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"Fair play for offering to buy the tea&food with card for him. I'd always have a few euro on me in town for that reason. I've never had more than 1or2 words. Is my offering of 1,2 or 3 euro in change going to make life changing choices? Most probably not. From me or the next person who does the same. But I have personally seen people in Cork asking for charity and later seeing them in a shop getting a drink with more cash in their wallet than I had ![]() I have had more than one or two words with many when i was volunteering with a charity. It's very sad the stories ypu hear and the amount that die. But yes it's the ones that are not genuine cases are definitely soul destroying. Why go and take from people ok thw streets when you don't need it. | |||
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"I dont see this as charity. To me charity is giving my time to help someone or donating to an official charity. The issue I had tonight is that this money was going straight on drugs and he was honest enough to say that to me. My €2 would not have helped him in anyway. It just means he got his fix quicker. Thats not charity its being part of the problem. " For me Charity is giving from one person to another. Giving it to a official charity I personally would be very cautious and do lots of research before donating. I'd sooner give it to a person face to face.. We all have problems in our very own bubble in different times of our lives. We live different lives and so our understandings are all different. To you that €2 may not of helped him. | |||
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"I dont see this as charity. To me charity is giving my time to help someone or donating to an official charity. The issue I had tonight is that this money was going straight on drugs and he was honest enough to say that to me. My €2 would not have helped him in anyway. It just means he got his fix quicker. Thats not charity its being part of the problem. " Yes he's clearly in addiction by the sounds of it and like said already if i was on the streets i would probably want an escape the cold ground aswell. I was just saying in general about the homeless groups and what annoys me. | |||
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"I dont see this as charity. To me charity is giving my time to help someone or donating to an official charity. The issue I had tonight is that this money was going straight on drugs and he was honest enough to say that to me. My €2 would not have helped him in anyway. It just means he got his fix quicker. Thats not charity its being part of the problem. " You were kind to give him time and a listening ear for the few minutes you walked and talked. As much as it may be lost on him, it might be one of those acts of kindness that may have given him a little hope. I agree that giving money to this lad for his next fix is being part of the problem. Unfortunately, the more desperate he gets for his next fix, the more likely he will be to commit a crime. But in reality it's a never-ending vicious cycle. These lads need to be taken off the street and be given the help they need. Unfortunately they also need to want to do that. And unfortunately the services available are sparse too. I wonder if the world would be a better place if everyone did a little random act of kindness for people less fortunate than oneself daily... | |||
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"There is such a stigma attached to homeless ppl in regards to drink and drugs and that's not everyone just like all walks of life. Its so much more than that and shouldnt be the main focus.I can't imagine what it's like to feel invisible, a nobody feel worthless for the few I interact with that's how they feel every single day of their existence. It's just heart breaking and homelessness will be worse this yr with inflation. " Exactly and i have met loads who were not on drink or drugs they were thrown out of home over families difficulties, adultery, couldn't afford rent etc lots of different reasons why some are there. | |||
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" I wonder if the world would be a better place if everyone did a little random act of kindness for people less fortunate than oneself daily..." I'm sure it would be greatly improved for all. Such a simple yet massive impact for any society. | |||
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"I dont see this as charity. To me charity is giving my time to help someone or donating to an official charity. The issue I had tonight is that this money was going straight on drugs and he was honest enough to say that to me. My €2 would not have helped him in anyway. It just means he got his fix quicker. Thats not charity its being part of the problem. You were kind to give him time and a listening ear for the few minutes you walked and talked. As much as it may be lost on him, it might be one of those acts of kindness that may have given him a little hope. I agree that giving money to this lad for his next fix is being part of the problem. Unfortunately, the more desperate he gets for his next fix, the more likely he will be to commit a crime. But in reality it's a never-ending vicious cycle. These lads need to be taken off the street and be given the help they need. Unfortunately they also need to want to do that. And unfortunately the services available are sparse too. I wonder if the world would be a better place if everyone did a little random act of kindness for people less fortunate than oneself daily..." What they said ![]() | |||
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"Have ye ever been on the street? Drink or drugs is often a way to make it through a cold wet night. We are quick to judge however alot of homeless people need a coping mechanism. Yes drink and drugs aren't the best one. But alot of people here have a glass of wine to relax after a "stressful" day. Think of the scenario you cant get into a shelter for the night your scared thinking where can I sleep that's not just dry but also safe..safe from young d*unk rich idiots ridiculing me other homeless people who may rob me etc etc...walk a mile in their shoes so to speak. Some people have no family no back up..few bad breaks and they are out on their ass alone and scared." Exactly and people use sex to get by with other addictions they maybe even blind to then judging others. Just because someone isn't out on the streets they to can be struggling Like you say walk in their shoes the very sad part is that some actual want to stay on the street not to burden their family any longer. I do always give if i have the change and also i would chat sometimes aswell, it actually costs nothing to be nice for a few minutes. I think the government should build one big building to accommodate the homeless. | |||
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"I have this theory about time, I won't bore people but if someone begging for money is prepared to sit on a cold ground or stand in the pissing rain and something, I can afford to give, can help pass that persons time pass a bit more pleasantly, then I'm prepared to give it. What they need to use the money to purchase is no longer my concern. If you give something to anyone you should instantly relinquish any emotions you had attached to it. " ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I tend to give money to homeless people from time to time, but will ask too if they need food or cups of tea etc. I understand why people think it’s money that just enables them continuing to use drugs/alcohol, but in most cases with complex addiction they will still get their fix somewhere regardless if they get a few quid - likely through crime or worse, being exploited. Giving change or a few Euro, you aren’t creating or solving a problem, but it might alleviate some micro-risks to the individual in their day-to-day life. " ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I have this theory about time, I won't bore people but if someone begging for money is prepared to sit on a cold ground or stand in the pissing rain and something, I can afford to give, can help pass that persons time pass a bit more pleasantly, then I'm prepared to give it. What they need to use the money to purchase is no longer my concern. If you give something to anyone you should instantly relinquish any emotions you had attached to it. " Yes it should be more about the receiver than the giver. People are throwing away money in pubs and restaurants in a lavish lifestyle isn't it same difference only the people spending it on the streets are troubled and hopeless have no other coping mechanisms. | |||
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"So tonigh as I walked along Abbey street a young homeless lad about 24 or 25 asked me for €2 for a cup of tea. My first reaction was no as i had no change. He then said my own people wont even help me get a cup of tea so I was hoping you would. This made me smile as by "his own people" he means Irish and I look more Italian than Irish even though I'm 100% Irish. So I stopped and said come on I will get you a cup of tea. We walked along for a out 5 mins and I struck up conversation. We exchanged names where he was from. When I told him I worked near where he was from and told him what I did for a living his response was "well you know what I would have spent the €2 on if you gave it to me". I said yes and I wont give you money for that but if you still want that cup of tea and something to eat I will get it for you with card as I had no cash. He thanked for my offer but turned down the tea and food. He was a really nice lad and I genuinely felt for him. I was even tempted to take him for a pint to here is back story but I did not want to encourage drink either. So my question is. Who will give money to homeless people if you know where its going? This was my first time ever engaging with a homeless person for longer than 20 seconds but it did strike a cord with me as far as I could see he was a decent lad with a problem. " 100% sound | |||
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