FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies....what turns you off meeting men??

By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

What basically turns you off whether it's a status a man's put up or something he's wrote on his profile or a certain kinda pic he's shared!

What gives you the ick! And puts your off even talking to said men?

Ps hopefully give the men a heads up on what may help them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh it's hard to pinpoint one thing, I guess when I look at profile it's the pics I check first

Single profile with multiple sex pics with different women

Bareback pics

Rudeness on profile, or nasty statuses on profile

And been totally honest a toilet pic or dirty room turn me off and if the hair looks like dental gloss territory I'm outta there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any reference to women as just "females", it just gives me the ick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP, but IMO people either know how to behave or they don't, coaching them into behaviour that isn't already obvious to them isn't really going to help

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

In pics a single account with loads of pics of women on them I don't mind some but if you end up seeing more of the women

they shagged and still have no clue what he is like it's a turn off.

No effort pics like ones where they have their jeans around their ankles .

Untrimmed pubes.

In bio anyone who refers to themselves as an alpha and is sneery towards other men on here.

Or a zero effort profile.

Statues where they are constantly giving out or asking for someone who they can dump a load in now or for a woman to ruin.

In messages anyone who doesn't seem to understand the word no and is pushy or someone who has cheated to get through my filters.

And the famous fab ego is another massive turn off especially when they believe they are fab elite (which to me is a non existent thing anyhow).

Apart from that not a lot else really

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Sorry OP, but IMO people either know how to behave or they don't, coaching them into behaviour that isn't already obvious to them isn't really going to help"

That is true as well

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

To be honest I don't always think they should be told. If they think a certain way then its best that people know that and can avoid if they choose to.

I couldn't help myself with my safe sex interest and bareback pics status. The inconsistency wrecks my brain.

But easily changed things are old pics, dirty nails, unkempt hair, messy backgrounds. Mug shot style photos with their jeans round their ankles.

If a person doesn't put effort into their photo, why would they put effort into meeting someone.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

Various things will put me off a profile here, but they don't necessarily give me the ick.

Things that give me the ick are more generally done in person, but Mmmmmmmm written anywhere is one for me. Also words like Alpha or discreet written all over profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont understand the photos on top of a toilet

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Taking notes and following…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero effort profile and complaining they can't get a fuck

Adding you on kik and immediately asking for naughty pics

Sending the most vile looking dick pics and thinking you must be dripping looking at them

Asking for your Snapchat so you can watch them knock one off.

The mistaken belief you'll meet them because they're in your area

Over familiar names like babe hun and Daddys cum slut

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Zero pictures

Photos from 2013 but says in bio new to this

No veris or veris that are just coffee meets.

Messages like my cock would look awesome buried in that ass etc etc etc

Any messages that ignore that himself exists

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By *eepixieWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Messages that say “hey boobs, what are you up to?” Or “what are you doing now? Fancy a fuck”

The worst…. dick pic on a toilet!

Very encouraging messages

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By *riendly_fun_guyMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Lots to be learned … thanks to those who contributed but don’t really understand why others suggest that guys should know this … it doesn’t hurt to be helpful and make suggestions.

Everyone here is here in different circumstances, different reasons and ultimately has different opinions so it’s good to share.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Naughty, horny fun guys looking for fun naughty females to have horny fun with.

Don't bite unless you ask for it.

Professional, discreet, dirty nails, rooms, toilets, assholes (I mean literally theres poop on some of them).

"Nice guys". I'm so much nicer than everyone else here you stupid slut.

Explicit veris...

None of that applies solely to single guys.

Women and couples do it too

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Lots to be learned … thanks to those who contributed but don’t really understand why others suggest that guys should know this … it doesn’t hurt to be helpful and make suggestions.

Everyone here is here in different circumstances, different reasons and ultimately has different opinions so it’s good to share. "

It's not that guys don't already know all this. It's more that anyone changing their profile or their behaviour to suit a few forum comments will send up red flags and won't be able to maintain their new persona.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Those "I'm bored" statuses. All they confirm is that you're lazy. Is there really nothing you could be doing apart from complaining on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pretence that they are something they are not. It's like just saying anything you want to hear and then boom huge let down.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Men who say they would love to meet you but don’t actually put any effort into doing so.

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

Pics of women in flagrante on a singles profile.

Loo or messy room pics

“Alpha” males or degrading/disrespectful talk of women.

Bad spelling or grammar in profile bio (check it over!!!)

I also go with my gut, a LOT.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men who say they would love to meet you but don’t actually put any effort into doing so. "

Galway men especially are guilty if this. I get when you coming to Galway messages. Ah why can't they leave the county and visit Kildare

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By *anther PurrrsWoman
over a year ago

the Shadows Purrring or Roaring

Men you pull the pity card and beg for a meet all cause they can’t get their dick wet.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Great tips, thanks ladies.

I'll just go and update profile accordingly.

Now? No, I said I'll do it and I will. Just not immediately!

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By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

"Great tips, thanks ladies.

I'll just go and update profile accordingly.

Now? No, I said I'll do it and I will. Just not immediately!

After reading your profile am a little confused why your on fab if you don't wanna have fun meets with women? Seems a waste of time really! Just to chat tease and not genuinely want to meet up for fun?

Unless am missing something??

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"Great tips, thanks ladies.

I'll just go and update profile accordingly.

Now? No, I said I'll do it and I will. Just not immediately!

Unless am missing something?? "

Bear with me while I read it myself for first time in a while

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"Great tips, thanks ladies.

I'll just go and update profile accordingly.

Now? No, I said I'll do it and I will. Just not immediately!

Unless am missing something??

Bear with me while I read it myself for first time in a while

Actually there was/are suggestions of possibilities already but, following your feedback, I've added a line which gives a slightly more upfront Yes I'm open to meeting, I think anyway.

Have a look and tell me if I need to rewrite the whole thing

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By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

"Great tips, thanks ladies.

I'll just go and update profile accordingly.

Now? No, I said I'll do it and I will. Just not immediately!

Unless am missing something??

Bear with me while I read it myself for first time in a while

Actually there was/are suggestions of possibilities already but, following your feedback, I've added a line which gives a slightly more upfront Yes I'm open to meeting, I think anyway.

Have a look and tell me if I need to rewrite the whole thing

Nah your good

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"Great tips, thanks ladies.

I'll just go and update profile accordingly.

Now? No, I said I'll do it and I will. Just not immediately!

Unless am missing something??

Bear with me while I read it myself for first time in a while

Actually there was/are suggestions of possibilities already but, following your feedback, I've added a line which gives a slightly more upfront Yes I'm open to meeting, I think anyway.

Have a look and tell me if I need to rewrite the whole thing

Nah your good

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In pics a single account with loads of pics of women on them I don't mind some but if you end up seeing more of the women

they shagged and still have no clue what he is like it's a turn off.

No effort pics like ones where they have their jeans around their ankles .

Untrimmed pubes.

In bio anyone who refers to themselves as an alpha and is sneery towards other men on here.

Or a zero effort profile.

Statues where they are constantly giving out or asking for someone who they can dump a load in now or for a woman to ruin.

In messages anyone who doesn't seem to understand the word no and is pushy or someone who has cheated to get through my filters.

And the famous fab ego is another massive turn off especially when they believe they are fab elite (which to me is a non existent thing anyhow).

Apart from that not a lot else really

what Bo says.

cos Bo is the WORD!!

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"Great tips, thanks ladies.

I'll just go and update profile accordingly.

Now? No, I said I'll do it and I will. Just not immediately!

Unless am missing something??

Bear with me while I read it myself for first time in a while

Actually there was/are suggestions of possibilities already but, following your feedback, I've added a line which gives a slightly more upfront Yes I'm open to meeting, I think anyway.

Have a look and tell me if I need to rewrite the whole thing

Nah your good

Thanks for the tips John and thanks to the ladies females for getting me to read other species men males Have a fabulous weekend everyone

Thanks

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

He read incognito too

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"In pics a single account with loads of pics of women on them I don't mind some but if you end up seeing more of the women

they shagged and still have no clue what he is like it's a turn off.

No effort pics like ones where they have their jeans around their ankles .

Untrimmed pubes.

In bio anyone who refers to themselves as an alpha and is sneery towards other men on here.

Or a zero effort profile.

Statues where they are constantly giving out or asking for someone who they can dump a load in now or for a woman to ruin.

In messages anyone who doesn't seem to understand the word no and is pushy or someone who has cheated to get through my filters.

And the famous fab ego is another massive turn off especially when they believe they are fab elite (which to me is a non existent thing anyhow).

Apart from that not a lot else really

what Bo says.

cos Bo is the WORD!!"
Not sure what happened there ?

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"In pics a single account with loads of pics of women on them I don't mind some but if you end up seeing more of the women

they shagged and still have no clue what he is like it's a turn off.

No effort pics like ones where they have their jeans around their ankles .

Untrimmed pubes.

In bio anyone who refers to themselves as an alpha and is sneery towards other men on here.

Or a zero effort profile.

Statues where they are constantly giving out or asking for someone who they can dump a load in now or for a woman to ruin.

In messages anyone who doesn't seem to understand the word no and is pushy or someone who has cheated to get through my filters.

And the famous fab ego is another massive turn off especially when they believe they are fab elite (which to me is a non existent thing anyhow).

Apart from that not a lot else really

what Bo says.

cos Bo is the WORD!!Not sure what happened there ? "

You didn't hit Reply & Quote

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1266668

Closing this as there are other identical threads

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