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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

So was reading a similar themed thread in the lounge and it got me thinking :

How big a thing is being lazy in bed ?

I prefer being the more active participant , So it doesn’t bother me hugely .

I also think that it’s miraculous that you know , we’re on the planet , alive , thriving , and even getting people to agree to take off their clothes in our presence . So this is merely a first world problem in my book .

But has it led to ‘bad sex’ for you ? Or even hinted at something deeper like not feeling desired ?

As always a respectful discussion would be great and please do not post anything which identifies others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be fairly active in the bedroom too and I've never been any other way. Sex is what you make of it and even if you both just have a quick fumble and cum then it's good sex, maybe not great sex but good sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define lazy

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Laying back and thinking of (insert country)

Not taking the initiative at any point

I think

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I presume you mean fucking and not having a lie in

I think it's fair to expect the same effort that you put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I think this might be a case of one man's lazy is another's active participant.

Are you lazy if you don't get on top and ride him like you're a cowboy? Are you lazy if you don't take 50% of the initiative?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a lie in, perving fab, maybe a bit of self play is one of life's great pleasures. Alternatively not being lazy in bed is another one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See I think this might be a case of one man's lazy is another's active participant.

Are you lazy if you don't get on top and ride him like you're a cowboy? Are you lazy if you don't take 50% of the initiative? "

I believe a lot of men feel they do all the work simply because they’re moving their hips

I think lazy and unadventurous get confused when talking about sex!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I can only comment from a straight woman's perspective and I would distinguish lazy as in 'inactive' and 'lazy in approach'.

Inactive:

Pillow princes do exist, but it has one advantage, you're in charge and you might get something out for yourself.

Much more common is the lazy approach:

1) No effort at all, just stuff the cock in there until you cum = selfish fuck (worst case)

2) The one formulaic approach fits all, no exploring but making some sort of generic effort to please

Yes, all can lead to bad sex, simply because it's a onesided interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only comment from a straight woman's perspective and I would distinguish lazy as in 'inactive' and 'lazy in approach'.

Inactive:

Pillow princes do exist, but it has one advantage, you're in charge and you might get something out for yourself.

Much more common is the lazy approach:

1) No effort at all, just stuff the cock in there until you cum = selfish fuck (worst case)

2) The one formulaic approach fits all, no exploring but making some sort of generic effort to please

Yes, all can lead to bad sex, simply because it's a onesided interaction. "

Best definition of someone I know

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By *ottie00Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

I would be very active in the bedroom, I like to enjoy every moment. I cant imagine being any other way. I think if you're both of the same mindset then there wouldn't be any "laziness" sexually. But no cumming...couldn't imagine not, that to me is bad sex but thats just my personal opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lazy in bed god ya when I'm in it on my own, I love it but when I have some hot sexy company

Love sex and it definitely is a case of give andctake for me, love been in control and love been taken control of, as for a lazy fuck been with guys who I would call a selfish fuck rather than a lazy fuck.

Now I'm off back to bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally I put in as little effort as possible.

Before during and after.

I mean... ya don't wanna be setting standards too high like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've encountered this just the once

The guy literally lay on the bed and enjoyed the fun!

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"We've encountered this just the once

The guy literally lay on the bed and enjoyed the fun!"

Lucky so and so

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By *mmmm300Woman
over a year ago

cork

On occasion, it should be just all about me. Lol but I will absolutely return that favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel its better to be proactive in the bedroom. The more effort you put in, the more you get out of it.

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I think it depends who I'm with and how active they are.

I'm probably more passive if its good but I am vocal about what I like and I like to talk

If whats happening isn't working for me then I'm changing it. If it still doesn't work for me then I'm ruining their orgasm for my own entertainment

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Should really add...if I'm giving a handjob then I want the person to lie back and let me do what I want

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

I am taking so many notes it’s really hard to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should really add...if I'm giving a handjob then I want the person to lie back and let me do what I want "

Used to have a bit of a dilemma when getting a handy or Bj about what should I do…..

One day I was told just f*cking sit back and enjoy!

That was that!

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Should really add...if I'm giving a handjob then I want the person to lie back and let me do what I want

Used to have a bit of a dilemma when getting a handy or Bj about what should I do…..

One day I was told just f*cking sit back and enjoy!

That was that! "

Exactly this.

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By *unner4funMan
over a year ago

Belfast-Coleraine


"Should really add...if I'm giving a handjob then I want the person to lie back and let me do what I want "

I'd lie there all week and let you do what you want after seeing your video's.....

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Should really add...if I'm giving a handjob then I want the person to lie back and let me do what I want

I'd lie there all week and let you do what you want after seeing your video's..... "

Jayzus my hands would be getting some cramps if I was at it for a week!

You are just up the road like but thats not an invitation for a week!

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Lazy or laziness is not an apt way to describe the interaction of two people in the sack, sexually.

There are so many possible variables: the enthusiasm of each for the other; their normal energy level; whether they are tired; if they are intoxicated, or not.

The most significant is whether you 'fancy' the other person.

It's like everything else in life; if you're really interested, it will be very evident from your attitudes and behaviours.

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By *unner4funMan
over a year ago

Belfast-Coleraine


"Should really add...if I'm giving a handjob then I want the person to lie back and let me do what I want

I'd lie there all week and let you do what you want after seeing your video's.....

Jayzus my hands would be getting some cramps if I was at it for a week!

You are just up the road like but thats not an invitation for a week!"

Lololol very good

If this is what the almond oil is for better make it 2 bottles, I'm greedy!!!

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


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Jayzus my hands would be getting some cramps if I was at it for a week!

You are just up the road like but thats not an invitation for a week!

Lololol very good

If this is what the almond oil is for better make it 2 bottles, I'm greedy!!! "

Haha yes the oil is for that

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By *omebirdWoman
over a year ago

N7

Depends on the day of the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on how turn on your are

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Haven't been accused of that...yet...but you know what they say

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By *aggie MaeWoman
over a year ago

Just out and about

Ack I read the header and thought this was a thread about not wanting to get up on a day off because it's cosy under the duvet, I thought I was going to look at a duvet day appreciation thread

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