principal traits is an inability to read social signals! Lots of info is available on the web. Might be worth checking."

Wow I can read social signals its I can't read if soneone fancies me

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By *208numeWoman
over a year ago

Navan

I feel your sentiment DD and FA,

I know I don’t help myself by hiding my profile a lot but when I interact I am always nice and polite and not so sexually explicit (I like to build up to that). I am starting to wonder if being ‘too nice’ is a turn off for men?

Looking forward to hearing a male perspective on this...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel your sentiment DD and FA,

I know I don’t help myself by hiding my profile a lot but when I interact I am always nice and polite and not so sexually explicit (I like to build up to that). I am starting to wonder if being ‘too nice’ is a turn off for men?

Looking forward to hearing a male perspective on this...

"

See I do wonder that too, If I'm chatting to a guy I don't pester with texts, I don't push to meet etc I just chat. I'll text to pay a compliment on a pic, fab a pic etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

What you describe are the symptoms of a person who is potentially on the autism spectrum: one of the principal traits is an inability to read social signals! Lots of info is available on the web. Might be worth checking."

Somewhat inappropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your sentiment DD and FA,

I know I don’t help myself by hiding my profile a lot but when I interact I am always nice and polite and not so sexually explicit (I like to build up to that). I am starting to wonder if being ‘too nice’ is a turn off for men?

Looking forward to hearing a male perspective on this...

"

There’s a few women and couples I chat to from time to time. We’ve swapped face pics and meeting up has never come into the conversation. My view point is that they’re not interested. You can be polite to someone, It doesn’t mean they’ve got a hope in hell of ever seeing them naked.

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By *208numeWoman
over a year ago

Navan

I’m the same as you DD. You are not alone.

I’m courteous and respectful and polite just like I am in real life. I wondered if the men were bored by my ‘politeness’ and non pushy nature?

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By *ngel and EvilCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"I feel your sentiment DD and FA,

I know I don’t help myself by hiding my profile a lot but when I interact I am always nice and polite and not so sexually explicit (I like to build up to that). I am starting to wonder if being ‘too nice’ is a turn off for men?

Looking forward to hearing a male perspective on this...

"

Just think our profile is too boring maybe. Lol. Just not sure what to do with it

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down


"

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

What you describe are the symptoms of a person who is potentially on the autism spectrum: one of the principal traits is an inability to read social signals! Lots of info is available on the web. Might be worth checking.

Somewhat inappropriate. "

It isn't inappropriate; I have many friends in Belfast who articulate these opinions about readings social signals, and classify themselves as being on the spectrum, which is very broad-ranging and misunderstood.

Two of them state that they have Aspergers syndrome; one has been professionally diagnosed, another is self-diagnosed.

Worth having a look at!

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Something just clicks is the way I look at it...dont know what or how

Polite profiles are a given to me so its not that ladies,

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

What you describe are the symptoms of a person who is potentially on the autism spectrum: one of the principal traits is an inability to read social signals! Lots of info is available on the web. Might be worth checking.

Somewhat inappropriate.

It isn't inappropriate; I have many friends in Belfast who articulate these opinions about readings social signals, and classify themselves as being on the spectrum, which is very broad-ranging and misunderstood.

Two of them state that they have Aspergers syndrome; one has been professionally diagnosed, another is self-diagnosed.

Worth having a look at!

"

Jubal...thats enough internet for one day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

What you describe are the symptoms of a person who is potentially on the autism spectrum: one of the principal traits is an inability to read social signals! Lots of info is available on the web. Might be worth checking.

Somewhat inappropriate.

It isn't inappropriate; I have many friends in Belfast who articulate these opinions about readings social signals, and classify themselves as being on the spectrum, which is very broad-ranging and misunderstood.

Two of them state that they have Aspergers syndrome; one has been professionally diagnosed, another is self-diagnosed.

Worth having a look at!

"

I'm perfectly fine on that end thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m the same as you DD. You are not alone.

I’m courteous and respectful and polite just like I am in real life. I wondered if the men were bored by my ‘politeness’ and non pushy nature?

"

Enlighten thread in many ways, clearly there’s a few of us who should at times just ask are you interested in meeting up. Instead of beating around the bush.

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By *umon337Man
over a year ago

Offaly


"I’m the same as you DD. You are not alone.

I’m courteous and respectful and polite just like I am in real life. I wondered if the men were bored by my ‘politeness’ and non pushy nature?

"

It's a minefield.

As hard as it is to chat a someone up in person it's even harder by text because the subtle physical and verbal cues that we get in person are missing.

Subtext get lost in texts.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

What you describe are the symptoms of a person who is potentially on the autism spectrum: one of the principal traits is an inability to read social signals! Lots of info is available on the web. Might be worth checking.

Somewhat inappropriate.

It isn't inappropriate; I have many friends in Belfast who articulate these opinions about readings social signals, and classify themselves as being on the spectrum, which is very broad-ranging and misunderstood.

Two of them state that they have Aspergers syndrome; one has been professionally diagnosed, another is self-diagnosed.

Worth having a look at!

Jubal...thats enough internet for one day "

For me too I think, Jesus wept….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m more likely to be the only swinger who’s not swinging. I’ve not got a single verification.

Remind us all, did you have any on your last profile here?"

I had 3 verifications on my last profile. One was a wed cam verification and the other two where from social meet. One of which was a one to one social and the other was with a couple.

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By *ezoMan
over a year ago

The Kingdom


"OK so any tips on how do you know if someone is interested in you?

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

In a chat the other night I was told I don't come across as shy, I come across friendly bubbly and easy to chat to and seem.very popular but at the moment heck no in the last year on here I feel like I'm always the bridesmaid never the bride.

"

Think I got you beat on that.

I typically need one of my friends to point it out. But you never know with my circle that they could just be winding us up

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By *anandJCouple
over a year ago

Citywest

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By *anandJCouple
over a year ago

Citywest

Well interesting topic.

Can’t approach it without admitting that there are many kinds of fabbers here.

First of all - couples - some speaking in one voice - but in some cases they might have different approaches to sex, meets, feelings

Single males- few decent lads and plenty of guys who just want a quick sex- no matter what.

Single ladies - some are shy, some super open- some looking for sex some for relation. Unfortunately some of ladies here are just lads (same with couples)

With a mix like that it’s hard to come with universal way of responding.

If you are talking to a lad who just want sex and you are just talking… he won’t be interested.

If you are talking to a lad or girl who wants FWB then stating straight away that you want NSA is a bad luck…

Personally We like to wait as well - but when someone looks to us as having similar goals- we go straight for it.

Just as a small opinion pice- diagnosing people on fab base on one forum post is as entertaining as anti vaccination movement! Bravo!!!

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Dont see any point in beating around the bush. All grown adults at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m the same as you DD. You are not alone.

I’m courteous and respectful and polite just like I am in real life. I wondered if the men were bored by my ‘politeness’ and non pushy nature?

"

If that's you and your personality then why would you change, just be yourself

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"I’m more likely to be the only swinger who’s not swinging. I’ve not got a single verification.

Remind us all, did you have any on your last profile here?

I had 3 verifications on my last profile. One was a wed cam verification and the other two where from social meet. One of which was a one to one social and the other was with a couple. "

It can’t be that bad, you keep coming back….

It’s just hard to keep up….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m more likely to be the only swinger who’s not swinging. I’ve not got a single verification.

Remind us all, did you have any on your last profile here?

I had 3 verifications on my last profile. One was a wed cam verification and the other two where from social meet. One of which was a one to one social and the other was with a couple.

It can’t be that bad, you keep coming back….

It’s just hard to keep up…."

Let’s just say I’m still waiting to see anyone naked in person off fab and lose my fab virginity and leave it at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK so any tips on how do you know if someone is interested in you?

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

In a chat the other night I was told I don't come across as shy, I come across friendly bubbly and easy to chat to and seem.very popular but at the moment heck no in the last year on here I feel like I'm always the bridesmaid never the bride.

"

Signals ? Life here is like a jigsaw , the right pieces have to fit together to make things work even if it is just sex you want , it has to be right , both know if it's right , if it's not it's not gonna happen , if things reach a certain level both will say what they want from it , who knows maybe a relationship will develop from both meeting without knowing at the start that it will , life amazes us at times , a guy might say what the lady wants to hear but the truth is she knows from the start where she wants to be or fits in,you won't really know till you meet that person face to face , you can chat all you want but the proof of the pudding is in the eating of it , chat is ok but you want proof ? You gotta meet , it's the only way , signals or no signals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lads could be shy too, could you initiate the topic if you fancy them?.

Maybe just practice an unambiguous line or two to clarify where you stand with the person. It is Fab, you can be direct!!!

Eg:

Im interested in meeting again, are you?

Ive enjoyed meeting you but Im sorry Im not feeling any attraction.

No. Not happening. You're not my type

I think you are gorgeous. Kiss me now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The lads could be shy too, could you initiate the topic if you fancy them?.

Maybe just practice an unambiguous line or two to clarify where you stand with the person. It is Fab, you can be direct!!!

Eg:

Im interested in meeting again, are you?

Ive enjoyed meeting you but Im sorry Im not feeling any attraction.

No. Not happening. You're not my type

I think you are gorgeous. Kiss me now!

"

If only I was that brave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it seems brave but feck it ... it might pay off. Xx

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By *elfastblondMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"The lads could be shy too, could you initiate the topic if you fancy them?.

Maybe just practice an unambiguous line or two to clarify where you stand with the person. It is Fab, you can be direct!!!

Eg:

Im interested in meeting again, are you?

Ive enjoyed meeting you but Im sorry Im not feeling any attraction.

No. Not happening. You're not my type

I think you are gorgeous. Kiss me now!

If only I was that brave "

You can be when you want to

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By *208numeWoman
over a year ago

Navan

Thanks for the feedback and suggestions. Have a good day everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's wrong with just coming out and saying it if you're interested in a meet? Why are you waiting for the other person to make the move?

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

If im chatting ill generally get a vibe if there interested in me or not if i feel they are ill always ask if they want to meet sometimes the other person might be a bit shy so ill ask straight out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK so any tips on how do you know if someone is interested in you?

I'm absolutely crap at reading signals and I'm even worse in person

In a chat the other night I was told I don't come across as shy, I come across friendly bubbly and easy to chat to and seem.very popular but at the moment heck no in the last year on here I feel like I'm always the bridesmaid never the bride.

"

I have no clue whatsoever. Always have been terrible at reading the signals and I guess I'll remain that way until I pop my clogs

Usually I only have a notion after a coffee meet and I get a message about meeting again. Even then half of me thinks the other person is taking the piss

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You are definitely not always the bridesmaid DD and if anyone makes you feel that way kick them to the kerb because they are not worth it.

I'm not great at reading signals telling me if someone likes me or not. On here you have to ignore all the usual smoke blowing up your ass that you hear because a lot of it is just disingenuous and people saying what they think you want to hear.

If I'm chatting to someone on here one of us normally asks to meet for coffee.When we meet usually I'd twig if they like me or not. It's the eye contact and subtle signals or the look of fear as they are trying to plan their escape gives it away

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Accurately reading signals is a skill that is usually acquired with experience; but the wiilngness to act, or react, to signals is another issue.

If one has been 'burned' in intimate relationships in the past, transient or more long-term, excessive cautiousness can cause you act to your detriment, by not reciprocating; life is too short not to take a risk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Accurately reading signals is a skill that is usually acquired with experience; but the wiilngness to act, or react, to signals is another issue.

If one has been 'burned' in intimate relationships in the past, transient or more long-term, excessive cautiousness can cause you act to your detriment, by not reciprocating; life is too short not to take a risk! "

YAWN ??

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Sometimes fancy a fook just makes things a lot easier

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes fancy a fook just makes things a lot easier "

It may be the way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a few non-verbal tells i can think of are people leaning in towards you, copying your body language, light body contact, watching your lips, extended eye contact (or the opposite too nervous to look you in the eye!)

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"What's wrong with just coming out and saying it if you're interested in a meet? Why are you waiting for the other person to make the move? "

It's kind of in the middle for us. If we're interested we'll probably make it clear but if the response to that is less than enthusiastic or we're not getting any hints of interest at all, then it's a major turn off.

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

city


"Considering you’ve got 101 verifications in wouldn’t say your always the bridesmaid and never the bride. Also your not the only swinger who’s not swinging. The amount of verifications you have suggests otherwise wise. One of which was only a week ago. Somebody tell me I’m missing

something, surely my own profile suggests I’m more likely to be the only swinger who’s not swinging. I’ve not got a single verification. "

Ah Mr positivity don't mix veris as always being a playtime meet but I do agree with the struggle of fab and even thought it's a swing site I often feel like I'm more likely to get flung than swung but isn't it still fun wishing to be swung

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's wrong with just coming out and saying it if you're interested in a meet? Why are you waiting for the other person to make the move?

It's kind of in the middle for us. If we're interested we'll probably make it clear but if the response to that is less than enthusiastic or we're not getting any hints of interest at all, then it's a major turn off."

Well of course, if you've indicated interest and it's not well received, naturally you'll back off, would be a bit weird to persist (although it does happen with some )

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