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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

on from today's topic. I'm sane, normal, would never harm a woman in any way shape or form but at the end of the day it's only words on a screen. my question to you ladies, do men ever try reiterate it time and again that they're lovely and does this make you more nervous?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I try to meet in person, people and im saying people can portray themselves very differently behind a keyboard but in person you get to see the real person, if a guy I was chatting to kept on that he was a nice guy etc it would raise a red flag for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a Master's in Red Flags from my time on Fab and when I hear the words.. but I'm a nice guy I'm suspicious. You shouldn't have to tell people how " nice" you are. For example a randomer last week wanted to meet me in the woods to fuck me. When I told him he was deluded he said he was a nice guy and I wouldn't come to any harm. OK sure that's grand so you promised your sound..

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"This is why I try to meet in person, people and im saying people can portray themselves very differently behind a keyboard but in person you get to see the real person, if a guy I was chatting to kept on that he was a nice guy etc it would raise a red flag for me."

Indeed. Sometimes its the "nice" guys you have to watch out for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"on from today's topic. I'm sane, normal, would never harm a woman in any way shape or form but at the end of the day it's only words on a screen. my question to you ladies, do men ever try reiterate it time and again that they're lovely and does this make you more nervous? "

If you tell me you are a nice guy then

Red flags everywhere and don't contact me ever again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is easy to misjudge well intentioned people via a purely text based format, let alone the worries of letting the wrong people into your life.

Glad ladies play it safe on here, much better than hearing some horrible news.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I have a Master's in Red Flags from my time on Fab and when I hear the words.. but I'm a nice guy I'm suspicious. You shouldn't have to tell people how " nice" you are. For example a randomer last week wanted to meet me in the woods to fuck me. When I told him he was deluded he said he was a nice guy and I wouldn't come to any harm. OK sure that's grand so you promised your sound.. "
In the woods. Holy Lord..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a Master's in Red Flags from my time on Fab and when I hear the words.. but I'm a nice guy I'm suspicious. You shouldn't have to tell people how " nice" you are. For example a randomer last week wanted to meet me in the woods to fuck me. When I told him he was deluded he said he was a nice guy and I wouldn't come to any harm. OK sure that's grand so you promised your sound.. "

I had one guy offer me the garden shed when I wouldn't pop.over to his house while the wife was at work, he reckoned he was a nice guy too

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By *illiwontiCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Can we mention the elephant in the room... tullamore in recent times. I think it home for everyone.. I know circumstances were different

but.... I ( female) met with a single lad that I knew off here for years, my husband was happy with it,we knew this lad, but he did say at least we know where he lives and works. I hadn't given it a second thought about meeting alone..... before this event in tullamore....so it has also affected how married cpls feel about their partner meeting random people from here there or any where. It is a chance ..both women and men take ......please dont hate on me, I'm just expressing our feelings on this .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we mention the elephant in the room... tullamore in recent times. I think it home for everyone.. I know circumstances were different

but.... I ( female) met with a single lad that I knew off here for years, my husband was happy with it,we knew this lad, but he did say at least we know where he lives and works. I hadn't given it a second thought about meeting alone..... before this event in tullamore....so it has also affected how married cpls feel about their partner meeting random people from here there or any where. It is a chance ..both women and men take ......please dont hate on me, I'm just expressing our feelings on this . "

My first ever meet on fab I told noone abd put myself in a very dangerous position with a guy, deleted my profile a few hours later.

Now thankfully I have fab friends I will let know if I'm meeting someone etc

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

The more someone protests their niceness, the more I expect I'd end up in their chest freezer.

I'll pass on that, I really don't like the cold

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Can we mention the elephant in the room... tullamore in recent times. I think it home for everyone.. I know circumstances were different

but.... I ( female) met with a single lad that I knew off here for years, my husband was happy with it,we knew this lad, but he did say at least we know where he lives and works. I hadn't given it a second thought about meeting alone..... before this event in tullamore....so it has also affected how married cpls feel about their partner meeting random people from here there or any where. It is a chance ..both women and men take ......please dont hate on me, I'm just expressing our feelings on this .

My first ever meet on fab I told noone abd put myself in a very dangerous position with a guy, deleted my profile a few hours later.

Now thankfully I have fab friends I will let know if I'm meeting someone etc"
did that guy behave normally when you met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we mention the elephant in the room... tullamore in recent times. I think it home for everyone.. I know circumstances were different

but.... I ( female) met with a single lad that I knew off here for years, my husband was happy with it,we knew this lad, but he did say at least we know where he lives and works. I hadn't given it a second thought about meeting alone..... before this event in tullamore....so it has also affected how married cpls feel about their partner meeting random people from here there or any where. It is a chance ..both women and men take ......please dont hate on me, I'm just expressing our feelings on this .

My first ever meet on fab I told noone abd put myself in a very dangerous position with a guy, deleted my profile a few hours later.

Now thankfully I have fab friends I will let know if I'm meeting someone etcdid that guy behave normally when you met?"

Behave normally? He seemed fine but I got swept up in getting attention etc and went for a drive, it was only when he pulled into a quiet lane and popped his cock did I realise what I had done I was naive but lesson learnt

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By *illiwontiCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Can we mention the elephant in the room... tullamore in recent times. I think it home for everyone.. I know circumstances were different

but.... I ( female) met with a single lad that I knew off here for years, my husband was happy with it,we knew this lad, but he did say at least we know where he lives and works. I hadn't given it a second thought about meeting alone..... before this event in tullamore....so it has also affected how married cpls feel about their partner meeting random people from here there or any where. It is a chance ..both women and men take ......please dont hate on me, I'm just expressing our feelings on this .

My first ever meet on fab I told noone abd put myself in a very dangerous position with a guy, deleted my profile a few hours later.

Now thankfully I have fab friends I will let know if I'm meeting someone etcdid that guy behave normally when you met?"

He was the absolute gentleman than we met when he was younger. But totally surprised me when it came to meet me, he absolutely devoured me in a good way

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By *illiwontiCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Can we mention the elephant in the room... tullamore in recent times. I think it home for everyone.. I know circumstances were different

but.... I ( female) met with a single lad that I knew off here for years, my husband was happy with it,we knew this lad, but he did say at least we know where he lives and works. I hadn't given it a second thought about meeting alone..... before this event in tullamore....so it has also affected how married cpls feel about their partner meeting random people from here there or any where. It is a chance ..both women and men take ......please dont hate on me, I'm just expressing our feelings on this .

My first ever meet on fab I told noone abd put myself in a very dangerous position with a guy, deleted my profile a few hours later.

Now thankfully I have fab friends I will let know if I'm meeting someone etcdid that guy behave normally when you met?

Behave normally? He seemed fine but I got swept up in getting attention etc and went for a drive, it was only when he pulled into a quiet lane and popped his cock did I realise what I had done I was naive but lesson learnt "

I actually done that too up in the devils bit, it was only foreplay... but I drove past his car and he actually panicked asking where I was going. I didn't realise that maybe he was uncomfortable, I said I just want to kiss u in private ( we were in public where people would know me )it was then I realised that the same fear obviously applies to single Males, it really did make me think twice about mens feelings , imagine if that happened to a woman she wud I presume panicked, we are still good friends off here

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Can we mention the elephant in the room... tullamore in recent times. I think it home for everyone.. I know circumstances were different

but.... I ( female) met with a single lad that I knew off here for years, my husband was happy with it,we knew this lad, but he did say at least we know where he lives and works. I hadn't given it a second thought about meeting alone..... before this event in tullamore....so it has also affected how married cpls feel about their partner meeting random people from here there or any where. It is a chance ..both women and men take ......please dont hate on me, I'm just expressing our feelings on this .

My first ever meet on fab I told noone abd put myself in a very dangerous position with a guy, deleted my profile a few hours later.

Now thankfully I have fab friends I will let know if I'm meeting someone etc"

Fair deuce to you - the only woman admitting she's put herself in a potentially dangerous situation between the couple of threads going from what I have read. And it seems that you got off with a scare! A life lesson and I hope you will never get into another one like it or worse (same goes for everyone here!).

I have done the same, not only once either. And I was very lucky with my experiences where I didn't take precautions for my safety. I didn't want anyone knowing and I trusted my gut.

I doubt that I would be as foolish again even though the men I met were gentlemen.

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By *illiwontiCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I have a Master's in Red Flags from my time on Fab and when I hear the words.. but I'm a nice guy I'm suspicious. You shouldn't have to tell people how " nice" you are. For example a randomer last week wanted to meet me in the woods to fuck me. When I told him he was deluded he said he was a nice guy and I wouldn't come to any harm. OK sure that's grand so you promised your sound.. "

I got something similar, only to be called stuck up c***s because he demanded we met and we didn't reply, like WHTF

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By *illiwontiCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"This is why I try to meet in person, people and im saying people can portray themselves very differently behind a keyboard but in person you get to see the real person, if a guy I was chatting to kept on that he was a nice guy etc it would raise a red flag for me."

This seems to be a problem for most women/ cold and on occasionssingle males...that's why we personally prefer to meet people face to face no hidden agenda no PRIVATE recommendations from other people....make your own mind up....but be safe

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

The fact of matter is there really is no way of 100% safely being naked with someone else in private location. Risk minimisation is the best that can be hoped for. Swinging is inherently risky.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Like many adjectives people use to describe themselves such as nice, genuine, strong, intelligent and chilled the odds are they are anything but. If you have to remind people that you are something then you're presenting a totally different image if they aren't able to see it already.

As far as someone being sound or sane the same applies.

Lots of members on here claim to be nice people but for some it's just a recent addition to their game plan when other avenues have been less successful. Lots claim to be sane while ignoring their own green arrow.

Unfortunately the nature of the beast is that some people's gullibility alarm needs new batteries and no amount of sensible advice will ever help.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"The fact of matter is there really is no way of 100% safely being naked with someone else in private location. Risk minimisation is the best that can be hoped for. Swinging is inherently risky."
extremely true. thats why you have very few women on online sites. there is a fear when it comes to meeting random strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually find someone who has to repeatly tell others how nice they are or intelligent they are etc etc are normally the complete opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last night a guy wanted me to drive a hour away to meet him in his hotel room. I always give same response of I don't meet randomers off the Internet. Of course got the stock standard but I'm a nice guy you'll see that when you arrive. "Nice guys" don't put people into position they aren't comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's that saying? Men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them.

That's the extreme end of it. You're always taking a risk when you meet someone. I've been lucky enough so far to not feel like my life was in danger from someone I met on here. But there's always the tiny risk. Especially if they fall back on "but I'm a nice guy!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually find someone who has to repeatly tell others how nice they are or intelligent they are etc etc are normally the complete opposite. "

Ditto sane,sound, respectful

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

its probably another reason alot of women prefer group meets (meet and greets and parties) then 1 2 1s. its sad but its how the world is gone with many more attacks on women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its probably another reason alot of women prefer group meets (meet and greets and parties) then 1 2 1s. its sad but its how the world is gone with many more attacks on women."

Violence against women is nothing new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its probably another reason alot of women prefer group meets (meet and greets and parties) then 1 2 1s. its sad but its how the world is gone with many more attacks on women."

Yes totally as I say in my profile only meeting at socials and parties. I would very rarely meet single guy off here now.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"its probably another reason alot of women prefer group meets (meet and greets and parties) then 1 2 1s. its sad but its how the world is gone with many more attacks on women.

Violence against women is nothing new"
women's nervousness is getting alot worse. I saw a poll before covid claiming a huge % drop in women using online sites like these. probably that's a factor why.

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"I have a Master's in Red Flags from my time on Fab and when I hear the words.. but I'm a nice guy I'm suspicious. You shouldn't have to tell people how " nice" you are. For example a randomer last week wanted to meet me in the woods to fuck me. When I told him he was deluded he said he was a nice guy and I wouldn't come to any harm. OK sure that's grand so you promised your sound.. "

Did he not even ask for a service station BJ as a way to get to know you first? That's bad form.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Reminds me of my cunty ex who sponged off me for two years while calling himself a nice guy for not hitting me (my family thought he was made of gold and convinced me that crating a family with a nice young man like him is a right thing to do.yuck.)

Lucky escape there, I still shudder at certain phrases he used to use, "I'm a nice guy" is one of them.

Missus

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