FabSwingers.com forum: When someone recognises you on Fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.

Thoughts on this?

Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts??

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Its neither....they haven't outed you publicly...not that you're doing anything wrong in the first place

The best thing to do is block and move on

Would you rather they named themselves to you also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.

Thoughts on this?

Did they name you on the forums or in a message?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I still don't think there is any need to name me. I know i haven't done anything wrong. But i still think its rude personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just in private messaging.

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By *aggie MaeWoman
over a year ago

Just out and about

Block and delete and forget message

Chances are would prefer they don't want anyone knowing they are on fab

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By *t777Woman
over a year ago

close by

Then it's only you and them that know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Block and delete and forget message

Chances are would prefer they don't want anyone knowing they are on fab "

Yea that's what i thought aswell. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still don't think there is any need to name me. I know i haven't done anything wrong. But i still think its rude personally. "

Just block and move on,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why block them...

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Why block them..."

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah i don't see why I would block them either. Nothing to be ashamed of here. Done nothing wrong. Just think it is odd personally to have to spell out my name. I know my name and don't need reminding

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why block them...

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again "

I can resist the temptation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i don't see why I would block them either. Nothing to be ashamed of here. Done nothing wrong. Just think it is odd personally to have to spell out my name. I know my name and don't need reminding

I had a guy message constantly saying he seen me in my local supermarket, was creepy. I've had messages from guys local to me and I just no thanks and move on. I be more concerned if there was threats etc made the person possibly meant no harm. Forget it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I have 'forgotten' about it. O won't lose any sleep over it. Just wanted to see what others thought!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I have 'forgotten' about it. O won't lose any sleep over it. Just wanted to see what others thought! "

I won't lose any sleep*

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By *aggie MaeWoman
over a year ago

Just out and about

"Why block them...

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again

I can resist the temptation

Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why block them...

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again

I can resist the temptation

Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name "

I did message them back. Trust me when i say drama is not the intention here. Not me anyway. But would wonder about the dramatic spelling out of my name lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why block them...

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again

I can resist the temptation

Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name "
??????,or thay have something to hide your not the problem...

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

How do you dramatically write a name ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you dramatically write a name ..."

Caps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you dramatically write a name ...

Caps. "

Maybe they were surprised it was you

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By *aggie MaeWoman
over a year ago

Just out and about

"Why block them...

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again

I can resist the temptation

Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name

I did message them back. Trust me when i say drama is not the intention here. Not me anyway. But would wonder about the dramatic spelling out of my name lol "

Have you ever climbed an iceburg

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why block them...

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again

I can resist the temptation

Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name ??????,or thay have something to hide your not the problem..."

Interesting perspective

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you dramatically write a name ...

Caps.

Maybe they were surprised it was you

Hmmmm.... The plot thickens lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why block them...

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again

I can resist the temptation

Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name

I did message them back. Trust me when i say drama is not the intention here. Not me anyway. But would wonder about the dramatic spelling out of my name lol

Have you ever climbed an iceburg "

Yes so I know what is at the Tip. Not as interesting as you might expect I'll have you know

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By *aggie MaeWoman
over a year ago

Just out and about

"Why block them...

Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again

I can resist the temptation

Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name

I did message them back. Trust me when i say drama is not the intention here. Not me anyway. But would wonder about the dramatic spelling out of my name lol

Have you ever climbed an iceburg

Yes so I know what is at the Tip. Not as interesting as you might expect I'll have you know

What apart from ice is at the tip of an iceburg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way they phrased it to you sounded a bit odd/threatening but it's fine for someone to say they know you and if they'd be uncomfortable meeting because of that. They're on here for the exact same reasons as you after all

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

They put ur name in the message to simply enforce that they knew u in vanilla and dont want to engage here

If they had just said sorry we know u it could have went a number of ways with u replying how do they know u or simply replying oh no u dont

They know u they simply repeated ur name to u id say let it slide dont think about it and block them so as not to cause each other discomfort

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

It doesn't sound like they had poor intentions. Take it at face value - they know you bc you're too close to home and therefore don't want to meet you.

There was no threat to expose you.

Take the lesson and check distances before you send a pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t do anything

Don’t block them don’t do Nothing just move on, chances are they just fulla shite if they wana ride you they will and obviously they don’t. So yeah move on

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

To be honest I think it's quite bad form of them to let on that they recognise you. They should have just blocked you... and that's exactly what you should do to then.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Interesting to see how the responses here stack up against those in other threads where a woman has received exactly the same type of message.

The fact they not only said they knew you but made a point of naming you to confirm it is a veiled threat in itself.

If the op was a woman they would be arseholes for doing that. The fact that he's not a woman shouldn't matter and their reaction shouldn't be taken lightly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From experience with people recognising it's best to just block and ignore. Have been recognised by quite a few here, even had my parents old address and my full name given in chat room unfortunately all can do is block and leave it at that. Hopefully the person it was is discreet and will leave it be

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Not sure if we have been recognised on here, (if we have they haven't said anything)

We have recognised a few but all we did was block and not say anything to them

Mrs

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Thoughts on this?

I can respect that whoever you were already chatting to got cold feet and didn't want you knowing they're on here.

There has been a few people I already know in real life that found me here and just assumed that because I'm on fab - I'll be glad to have sex with them (yes, some men have that logic, go figure), so if I can avoid chatting to someone I know from real life - I do.

What I find extremely childish is random profiles messaging me my name or even someone else's name (thinking I'm someone else) and not telling me who they are.

Like just don't message at all if you're not prepared to tell me who you are. (Obviously I don't know you op and i don't mean specifically you)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts on this?

I can respect that whoever you were already chatting to got cold feet and didn't want you knowing they're on here.

What I find extremely childish is random profiles messaging me my name or even someone else's name (thinking I'm someone else) and not telling me who they are.

Like just don't message at all if you're not prepared to tell me who you are. (Obviously I don't know you op and i don't mean specifically you)"

This.

Been told I am someone specific that clearly I am not.

Or being recognised by someone that doesn't have the balls to tell me who they are. Also for them to recognise me from 10+ years ago wow. I feel flattered.

Miss_tattoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting to see how the responses here stack up against those in other threads where a woman has received exactly the same type of message.

The fact they not only said they knew you but made a point of naming you to confirm it is a veiled threat in itself.

If the op was a woman they would be arseholes for doing that. The fact that he's not a woman shouldn't matter and their reaction shouldn't be taken lightly. "

Exactly.

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By *lueAndBooCouple
over a year ago

Meath

Not sure what was going through their head. That's not a nice situation regardless. We've had a similar situation with a guy we recognised and we just said it's a bit close to home for us.

Maybe it's possible they gave you your name so you would 100% know too that you are chatting with someone who knows you.

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

Thoughts on this?

Think it's a shitty thing to do to someone. Either they should have said nothing and replied no thanks not for us or said oh I know you here is my picture

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

On a slightly different note, if someone asks for a face pic, they should be prepared to send theirs first. That's the rule we apply anyway.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I was at a wedding once and got recognised, he mailed me telling me what I was wearing and even said he laughed when my friends husband took my shoe off and hide it behind the bar, was going to approach me but thought I was with my husband it was my dad.

Also got followed round tesco another time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On a slightly different note, if someone asks for a face pic, they should be prepared to send theirs first. That's the rule we apply anyway."

We simply dont exchange face pics, too many nutjobs/people with agendas/utter lack of discretion. It's clearly stated on our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also avoid anyone who is too close by.

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By *amDaveCouple
over a year ago

somewhere

Had a lad that knew Sam from a place she used to work. Anyway long, story short, we're going ahead with the meet

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By *lueAndBooCouple
over a year ago

Meath

"Had a lad that knew Sam from a place she used to work. Anyway long, story short, we're going ahead with the meet

Yeah I guess everyone is in the same boat. Would hardly go telling people I met someone I know on a swingers site.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Thoughts on this?

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Have had the exact same thing happen to me by my ex Boss (and his wife)

It was very much "I know all about you but you don't know me". I didn't sleep well that night but then tweeked it the next day with...

"Yes, indeed S, thanks for giving me discretion as discretion is a two way street. Do enjoy your 9.30am Sunday run!"

...was the first time ever he didn't have the last word! Op it can be horrible when it happens but as long as you're not attached, you've nothing to be ashamed of here as let's face it, they're most likely here for the very same thing

So chin up and chest out Mr Sultan of Swing!

Respect

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By *hris 62Man
over a year ago

HEREFORD

I had this and than they block you

Thoughts on this?

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"On a slightly different note, if someone asks for a face pic, they should be prepared to send theirs first. That's the rule we apply anyway.

We simply dont exchange face pics, too many nutjobs/people with agendas/utter lack of discretion. It's clearly stated on our profile. "

Well yes of course, they would need to be well verified and/or verified by people we already know

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By *ercc63Man
over a year ago

Hillsborough

Has happend me twuce

Once had arranged (with wife) to meet couple - then hubby saw my pic and said he knew me - so I was then blocked !

Second time was arranging meet with a lady - when she saw pic she recognised me - apologised but didnt want me to know who she was and again blocked me

Was curious with both as to who they were !!

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I was trying to help a young lady find a plumber but it was late Friday afternoon ..I told to try a few place but cos I was from the same area as her she obviously got afraid cos she disappeared .I was devastated I was only trying to help her but unfortunatly she must have got a fright must have been way to close to her .

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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I've recognised a couple of lads here that I actually flirted with in real life and never got round to playing with. Was only delighted they were on here!

They didn't recognise me at all though!

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By *ymbunny2016Man
over a year ago

Bangor

My cousin was at a meet and greet I attended

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By *issLipsandhipsWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"My cousin was at a meet and greet I attended

I would genuinely die lol

Did you have an awkward chat?

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By *ymbunny2016Man
over a year ago

Bangor

"My cousin was at a meet and greet I attended

I would genuinely die lol

Did you have an awkward chat? "

I pretended I didn’t see her and got out of there lol

Never been spoken about since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, over the years both me and my partner have ran in to people we have know and some we have played with some we have not but never has it once been awkard after the initial recognition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with a guy that's on fab and we have a great laugh at the messages we get and the drama that goes on here. I'm not embarrassed to be on here. Nor do I hide the fact that I'm here.

But the person who knows you most likely has something to hide or dosnt want it known that they're on fab. I wouldn't go blocking them as it might cause offence but I would just take their message as they're not interested and I'd move on.

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By *ocogreyTV/TS
over a year ago

secret

For me I’m more curious to know who the other person is if he/she know me. I don’t mind meeting ppl whom I know or close to home. At the end of the day we are all here for a bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting to see how the responses here stack up against those in other threads where a woman has received exactly the same type of message.

The fact they not only said they knew you but made a point of naming you to confirm it is a veiled threat in itself.

If the op was a woman they would be arseholes for doing that. The fact that he's not a woman shouldn't matter and their reaction shouldn't be taken lightly. "

Funny little world is Fab

Man talks sense

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By *13_hercMan
over a year ago

Blackrock

I don't really see what the issue is. They spelt your name - to prove they know you - and let you down gently by saying you lived too close. I would think that they do not want anyone who knows them knowing their little secret - that they are on Fab.

Can't understand why you would need to know them, unless you don't want them stalking you, and your veri's

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"I don't really see what the issue is. They spelt your name - to prove they know you - and let you down gently by saying you lived too close. I would think that they do not want anyone who knows them knowing their little secret - that they are on Fab.

Can't understand why you would need to know them, unless you don't want them stalking you, and your veri's "

The point is they really have no need to put his real name into a message. Some people would be scared and intimidated by that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts on this?

If someone asks for a face photo they should at least send one first out of courtesy. Unfortunately you've learned the hard way here. Lots like I don't send face pics anymore as something like this can be abused and can be a little too risky. Their response revealing your name made you uncomfortable and thats not a nice feeling so maybe then you should block them, So none of your content or fab activities are known to them.

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

Replying with your name does carry an implicit threat.

I don't think there's much you can do, but it's bad form on their part.

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