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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. " Your OP and your thread title are very different. Which one do you mean specifically? Taking it at face value, people can do what they want once they're happy. They dont need your approval. Just move along if something offends you | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. Your OP and your thread title are very different. Which one do you mean specifically? Taking it at face value, people can do what they want once they're happy. They dont need your approval. Just move along if something offends you " Nobody needs my approval and I am not offended by trans people and I respect everyone. My opinion is that a trans woman is not a woman. Just because someone “identifies” as something doesn’t make it a fact. I respect your opinion but I think I should be entitled to mine and have that respected also. | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. Your OP and your thread title are very different. Which one do you mean specifically? Taking it at face value, people can do what they want once they're happy. They dont need your approval. Just move along if something offends you Nobody needs my approval and I am not offended by trans people and I respect everyone. My opinion is that a trans woman is not a woman. Just because someone “identifies” as something doesn’t make it a fact. I respect your opinion but I think I should be entitled to mine and have that respected also." Has anyone said you're not entitled to that opinion.... Your opinion is a load of bollox therefore I don't have to respect it | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. " Nobody is forcing you to address them as women... its a bit of an asshole move to deliberately disregard how they see themselves and how they would choose to be addressed, but if you're happy behaving in that way then nobody can stop you. I know who would come out looking worse though. Hint: that would be you. | |||
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"Why feed the troll, people? " that's not a troll. | |||
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"Why feed the troll, people? that's not a troll. " Oh the irony | |||
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"Why feed the troll, people? that's not a troll. Oh the irony" no irony. just because you don't like what he said. it's a common theme on Fab. | |||
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"In the 37 minutes since this thread was posted I'd absolutely love to see the amount of block lists the OP is on..." lol probably loads since he voiced his true opinion. that's frowned upon on fab. | |||
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"In the 37 minutes since this thread was posted I'd absolutely love to see the amount of block lists the OP is on...lol probably loads since he voiced his true opinion. that's frowned upon on fab. " I wonder how many times he will reiterate it over the next 2 years? | |||
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"In the 37 minutes since this thread was posted I'd absolutely love to see the amount of block lists the OP is on...lol probably loads since he voiced his true opinion. that's frowned upon on fab. I wonder how many times he will reiterate it over the next 2 years?" doesn't make a blind bit of difference. he spoke his made, gave his opinion which he's intitled to do. | |||
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"In the 37 minutes since this thread was posted I'd absolutely love to see the amount of block lists the OP is on...lol probably loads since he voiced his true opinion. that's frowned upon on fab. I wonder how many times he will reiterate it over the next 2 years?doesn't make a blind bit of difference. he spoke his made, gave his opinion which he's intitled to do. " mind | |||
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"In the 37 minutes since this thread was posted I'd absolutely love to see the amount of block lists the OP is on...lol probably loads since he voiced his true opinion. that's frowned upon on fab. " Nah... they're not blocking him "since he voiced his true opinion", they're blocking him because they think he has a shite opinion | |||
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"In the 37 minutes since this thread was posted I'd absolutely love to see the amount of block lists the OP is on...lol probably loads since he voiced his true opinion. that's frowned upon on fab. Nah... they're not blocking him "since he voiced his true opinion", they're blocking him because they think he has a shite opinion " no, they're blocking him because it's not "the norm fab opinion". have seen it numerous times in the past. would I block a person that differed an opinion to me? absolutely not. I'd be very petty if I did. | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. " You are of course entitled to your opinion. And to articulating it. We all are. Trans is actually a spectrum of gender identification. I am a genderqueer drag queen. While I have no interest or intention to change my physical characteristics everyone who has met me has said theirs no male left at least in mannerisms and psychology. But people use the female pronoun when talking to me, without me asking them to. It's called respect. It's called social behaviour. Gender is as much social as it's biology. I don't object to your opinions but I suspect you've had little or no experience of being around trans women. Maybe your opinions would change. Maybe you would voice your opinion and adhere to the micro aggressions of him/mate etc. Then I'd have to question your identification. Calling yourself a man is one thing behaving like one quite another. | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. You are of course entitled to your opinion. And to articulating it. We all are. Trans is actually a spectrum of gender identification. I am a genderqueer drag queen. While I have no interest or intention to change my physical characteristics everyone who has met me has said theirs no male left at least in mannerisms and psychology. But people use the female pronoun when talking to me, without me asking them to. It's called respect. It's called social behaviour. Gender is as much social as it's biology. I don't object to your opinions but I suspect you've had little or no experience of being around trans women. Maybe your opinions would change. Maybe you would voice your opinion and adhere to the micro aggressions of him/mate etc. Then I'd have to question your identification. Calling yourself a man is one thing behaving like one quite another. " Thank you for your response which I appreciate. I would certainly only use the appropriate female pronoun addressing you or any other trans person out of respect. I am not a troll and am not trying to provoke or antagonise you or anyone else. I agree the issue may be that I cannot accept or understand that a man who identifies as a woman is a woman regardless of mannerisms or psychology. I realise it must be very difficult to be a man and want to be a woman but I think men who identify as women are separate to women who are women. I think once a trans woman no longer has a penis they are certainly more like a female but not the same as a woman who was born a woman and is a woman | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. You are of course entitled to your opinion. And to articulating it. We all are. Trans is actually a spectrum of gender identification. I am a genderqueer drag queen. While I have no interest or intention to change my physical characteristics everyone who has met me has said theirs no male left at least in mannerisms and psychology. But people use the female pronoun when talking to me, without me asking them to. It's called respect. It's called social behaviour. Gender is as much social as it's biology. I don't object to your opinions but I suspect you've had little or no experience of being around trans women. Maybe your opinions would change. Maybe you would voice your opinion and adhere to the micro aggressions of him/mate etc. Then I'd have to question your identification. Calling yourself a man is one thing behaving like one quite another. Thank you for your response which I appreciate. I would certainly only use the appropriate female pronoun addressing you or any other trans person out of respect. I am not a troll and am not trying to provoke or antagonise you or anyone else. I agree the issue may be that I cannot accept or understand that a man who identifies as a woman is a woman regardless of mannerisms or psychology. I realise it must be very difficult to be a man and want to be a woman but I think men who identify as women are separate to women who are women. I think once a trans woman no longer has a penis they are certainly more like a female but not the same as a woman who was born a woman and is a woman " Trans women are not arguing for biological parity, that's not what is happening. The reason your opinion was considered inflammatory is because the issue isn't biological gender it's social gender. Essentially this means physical, psychological and economic safety and these only come with recognition both in law and from society. I appreciate your more considered post. Everyone should be able to voice their opinion. | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. You are of course entitled to your opinion. And to articulating it. We all are. Trans is actually a spectrum of gender identification. I am a genderqueer drag queen. While I have no interest or intention to change my physical characteristics everyone who has met me has said theirs no male left at least in mannerisms and psychology. But people use the female pronoun when talking to me, without me asking them to. It's called respect. It's called social behaviour. Gender is as much social as it's biology. I don't object to your opinions but I suspect you've had little or no experience of being around trans women. Maybe your opinions would change. Maybe you would voice your opinion and adhere to the micro aggressions of him/mate etc. Then I'd have to question your identification. Calling yourself a man is one thing behaving like one quite another. " VERY well said | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. Your OP and your thread title are very different. Which one do you mean specifically? Taking it at face value, people can do what they want once they're happy. They dont need your approval. Just move along if something offends you Nobody needs my approval and I am not offended by trans people and I respect everyone. My opinion is that a trans woman is not a woman. Just because someone “identifies” as something doesn’t make it a fact. I respect your opinion but I think I should be entitled to mine and have that respected also. Has anyone said you're not entitled to that opinion.... Your opinion is a load of bollox therefore I don't have to respect it " And I totally agree with this | |||
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"In the 37 minutes since this thread was posted I'd absolutely love to see the amount of block lists the OP is on...lol probably loads since he voiced his true opinion. that's frowned upon on fab. Nah... they're not blocking him "since he voiced his true opinion", they're blocking him because they think he has a shite opinion no, they're blocking him because it's not "the norm fab opinion". have seen it numerous times in the past. would I block a person that differed an opinion to me? absolutely not. I'd be very petty if I did. " They are blocking him because they want to block him and they are perfectly entitled to do that. Just like the OP is perfectly entitled to start this thread. You can't freedom to do something while trying to take away other people's freedoms to do something in return. | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. Your OP and your thread title are very different. Which one do you mean specifically? Taking it at face value, people can do what they want once they're happy. They dont need your approval. Just move along if something offends you Nobody needs my approval and I am not offended by trans people and I respect everyone. My opinion is that a trans woman is not a woman. Just because someone “identifies” as something doesn’t make it a fact. I respect your opinion but I think I should be entitled to mine and have that respected also." Then why did you feel The need to start a thread stating your thoughts? Seems like you were just trying to spark a reaction. | |||
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"In the 37 minutes since this thread was posted I'd absolutely love to see the amount of block lists the OP is on...lol probably loads since he voiced his true opinion. that's frowned upon on fab. Nah... they're not blocking him "since he voiced his true opinion", they're blocking him because they think he has a shite opinion no, they're blocking him because it's not "the norm fab opinion". have seen it numerous times in the past. would I block a person that differed an opinion to me? absolutely not. I'd be very petty if I did. They are blocking him because they want to block him and they are perfectly entitled to do that. Just like the OP is perfectly entitled to start this thread. You can't freedom to do something while trying to take away other people's freedoms to do something in return. " you can predict on fab in a heartbeat the threads that people will block from. that's my point. | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. Your OP and your thread title are very different. Which one do you mean specifically? Taking it at face value, people can do what they want once they're happy. They dont need your approval. Just move along if something offends you Nobody needs my approval and I am not offended by trans people and I respect everyone. My opinion is that a trans woman is not a woman. Just because someone “identifies” as something doesn’t make it a fact. I respect your opinion but I think I should be entitled to mine and have that respected also. Then why did you feel The need to start a thread stating your thoughts? Seems like you were just trying to spark a reaction." There was a thread earlier on Trans by another OP which I tried to contribute to but it had closed. I opened a thread to comment on an issue that has been in the media today with the announcement that from next year trans women will be eligible to enter the Rose of Tralee competition and it is an issue I have an opinion on. I will not post again now or in the future on this issue. | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. Your OP and your thread title are very different. Which one do you mean specifically? Taking it at face value, people can do what they want once they're happy. They dont need your approval. Just move along if something offends you Nobody needs my approval and I am not offended by trans people and I respect everyone. My opinion is that a trans woman is not a woman. Just because someone “identifies” as something doesn’t make it a fact. I respect your opinion but I think I should be entitled to mine and have that respected also. Then why did you feel The need to start a thread stating your thoughts? Seems like you were just trying to spark a reaction. There was a thread earlier on Trans by another OP which I tried to contribute to but it had closed. I opened a thread to comment on an issue that has been in the media today with the announcement that from next year trans women will be eligible to enter the Rose of Tralee competition and it is an issue I have an opinion on. I will not post again now or in the future on this issue. " Your opening post was a bit inflammatory, your follow up posts not so much. Its a shame you didn't open with a query re the Rose of TraLee decision. It may have saved you drama from some opinions formed based on the opening post. | |||
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"What you seem to not understand is that nobody cares what you think about the subject. Trans women are women. " this | |||
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"Newsflash: A forum is about sparking a reaction. Its about getting different opinions and views. Now, who the hell do people think they are to bash another persons opinion. Give your point. Disagree with his. All fine. Wolfpacks in this forum. Only yesterday i read a thread, a person commented, and name dropped 3 people whos view she agreed with. Not quoted, mentioned them by name. Ass kissing of the highest order. Would love to name them, but i quite enjoy some of the threads on here and don't wanna be banned again. Whats wrong with politely disagreeing with someones views. More often than not, a lady will give an ott reaction to someones opinion and has a queue of men agreeing with her. News flash again, they dont agree with you half the time. Access inside your knickers via agreeing with you. Stop with the bashing and be a lil respectful of everyones opinion and grow the fuck up. For what my opinion is worth, i disagree completely with the op. Let people be, if they want, or feel like they identify as an octopus, so bloody what. " spot on, your opening paragraph. that's the way fab always is. | |||
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"Why feed the troll, people? that's not a troll. " hey! Maybe he identifies as a troll! | |||
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"Newsflash: A forum is about sparking a reaction. Its about getting different opinions and views. Now, who the hell do people think they are to bash another persons opinion. Give your point. Disagree with his. All fine. Wolfpacks in this forum. Only yesterday i read a thread, a person commented, and name dropped 3 people whos view she agreed with. Not quoted, mentioned them by name. Ass kissing of the highest order. Would love to name them, but i quite enjoy some of the threads on here and don't wanna be banned again. Whats wrong with politely disagreeing with someones views. More often than not, a lady will give an ott reaction to someones opinion and has a queue of men agreeing with her. News flash again, they dont agree with you half the time. Access inside your knickers via agreeing with you. Stop with the bashing and be a lil respectful of everyones opinion and grow the fuck up. For what my opinion is worth, i disagree completely with the op. Let people be, if they want, or feel like they identify as an octopus, so bloody what. " | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. Your OP and your thread title are very different. Which one do you mean specifically? Taking it at face value, people can do what they want once they're happy. They dont need your approval. Just move along if something offends you Nobody needs my approval and I am not offended by trans people and I respect everyone. My opinion is that a trans woman is not a woman. Just because someone “identifies” as something doesn’t make it a fact. I respect your opinion but I think I should be entitled to mine and have that respected also." maybe he's pissed off at the rose of Tralee.. they're now even allowing married women | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. " You are merely the product of the patriarchal society we live in. However you can break free from this way of thinking, but you must have genuine empathy for the other person and genuinely try and put yourself into their shoes and how they might feel. I would advise you to remove your ego and the importance what you think is "right" and be open and ready for your views to change. Listen to trans voices and try to learn about them and their challanges. Look up trans activists or read a book on gender. Trans people want equality. If you truly believe you treat others as equals then you should at least empathise with others and try to learn about them and from them. All the best, J | |||
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"I believe a man who “identifies“ as a woman is not a woman. I don’t think it is discriminatory to express that point of view and don’t think anyone should be vilified or censored for articulating it. You are merely the product of the patriarchal society we live in. However you can break free from this way of thinking, but you must have genuine empathy for the other person and genuinely try and put yourself into their shoes and how they might feel. I would advise you to remove your ego and the importance what you think is "right" and be open and ready for your views to change. Listen to trans voices and try to learn about them and their challanges. Look up trans activists or read a book on gender. Trans people want equality. If you truly believe you treat others as equals then you should at least empathise with others and try to learn about them and from them. All the best, J" It's not that I don't think you lack any empathy for anyone, on the contrary. I am going off my own experience where I thought I viewed everyone as equal until that was challenged. I had to reevaluate a few things and now I approach things differently and with a bit more care and understanding. All the best, J | |||
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"Newsflash: A forum is about sparking a reaction. Its about getting different opinions and views. Now, who the hell do people think they are to bash another persons opinion. Give your point. Disagree with his. All fine. Wolfpacks in this forum. Only yesterday i read a thread, a person commented, and name dropped 3 people whos view she agreed with. Not quoted, mentioned them by name. Ass kissing of the highest order. Would love to name them, but i quite enjoy some of the threads on here and don't wanna be banned again. Whats wrong with politely disagreeing with someones views. More often than not, a lady will give an ott reaction to someones opinion and has a queue of men agreeing with her. News flash again, they dont agree with you half the time. Access inside your knickers via agreeing with you. Stop with the bashing and be a lil respectful of everyones opinion and grow the fuck up. For what my opinion is worth, i disagree completely with the op. Let people be, if they want, or feel like they identify as an octopus, so bloody what. " Of course everyone should be allowed to express an opinion and argue that point if they feel strongly enough about it. However to use the old " fab is like a pub" analogy, how do you start a conversation when standing in your local? If you kick open the saloon door and run in shooting, some will duck for cover but others will start shooting back. If you have a valid point that you want to debate, start the conversation in a non confrontational way and others might be more respectful of your opinion. Flogging a dead horse doesn't work either so repeating the same old lines over and over ad infinitum just dilutes your argument and makes it look like you are arguing for the sake of it. | |||
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"Whilst I respect your right to your opinion OP, this subject is incredibly emotive for me. Identifying as a gender which differs to the body into which you are born is deeply complex. It's brutal. It's painful. It's heartbreaking. It's scary. It's never knowing whether the person you love will one day find it so unbearably difficult that they decide they can't go on. It's years of a sadness so deep you can barely comprehend. It's years of counselling and gradual social transitioning. It's years of fighting to be seen and heard. It's a constant battle to be treated with the most basic respect. It's years of being subjected to derision and whispers and gossip. I am the mother of a trans son. I have held my child while they have wept uncontrollably because they cannot bear to be in the body they were born in. Every time my child is more than a few minutes late, I feel the unbearable dread that this is the day they have decided that they will actually walk out into traffic to take their own life. I have to fight my child's corner every single day. We are almost 5 years down the line. That's 5 years of counselling sessions twice a month because gender dysphoria has taken such a toll of my child's mental health. And this is only the beginning of an incredibly long journey. My point is, I guess, that so often people think being trans is something a person just wakes up one morning and decides to be. That they just put on clothes of a different gender and Bob's your uncle. And this couldn't be further from the truth. It has such far reaching consequences that I've only skimmed the surface in this post. All I would ask is that at the very least you take a moment to think what trans men and women have been through and are going through every single day and afford them the respect to live their lives without one more battle " I cannot agree more with this. I have practically raised my little brother and seen the pain and heartache he has went through to become who he is on the inside. He's been abused, assaulted and suicidal because people think he's less then he is. Treated like the dirt on someone's shoe because he dares to be true to himself. He's a fine young man and I'm proud that's he's overcoming such attitudes like that of the op. If only more people could walk in their shoes for a day they'd have a bit more compassion for the struggles trans people face on a daily basis | |||
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