FabSwingers.com forum: Long term users of Fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever lose interest in the site ? After rejoining a few weeks ago, I feel the novelty is wearing off again. The same auld craic it gets mundane. How do long term Fabbers keep interested? Or is it just a form of escapism from everyday life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose interest in the site ? After rejoining a few weeks ago, I feel the novelty is wearing off again. The same auld craic it gets mundane. How do long term Fabbers keep interested? Or is it just a form of escapism from everyday life"

Take breaks and come back when your interest is peaked.

The forum does get repetitive and it's a case of diminishing returns. Most of the jokes and opinions repeat and recycle.

But fortunately it's really easy to leave or hide and come back.

And for some it's the main form of socialising and meeting people so I assume for them it doesn't really get mundane in the same way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide my profile and take a break for few weeks , or just avoid the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are in a cycle of diminishing returns lol. like a love affair thats lost its shine but you cant quite let go of. commit to love warts and all, or let go!!

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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago

Cork

Not sure we’d count as long term users but we try our best (not always successful) to compartmentalise fab as an ancillary to our sex life ONLY, by avoiding forum engagement on non sex/ swinging or fab related topics.

Whenever fab gets boring for us, it’s generally a reflection of our own inactivity, so it’s a prompt to make an effort with new contacts, arrange meets and maybe take & post some updated photos. We’ve accepted a kind of ‘you get out what you put in’ attitude to the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your views. It can consume your life easily if you let it

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By *icklowbiguyMan
over a year ago

Wicklow

I only watch the forums usually and enjoy them mostly apart from the silly good morning ones with same people posting same messages every day, its light weight fun for me just pass time here now n then but am always amused at how seriously some users take it. So it is just escapism here for me anyway as I'm not looking for meets etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah think truth be told I can take or leave meeting for sex, mainly more for the craic and seeing peoples reactions on the forums

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Oh god yes ,if its not stimulating, time for a break !

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've been here 5 years which probably doesn't class as long term but it's my 4th profile in that time and I don't live here.

I come and go when it pleases me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah think truth be told I can take or leave meeting for sex, mainly more for the craic and seeing peoples reactions on the forums"

Do you think that maybe saying things or creating threads just to illicit a reaction from people has gotten boring for you?

Would you try more earnest interaction on here and see if that kept your interest more this time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah think truth be told I can take or leave meeting for sex, mainly more for the craic and seeing peoples reactions on the forums

Do you think that maybe saying things or creating threads just to illicit a reaction from people has gotten boring for you?

Would you try more earnest interaction on here and see if that kept your interest more this time?"

Will you give over with that personal responsibility stuff

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah think truth be told I can take or leave meeting for sex, mainly more for the craic and seeing peoples reactions on the forums

Do you think that maybe saying things or creating threads just to illicit a reaction from people has gotten boring for you?

Would you try more earnest interaction on here and see if that kept your interest more this time?"

Not looking for reaction. I just like to say things as they are, I’m quite open about my thoughts in the real world too and will share an opinion even if it goes against the grain. Some people don’t like it.

But I don’t like dry chat for the sake of it and forum posts/threads perceiving me to be a “nice guy” just to get the ride bore me and they stand out a mile.

My rant

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Fab is what you make of it. Make it work for you and what you want.

If all you want to do is start forum threads to get a reaction, by all means do but I’m sure that’ll get boring fairly quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fab is what you make of it. Make it work for you and what you want.

If all you want to do is start forum threads to get a reaction, by all means do but I’m sure that’ll get boring fairly quickly. "

Maybe you’re right… not looking for a reaction btw.

But probably right,, I’m not really looking for sex here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah think truth be told I can take or leave meeting for sex, mainly more for the craic and seeing peoples reactions on the forums

Do you think that maybe saying things or creating threads just to illicit a reaction from people has gotten boring for you?

Would you try more earnest interaction on here and see if that kept your interest more this time?

But I don’t like dry chat for the sake of it and forum posts/threads perceiving me to be a “nice guy” just to get the ride bore me and they stand out a mile.

My rant

I'm kinda just going off your own posts where you have made a provocative thread and then said it was to see the reaction.

And from what I quoted above you like observing people's reactions.

Maybe I was incorrect it just seems like that would be a pretty hollow way of interacting and I can see why it would get boring very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah think truth be told I can take or leave meeting for sex, mainly more for the craic and seeing peoples reactions on the forums

Do you think that maybe saying things or creating threads just to illicit a reaction from people has gotten boring for you?

Would you try more earnest interaction on here and see if that kept your interest more this time?

But I don’t like dry chat for the sake of it and forum posts/threads perceiving me to be a “nice guy” just to get the ride bore me and they stand out a mile.

My rant

I'm kinda just going off your own posts where you have made a provocative thread and then said it was to see the reaction.

And from what I quoted above you like observing people's reactions.

Maybe I was incorrect it just seems like that would be a pretty hollow way of interacting and I can see why it would get boring very quickly."

Possibly

After years of Fab I suppose I’ve grown lazy of putting in the effort for meet

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I'm a daily user of fab. I've never put a huge amount of thought or effort into how I use it or how I interact with it. It helps me pass the time wfh tbh. I dip in and out of it the same I do Instagram or rte.ie etc.

High expectations = disappointment/the news for a break most likely.

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Yeah, I am not on here near as much as before and I'm just sort of going through the motions with the place.

Break needed probably. I'm sure I'll be back and more active on it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on and off in different names about 5k years now to varying degrees of interest and involvement,usually between relationships. This is one of my longest spells here. I've not actually had a whole lot of meets and it's mostly been chats. Probably due to delete and start again now any minute haha..

Had been on/met more on another site years ago but that's gone to shit. Prefer this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 years. Not 5k years. I'm not THAT old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"5 years. Not 5k years. I'm not THAT old"

It just feels like it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"5 years. Not 5k years. I'm not THAT old

It just feels like it? "

It absolutely does.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Yeah of course but I just don't go on...

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

I'm probably not in the category of long term users but would be in the category of losing interest in the site.

When I notice myself get fatigued with Fab it's usually after making an effort to engage and not getting much of a response. But, I've started to see Fab as a sort of personal development tool.

I try to see if there is anything I can change that might either improve my engagements with women/couples on here and/or not allow that fatigue to set in.

I [try to] become aware of my expectations and [try to] drop them. I try to reinvent my profile and have more fun with it. I try to change up the way I write messages to see if that makes a difference.

And, when none of that works I mentally beat myself up and cry myself to sleep...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm probably not in the category of long term users but would be in the category of losing interest in the site.

When I notice myself get fatigued with Fab it's usually after making an effort to engage and not getting much of a response. But, I've started to see Fab as a sort of personal development tool.

I try to see if there is anything I can change that might either improve my engagements with women/couples on here and/or not allow that fatigue to set in.

And, when none of that works I mentally beat myself up and cry myself to sleep...

I have noticed more self-deprecating humour in your posts lately alright!!

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

I have noticed more self-deprecating humour in your posts lately alright!!

Humour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No have never lost interest in fabswingers, have made great friends and lovers, and allowing for all tmewssters and messers

Still enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose interest now and again. Just take a break until we decide whether to come back or not.

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By *atekeeperAndKeymasterCouple
over a year ago

Derry/Donegal

Sometimes we just aren’t feeling it for whatever reason and we just take a breather . We always end up back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm probably not in the category of long term users but would be in the category of losing interest in the site.

When I notice myself get fatigued with Fab it's usually after making an effort to engage and not getting much of a response. But, I've started to see Fab as a sort of personal development tool.

I try to see if there is anything I can change that might either improve my engagements with women/couples on here and/or not allow that fatigue to set in.

And, when none of that works I mentally beat myself up and cry myself to sleep...

I have noticed more self-deprecating humour in your posts lately alright!!

Sssshhh !!! It makes me seem more human and in touch with my feminine side

Ladies love that !

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Not even gonna say how long I’ve been on fab, but don’t use it for meets at all anymore. For me, it’s like people watching, absolutely fascinating to see peoples opinions, and especially how some change on the breeze. Fab actually depicts quite well what happens in society and wider social media, the hunger for notoriety and popularity, and peoples ability to portray a lifestyle they aspire to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not even gonna say how long I’ve been on fab, but don’t use it for meets at all anymore. For me, it’s like people watching, absolutely fascinating to see peoples opinions, and especially how some change on the breeze. Fab actually depicts quite well what happens in society and wider social media, the hunger for notoriety and popularity, and peoples ability to portray a lifestyle they aspire to "

100% agree with you!! It’s a funny show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn it, you're onto us!!

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Damn it, you're onto us!! "

..or else you’re onto me!!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The old adage of "its not what you know but who you know" has a fab twist.

It's not who you know but who you want others to think you know.

Hence the daily forum tagging.

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

The old adage of "its not what you know but who you know" has a fab twist.

It's not who you know but who you want others to think you know.

Hence the daily forum tagging. "

If you watch closely you can see people figuring out the ‘correct’ personality traits and morphing into that person. I wonder do they change in real life also and become ‘all things to all men’ type characters or is it purely for show.

Would anyone admit to becoming a better person based on what fab taught them??

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The old adage of "its not what you know but who you know" has a fab twist.

It's not who you know but who you want others to think you know.

Hence the daily forum tagging.

Would anyone admit to becoming a better person based on what fab taught them??"

You don't actually have to watch that closely. There are some people who bear no resemblance to who they were just a couple of years ago because they have learned to play the game.

Apparently you can fool some of the people all of the time.

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