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"No interest in dating so Ive never been on Tinder but from what I have heard from fab guys it can be quiet successful for getting meets. I think for a woman fab is safer, the verification process etc. I tend to steer clear of newbies and after a while here the fakes and time wasters tend to show their colours early with interogation "Do you handcuff them to a chair and blindfold for your interrogations ? Asking for a friend | |||
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"Haven't heard a a Fab Swindler yet, there was plenty of Tinder Swindlers though " Fab Dwindlers maybe more appropriate as the pool of well verified, reliable guys are over run here by time wasters and fake profiles! | |||
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"Haven't heard a a Fab Swindler yet, there was plenty of Tinder Swindlers though " There was a bloke on fab about 2 years ago trying to get everyone to invest 500 with him He had a thread going for a while about how much he was making everyday on crypto and stocks ....He wasn't impressed when he started getting called The stockbroker in the forums ....arrogant fucker too He got deleted I believe | |||
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"They serve different purposes so it depends on what you are looking for." Not on tinder better things for using my fingers for !!! But as was said above dates sites have there Merits as I enjoy a chat that may become lovers friends or both or just distance acquaintances , This time of year we are snuggled up chatting | |||
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"They serve different purposes so it depends on what you are looking for." This is my perspective on it too. If I’m looking for mostly connections with single women, I would probably use Tinder. If I’m hoping to get to know couples and have more direct and varied experiences I might prioritise Fab | |||
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"They serve different purposes so it depends on what you are looking for.Not on tinder better things for using my fingers for !!! But as was said above dates sites have there Merits as I enjoy a chat that may become lovers friends or both or just distance acquaintances , This time of year we are snuggled up chatting " You do know that you can have normal conversations and become all of those things with people you find on fab right? | |||
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"I find people on tinder are so much more lazy, needy and repetitive. Fab over tinder all day long. Also swingers are a community. We are here for it. " Yes it’s possible that things get repetitive on tinder and possibly lazy - from either gender But as a guy, I suspect tinder is much “easier” than fab for a single guy - particularly in the “burn in” period. Fab requires much more of a getting to know the ropes I’ve found in my experience (which was probably much more impacted due to covid too tho) I enjoy the more direct thing here and possible less expected pathways which might develop But on tinder/dating apps, I've had much more “success” in finding physical and other types of connections with single women. That’s also somewhat to do with how much I put into either here or apps too. But, I think here requires you to be more invested time wise as a guy due to the ratio of men to women and needing to stand out more. Even actually on dating apps I think men vastly outnumber women too so you need to standout there compared to meeting in “real life” From a woman’s perspective I suspect here it’s the opposite conundrum - you get bombarded with messages and sheer numbers of Lena profiles so you have to spend time sifting - similar to tinder but possibly less of a barrage They’re just some rambling unfocused thoughts | |||
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"I find people on tinder are so much more lazy, needy and repetitive. Fab over tinder all day long. Also swingers are a community. We are here for it. Yes it’s possible that things get repetitive on tinder and possibly lazy - from either gender But as a guy, I suspect tinder is much “easier” than fab for a single guy - particularly in the “burn in” period. Fab requires much more of a getting to know the ropes I’ve found in my experience (which was probably much more impacted due to covid too tho) I enjoy the more direct thing here and possible less expected pathways which might develop But on tinder/dating apps, I've had much more “success” in finding physical and other types of connections with single women. That’s also somewhat to do with how much I put into either here or apps too. But, I think here requires you to be more invested time wise as a guy due to the ratio of men to women and needing to stand out more. Even actually on dating apps I think men vastly outnumber women too so you need to standout there compared to meeting in “real life” From a woman’s perspective I suspect here it’s the opposite conundrum - you get bombarded with messages and sheer numbers of Lena profiles so you have to spend time sifting - similar to tinder but possibly less of a barrage They’re just some rambling unfocused thoughts " Well... if most single guy's on fab profiles would be more similar to their tinder ones (photos, effort etc) it shouldn't take any more effort to meet someone off fab compared to tinder. I have a single profile here too. It genuinely doesn't take that much effort to sift through all 2 "hi" messages I get a day 
Problem with fab is representation.
So many men join it because their mate told them about this magical place where everyone just fucks all the time. That you will get more pussy than you ever wished for and will be going to all these mad sex parties where women just put out for everyone.
So of course they will want a discreet profile hiding everything anyone might ever recognise. I mean I wouldn't want to be caught in a place like I just described either...
Then a few weeks after joining they realise that fab isn't what their mates told them is and they take it out on unsuspecting women who are just minding their business and doing their own thing here..
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"... unsuspecting women who are just minding their business and doing their own thing here.. " We dont stay unsuspecting long ...and suspicion often becomes the default unfortunately. But at least with the verifications there's some accountability which you dont get elsewhere. | |||
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"I find people on tinder are so much more lazy, needy and repetitive. Fab over tinder all day long. Also swingers are a community. We are here for it. Yes it’s possible that things get repetitive on tinder and possibly lazy - from either gender But as a guy, I suspect tinder is much “easier” than fab for a single guy - particularly in the “burn in” period. Fab requires much more of a getting to know the ropes I’ve found in my experience (which was probably much more impacted due to covid too tho) I enjoy the more direct thing here and possible less expected pathways which might develop But on tinder/dating apps, I've had much more “success” in finding physical and other types of connections with single women. That’s also somewhat to do with how much I put into either here or apps too. But, I think here requires you to be more invested time wise as a guy due to the ratio of men to women and needing to stand out more. Even actually on dating apps I think men vastly outnumber women too so you need to standout there compared to meeting in “real life” From a woman’s perspective I suspect here it’s the opposite conundrum - you get bombarded with messages and sheer numbers of Lena profiles so you have to spend time sifting - similar to tinder but possibly less of a barrage They’re just some rambling unfocused thoughts Well... if most single guy's on fab profiles would be more similar to their tinder ones (photos, effort etc) it shouldn't take any more effort to meet someone off fab compared to tinder. I have a single profile here too. It genuinely doesn't take that much effort to sift through all 2 "hi" messages I get a day
Problem with fab is representation.
So many men join it because their mate told them about this magical place where everyone just fucks all the time. That you will get more pussy than you ever wished for and will be going to all these mad sex parties where women just put out for everyone.
So of course they will want a discreet profile hiding everything anyone might ever recognise. I mean I wouldn't want to be caught in a place like I just described either...
Then a few weeks after joining they realise that fab isn't what their mates told them is and they take it out on unsuspecting women who are just minding their business and doing their own thing here..
"I make effort on both sites and it’s been my experience that it doesn’t happen as much for me here - not a moaning - just an observation - and I don’t mind it at all. Just trying to give some honest and subjective thoughts I would agree with you that there are lots of guys who assume it’s going to be like dial a ride and then don’t think effort is required! I also suspect there are some women/couples who think it’s like dial a ride and expect some men to be available almost immediately when asked. I think maybe in my opinion there’s not as much “return” in terms of meets for guys compared to tinder as there’s prob a much higher ratio of men to women here than tinder. Simply supple and demand Also, I find I possibly do better that women on tinder have already seen my face and know if they’re attracted or not already. Whereas here, word of mouth possibly plays a decent part - for meets and events - “is your man safe/sound/chilled out/a good ride” etc That is definitely not something people do on tinder 
So I suspect once you’re into the swing of things here (pun beautifully intended!) it pays off exponentially as a single guy due to people knowing you are a decent prospect. Takes time to get that though is what I guess I’m saying here compared to tinder
I still do think even with better profiles like you suggested, this would be the case. I’ve had previous profiles here which were very fleshed out (another pun ) in all aspects and not much response. Again, no big deal and simply an observation.
Glad it isn’t much annoyance for you to sift through all the messages! I do see some women suggest that it can be an arduous task though
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"... unsuspecting women who are just minding their business and doing their own thing here.. We dont stay unsuspecting long ...and suspicion often becomes the default unfortunately. But at least with the verifications there's some accountability which you dont get elsewhere." That is very true. Sad that this suspicion rubs off onto guys that are actually decent and are forced to jump through extra hoops. And yes, you're very right about verifications, although they can put people off just as much as attract some completely depending on what's in them. I plain refused to meet dirk for as much as a coffee because of his trashy veris left by his old fuckbuddies
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"I find people on tinder are so much more lazy, needy and repetitive. Fab over tinder all day long. Also swingers are a community. We are here for it. Yes it’s possible that things get repetitive on tinder and possibly lazy - from either gender But as a guy, I suspect tinder is much “easier” than fab for a single guy - particularly in the “burn in” period. Fab requires much more of a getting to know the ropes I’ve found in my experience (which was probably much more impacted due to covid too tho) I enjoy the more direct thing here and possible less expected pathways which might develop But on tinder/dating apps, I've had much more “success” in finding physical and other types of connections with single women. That’s also somewhat to do with how much I put into either here or apps too. But, I think here requires you to be more invested time wise as a guy due to the ratio of men to women and needing to stand out more. Even actually on dating apps I think men vastly outnumber women too so you need to standout there compared to meeting in “real life” From a woman’s perspective I suspect here it’s the opposite conundrum - you get bombarded with messages and sheer numbers of Lena profiles so you have to spend time sifting - similar to tinder but possibly less of a barrage They’re just some rambling unfocused thoughts Well... if most single guy's on fab profiles would be more similar to their tinder ones (photos, effort etc) it shouldn't take any more effort to meet someone off fab compared to tinder. I have a single profile here too. It genuinely doesn't take that much effort to sift through all 2 "hi" messages I get a day
Problem with fab is representation.
So many men join it because their mate told them about this magical place where everyone just fucks all the time. That you will get more pussy than you ever wished for and will be going to all these mad sex parties where women just put out for everyone.
So of course they will want a discreet profile hiding everything anyone might ever recognise. I mean I wouldn't want to be caught in a place like I just described either...
Then a few weeks after joining they realise that fab isn't what their mates told them is and they take it out on unsuspecting women who are just minding their business and doing their own thing here..
I make effort on both sites and it’s been my experience that it doesn’t happen as much for me here - not a moaning - just an observation - and I don’t mind it at all. Just trying to give some honest and subjective thoughts
I would agree with you that there are lots of guys who assume it’s going to be like dial a ride and then don’t think effort is required! I also suspect there are some women/couples who think it’s like dial a ride and expect some men to be available almost immediately when asked.
I think maybe in my opinion there’s not as much “return” in terms of meets for guys compared to tinder as there’s prob a much higher ratio of men to women here than tinder. Simply supple and demand
Also, I find I possibly do better that women on tinder have already seen my face and know if they’re attracted or not already. Whereas here, word of mouth possibly plays a decent part - for meets and events - “is your man safe/sound/chilled out/a good ride” etc
That is definitely not something people do on tinder
So I suspect once you’re into the swing of things here (pun beautifully intended!) it pays off exponentially as a single guy due to people knowing you are a decent prospect. Takes time to get that though is what I guess I’m saying here compared to tinder
I still do think even with better profiles like you suggested, this would be the case. I’ve had previous profiles here which were very fleshed out (another pun ) in all aspects and not much response. Again, no big deal and simply an observation.
Glad it isn’t much annoyance for you to sift through all the messages! I do see some women suggest that it can be an arduous task though
Thanks for your thought out response "What I meant about fab profile being more like tinder - is less naked and more face etc. But I do know that will never happen so there's no point in even mentioning it. No matter what your profile is like you also have to deal with majority of women already having a massive guard up too. Also yes, some women do complain about a crazy amount of messages, that is only ever true if: 1. Her profile is new. 2. She doesn't have any message filters. 3. She happened to be on page 1 of hot photos (what recently happened to me, ending up with 600+ messages from all over the world). On a normal day average woman gets no more than 5-6 messages. A couple - a lot less! Take away dial a ride and "hi" messages and you're lucky to get one decent one maybe once every fortnight if you're lucky
Chances are the person who sent it isn't what you're looking for either and it breaks your heart to let them down.
I'm obviously talking from my own experience as a single woman as well as experience of being in a couple.
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"From my experience, people are more upfront on fab about what they’re looking for than on tinder. So many on tinder are just looking for hookups (which is fine) but masquerade behind wanting to date etc. Tinder is a complete waste of my time, as far as I’m concerned. In fact, I only go on there when I’m extremely bored. " It's so bloody tiring to pretend to be a "good girl" though isn't it? | |||
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"From my experience, people are more upfront on fab about what they’re looking for than on tinder. So many on tinder are just looking for hookups (which is fine) but masquerade behind wanting to date etc. Tinder is a complete waste of my time, as far as I’m concerned. In fact, I only go on there when I’m extremely bored. It's so bloody tiring to pretend to be a "good girl" though isn't it? " I don’t play pretend very well
My issue with it is that if the conversation turns to sexual likes and dislikes, most of the guys I’ve chatted to seem to presume that you’re only interested in hook ups. How the heck are you supposed to find someone to date without discussing your sexual compatibility?!?
I do think fab has ruined me for vanilla life tbh. I can’t be arsed with the games etc | |||
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"I've never been on Tinder, or PoF or Bumble or any of the dating apps. Am I missing out?" Nope. | |||
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"I find people on tinder are so much more lazy, needy and repetitive. Fab over tinder all day long. Also swingers are a community. We are here for it. Yes it’s possible that things get repetitive on tinder and possibly lazy - from either gender But as a guy, I suspect tinder is much “easier” than fab for a single guy - particularly in the “burn in” period. Fab requires much more of a getting to know the ropes I’ve found in my experience (which was probably much more impacted due to covid too tho) I enjoy the more direct thing here and possible less expected pathways which might develop But on tinder/dating apps, I've had much more “success” in finding physical and other types of connections with single women. That’s also somewhat to do with how much I put into either here or apps too. But, I think here requires you to be more invested time wise as a guy due to the ratio of men to women and needing to stand out more. Even actually on dating apps I think men vastly outnumber women too so you need to standout there compared to meeting in “real life” From a woman’s perspective I suspect here it’s the opposite conundrum - you get bombarded with messages and sheer numbers of Lena profiles so you have to spend time sifting - similar to tinder but possibly less of a barrage They’re just some rambling unfocused thoughts Well... if most single guy's on fab profiles would be more similar to their tinder ones (photos, effort etc) it shouldn't take any more effort to meet someone off fab compared to tinder. I have a single profile here too. It genuinely doesn't take that much effort to sift through all 2 "hi" messages I get a day
Problem with fab is representation.
So many men join it because their mate told them about this magical place where everyone just fucks all the time. That you will get more pussy than you ever wished for and will be going to all these mad sex parties where women just put out for everyone.
So of course they will want a discreet profile hiding everything anyone might ever recognise. I mean I wouldn't want to be caught in a place like I just described either...
Then a few weeks after joining they realise that fab isn't what their mates told them is and they take it out on unsuspecting women who are just minding their business and doing their own thing here..
I make effort on both sites and it’s been my experience that it doesn’t happen as much for me here - not a moaning - just an observation - and I don’t mind it at all. Just trying to give some honest and subjective thoughts
I would agree with you that there are lots of guys who assume it’s going to be like dial a ride and then don’t think effort is required! I also suspect there are some women/couples who think it’s like dial a ride and expect some men to be available almost immediately when asked.
I think maybe in my opinion there’s not as much “return” in terms of meets for guys compared to tinder as there’s prob a much higher ratio of men to women here than tinder. Simply supple and demand
Also, I find I possibly do better that women on tinder have already seen my face and know if they’re attracted or not already. Whereas here, word of mouth possibly plays a decent part - for meets and events - “is your man safe/sound/chilled out/a good ride” etc
That is definitely not something people do on tinder
So I suspect once you’re into the swing of things here (pun beautifully intended!) it pays off exponentially as a single guy due to people knowing you are a decent prospect. Takes time to get that though is what I guess I’m saying here compared to tinder
I still do think even with better profiles like you suggested, this would be the case. I’ve had previous profiles here which were very fleshed out (another pun ) in all aspects and not much response. Again, no big deal and simply an observation.
Glad it isn’t much annoyance for you to sift through all the messages! I do see some women suggest that it can be an arduous task though
Thanks for your thought out response
What I meant about fab profile being more like tinder - is less naked and more face etc. But I do know that will never happen so there's no point in even mentioning it.
No matter what your profile is like you also have to deal with majority of women already having a massive guard up too.
Also yes, some women do complain about a crazy amount of messages, that is only ever true if:
1. Her profile is new.
2. She doesn't have any message filters.
3. She happened to be on page 1 of hot photos (what recently happened to me, ending up with 600+ messages from all over the world).
On a normal day average woman gets no more than 5-6 messages. A couple - a lot less!
Take away dial a ride and "hi" messages and you're lucky to get one decent one maybe once every fortnight if you're lucky
Chances are the person who sent it isn't what you're looking for either and it breaks your heart to let them down.
I'm obviously talking from my own experience as a single woman as well as experience of being in a couple.
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"I've never been on Tinder, or PoF or Bumble or any of the dating apps. Am I missing out?" If you're looking for dates and casual hook-ups then absolutely. | |||
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"I cast the net wide as I’m not looking for the same thing in every meet so I’m on various dating apps too. Dating apps are handy for local meets as it suits me best and I’ve found gems in each one of them. Plus you can tell the fab folk from their tinder profile, just something about them that stands out. " Very well put in terms of variety! I never recognise fab users tho! How do you do that?? | |||
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"Honesty and no hidden agenda... we're all here for the same thing" No, we are absolutely not! Fab is what you make of it! Some are looking for a new sex friend circle. Some are looking for one off hook ups. Some are looking to piss others off. Some are looking to just chat to people online. Some are looking for casual one off hook ups with complete strangers. Some want to meet same people. Some want friendships with like minded individuals. People aren't looking for the same thing and the assumption that they are is quite damaging to the site and users themselves as its where the misunderstandings come from. | |||
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"Cos I'm banned from Tinder so Fab over Tinder
Note: Never make a profile for your dog and start sending inspo messages to pass time over lockdown "I would swipe for your dog | |||
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"Cos I'm banned from Tinder so Fab over Tinder
Note: Never make a profile for your dog and start sending inspo messages to pass time over lockdown
I would swipe for your dog"Loads did, I got a good 8 weeks out of it. Then someone obviously wasn't a dog lover and reported the page haha | |||
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"Cos I'm banned from Tinder so Fab over Tinder
Note: Never make a profile for your dog and start sending inspo messages to pass time over lockdown
I would swipe for your dog Loads did, I got a good 8 weeks out of it. Then someone obviously wasn't a dog lover and reported the page haha"Hahaha thats a giggle. lockdown life needed a bit of lighthearted messing | |||
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"Honesty and no hidden agenda... we're all here for the same thing" I think it’s quite naive to think there’s only honesty and no hidden agendas here - or anywhere else in life | |||
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"I prefer fab i gave up tinder a few years ago now. I find here there's more of a social outlet so it gives one time to get to know people. With tinder the match and unmatch two seconds later lol, i do not miss that at all. Also on here there is the forums to chat about all sorts of things and build up connections and friendships. "100 percent agree with this | |||
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"I cast the net wide as I’m not looking for the same thing in every meet so I’m on various dating apps too. Dating apps are handy for local meets as it suits me best and I’ve found gems in each one of them. Plus you can tell the fab folk from their tinder profile, just something about them that stands out. Very well put in terms of variety! I never recognise fab users tho! How do you do that??" The way they look at the camera, a quiet confidence | |||
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"I cast the net wide as I’m not looking for the same thing in every meet so I’m on various dating apps too. Dating apps are handy for local meets as it suits me best and I’ve found gems in each one of them. Plus you can tell the fab folk from their tinder profile, just something about them that stands out. Very well put in terms of variety! I never recognise fab users tho! How do you do that?? The way they look at the camera, a quiet confidence " Jesus I’d be shit at spotting people then! Most women would see me on apps and think butter wouldn’t melt and that I’d be a quiet and mannerly fella
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