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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

"

This is a personal bug bear of mine. It just comes across as lazy, and like you're almost pimping out your partner?

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By *NawtyCplCouple
over a year ago

Around and about

Dont assume its the females choice or decision to only have pics of herself.

Took ages for mr to post pics of himself. He wasn't comfy and I wasn't going to push him into doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my picture being taken. Like really hate it. Dee is more photogenic anyway . The only reason there's more of her then me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont assume its the females choice or decision to only have pics of herself.

Took ages for mr to post pics of himself. He wasn't comfy and I wasn't going to push him into doing it.

"

I hope I don't come across as an arse, I'm genuinely asking: if he's not comfortable sharing pics of himself how is he going to be comfortable getting naked in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Casey i had one guy well he said it was the him of the couples profile not one picture of him. I asked he said he just doesn't want to put pictures up of himself his choice i guess. They were well verified party couple seemingly but i just found it odd he sent some private but not the ones i hoping for. I just put if down to confidence and gave it a miss the pictures if the female were always the exact same never any new ones.

He kept on to me to meet at a hotel and every time i asked would his partner be with him he said no. So that was a no for me anyway even though to be fair he was nice and polite and there was some curiosity in me but i just didn't as it's the couple i was wanting.

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By *NawtyCplCouple
over a year ago

Around and about

Because one is in private and the other is open for public consumption. Lots have pics the dont display on profile but happy to send in private too.

Not been an arse at all xx just saying there could be many resons why.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate my picture being taken. Like really hate it. Dee is more photogenic anyway . The only reason there's more of her then me. "

But there are pics of you there. I'm talking about no pics....and the profile driven primarily by the male half a lot of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate my picture being taken. Like really hate it. Dee is more photogenic anyway . The only reason there's more of her then me.

But there are pics of you there. I'm talking about no pics....and the profile driven primarily by the male half a lot of the time"

Oops

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Casey i had one guy well he said it was the him of the couples profile not one picture of him. I asked he said he just doesn't want to put pictures up of himself his choice i guess. They were well verified party couple seemingly but i just found it odd he sent some private but not the ones i hoping for. I just put if down to confidence and gave it a miss the pictures if the female were always the exact same never any new ones.

He kept on to me to meet at a hotel and every time i asked would his partner be with him he said no. So that was a no for me anyway even though to be fair he was nice and polite and there was some curiosity in me but i just didn't as it's the couple i was wanting. "

You don't want to be wasting your time. You wanted a to know a bit more before meeting. Looks like you wanted different things anyway

Lee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate my picture being taken. Like really hate it. Dee is more photogenic anyway . The only reason there's more of her then me.

But there are pics of you there. I'm talking about no pics....and the profile driven primarily by the male half a lot of the time

Oops "

No prob at all. You can see what you look like. I'm not gone on having my pics taken either but it's only fair I think for the other couple, in particular the lady to see what she could be meeting.

I understand there may be more in private, but some don't have any there either

Lee

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

I guess it depends on what each couple are looking for.

If a couple were looking for another couple then i would say an equal balance of pics of both, of them together, some seperate etc.

Similarly if they were looking primarily for a woman/man to play with them both as there would ve need to be an attraction.

In our case we are only looking for a guy to join for mfm so theres a lot more of me than himself. Theres a couple of him in friends/private but yeah mainly me lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess it depends on what each couple are looking for.

If a couple were looking for another couple then i would say an equal balance of pics of both, of them together, some seperate etc.

Similarly if they were looking primarily for a woman/man to play with them both as there would ve need to be an attraction.

In our case we are only looking for a guy to join for mfm so theres a lot more of me than himself. Theres a couple of him in friends/private but yeah mainly me lol"

Absolutely, MFM has been a big part of the lifestyle for us too, hence more pics of Casey.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"I guess it depends on what each couple are looking for.

If a couple were looking for another couple then i would say an equal balance of pics of both, of them together, some seperate etc.

Similarly if they were looking primarily for a woman/man to play with them both as there would ve need to be an attraction.

In our case we are only looking for a guy to join for mfm so theres a lot more of me than himself. Theres a couple of him in friends/private but yeah mainly me lol

Absolutely, MFM has been a big part of the lifestyle for us too, hence more pics of Casey."

Well to be fair she is gorgeous and she wears the lingerie a bit better than you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess it depends on what each couple are looking for.

If a couple were looking for another couple then i would say an equal balance of pics of both, of them together, some seperate etc.

Similarly if they were looking primarily for a woman/man to play with them both as there would ve need to be an attraction.

In our case we are only looking for a guy to join for mfm so theres a lot more of me than himself. Theres a couple of him in friends/private but yeah mainly me lol

Absolutely, MFM has been a big part of the lifestyle for us too, hence more pics of Casey.

Well to be fair she is gorgeous and she wears the lingerie a bit better than you "

Thank you, you wear it well yourself

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"I guess it depends on what each couple are looking for.

If a couple were looking for another couple then i would say an equal balance of pics of both, of them together, some seperate etc.

Similarly if they were looking primarily for a woman/man to play with them both as there would ve need to be an attraction.

In our case we are only looking for a guy to join for mfm so theres a lot more of me than himself. Theres a couple of him in friends/private but yeah mainly me lol

Absolutely, MFM has been a big part of the lifestyle for us too, hence more pics of Casey.

Well to be fair she is gorgeous and she wears the lingerie a bit better than you

Thank you, you wear it well yourself "

Thank you

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

"

Herself here...I know we only have a couple of him on our profile and I think they are a pretty accurate representation of his physique.

He doesn't like his pics taken. He's not body conscious though. He just doesn't like posing for the camera - I don't particularly either. It takes time and effort to get a decent shot.

But I'm 100% with you - as a woman, not seeing one or two pics of the male part of an MF couple is a big turn-off for even considering engaging in a conversation. With a lack of male pics and only hers displayed, it feels like that profile is targeting men.

Has it got to do with respect or narcissism? I'd like to think not. What surprises me is that those profiles often prefer to meet single women over couples for that elusive MFF... and as a (hetero/bi-curious) woman who's had a single's profile, that's just even a bigger no. It would be like chatting with a black silhouette...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

Herself here...I know we only have a couple of him on our profile and I think they are a pretty accurate representation of his physique.

He doesn't like his pics taken. He's not body conscious though. He just doesn't like posing for the camera - I don't particularly either. It takes time and effort to get a decent shot.

But I'm 100% with you - as a woman, not seeing one or two pics of the male part of an MF couple is a big turn-off for even considering engaging in a conversation. With a lack of male pics and only hers displayed, it feels like that profile is targeting men.

Has it got to do with respect or narcissism? I'd like to think not. What surprises me is that those profiles often prefer to meet single women over couples for that elusive MFF... and as a (hetero/bi-curious) woman who's had a single's profile, that's just even a bigger no. It would be like chatting with a black silhouette..."

Yes, totally agree. Why would the F half of a couple want to begin to engage in conversation with a profile with zero male pics

We don't have time for that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the couple are both looking to be involved then it pure rips my knitting if there are no photos of the man. I find it a bit insulting especially if we're meeting as a couple that I'm almost expected to just rock up and partake regardless...it's like what I might want or be attracted to doesn't matter. I've no hesitation in pointing it out either. People either get it or they don't. If they don't then they're not for me/us anyway

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

They don’t have to. Men on here fall flat on their faces for couples, they don’t care that there aren’t pics of the man.

Couples generally think they are above everyone else and the men that drop at their feet are just as pathetic.

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By *ifewantstoplayCouple
over a year ago

somewhere

Hubby doesn’t play so no need to have pics of him.

T xx

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"They don’t have to. Men on here fall flat on their faces for couples, they don’t care that there aren’t pics of the man.

Couples generally think they are above everyone else and the men that drop at their feet are just as pathetic. "

Why is it that there are always so many sweeping generalisations made? A lot of Fabbers would say the same could be said for the ladies on Fab - that women think they are above everyone else and the men or couples drop at their feet.

I'm sure for some that may be true but there are people - couples, women and men - out there, who know, and behave, like they are just normal, everyday kinda people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hubby doesn’t play so no need to have pics of him.

T xx"

Absolutely, no need in that situation. I'm just referring to a couple where the man expects to play and for some reason this pics of his partner will be enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They don’t have to. Men on here fall flat on their faces for couples, they don’t care that there aren’t pics of the man.

Couples generally think they are above everyone else and the men that drop at their feet are just as pathetic. "

I was just referring to couples seeking couples. I understand that men meeting couples are not concerned about the male partners body.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

"

Very much agree.

I don't let it irk me any more though.

If they want to lessen their chances of finding someone who are interested in them - let them.

Not my circus, not my monkeys.

If someone does ask why we're not interested- I do explain why when it's one of those couples.

Some understand and thank for advice, some get offended and bring up how discreet they are, some are actually puzzled (but you're bi curious, how can you not be turned on by my wife's photos?!).

All of that said - some couples send photos of both parts privately without being asked and it sits perfectly okay with us. As long as its not a cat in a bag- we're cool

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By *reland8Man
over a year ago

sandyford

I think it’s something to do with the profile being male driven, guy is the one behind the camera and think that’s it’s mostly pics of the beautiful female that everyone wants to see

(Obviously not) but as long as they have pics to share then it should still work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully this thread will provide some inspiration for others then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

"

I will sound so bad for saying this.

But when I see this I know the male half is really insecure and dare I say ugly and hopes the sexy gf wife will be enough

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

I will sound so bad for saying this.

But when I see this I know the male half is really insecure and dare I say ugly and hopes the sexy gf wife will be enough"

You "know"? When you're really just making an assumption

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I can only laugh when I get a message from a profile like that, himself looking to meet. The level of delusion that there's a chance I would meet is off putting by itself.

Whatever the reason (except looking for single men only), they're all pathetic. Too shy, uncomfortable with having pictures taken, c'mon who wants to fuck that? Too arrogant because he thinks he's a trophy wife and all other women would therefore fall for him too, no thanks. Etc.

I could go on for a while but actually Lee, who cares? It's their profile, their (non-)representation of themselves and their choice to reduce their chances.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

No idea what the reasoning behind it is as I am not a couple but I'll give my thought process as a single guy.

If I came across a couple profile and it was just pictures of the male half I would very much base what the other half would look like body shape wise based on his body and her profile description.

If he's very athletic and clearly works out I'd assume the same for her. If he's on the opposite end I'd assume the similar for her too.

Obviously it's never going to be 100% accurate but certainly enough to sent a message asking for photos of her so I can decide if I want a little go on her or not.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I think it’s something to do with the profile being male driven, guy is the one behind the camera and think that’s it’s mostly pics of the beautiful female that everyone wants to see

(Obviously not) but as long as they have pics to share then it should still work?"

90% of couples profiles I have spoken to on here in 5 years are driven by the woman with no interaction at any stage by the man. The vast majority of all their pics were of the woman.

The profiles that were male driven and got in touch are all blocked now because of demands and instruction lists as are those that started out well and continued in a constructive manner until the narrative and tone changed when the male half decided to take control of the conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

Very much agree.

I don't let it irk me any more though.

If they want to lessen their chances of finding someone who are interested in them - let them.

Not my circus, not my monkeys.

If someone does ask why we're not interested- I do explain why when it's one of those couples.

Some understand and thank for advice, some get offended and bring up how discreet they are, some are actually puzzled (but you're bi curious, how can you not be turned on by my wife's photos?!).

All of that said - some couples send photos of both parts privately without being asked and it sits perfectly okay with us. As long as its not a cat in a bag- we're cool "

Agreed, fair comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can only laugh when I get a message from a profile like that, himself looking to meet. The level of delusion that there's a chance I would meet is off putting by itself.

Whatever the reason (except looking for single men only), they're all pathetic. Too shy, uncomfortable with having pictures taken, c'mon who wants to fuck that? Too arrogant because he thinks he's a trophy wife and all other women would therefore fall for him too, no thanks. Etc.

I could go on for a while but actually Lee, who cares? It's their profile, their (non-)representation of themselves and their choice to reduce their chances. "

Yeah, you're so right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

I will sound so bad for saying this.

But when I see this I know the male half is really insecure and dare I say ugly and hopes the sexy gf wife will be enough

You "know"? When you're really just making an assumption "

Well yes. My assumptions were always confirmed when couple just assumed I would fuck the male half without pics and when they did send a pic of him finally really didn't meet what I like in a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Casey i had one guy well he said it was the him of the couples profile not one picture of him. I asked he said he just doesn't want to put pictures up of himself his choice i guess. They were well verified party couple seemingly but i just found it odd he sent some private but not the ones i hoping for. I just put if down to confidence and gave it a miss the pictures if the female were always the exact same never any new ones.

He kept on to me to meet at a hotel and every time i asked would his partner be with him he said no. So that was a no for me anyway even though to be fair he was nice and polite and there was some curiosity in me but i just didn't as it's the couple i was wanting.

You don't want to be wasting your time. You wanted a to know a bit more before meeting. Looks like you wanted different things anyway

Lee"

Well i just think if it's a couple and it's only one showing and not one picture of of them together i don't know i find it odd. And if i am looking at a couple i want a couple not just one of them. It's rare i see a couple with both that entice me to go for them.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

We agree Lee, very off-putting when they both want to meet us. We assume he has nothing to bring to the table and slide on by. Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don’t have to. Men on here fall flat on their faces for couples, they don’t care that there aren’t pics of the man.

Couples generally think they are above everyone else and the men that drop at their feet are just as pathetic. "

Someone hit a NERVE ??? lol

IMO it’s the opposite

Couples seem to be more respectful and mannerly than lots of the singletons who think they are gods gift and guys should fall at their feet for attention

If on fab whether a couple or single person looking to meet up at least have the respect to show your pics

It’s not a blind date or who’s hiding what ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I better put some pictures of me public, we have pictures of us in private and if we send a opening message to someone we send a pic of us together, but thanks everyone every day is a school day

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Also a lot of couples profiles with pics of each person but never together. We would question the strength of their relationship in that case as that's the impression it gives.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Also a lot of couples profiles with pics of each person but never together. We would question the strength of their relationship in that case as that's the impression it gives."

It is a bit of a challenge to take pics together. You have to set the timer so many times then run back and forward to see if the photo looks okay

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Also a lot of couples profiles with pics of each person but never together. We would question the strength of their relationship in that case as that's the impression it gives.

It is a bit of a challenge to take pics together. You have to set the timer so many times then run back and forward to see if the photo looks okay "

I was just going to mention that too...add to this, that not all couples live together, or live for Fab, have limited time (like ourselves, for instance) and prefer to focus on more important things than spending hours taking photos...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also a lot of couples profiles with pics of each person but never together. We would question the strength of their relationship in that case as that's the impression it gives.

It is a bit of a challenge to take pics together. You have to set the timer so many times then run back and forward to see if the photo looks okay "

Video and screen shots then. Learned this recently

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Also a lot of couples profiles with pics of each person but never together. We would question the strength of their relationship in that case as that's the impression it gives.

It is a bit of a challenge to take pics together. You have to set the timer so many times then run back and forward to see if the photo looks okay

Video and screen shots then. Learned this recently "

Oh god I could never.

Hate any kind of videos of myself, especially naked. I just become beyond awkward, rigid and really uncomfortable. And when looking at it - I cringe so hard - nothing looks remotely attractive and I delete it before I even finish watching it

Can tell I tried lol

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland


"I guess it depends on what each couple are looking for.

If a couple were looking for another couple then i would say an equal balance of pics of both, of them together, some seperate etc.

Similarly if they were looking primarily for a woman/man to play with them both as there would ve need to be an attraction.

In our case we are only looking for a guy to join for mfm so theres a lot more of me than himself. Theres a couple of him in friends/private but yeah mainly me lol"

Thats our thinking exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which is exactly what I said further up

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By *wisted DuoCouple
over a year ago

city

Simple women's standards are much higher.

So the men need to be more confident in how they look and therebis not mush you can do unless your creative when taking a guys photo. Where as taking girls photo are else because tits ass and pussy shots are always welcome

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By *wisted DuoCouple
over a year ago

city


"Simple women's standards are much higher.

So the men need to be more confident in how they look and therebis not mush you can do unless your creative when taking a guys photo. Where as taking girls photo are else because tits ass and pussy shots are always welcome"

Ehh too lazy to fix the typos

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

At the end of the day we all do what we are comfortable with on our profiles, newbie or otherwise. Personally speaking i wouldnt cast aspersions on peoples looks or state/strength of their relationship from lack of pics on their profile but thats just me. As said above if a profile is not to ones tastes/preferences delete/block move on. X

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We do try and keep it 50/50 of us both but mrs Gs is the more photogenic of the 2 of us

Mr

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"

Agreed, and maybe those are the people with a lack of understanding in marketing and advertising themselves...

At the end of the day, everyone can just move on from being approached by what and who they're not looking for...by either ignoring a message, blocking that profile or engaging with them and letting them know what you're looking for or missing from them.

It's not rocket science.

Oh COP yourself on

You’d know all about Rocket Science "

If you do - good for you...thank fuck, I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also a lot of couples profiles with pics of each person but never together. We would question the strength of their relationship in that case as that's the impression it gives.

It is a bit of a challenge to take pics together. You have to set the timer so many times then run back and forward to see if the photo looks okay

Video and screen shots then. Learned this recently

Oh god I could never.

Hate any kind of videos of myself, especially naked. I just become beyond awkward, rigid and really uncomfortable. And when looking at it - I cringe so hard - nothing looks remotely attractive and I delete it before I even finish watching it

Can tell I tried lol "

Oh I get you. Ask himself I am awkward in pics let alone videos if my face is showing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only laugh when I get a message from a profile like that, himself looking to meet. The level of delusion that there's a chance I would meet is off putting by itself.

Whatever the reason (except looking for single men only), they're all pathetic. Too shy, uncomfortable with having pictures taken, c'mon who wants to fuck that? Too arrogant because he thinks he's a trophy wife and all other women would therefore fall for him too, no thanks. Etc.

I could go on for a while but actually Lee, who cares? It's their profile, their (non-)representation of themselves and their choice to reduce their chances.

Yeah, you're so right.

she not so right! Cheek of her to call people pathetic. there too shy, uncomfortable with taking pictures and who the fuck wants to fuck them??? who wants will want fuck you Dog with that horrible attitude.

I have to agree - the lack of understanding, empathy and compassion here is rife yet again.

Not everyone is an experienced swinger comfortable in their own skin. People are dipping their toes, looking to explore their sexuality - you'd think that experienced swingers who once started off themselves would have some understanding for others in this regard.

Not everyone knows or understands navigating this site and its many pitfalls, or is experienced and well versed in marketing and advertising, with the exclusion of those profile holders who aren't "genuine" as such... there's a number of judgemental people who should be ashamed of their attitudes here... and that in the so-called swinging community who are supposed to be more open-minded than the general populous."

Again that is different. Have that on your profile so that people know. But the ones that have zero pics and expect so much from others that piss me off

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Which is exactly what I said further up"

Indeed you did - if I understood correctly, it makes you angry.

Fair play if you do chat with a profile and let them know that they are missing photos of the male half though.

I just couldn't be arsed wasting the energy on anger here

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"At the end of the day we all do what we are comfortable with on our profiles, newbie or otherwise. Personally speaking i wouldnt cast aspersions on peoples looks or state/strength of their relationship from lack of pics on their profile but thats just me. As said above if a profile is not to ones tastes/preferences delete/block move on. X"

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I can only laugh when I get a message from a profile like that, himself looking to meet. The level of delusion that there's a chance I would meet is off putting by itself.

Whatever the reason (except looking for single men only), they're all pathetic. Too shy, uncomfortable with having pictures taken, c'mon who wants to fuck that? Too arrogant because he thinks he's a trophy wife and all other women would therefore fall for him too, no thanks. Etc.

I could go on for a while but actually Lee, who cares? It's their profile, their (non-)representation of themselves and their choice to reduce their chances.

Yeah, you're so right.

she not so right! Cheek of her to call people pathetic. there too shy, uncomfortable with taking pictures and who the fuck wants to fuck them??? who wants will want fuck you Dog with that horrible attitude.

I have to agree - the lack of understanding, empathy and compassion here is rife yet again.

Not everyone is an experienced swinger comfortable in their own skin. People are dipping their toes, looking to explore their sexuality - you'd think that experienced swingers who once started off themselves would have some understanding for others in this regard.

Not everyone knows or understands navigating this site and its many pitfalls, or is experienced and well versed in marketing and advertising, with the exclusion of those profile holders who aren't "genuine" as such... there's a number of judgemental people who should be ashamed of their attitudes here... and that in the so-called swinging community who are supposed to be more open-minded than the general populous.

Again that is different. Have that on your profile so that people know. But the ones that have zero pics and expect so much from others that piss me off"

Whereas I appreciate any advice - it shows that you are either not reading what I'm writing or making more assumptions based on your own interpretation, when I've clearly not referred to myself but "everyone" or the general populous.

I tend to try not to waste negative emotion on the virtual world . It's not worth my time and energy.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Don't be surprised its not just a single male hiding behind a couples profile and yes this has happened several times to me and other I know well! They rock up thinking they are getting a couple to swap but nope his "other half" is nowhere to be seen! I think if you ask them several times will the other half be joining us and they say no that should be the red flag you need to know that it's not a genuine couple...and yes I know ppl have lifes out side of fab!

Surely it's not hard to share some pics fully clothed together on profile to show your an actual genuine couple isn't so hard!

I've even had couples send me live pics /short videos to show me they are genuine and if they do they would have absolutely no issues to do that!

Just my outlook x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't be surprised its not just a single male hiding behind a couples profile and yes this has happened several times to me and other I know well! They rock up thinking they are getting a couple to swap but nope his "other half" is nowhere to be seen! I think if you ask them several times will the other half be joining us and they say no that should be the red flag you need to know that it's not a genuine couple...and yes I know ppl have lifes out side of fab!

Surely it's not hard to share some pics fully clothed together on profile to show your an actual genuine couple isn't so hard!

I've even had couples send me live pics /short videos to show me they are genuine and if they do they would have absolutely no issues to do that!

Just my outlook x"

Your 100% right in what you’ve said

It only takes a couple of seconds to take a pic together.

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By *rxmrsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin westmeath galway

If we are meeting a couple or a single girl I will send them some pictures i won't put up much pictures on here as I've got a lot of tattoos that is not to easy to hide

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"

Surely it's not hard to share some pics fully clothed together on profile to show your an actual genuine couple isn't so hard!

"

Agree with this

As we said previously, it's just the impression that it can give when there is no such pic (just one pic!) on a couples profile, we don't make any actual assumptions on people. Agreed that people can do what they want with their own profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we are meeting a couple or a single girl I will send them some pictures i won't put up much pictures on here as I've got a lot of tattoos that is not to easy to hide "

That’s a very valid reason and self explanatory for discretion reasons

Nobody should have a problem with that IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tip for the people who say they don't have pics with each other because they can't be messing with timers etc Bluetooth remotes for phone cameras. Fairly cheap on amazon and easy to use. Your welcome

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"I can only laugh when I get a message from a profile like that, himself looking to meet. The level of delusion that there's a chance I would meet is off putting by itself.

Whatever the reason (except looking for single men only), they're all pathetic. Too shy, uncomfortable with having pictures taken, c'mon who wants to fuck that? Too arrogant because he thinks he's a trophy wife and all other women would therefore fall for him too, no thanks. Etc.

I could go on for a while but actually Lee, who cares? It's their profile, their (non-)representation of themselves and their choice to reduce their chances.

Yeah, you're so right.

she not so right! Cheek of her to call people pathetic. there too shy, uncomfortable with taking pictures and who the fuck wants to fuck them??? who wants will want fuck you Dog with that horrible attitude.

"

Whoever posted this, I didn't call anyone pathetic, I said the reasons are pathetic and I stand by by it. It takes very little to take a few pics. A single man without a pic on his profile wouldn't stand a chance to get a meet but it's ok for a couple man to hide behind the missus for any obscure reasons? Well if so it's called hypocrisy but of course it's their choice and each on their own...

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples that have literally no picture of the male on their profile?

Do they actually think that the female half of the couple they contact just want to rock up and play with them without some idea of how the man's body looks? I'm not talking face pics, just body.

I just don't get it. Are they that narcissistic or selfish that they think it doesn't matter?

Do they have no regard for what the lady in the other couple might like?

What do you think?

Male half here...

This is a personal bug bear of mine. It just comes across as lazy, and like you're almost pimping out your partner? "

My thoughts exactly...

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By *reland8Man
over a year ago

sandyford


"I think it’s something to do with the profile being male driven, guy is the one behind the camera and think that’s it’s mostly pics of the beautiful female that everyone wants to see

(Obviously not) but as long as they have pics to share then it should still work?

90% of couples profiles I have spoken to on here in 5 years are driven by the woman with no interaction at any stage by the man. The vast majority of all their pics were of the woman.

The profiles that were male driven and got in touch are all blocked now because of demands and instruction lists as are those that started out well and continued in a constructive manner until the narrative and tone changed when the male half decided to take control of the conversation. "

Probably not as black and white as that but I see where ur coming from every couple are different.

I’ve had all different experiences but yes I’ve had the male driven with lots of demands and no sign of a female other than pics but could also be the same one male over and over again with multiple accounts

Like it’s always said, check the verifications etc

I personally get both sides of this, a woman gets dressed up in fancy lingerie and gets pics taken and looks amazing, guys don’t want pics taken of themselves or think anyones interested in seeing them in their boxers ! But obviously no one wants to blind date either

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