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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

ladies, roughly how many messages would you get in a day on here? how do u decide which ones you reply to if there's alot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ones with no profile pic i tend to just ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 4 today and only replied to one as was working

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Ones with no profile pic i tend to just ignore. "
profile pic is first thing u see alrite.

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

Usually 10-15. If I put up a new picture, it can go up to about 50-60

Profile hidden now as not meeting so only getting 3/4, eitherall from friends or through the forums.

When my profile isn’t hidde. I don’t reply to picture free profiles or anyone who doesn’t use the code word thingy. Out of those, I only reply if the message is interesting and I like the profile. Anyone else gets a “Thanks but no Thanks”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends if I'm active on the forums or posted a new picture or what day of the week it is. On average anywhere between 5 - 50. I've just counted and I've got ten in the last half an hour. Not one is over 4 words long

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

"All depends if I'm active on the forums or posted a new picture or what day of the week it is. On average anywhere between 5 - 50. I've just counted and I've got ten in the last half an hour. Not one is over 4 words long "

Head. Wall. Bang.

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By *lamingo57Woman
over a year ago

Carrick

I've had 29 today and I've replied to two.

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By *haosQueenWoman
over a year ago

Galway

Jesus rakes of them. But I don’t log on very often. If they have an interesting subject line or intro I’ll click in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How ru you is in the lead for most popular one today

Head. Wall. Bang. "

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I keep my filters set as tight as a Cavans man wallet so i don't get many 5/10 if even that,i generally don't answer blank profiles with little or no bio,or one word one's hi,hey,hello

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

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By *urFabFun21Couple
over a year ago

Somewhere

"does the length of a message honestly matter? "

Yep, we dont want a life story but give us something to go on, start a conversation so we can reply to it.

We got a couple from a guy yesterday. 1st one: "Can accom now in Swords or travel". That was it, no hi or anything so it got deleted. 2nd one a few mins after was just Hi with a pic, also got deleted.

I'd love to know does that 1st message ever work for him

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"does the length of a message honestly matter?

Yep, we dont want a life story but give us something to go on, start a conversation so we can reply to it.

I'd love to know does that 1st message ever work for him"
hey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

If Laura logs into her personal profile then she will have at least 10 messages in the following 10 mins. She doesn't use it much as its hard to manage

Our couples profile gets 5-10 a day, but we have a lot of filters up which makes it a lot easier

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

12 so far today but mostly about a group. I don’t get many unless I post a new pic and I reply to very few of them.

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By *urFabFun21Couple
over a year ago

Somewhere

"hey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it? "

I'd reply to that with hey, I'm well, hows things. But that's the end of that conversation.

If we contact someone, we put a bit of effort into the message to give them a chance to reply in a way that will start a conversation.

We get lots of hey how are you messages every day and it gets tedious and boring after the first 5 or 6 so its gone well past that at this point.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"hey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it?

I'd reply to that with hey, I'm well, hows things. But that's the end of that conversation.

If we contact someone, we put a bit of effort into the message to give them a chance to reply in a way that will start a conversation.

We get lots of hey how are you messages every day and it gets tedious and boring after the first 5 or 6 so its gone well past that at this point.

Similarly, we have had short replies when we send messages first which is fine cos maybe the person isnt interested in us or is shy or whatever but if someone cant hold a conversation or makes no effort, neither will we."
u start with a hey how's things, it's answered and the convo evolves. it's only a starting point.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"does the length of a message honestly matter?

Yep, we dont want a life story but give us something to go on, start a conversation so we can reply to it.

I'd love to know does that 1st message ever work for himhey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it? "

Depends on how many people you are having exactly same conversation with....

I mean who would want to have 10 identical:

M: "Hi, how are you?"

W: "I'm good, thanks, how are you?"

M: "good thanks. How was your weekend?"

W: "it was good. How was yours?"

M: "yeah it was good. I went out. Did you do anything for valentines/xmas/insert date relevant holiday"

W: "no, it was a Monday. I had to work"

Zzzzzzzzz

Next day:

M: "hey, how are you today?"

W: "good, thanks, you okay?"

Rinse and repeat every day for next six months times 10

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By *lamingo57Woman
over a year ago

Carrick

So, you can have messages such as;

"Hi"

"Hi how u"

"Meet 2nite?"

"Ne nudes?"

"In Ur area, wanna fuk?"

"Can I cum on Ur tits?"

"Do you like being fuked up de arse?"

Or, you can get a message like;

"Hey, how was your day? I'm xyz from xyz. I'm interested in xyz. (That bit doesn't immediately need to be straight into divulging your kink, like, you can hold off til message 2 for that)"

Option 2 is still utterly generic. But JAYSIS it's better than "ne crack"

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"hey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it? "

Yes it should be ignored because 100% he/she/they don't give a damn how things are with you. Apologies for the cynicism but frankly it's true

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By *inkyKaty33Woman
over a year ago

cork

Usually about 30-50 if im online! I have 50 unread at the moment! so choosing which ones to open & reply to really depends on the 1st few words that can be seen! No pic- delete, hi babe/gorgeous- delete, can accom now- delete, big juicy cock here for you - delete haha. I do try to say thanks for messaging to most, but you'd spend hrs doing it!

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By *urFabFun21Couple
over a year ago

Somewhere

"hey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it?

I'd reply to that with hey, I'm well, hows things. But that's the end of that conversation.

If we contact someone, we put a bit of effort into the message to give them a chance to reply in a way that will start a conversation.

We get lots of hey how are you messages every day and it gets tedious and boring after the first 5 or 6 so its gone well past that at this point.

Similarly, we have had short replies when we send messages first which is fine cos maybe the person isnt interested in us or is shy or whatever but if someone cant hold a conversation or makes no effort, neither will we.u start with a hey how's things, it's answered and the convo evolves. it's only a starting point."

Trust me, we've had it 100s of times at this stage and it has never evolved, despite my best efforts for profiles we really liked the look of.

Any convos we have had came from profiles that put some effort into 1st messages and gave me plenty of things to reply to, then things took off naturally.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"hey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it?

I'd reply to that with hey, I'm well, hows things. But that's the end of that conversation.

If we contact someone, we put a bit of effort into the message to give them a chance to reply in a way that will start a conversation.

We get lots of hey how are you messages every day and it gets tedious and boring after the first 5 or 6 so its gone well past that at this point.

Similarly, we have had short replies when we send messages first which is fine cos maybe the person isnt interested in us or is shy or whatever but if someone cant hold a conversation or makes no effort, neither will we.u start with a hey how's things, it's answered and the convo evolves. it's only a starting point.

Trust me, we've had it 100s of times at this stage and it has never evolved, despite my best efforts for profiles we really liked the look of.

Any convos we have had came from profiles that put some effort into 1st messages and gave me plenty of things to reply to, then things took off naturally."
Jesus, if someone mailed me How's things I'd just make it take off and talk about one thing into another etc.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"hey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it?

I'd reply to that with hey, I'm well, hows things. But that's the end of that conversation.

If we contact someone, we put a bit of effort into the message to give them a chance to reply in a way that will start a conversation.

We get lots of hey how are you messages every day and it gets tedious and boring after the first 5 or 6 so its gone well past that at this point.

Similarly, we have had short replies when we send messages first which is fine cos maybe the person isnt interested in us or is shy or whatever but if someone cant hold a conversation or makes no effort, neither will we.u start with a hey how's things, it's answered and the convo evolves. it's only a starting point.

Trust me, we've had it 100s of times at this stage and it has never evolved, despite my best efforts for profiles we really liked the look of.

Any convos we have had came from profiles that put some effort into 1st messages and gave me plenty of things to reply to, then things took off naturally."

Same here.

By message 6 too bored to continue lol

Although "let's chat and see how it goes" seems to kill the conversation before it even started for me even more than "how are you"

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By *urFabFun21Couple
over a year ago

Somewhere

"hey how are things. I bet that gets ignored alot on here but should it?

I'd reply to that with hey, I'm well, hows things. But that's the end of that conversation.

If we contact someone, we put a bit of effort into the message to give them a chance to reply in a way that will start a conversation.

We get lots of hey how are you messages every day and it gets tedious and boring after the first 5 or 6 so its gone well past that at this point.

Similarly, we have had short replies when we send messages first which is fine cos maybe the person isnt interested in us or is shy or whatever but if someone cant hold a conversation or makes no effort, neither will we.u start with a hey how's things, it's answered and the convo evolves. it's only a starting point.

Trust me, we've had it 100s of times at this stage and it has never evolved, despite my best efforts for profiles we really liked the look of.

Any convos we have had came from profiles that put some effort into 1st messages and gave me plenty of things to reply to, then things took off naturally.Jesus, if someone mailed me How's things I'd just make it take off and talk about one thing into another etc. "

And if you had that 10, 20 times a day? It gets very tedious having to come up with conversation topics all the time.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"ladies, roughly how many messages would you get in a day on here? how do u decide which ones you reply to if there's alot? "

My single profile- no more than 5 messages a day. Sometimes they're worth a reply too (by that I mean people put in thought into it, not some random horny "hi").

I did receive over 600 messages in a day when I uploaded my first mastectomy photo.

Couples profile - lucky to get 5 messages a week.

Missus

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By *lamingo57Woman
over a year ago

Carrick

"Jesus, if someone mailed me How's things I'd just make it take off and talk about one thing into another etc. "

So you're getting the response you want when you send those messages? Cos If you are, I don't see the point of your thread. And if you're not getting the response, but you don't want to take on board, or change how you message....then, I dunno. I don't see the point of your thread?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't get many I have very tight filters. Often I will go a few days without any.I think the most I got recently was about 6 in one day. Could be they don't like my profile but either way it suits me.

The main deciding factor is what their profile is like if I have no interest or its a no effort profile I usually just delete the message unread.

Meet now or messages along that line get deleted as well.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Jesus, if someone mailed me How's things I'd just make it take off and talk about one thing into another etc.

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I admire any woman who stays on this site.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. "
Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here"

The "pickings" sometimes make it hard to pick them lol

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I had 3 messages on fab from people I've been chatting to.

On the odd occasion that I lift the filters then I check the profile, then the message. If either of them make me smile then I'll reply positively. If not then I'll reply that I'm not interested.

I do leave the filter on to block people without public photos. If their 'discretion' means they can't take even a generic clothed photo then they're going to be too much hard work

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By *issLipsandhipsWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here"

Well when you open up several abusive (first) messages a day, sometimes you do wonder wtf you are doing on here lol

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here"

I wonder if you got the messages women get on here aside from the hi how are you messages i believe your stance would be different

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here

I wonder if you got the messages women get on here aside from the hi how are you messages i believe your stance would be different"
if women can't find success on here from the pool of men, I give up.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here

I wonder if you got the messages women get on here aside from the hi how are you messages i believe your stance would be differentif women can't find success on here from the pool of men, I give up. "

Oh they do find success, its the mudpile they have to wade through first to find decent people.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here

I wonder if you got the messages women get on here aside from the hi how are you messages i believe your stance would be differentif women can't find success on here from the pool of men, I give up.

Oh they do find success, its the mudpile they have to wade through first to find decent people. "
that's the Internet for u. other sites are the same. way more men to women ratio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would their first msg be abusive? I actually can’t comprehend.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here

Well when you open up several abusive (first) messages a day, sometimes you do wonder wtf you are doing on here lol "

Yeah im at a loss why people do that. Got one today and i was like are you ok there buddy lol. Never had a mail from that person before so ive no idea what was going through his head

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here"

There is a reason so many leave. Some of the abuse given out is off the charts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here

More like cesspool with the odd gems worth staying for

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here

I wonder if you got the messages women get on here aside from the hi how are you messages i believe your stance would be differentif women can't find success on here from the pool of men, I give up.

More like cesspool with the odd gems worth staying for"
I'm one of them lol.

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By *lamingo57Woman
over a year ago

Carrick

"Why would their first msg be abusive? I actually can’t comprehend.

Oh some of them are full on crazy!

I've just been banned from messaging for suggesting something rude in a DM (with a guy I chat to every day). The irony

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By *reative ideasMan
over a year ago

Next door

I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

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over a year ago

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too. "

I think as a Fab induction men should have to answer the messages of a single girl for one day. It would give a real insight into the ridiculous messages we get.

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

It’s why I rarely send messages, no need to add to the misery

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

I think as a Fab induction men should have to answer the messages of a single girl for one day. It would give a real insight into the ridiculous messages we get. "
outside, gimme a bj in my van. those kind?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"It’s why I rarely send messages, no need to add to the misery "
can understand.

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over a year ago

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

I think as a Fab induction men should have to answer the messages of a single girl for one day. It would give a real insight into the ridiculous messages we get. outside, gimme a bj in my van. those kind?

Sure I'll give you my log in details you can find out! You might change your mind on the how ru messages

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

Sure I'll give you my log in details you can find out! You might change your mind on the how ru messages "
what I'm getting at there is a paragraph of am opening mail by a man doesn't guarantee a reply either. I have sent one line opening mails and paragraphs and I'd say I had equal replies to both

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By *omebirdWoman
over a year ago

"ladies, roughly how many messages would you get in a day on here? how do u decide which ones you reply to if there's alot? "

Sweet feck all!

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

Sure I'll give you my log in details you can find out! You might change your mind on the how ru messages what I'm getting at there is a paragraph of am opening mail by a man doesn't guarantee a reply either. I have sent one line opening mails and paragraphs and I'd say I had equal replies to both "

It's definitely what you say rather than the length of the message that's important as is obvious from the ladies comments on this thread.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

It's definitely what you say rather than the length of the message that's important as is obvious from the ladies comments on this thread."
yould think a normal polite opening mail would suffice then? the first thing u see on a message is the profile pic of the person. does that have a part to play?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Had a female friend that joined on my recommendation.

She had to give up...she just had 2 or 3 pics up and she got absolutely swamped with messages ...some abusive from the start

I'd imagine some people think like the email scammers so send out hundreds of the same message to absolutely everyone

Men are not exempt from getting the really rude messages either if your filters allow men to message you ...but yes it can't be easy for women

Do couples get the same crap

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"ladies, roughly how many messages would you get in a day on here? how do u decide which ones you reply to if there's alot?

Sweet feck all!

Ha ha...went to send you one just to raise a smile...outside your filters...I tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a female friend that joined on my recommendation.

She had to give up...she just had 2 or 3 pics up and she got absolutely swamped with messages ...some abusive from the start

I'd imagine some people think like the email scammers so send out hundreds of the same message to absolutely everyone

Men are not exempt from getting the really rude messages either if your filters allow men to message you ...but yes it can't be easy for women

Do couples get the same crap "

It's so tough for new ladies starting out. I hadn't a clue when I joined Fab late on night. The sheer disbelief to wake up to over 400 unread messages. Then the abuse when I just started deleting them

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Had a female friend that joined on my recommendation.

She had to give up...she just had 2 or 3 pics up and she got absolutely swamped with messages ...some abusive from the start

I'd imagine some people think like the email scammers so send out hundreds of the same message to absolutely everyone

Men are not exempt from getting the really rude messages either if your filters allow men to message you ...but yes it can't be easy for women

Do couples get the same crap "

Couples profile not as offensive as singles.

A few ladies I know who are part of a couple have complained in the past about same person being nice in couples inbox and taking rejection on a chin while at the same time calling her all whores under the sun in her single inbox not realising its the same person.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

It's definitely what you say rather than the length of the message that's important as is obvious from the ladies comments on this thread.yould think a normal polite opening mail would suffice then? the first thing u see on a message is the profile pic of the person. does that have a part to play?"

You're not listening.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

You're not listening. "
I am. I just said I have sent profile enducing OM and one liners and got the same amount of replies to both. if a woman knows u from forum and generally likes your pics, most will reply to a one liner imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this thread seems to focus on short repitive messages from guys but since the expectation on here is mostly that men should make the initial contact (i know some women do sometimes make first contact) and after writing the 50th witty message with no replies the meaages start to get a bit more generic...so enquiring minds would (and i am sure a lot of others would) like to know what would an initial message from a woman to a man contain?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"this thread seems to focus on short repitive messages from guys but since the expectation on here is mostly that men should make the initial contact (i know some women do sometimes make first contact) and after writing the 50th witty message with no replies the meaages start to get a bit more generic...so enquiring minds would (and i am sure a lot of others would) like to know what would an initial message from a woman to a man contain? "
yep interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send firt messages all the time. Today sent to a lady and guy this evening. The one to the guy was very short but funny two line message and the one to the lady was commenting on something in her profile to give advice about. It's really not that hard to send a first message!

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Wanna see my boobies?" would be my recommendation.

I'd be far more interested if a guy who liked the woman's profile and photos would ever turn around and no reply to a message that simply said "Hi, how are you?" Personally, I highly doubt they would ignore it.

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By *reative ideasMan
over a year ago

Next door

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

I think as a Fab induction men should have to answer the messages of a single girl for one day. It would give a real insight into the ridiculous messages we get. "

What got me was the sense of entitlement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given most guys only get one or two messages/replies a week it's not like your going to ignore one

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Wanna see my boobies?" would be my recommendation.

Doubt no longer. I have a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say I'm on Irish jobs I don't apply to every single job advertised on the site. I tailor my search to jobs I think I might be a good fit for and put effort into. So I might only apply for one or two jobs. I think some (not all)of men here apply for every vacancy going and don't understand why they aren't getting hired by the Fab ladies!

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Wanna see my boobies?" would be my recommendation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had to see for myself so a female friend gave me temporary access to her account, she put up a new photo.

Its simply astonishing the inept messages people send, I was flabbergasted to say the least.

I now fully understand why some genuine messages can be deleted too.

I think as a Fab induction men should have to answer the messages of a single girl for one day. It would give a real insight into the ridiculous messages we get.

What got me was the sense of entitlement! "

I dont doubt for a second that there are plenty of guys thinking all it takes is one message to get a meet pity they ruin it for all guys who actually put some effort into initial contacts

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Given most guys only get one or two messages/replies a week it's not like your going to ignore one"

More like one or two a month and yes I've ignored some.

Mainly because of what I call fabtag.

I get a messages from well verified women saying they've never seen my profile before and where have I been hiding? I reply and that's the end of the conversation because I haven't responded in kind.

4-6 months down the line guess what, exactly the same messages from the same profiles saying they haven't seen my profile before and where have I been hiding?

I don't respond the second, third or fourth time.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Also someone handing over their profile for a guy to check their messages so he can have a nosey is pretty poor form tbh.

If you state of your profile your a single women then I would also expect that they are the only person who would ever access it. To me that's a great example of where discretion would be absolutely expected.

If not just put a little note in the profile that occasionally you give your log-in details to other people to check your messages.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Men are not exempt from getting the really rude messages either if your filters allow men to message you ...but yes it can't be easy for women

Do couples get the same crap "

We have men blocked and get a handful of messages a week, give or take. The quality of those messages is generally of a similar ilk to the generic "how's you"...

And if the message is of "higher" quality, then it's more often than not from a profile we feel is not compatible with what we're looking for or our response goes unacknowledged.

Regardless, we usually make the effort to respond politely. We have never received abusive messages even when men were not blocked from messaging.

I have a single ladies profile and can count on one hand the amount of abusive messages I've had since I started my Fab journey 2 years ago.

I do wonder if that would change drastically if we were to be looking for men on our couple's profile and unblock them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire any woman who stays on this site. Why? sure its gold standard for women the pick on here

Well when you open up several abusive (first) messages a day, sometimes you do wonder wtf you are doing on here lol

Yeah im at a loss why people do that. Got one today and i was like are you ok there buddy lol. Never had a mail from that person before so ive no idea what was going through his head"

Like I think there’s something seriously wrong with people at the moment, more so than ever, quite worrying tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ladies, roughly how many messages would you get in a day on here? how do u decide which ones you reply to if there's alot? "
a lot I'd imagine what's ratio of men to women on here must be big

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