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By *alwayguy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Galway

Hi, I'd really love to get my wife interested in the swinging lifestyle. Any idea's on how to approach the matter and convince her it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First maybe tell her what you are doing on Fab?

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County

When it comes to sex ..it should never be situation where someone has to be "convinced"

Have an open discussion about sex and fantasies , you will then know what a partner wants and doesn't want and what ye as a couple want and don't want.

Have things discussion in an relax setting that doesn't involve either party been too intoxicated.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

You can't convince her about the lifestyle only you know how your wife will feel regarding it..

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

It took years of discussion for us before taking the plunge and I'd imagine it's the same for most couples here. So if you've been broaching the subject and she hasn't shown the slightest bit of interest (or has given an outright No) then you're facing an uphill battle i'm afraid.

Also you need to realise that she will get far more attention on here than you so you'd need to be prepared for that. She may want to meet alone for example, could you handle staying at home while she has fun?

You need to have a strong relationship to withstand the challenges that swinging brings. Suggest you do some research before broaching the topic with your wife. There's a blog called Openlove101 which covers this very well. Good luck

Mrs.

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By *unkerbobMan
over a year ago

belfast


"First maybe tell her what you are doing on Fab? "
ha ha

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Maybe something like

"So honey I've been a member of a swingers website for over a year now and I've had a great time. You should sign up as well. I love you."

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Converting the wife...

Sounds more like a new religion than a lifestyle change!

Best of luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both grabbing popcorn for the rest of the show here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it comes to sex ..it should never be situation where someone has to be "convinced"

Have an open discussion about sex and fantasies , you will then know what a partner wants and doesn't want and what ye as a couple want and don't want.

Have things discussion in an relax setting that doesn't involve either party been too intoxicated.

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Very well put

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland


"It took years of discussion for us before taking the plunge and I'd imagine it's the same for most couples here. So if you've been broaching the subject and she hasn't shown the slightest bit of interest (or has given an outright No) then you're facing an uphill battle i'm afraid.

Also you need to realise that she will get far more attention on here than you so you'd need to be prepared for that. She may want to meet alone for example, could you handle staying at home while she has fun?

You need to have a strong relationship to withstand the challenges that swinging brings. Suggest you do some research before broaching the topic with your wife. There's a blog called Openlove101 which covers this very well. Good luck

Mrs."

Excellent advice guys

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By *alwayguy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Galway

Thanks guy's. All feedback and advice is very much appreciated.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

How about this....

"Hey Darling, I'm getting really frustrated as I'm on this swinging website for more than a year and I can't convince anyone to fuck me. Perhaps if you joined too then you might be able to pull someone for me to fuck. That ok?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It took years of discussion for us before taking the plunge and I'd imagine it's the same for most couples here. So if you've been broaching the subject and she hasn't shown the slightest bit of interest (or has given an outright No) then you're facing an uphill battle i'm afraid.

Also you need to realise that she will get far more attention on here than you so you'd need to be prepared for that. She may want to meet alone for example, could you handle staying at home while she has fun?

You need to have a strong relationship to withstand the challenges that swinging brings. Suggest you do some research before broaching the topic with your wife. There's a blog called Openlove101 which covers this very well. Good luck

Mrs."

That’s so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *egsyWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Prepare yourself OP, because if you do "convince her" to try it, shes going to be a lot busier than you

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

How does she feel about swinging at the moment?

She's unlikely to get very excited, if she sees if as your kink, and she wont tag along just to make up the numbers. Why don't the two of you go to a social, where she can meet other couples and chat about it.

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By *uckoldDesiresMan
over a year ago

Dublin

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Brought it up in discussion myself before and she had absolutely no interest. Then again, she has almost zero libido either so maybe no big surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Converting her from what? MF to mff? There's a cable in Halfords for that. Converting her to MMMMF? There's a long long connection for that.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne


"Converting her from what? MF to mff? There's a cable in Halfords for that. Converting her to MMMMF? There's a long long connection for that. "

So jump starter cables won't do it then? Shame as I thought they'd fit her nipples perfectly

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By *uccubus1Woman
over a year ago

unknown

Well first you'll have to think of way to explain how you came across the site and a avoiding giving away your already on it and cheating hahaha

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Depends does she already know your here on fab? Cause that would be a big thing if she didn't know! As you've no verifications that's all good and well you maybe haven't met anyone for whatever reason! But tread carefully on how to bring up such conversations may the end for yous if she doesn't know your already on here!! If your having any interactions with other women that's basically cheating...so you gotta ask yourself! How would she feel about that? And start from there!

If it was a firm no from her you may wanna question why your with someone who doesn't wanna be a swinger then?

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By *Sparkie.Man
over a year ago

Ratoath

I dodnt want to sound rude which translate to I'm going too.... but your here over a year and have no verifications displayed!

Not sure how your going to convince her that you've tried it and it's great craic.

Also......how do you know she's not on it and not telling you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have talked about this a lot over the years mainly after a few drinks..more cuckolding based on me initiating the conversation.. often I'm in chastity and my wife enjoys having pleasure while I'm caged...she cums hard to talk of me watching her with another man and now has a dildo that she loves..larger than I am and she likes me to watch her use it..it's evolved from her never wanting me to see her masturbating to now but she is very hesitant to take this to the real world and meet someone else.. if anyone has advice on taking things or making it more comfortable would love to hear

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"We have talked about this a lot over the years mainly after a few drinks..more cuckolding based on me initiating the conversation.. often I'm in chastity and my wife enjoys having pleasure while I'm caged...she cums hard to talk of me watching her with another man and now has a dildo that she loves..larger than I am and she likes me to watch her use it..it's evolved from her never wanting me to see her masturbating to now but she is very hesitant to take this to the real world and meet someone else.. if anyone has advice on taking things or making it more comfortable would love to hear "

Sounds very promising that she would be open to swinging. We went to a club abroad where nobody knew us and took it from there. You could suggest this as a starting point.

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