FabSwingers.com forum: Are people more prone to be insulated online

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are people too easily offended online?

Imagine if people carried on in the real world the way they do online ? Someone has a different opinion than you at work… Block them.

Someone says something that may annoy you in a non bullying type of way…. Block them.

Part of life is coming across people we like and dislike, dealing with hostile/angry people/customers

believe it or not stands to you in life too. You learn to adapt and diffuse a situation and to read people.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Warm and cosy like ....

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Being insulted, bullied or criticised on a site that is anonymous is part of the rough and tumble that one must be prepared to endure; people reveal their personalities and their usual modes of interaction; if someone is repeatedly insulting I simply Hotlist them and make a private note.

Blocking them would merely deprive me of their wise counsel!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being insulted, bullied or criticised on a site that is anonymous is part of the rough and tumble that one must be prepared to endure; people reveal their personalities and their usual modes of interaction; if someone is repeatedly insulting I simply Hotlist them and make a private note.

Blocking them would merely deprive me of their wise counsel!

You have life experience my man

The characters we meet along the journey of life, some good, some bad but memorable

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I carry on exactly the same way in my daily life.

It takes a lot to offend me and I've a lot more patience than most but an idiot is an idiot regardless of where you interact with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's everyday life on here can't say boo.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Are people too easily offended online?

Imagine if people carried on in the real world the way they do online ? Someone has a different opinion than you at work… Block them.

Someone says something that may annoy you in a non bullying type of way…. Block them.

Part of life is coming across people we like and dislike, dealing with hostile/angry people/customers

believe it or not stands to you in life too. You learn to adapt and diffuse a situation and to read people. "

Think people online are more vocal only due to their own anonymity.

The better you hide - the more you can say to others without any consequences.

It's quite the same on Facebook.

Your own friends will say nothing on their own timelines.

People join private groups to fight with strangers they'll never meet instead

Being kind is sometimes hard when someone keeps provoking a reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes people insulate themselves online from the behaviour you've outlined. Easily done and rightly so

In the real world , the same is more difficult. You may not have the choice to insulate from such folk. They are in your everyday. Your workplace , your gym etcetera.

To those people , i simply give the a really pleasant greeting , be polite and direct in conversation and smile. Addled they will be. It's a good feeling when they can't fathom how you are being nice to them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are people too easily offended online?

Imagine if people carried on in the real world the way they do online ? Someone has a different opinion than you at work… Block them.

Someone says something that may annoy you in a non bullying type of way…. Block them.

Part of life is coming across people we like and dislike, dealing with hostile/angry people/customers

believe it or not stands to you in life too. You learn to adapt and diffuse a situation and to read people.

Think people online are more vocal only due to their own anonymity.

The better you hide - the more you can say to others without any consequences.

It's quite the same on Facebook.

Your own friends will say nothing on their own timelines.

People join private groups to fight with strangers they'll never meet instead

Being kind is sometimes hard when someone keeps provoking a reaction.

I’m no different online and in the real world. Not provoking reaction just saying it as you see it and not running with the sheep

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By *lamingo57Woman
over a year ago

Carrick

"Are people too easily offended online?

Imagine if people carried on in the real world the way they do online ? Someone has a different opinion than you at work… Block them.

Someone says something that may annoy you in a non bullying type of way…. Block them.

Part of life is coming across people we like and dislike, dealing with hostile/angry people/customers

believe it or not stands to you in life too. You learn to adapt and diffuse a situation and to read people.

Think people online are more vocal only due to their own anonymity.

The better you hide - the more you can say to others without any consequences.

It's quite the same on Facebook.

Your own friends will say nothing on their own timelines.

People join private groups to fight with strangers they'll never meet instead

Being kind is sometimes hard when someone keeps provoking a reaction.

Hard agree with all this!

I do think that sometimes words and meaning can be lost in text. But you know straight up if someone is being a dick. Sometimes I'll feed the troll

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Meh i go by a couple of "rules" when someones opinion starts paying my bills then ill give a shit

And never argue with an idiot theyll only beat you with experience.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I don't think it's about being too easily offended. It's about the online world providing you with the ability to avoid someone you think is a dickhead.

We'd all love to have this ability in work and other off-line situations it unfortunately it's not possible. So you've to take other measures to avoid them.

The concept that someone should just be put up with someone they don't like just because seems quite strange really.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Are people too easily offended online?

Imagine if people carried on in the real world the way they do online ? Someone has a different opinion than you at work… Block them.

Someone says something that may annoy you in a non bullying type of way…. Block them.

Part of life is coming across people we like and dislike, dealing with hostile/angry people/customers

believe it or not stands to you in life too. You learn to adapt and diffuse a situation and to read people.

Think people online are more vocal only due to their own anonymity.

The better you hide - the more you can say to others without any consequences.

It's quite the same on Facebook.

Your own friends will say nothing on their own timelines.

People join private groups to fight with strangers they'll never meet instead

Being kind is sometimes hard when someone keeps provoking a reaction.

I’m no different online and in the real world. Not provoking reaction just saying it as you see it and not running with the sheep "

If a shoe doesn't fit - don't wear it

I didn't mean you personally. Just general behavioural patterns

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm as offended online as I am in person.

I deal with hostile people all day in work so in my down time I have very little patience for it.

I wouldn't block someone for having a differing opinion or for saying something annoying.

If they're consistently argumentative then I'll block them. I'm not going to allow that energy into my headspace.

Its very hard to read tone in text with people you don't have a personal relationship with, so I think its easy to offend or be offended unintentionally.

If all this makes me 'offended' I really don't care

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

You're so right!

I very rarely get offended, but due to my language barrier I am very straight to the point and I don't really use words that make me look "nicer", so I offend a lot more people online than I do in person as in person you can clearly see my facial expressions and hear my tone of voice lol

Missus

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"You're so right!

Missus "

You're a sweetheart in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im less offended by people online, the virtual distance helps enormously. The switch off, block unfollow options etc are great.

Im open to engaging with different opinions and debate in both 'worlds', but I cant be putting up with shit stirrers or dickheads...

I come across more of them online than in my daily life.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Online bullies and Karen’s … nah doesn’t bother me … don’t entertain them …

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Blocking them would merely deprive me of their wise counsel!

If you mean their status updates, I check my block list when I'm bored for these words of wisdom. It usually confirms that our decision to block was correct

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

We have more of a choice about who we interact with online. Most of us are required to put up with dipshits in our daily lives so why would we choose to interact and put up with more of them in what is supposed to be our leisure time.

And yes, I see the irony in saying that on a forum which attracts a lot of dipshits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its to do with the amount of distance between people.

If you bump into someone on the street both parties are likely to apologise profusely.

Online is as far away from the other person as you can get.

Similarly if you're driving you're isolated from the other drivers due to being in a metal box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's not about being more easily offended but about choice. I don't tolerate shite and nonsense from anyone but irl I may still have to interact with those people. Here, or elsewhere online, I don't have to and can choose not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just realised the thread title is 'insulated' not insulted, but my comment is still valid

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