FabSwingers.com forum: Red Flags

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what are some red flags you see from people on Fab?

The one that, I find mad is on a single woman's profile and then you see in the bio

"My other half has access to this profile"

Just make a couples profiler.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what are some red flags you see from people on Fab?

The one that, I find mad is on a single woman's profile and then you see in the bio

"My other half has access to this profile"

Just make a couples profiler."

Why do you consider that a red flag?

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"So what are some red flags you see from people on Fab?

The one that, I find mad is on a single woman's profile and then you see in the bio

"My other half has access to this profile"

Just make a couples profiler."

I dont see how thats a red flag. She could be meeting solo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what are some red flags you see from people on Fab?

The one that, I find mad is on a single woman's profile and then you see in the bio

"My other half has access to this profile"

Just make a couples profiler.

Why do you consider that a red flag?"

I can see why that would be a red flag to be fair. It "explains" why man might respond to your messages etc...

It is a bit of a warning that it might not actually be a female on the other end. Obviously that needs to be considered with other factors on the profile taken into account

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Photo's showing up on a profile as taken from the internet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm on my own here so lol.

If the person needs to see what people are saying to her and vice versa or having to check up on them. Couple's profile.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Single profiles that talk as if they are couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Photo's showing up on a profile as taken from the internet "

Big Red flag for us and one we learned the hard way recently

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By *orkGuyFunGuyMan
over a year ago

Cork

A lot of red flags on here lately, getting swamped with gay men pretending to be women, starting to turn me off the place abit

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The nature of the site means that what screams out red flag to me is perfectly acceptable to others.

There are also different grades of red flags.

It's like a Dulux colour card ranging from "Notafuckingchanceinhell crimson" to "ThatseemsdodgybutIdontwanttobeleftoutsoIllignoreit pink".

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Personal red flag - many photos with different partners.

No problem with many different partners. Problem with taking photos. Some people are so keen to take photos that sometimes they don't even ask if you're okay with it (happened to me not so long ago - a guy I met over 3 years ago sent me a photo of me that he took when I wasn't looking).

Status updates can tell a tale about someone too... not a very pretty tale at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men that are extremely pushy and too eager to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long have you got OP?

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By *umpkinnMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Not picture verified but verified by one man, usually very shortly after joining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personal red flag - many photos with different partners.

Status updates can tell a tale about someone too... not a very pretty tale at that. "

This happened to me in my earlier days in swing i was more vulnerable and he was sending me videos and pictures if other women with face in them. Now that effected me right up to now hence why i don't do big group meets or won't play in an open situation often either without something on me and actually can't enjoy it because i am watching for some one with a phone.

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By *xBelMorriganMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"A lot of red flags on here lately, getting swamped with gay men pretending to be women, starting to turn me off the place abit "

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you aren't being blatantly Transphobic and are referring to people setting up fake profiles.

Helpful reminder:

Trans women are women.

Trans men are men.

Non-Binary people are valid.

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By *orkGuyFunGuyMan
over a year ago

Cork

"A lot of red flags on here lately, getting swamped with gay men pretending to be women, starting to turn me off the place abit

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you aren't being blatantly Transphobic and are referring to people setting up fake profiles.

Helpful reminder:

Trans women are women.

Trans men are men.

Non-Binary people are valid.

I have absolutely ZERO issues with the LGBTQ+ community. Not got me but I fully support.

However what I’m referencing is men, with pics of females on there profile, pretending to be women, not stating that they are gay/trans/tv/ts anything at all like that, but blatantly saying they are women and going through the conversations, getting sent pics and vids, that look homemade, that look like what I’m looking for, but are actually men. Pic and vid hunting.

No issue with what anyone wants to be, but don’t say you are one thing and act as such. When they are not.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Personal red flag - many photos with different partners.

Status updates can tell a tale about someone too... not a very pretty tale at that.

There was a party coming up once, I wasn't planning on going, but some guy assumed I was. He messaged me stating how he can't wait to get his hands on me at the party.

Told him even if I did go - there is no chance of him going anywhere near me with his attitude.

To which he replied - once you see my cock you'll be all over it.

And that was the moment when I made up my mind - never will anyone find me at any sex parties that we didn't organise ourselves.

Creeps like that is why so many women get put off from living out their own fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of red flags on here lately, getting swamped with gay men pretending to be women, starting to turn me off the place abit

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you aren't being blatantly Transphobic and are referring to people setting up fake profiles.

Helpful reminder:

Trans women are women.

Trans men are men.

Non-Binary people are valid.

There was no benefit of doubt to be given. It was a clear reference to men on here pretending to be women. Because it happens quite a lot!You must have been lying in wait to try and voice your trans opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of red flags on here lately, getting swamped with gay men pretending to be women, starting to turn me off the place abit

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you aren't being blatantly Transphobic and are referring to people setting up fake profiles.

Helpful reminder:

Trans women are women.

Trans men are men.

Non-Binary people are valid.

100% agree with this.

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By *lamingo57Woman
over a year ago

Carrick

"hi I see you deleted my message but here I am messaging you again"

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

When a woman replies to your message.

Serious red flag! I mean, who actually replies on here?

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"When a woman replies to your message.

Serious red flag! I mean, who actually replies on here?

I do. Mostly. Kind of

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By *orkGuyFunGuyMan
over a year ago

Cork

"A lot of red flags on here lately, getting swamped with gay men pretending to be women, starting to turn me off the place abit

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you aren't being blatantly Transphobic and are referring to people setting up fake profiles.

Helpful reminder:

Trans women are women.

Trans men are men.

Non-Binary people are valid.

Cheers for the back up! Jumped down my throat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a woman replies to your message.

Serious red flag! I mean, who actually replies on here?

Hey don't say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on my own here so lol.

If the person needs to see what people are saying to her and vice versa or having to check up on them. Couple's profile."

Or he's just looking out for her perhaps at her request?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"A lot of red flags on here lately, getting swamped with gay men pretending to be women, starting to turn me off the place abit

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you aren't being blatantly Transphobic and are referring to people setting up fake profiles.

Helpful reminder:

Trans women are women.

Trans men are men.

Non-Binary people are valid.

Are Trans opinions not allowed...thought they would have been as valid as anyone else's

Op made himself clear to me as to who he meant but just maybe he was picked up wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How long have you got OP? "

Till around 1am ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they are allowed. But this was a blatant half excuse to voice them on someone who didn’t mention anything in relation to it. Someone moulding an unrelated comment to fit their own agenda. Which is very annoying

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

I do. Mostly. Kind of

I presume this is from Skadi

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

Hey don't say that

Or have you blocked when you go to reply

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By *icevicebabyWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

Pics that are blurry and/or clearly old.

Someone new who hides their verification.

Someone here over a year that is still unverified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey don't say that

Or have you blocked when you go to reply

That's not me didn't i chat to you.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Someone here over a year that is still unverified."

Can open, worms everywhere…..

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By *umpkinnMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Someone new who hides their verification.

Something I just realized in the manage verifications page "Verifications from users who have left Fab won't show below."

So you can have verifications which can't be displayed anymore but will still count to your summary.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Having a profile here.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

I do. Mostly. Kind of

I presume this is from Skadi

You presume correctly

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Safe sex listed in interests and multiple bareback photos with multiple partners.

The notepad feature is well worth the supporter fee.

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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Pics from 5 years ago.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Single profiles that talk as if they are couples."

... and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big red flag is profile over a year old with no verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples profile wiyh only pics of guy,

Single girl profile with a guy on cam on his own

Cant accomadate and cant travel but wont meet anyone local

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Couples profile wiyh only pics of guy,

Single girl profile with a guy on cam on his own

Cant accomadate and cant travel but wont meet anyone local

Couples profiles with pics of the lady only and they are looking for couples. Wtf is he afraid of?

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

You presume correctly

Wait! I always presumed that the male of the couple was shown on the left hand side of the profile but I've just done some very basic research and it seems my assumption might not be justified...

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

You presume correctly

Wait! I always presumed that the male of the couple was shown on the left hand side of the profile but I've just done some very basic research and it seems my assumption might not be justified..."

Yeah i think im first on our profile. U know its me coz im a short arse

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

Yeah i think im first on our profile. U know its me coz im a short arse

That's not the adjective I'd use to describe your arse....oh, you mean your height! I should've spotted that

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Yeah i think im first on our profile. U know its me coz im a short arse

That's not the adjective I'd use to describe your arse....oh, you mean your height! I should've spotted that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples where its only the fella seems to be available to meet.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Forum threads inviting people to join chatgroups to share pics of their wives has to be a blatant red flag but yet it is currently happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Photo's showing up on a profile as taken from the internet "

They usually end up on hot pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see that as a red flag? I’ve had encounters with couples running a F page as only F meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cork GAA and Munster rugby supporters. They're everywhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when they say they are really into semaphore play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You presume correctly

Wait! I always presumed that the male of the couple was shown on the left hand side of the profile but I've just done some very basic research and it seems my assumption might not be justified..."

So did I - WHAAAT??

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By *adrarfjordr VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Waterford

Profiles that have pics but are not photo verified

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By *ount-IblisMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Any account with status updates that look like its been set up to sell or ask for drugs.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Someone here over a year that is still unverified.

I think you need to take into account the fact that we are emerging from one of the worst pandemics for 100 years; I have benn hanging in here, hoping things will now start to improve, and that meeting face to face will become feasible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was asked for pic this morning. I replied u first as I am verified and here for years. She replied "rude" and blocked me. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually when I check her pictures out and she has 3 tits instead of 2. That does ring some bells and arouse suspicion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was asked for pic this morning. I replied u first as I am verified and here for years. She replied "rude" and blocked me. Lol."

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