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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is cynicism inevitable??

Ive been trying to resist it all these years, but I feel the pull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is cynicism inevitable??

Ive been trying to resist it all these years, but I feel the pull"

It gets us all. But I try my best to fight it and be positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't lost all hope in humanity, just the unrealistic expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya it sneaks in every now and than and sometimes it does no harm , just remember lifes too short and you deserve to be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scrap that, humanity is fucked, but there are still people who are fundamentally decent, I do believe we are all capable of appalling behaviour given the right wrong circumstances

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've always given the benefit of the doubt even to the point of being told I was a soft touch but I've been mostly right.

In recent years I have become more cynical because people have become much more blatantly obvious than ever before and it's therefore ever less of a challenge to predict their behaviour and that of their hangers on.

At this stage in my life I embrace it because I continue to be mostly right so I don't see it as sad or a negative characteristic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do see it as a negative, Ive always found 'hardness' in general as a difficult trait to accept. In others and myself

Someone once told me men get cynical, women get bitter lol!!

But to paraphrase DD I do think you've got to see the rainbows

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've always given the benefit of the doubt even to the point of being told I was a soft touch but I've been mostly right.

In recent years I have become more cynical because people have become much more blatantly obvious than ever before and it's therefore ever less of a challenge to predict their behaviour and that of their hangers on.

At this stage in my life I embrace it because I continue to be mostly right so I don't see it as sad or a negative characteristic."

ps: I hope you've kept your soft touch

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't think cynicism is necessarily a bad thing as long as you don't see bad in everything and everyone.

It is good however to pay attention to what people say and do,and not to ignore or find excuses for polar opposites of their actions and their words. You can only give the benefit of the doubt so many times,if you keep doing it then you are being taken in by these people and just being used.

So yes I think being somewhat cynical is a good thing and to go with your gut instincts they usually are right even when you don't want them to be.

It doesn't mean you have to be suspicion of everyone there are loads of decent genuine people,but there are also a fair few who take pleasure in playing games and stirring shite and they are the ones you don't want in your life. It's so much better when toxicity is removed before it gains a foothold.

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By *omebirdWoman
over a year ago

N7

Embrace it and set your boundaries

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"I don't think cynicism is necessarily a bad thing as long as you don't see bad in everything and everyone.

It is good however to pay attention to what people say and do,and not to ignore or find excuses for polar opposites of their actions and their words. You can only give the benefit of the doubt so many times,if you keep doing it then you are being taken in by these people and just being used.

So yes I think being somewhat cynical is a good thing and to go with your gut instincts they usually are right even when you don't want them to be.

It doesn't mean you have to be suspicion of everyone there are loads of decent genuine people,but there are also a fair few who take pleasure in playing games and stirring shite and they are the ones you don't want in your life. It's so much better when toxicity is removed before it gains a foothold. "

Absolutely. I would say i have become more cynical especially from being on fab but i dont see it as a bad thing. Im a generally very positive person but im also well aware that life isnt always sunshine and lollipops. My eyes do get a great workout some days with the amount of eye rolling but if im like that then i dont engage with whatevers going on and just stay out of it. There needs to be a healthy balance as with most things in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is cynicism inevitable??

Ive been trying to resist it all these years, but I feel the pull"

Yes. The glass is always half full. Of piss.

Seriously, you get wiser to the crap people try to pull and come to expect it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So theres a general belief that being cynical is a good thing.

lots of pros here...

and the con being basically dont let it go too far.

This is bending my world view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see why being cynical has to be a bad thing

Firstly, that depends on what people perceive the word cynical to mean in the first place

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I think it also has a lot to do with your own personal experience and/or circumstances.

As I said above I've always given people the benefit of the doubt but on the ocasions that I've been wrong those people have taken advantage and used me for their own agenda.

When I made a decision 7 or 8 years ago to start doing me for the first time in my life, my levels of cynicism increased accordingly.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I’ve “suffered” from this for a while from learning some of life’s hard lessons, the hard way.

I think it’s inevitable as we get older, to a point, but I try not to let it define me.

I think switching it to scepticism is a good middle ground or trade off.

Life is hard sometimes and it’s difficult to find the right balance between cynicism, scepticism, naivety, understanding, hope, empathy, sympathy, trust, and self protection and self preservation.

I often think of the Luther Vandross lyric, “back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence”……

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I give people way too many chances and inevitably they prove that I am wrong to do that.

This makes me wary of the next person.

So I'm a softie and a hopeful cynic. I usually end up disappointed.

Probably why I put up big walls on fab. If they can't get in then I can't be a softie

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I’ve “suffered” from this for a while from learning some of life’s hard lessons, the hard way.

I think it’s inevitable as we get older, to a point, but I try not to let it define me.

I think switching it to scepticism is a good middle ground or trade off.

Life is hard sometimes and it’s difficult to find the right balance between cynicism, scepticism, naivety, understanding, hope, empathy, sympathy, trust, and self protection and self preservation.

I often think of the Luther Vandross lyric, “back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence”……"

Makes me think of the poem "Advent" by Patrick Kavanagh:

"We have tested and tasted too much, lover - through a chink too wide there comes in no wonder."

It's difficult not to become cynical as it's practically impossible to remove all toxicity from life.

My motto...live simply, laugh often, love deeply (starting with yourself!), orgasm frequently and don't take life too seriously x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

"We have tested and tasted too much, lover - through a chink too wide there comes in no wonder."

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I'm a professional cynic but my heart's not in it

I'm payin' the price of livin' life at the limit

Caught up in the century's anxiety

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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago

Enfield & Dublin

I used to be a lovely lad but my chosen career has hardened me and to some extent also bittered me too. I have seen both the best and worst in human nature and received an unenviable education in depravity. I have become cynical, sceptical and sometimes wary of strangers. I do still seek out beauty in the world around me and try to fill it with more positivity.

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By *risharrowMan
over a year ago

clare

I think we're all just the sum of our past and if an experience(s) has made you cynical in this case, but any emotion, than its not really your fault. If it is something you don't like within yourself then take the steps to change it, but what I would say with any change is to be gentle with yourself (I'm aware, easier said then done) if you fall into the previous program, it's a default to go back to what's familiar ya know.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I'd call it "applied experience". It's always nice when someone or something proves me wrong though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've absolutely no doubt that the vast majority of humanity are good, decent people

However, I'm also in no doubt that the system we live in rewards sociopaths and results in them running society to their benefit and at our expense

In short, it's very hard not to be cynical but I try my best

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

You spend less time disappointed if you presume that everyone is an asshole until proven otherwise

I think spending more than a year or 2 on fab leads you to be pretty cynical. We’ve all heard the shite people spout to get in others pants so it’s often hard to pick out the genuine compliments.

Although, when someone says I’m great they’re clearly right so I believe them

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By *urious g300Man
over a year ago

Galway

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By *urious g300Man
over a year ago

Galway


"I don't think cynicism is necessarily a bad thing as long as you don't see bad in everything and everyone.

It is good however to pay attention to what people say and do,and not to ignore or find excuses for polar opposites of their actions and their words. You can only give the benefit of the doubt so many times,if you keep doing it then you are being taken in by these people and just being used.

So yes I think being somewhat cynical is a good thing and to go with your gut instincts they usually are right even when you don't want them to be.

It doesn't mean you have to be suspicion of everyone there are loads of decent genuine people,but there are also a fair few who take pleasure in playing games and stirring shite and they are the ones you don't want in your life. It's so much better when toxicity is removed before it gains a foothold. "

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Although we as humans are inherently cooperative and the greatest pleasure is derived from giving to others, and being selfless regrettably a large unthinking section of every society, who do not know of our inherent instincts, are acquisitive and materialistic.

They will use every method to exploit and manipulate others for their own selfish shallow ends.

As everyone does not share my human(istic) values I am cynical sceptical guarded and circumspect until I have sussed them out. I have been burned too often in the past to believe everyone is inherently good-natured.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You spend less time disappointed if you presume that everyone is an asshole until proven otherwise

I think spending more than a year or 2 on fab leads you to be pretty cynical. We’ve all heard the shite people spout to get in others pants so it’s often hard to pick out the genuine compliments.

Although, when someone says I’m great they’re clearly right so I believe them "

I DO think you are great

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"You spend less time disappointed if you presume that everyone is an asshole until proven otherwise

I think spending more than a year or 2 on fab leads you to be pretty cynical. We’ve all heard the shite people spout to get in others pants so it’s often hard to pick out the genuine compliments.

Although, when someone says I’m great they’re clearly right so I believe them

I DO think you are great "

And everyone would agree you’re rarely wrong

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I think it stops us from reaching our potential . Life is wonderful and full of opportunities . when cynical thoughts come into your head challenge them . Only if they stand up to scrutiny and dissection the they are somewhat realistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it stops us from reaching our potential . Life is wonderful and full of opportunities . when cynical thoughts come into your head challenge them . Only if they stand up to scrutiny and dissection the they are somewhat realistic. "

absolutely, generally our minds default mode is negative and has become habitual therefore needs work to change the habit

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By *ac1234Man
over a year ago

letterkenny

Are you even Irish if you’re not somewhat of a cynic?

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By *anKinkyMan
over a year ago

Carrick on Shannon


"Is cynicism inevitable??

Ive been trying to resist it all these years, but I feel the pull"
Definition- an inclination to believe that people are motivated purely by self interest! are you putting your name down for the next election??

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

At school, decades ago, an elderly Christian Brother used to say that, " A cynic was someone who knew the price of everything, and the value of nothing."

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