FabSwingers.com forum: Changing your mind about someone

By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

From the lounge

As you spend more time on the site do your perceptions of some people change?

Those you have met , interacted with on the forum or through PMs Or social media groups , have you started with a positive view and moved towards a negative one or the other way round ? Or do you tend to make up your mind early and stick to it ?

on a separate note have you perceived people differently when they have been in a single profile then a couple profile or the other way round ?

Obviously keep things respectful and no need to post anything identifiable . It’s more to get a general sense of how posters approach their evaluation process and how this changes with time

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

It takes a lot for me to change my first impression but then I am a stubborn cunt

It happens very seldom but annoyingly the people I really don't like end up becoming those I'm closest with. Usually thats because they've said something so bitchy to me that its made me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's impossible to tell what a person's is truly like based by solely what they have posted on the forums. We all view life from a different perspective, and all of us have had different life experiences that has shaped our opinions. The society is we live in is hierarchical, the well scrubbed middle classes put on their profiles they only want to meet up with other professionals. The people with the old money probably like to avoid those vulgar nouveau riche upstarts with their designer labels and new top of the range German cars. The fitness fanatics who live in the gym, probably don't want to meet up chubby folk unless she's a woman. The people who are on this site for years probably view newbies with suspicion. The only thing we all have in common, is that we like to meet up with multiple people for sex.

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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

"It takes a lot for me to change my first impression but then I am a stubborn cunt

It happens very seldom but annoyingly the people I really don't like end up becoming those I'm closest with. Usually thats because they've said something so bitchy to me that its made me laugh."

Often depends how it’s said . A laughing emoji can make a difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to approach most people with an eye to their behaviour, especially towards others, as opposed to the words coming out of their mouth/being typed by their fingers. I never ignore a red flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's impossible to tell what a person's is truly like based by solely what they have posted on the forums. We all view life from a different perspective, and all of us have had different life experiences that has shaped our opinions. The society is we live in is hierarchical, the well scrubbed middle classes put on their profiles they only want to meet up with other professionals. The people with the old money probably like to avoid those vulgar nouveau riche upstarts with their designer labels and new top of the range German cars. The fitness fanatics who live in the gym, probably don't want to meet up chubby folk unless she's a woman. The people who are on this site for years probably view newbies with suspicion. The only thing we all have in common, is that we like to meet up with multiple people for sex.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Oi, leave the Germans and their top of the range cars out of it

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Personally I see everyone in a positive light until they prove me wrong with their actions or mentality.

Never ignore a red flag.

Many people I met in person have told me that I'm not what they expected me (in a good way) to be based solely on my online persona (which is genuinely no different from real life, apart from my actual facial expressions and tone of voice which most of the time puts things I say in a right context).

Missus

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I personally end up fancying the fuck out of someone I clash with here in the forums. No idea why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally end up fancying the fuck out of someone I clash with here in the forums. No idea why

Need to dominate?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I personally end up fancying the fuck out of someone I clash with here in the forums. No idea why

You literally clash with everyone....now I know why...you can't make up your feckin mind

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I personally end up fancying the fuck out of someone I clash with here in the forums. No idea why

One way to let someone know you don't fancy them

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Lol.. I don't think I clash with EVERYONE

Perhaps i should be faster to agree than I am to disagree though.

I get a lot of mail agreeing with me and I think a lot of folk don't speak up when then might disagree for one reason or another.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"I personally end up fancying the fuck out of someone I clash with here in the forums. No idea why

One way to let someone know you don't fancy them

I'm complex.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"I personally end up fancying the fuck out of someone I clash with here in the forums. No idea why

Need to dominate?

Perhaps!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

This happens to me all the time.

People go from thinking I'm a downright sexy beast to thinking I'm a downright incredibly sexy beast.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

I tend to make up my mind and stick to it.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I tend to make up my mind and stick to it. "

So you still think I’m a pain?…..

No chance to redeem myself?….

I live in hope…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to try reserve full judgement until I get to talk to someone, either on the phone or on person. Until that stage nothing is really real.

That being said plenty of people come off as a little stuck up themselves. But as I said, hard to judge.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"I tend to make up my mind and stick to it.

So you still think I’m a pain?…..

No chance to redeem myself?….

I live in hope…..

I never said you were a pain

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I tend to make up my mind and stick to it.

So you still think I’m a pain?…..

No chance to redeem myself?….

I live in hope…..

I never said you were a pain

Excellent, you should stick to that….

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

I find that many people nowadays are so fickle that I have a policy of ad hoc pragmatism: I just take people as I find them on the day, or in some extreme cases on the hour.

No preconceptions about individuals translates into no misconceptions!

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